Do u think my partner should join the army?
My partner is considering joining the army, im fine about it as we have discussed all issues. He was going to join a while back but then i fell pregnant so he didnt, but now the baby is a bit older he wants to join again. I think its a good idea as it is a good life when your in the army, as my sisiter's partner also is in the army. Also im a qualified nursery nurse so it will be easy to find jobs in the english army schools wherever we get posted. Me and my partner really feel its good career prospects. We have 2 children, 2 girls, aged 2 years and 6 months. Some people disagree with us, especially my partners mum, as she keeps saying what if you die or get posted to iraq, i feel she is trying to put him off and is being selfish, although i do understand she is his mum & is right to worry. But she should also be happy and proud of him shouldnt she? My partner has gone to see about it today and signup for his training. Do you think we are right to join? Please help.
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join the coastguard. it's still serving your country. my g/f is british and her son joined up, he was told you'll get qualifications learn how to drive 40 foot lorries see the world learn languages meet intresting and friendly people. no sooner was he nearing the end of basic training the orders came through his regiment or whatever was on the next plane to iraq. he was able to sign himself out. i'm happy knowing my g/f son is alive and well and so is she. "what if" can never be discounted.
This is a very personal decision which no one but you and your partner can determine.
absolutely no way. it is a life of uncertainty - most likely he will at some point get posted somewhere dangerous and then he might die. you might be willing to take that risk but should your children have to go through that?! apart from that your husband might have to kill other people - he might make children in another country orphans. is that ok?!
Don't worry let him join in Army, God will look after.
I am afraid I do completely disagree..I could no way in the world leave my kids for even a few weeks, let alone my lady.BUT..if it's right for you only you can answer the question.hope this doesn't confuzzle
My son is a Captain in the USAF.
He has been to Iraq, Qatar, and all those others hot spots.he is now in Korea.
He has a wonderful life. Good pay. Great benefits. I hope you and your partner are married BEFORE he joins. You want to be able to get all of the benefits too. Do that before he signs up.
It is a wonderful career move. Exciting, fun and lots of adventure.
Your children will love it too. I was a military 'brat'. My dad took us everywhere. I had a grand time growing up in different places. Learning different cultures. Go for it.
It is your choice at the end of the day, but the army lifestyle for children isn't very good - people are always going on about it (as far as I have heard). On the other hand, you also need to think about what you want in your life - sorry to say this, but you have to make your own decision. Make up a table of advantages and disadvantages, and whichever one outweighs the other, that would be the rational way to go. Best of luck.
i think if he's wanted it for so long, if he doesn't do it he will be kicking himself for the rest of his life.
This question is really of personal choice, I just got back after 2 tours and it's not pretty. But to serve your country is something to be proud of. What ever the 2 of u decide good luck and god bless.
Go USA
Oh yeah, it would be a good idea, especially if he is not in a good career now. He will be able to get valuable training.
As far as his mother, she does not want her son away from her. I understand that, but she needs to let him live his own life.
I think it depends on if he has a college degree or not. It sounds like you are expecting an instant oversea post where there is a school for you to teach. You should check that out carefully. Ask questions. I believe if he doesn't have college degree, he has to start out as being the lowest level and I don't believe he has much choice of where he will be. He could be stationed where you can't follow in the current situation. Are you going to be okay with that? In a long run, it will be a good career, but, consider all the possibilities.
If you are not married, then it will be very difficult to stay with your "partner." The US military will make no accomodations for anyone's "partner." But spouses mean the soldier will receive extra money for housing, food, plus the spouse/children will then be insured as well.
i think he should but its up to you .my bruvver-inlaw is an army person and hes of at cyprus so my sister gets to go there with him for about 2 yrs
rite by the beach
Yes.. for all of those who disagree they should be ashmed! I hate people who fail to realize without soldiers they wouldn't have this free country they live in today! War doesn't always end in death although a lot do die. that is why it is called a sacrifice. My husband and I both were in the army and both went to Iraq. I was there for 15 straight months living in a tent with no ac/heater . we lost one soldier and it was tough.. he was a very good friend of mine and was in my platoon. It was a tragedy..but this doesn;t make me hate the army.. it makes me hate the enemy!
As far as joining.. you got the right idea. you can get a job everywehre he goes.. not just the schools but you could also work in the TMC (Troop medical Clinic) or hospitals as well. They give you money for your house and food.. that is definetely a plus! Its job security as well.. and with the way our economy is today. bigger plus!
you can get child care from on post which charges by family income or go through a family child care provider also available on post if more convienent.
I just got out of the army to raise our first child while my husband still serves. my daughter is getting bigger now and i want to go back in, but i have yet to make the final decision.. it is harder for me as we are overseas in germany, but it is a great way to see many new things.. and yes there are deployments but it depends what his job is. some people dont ever deploy! some people deploy and never leave the home base..
And as for the people who disagree with you SHAME ON THEM! SHAME ON YOU AMERICA!
I was going to ask a few friends of mine for advice concerning your question but they already died in the war. War is an archaic method of solving disputes and until people learn to negotiate peacefully there will be thousands more to die needless deaths. The bottom line is that when someone joins the military they are expected to kill and be killed and are basically hired guns. Benefits don't come in handy when you are dead. Sure there are some that lead good lives in the military but thousands are dead. It's your choice but think it over carefully.
Dont let him do it , WAKE UP before it is too late,his mum is being intelligent not selfish.
British army were involved when the Serbs were attempting to ethnic cleanse Albanians that was a good cause,world war 2 good cause.
Fighting and dying in Iraq for oil not a good cause,
purchase some copies of private Eye read facts about what we the western countries are really up to,eg selling weapons to dictaters etc sending our troops to die from weapons of our making.
Why not train to be a plumber/driving instructer or something ,make excellant money ,then again if your thinking of it maybe your to daft too help
What is your / your partner’s ultimate aim? in accepting a job? (Let it be any job)
If you are “born” one day you must die. This may happen- any time -any where. 'Job' has nothing to do with it.
A soldier is authorized ( by his government )to KILL ‘some one else’ or the so called ‘ENEMY’ (another human being –from another family –relationship and or emotions remains common) and you justify this sort of killing . Correct. ? Think again, you will get the correct answer.
I was going to say exactly what Bozo said. I personally wouldn't want that life, but we are all individuals and if you feel this is a good decision, then go for it. And have a happy stay there. Good luck.
Noooooo!! Unfortunately, the wars these days are pointless and our great country bullying others. That's not what the army really should be getting in volved with. My brother was in the army posted to Iraq - did not end up going - was involved in an accident during training - almost fatal. I'm pround of him but it almost seems pointless him having to deal with the after effects including emotional trauma for a war as pointless as the Iraq war.
I agree with your partners mum-joining the army is a mugs game-all you are is cannon fodder to the government. Just remember when you do a certain trade in the army-you are primerially a soldier and will be sent off to blow someones head off or worse still get your own blown off. At the end of the day it is your choice nobody on here can make your mind up for you-you have to live with the consequences.
no,join the navy or raf,pays better and treated better ,better postings less chance of being sent somewhere dodgy.
yes tell him to go for it.
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join the coastguard. it's still serving your country. my g/f is british and her son joined up, he was told you'll get qualifications learn how to drive 40 foot lorries see the world learn languages meet intresting and friendly people. no sooner was he nearing the end of basic training the orders came through his regiment or whatever was on the next plane to iraq. he was able to sign himself out. i'm happy knowing my g/f son is alive and well and so is she. "what if" can never be discounted.
This is a very personal decision which no one but you and your partner can determine.
absolutely no way. it is a life of uncertainty - most likely he will at some point get posted somewhere dangerous and then he might die. you might be willing to take that risk but should your children have to go through that?! apart from that your husband might have to kill other people - he might make children in another country orphans. is that ok?!
Don't worry let him join in Army, God will look after.
I am afraid I do completely disagree..I could no way in the world leave my kids for even a few weeks, let alone my lady.BUT..if it's right for you only you can answer the question.hope this doesn't confuzzle
My son is a Captain in the USAF.
He has been to Iraq, Qatar, and all those others hot spots.he is now in Korea.
He has a wonderful life. Good pay. Great benefits. I hope you and your partner are married BEFORE he joins. You want to be able to get all of the benefits too. Do that before he signs up.
It is a wonderful career move. Exciting, fun and lots of adventure.
Your children will love it too. I was a military 'brat'. My dad took us everywhere. I had a grand time growing up in different places. Learning different cultures. Go for it.
It is your choice at the end of the day, but the army lifestyle for children isn't very good - people are always going on about it (as far as I have heard). On the other hand, you also need to think about what you want in your life - sorry to say this, but you have to make your own decision. Make up a table of advantages and disadvantages, and whichever one outweighs the other, that would be the rational way to go. Best of luck.
i think if he's wanted it for so long, if he doesn't do it he will be kicking himself for the rest of his life.
This question is really of personal choice, I just got back after 2 tours and it's not pretty. But to serve your country is something to be proud of. What ever the 2 of u decide good luck and god bless.
Go USA
Oh yeah, it would be a good idea, especially if he is not in a good career now. He will be able to get valuable training.
As far as his mother, she does not want her son away from her. I understand that, but she needs to let him live his own life.
I think it depends on if he has a college degree or not. It sounds like you are expecting an instant oversea post where there is a school for you to teach. You should check that out carefully. Ask questions. I believe if he doesn't have college degree, he has to start out as being the lowest level and I don't believe he has much choice of where he will be. He could be stationed where you can't follow in the current situation. Are you going to be okay with that? In a long run, it will be a good career, but, consider all the possibilities.
If you are not married, then it will be very difficult to stay with your "partner." The US military will make no accomodations for anyone's "partner." But spouses mean the soldier will receive extra money for housing, food, plus the spouse/children will then be insured as well.
i think he should but its up to you .my bruvver-inlaw is an army person and hes of at cyprus so my sister gets to go there with him for about 2 yrs
rite by the beach
Yes.. for all of those who disagree they should be ashmed! I hate people who fail to realize without soldiers they wouldn't have this free country they live in today! War doesn't always end in death although a lot do die. that is why it is called a sacrifice. My husband and I both were in the army and both went to Iraq. I was there for 15 straight months living in a tent with no ac/heater . we lost one soldier and it was tough.. he was a very good friend of mine and was in my platoon. It was a tragedy..but this doesn;t make me hate the army.. it makes me hate the enemy!
As far as joining.. you got the right idea. you can get a job everywehre he goes.. not just the schools but you could also work in the TMC (Troop medical Clinic) or hospitals as well. They give you money for your house and food.. that is definetely a plus! Its job security as well.. and with the way our economy is today. bigger plus!
you can get child care from on post which charges by family income or go through a family child care provider also available on post if more convienent.
I just got out of the army to raise our first child while my husband still serves. my daughter is getting bigger now and i want to go back in, but i have yet to make the final decision.. it is harder for me as we are overseas in germany, but it is a great way to see many new things.. and yes there are deployments but it depends what his job is. some people dont ever deploy! some people deploy and never leave the home base..
And as for the people who disagree with you SHAME ON THEM! SHAME ON YOU AMERICA!
I was going to ask a few friends of mine for advice concerning your question but they already died in the war. War is an archaic method of solving disputes and until people learn to negotiate peacefully there will be thousands more to die needless deaths. The bottom line is that when someone joins the military they are expected to kill and be killed and are basically hired guns. Benefits don't come in handy when you are dead. Sure there are some that lead good lives in the military but thousands are dead. It's your choice but think it over carefully.
Dont let him do it , WAKE UP before it is too late,his mum is being intelligent not selfish.
British army were involved when the Serbs were attempting to ethnic cleanse Albanians that was a good cause,world war 2 good cause.
Fighting and dying in Iraq for oil not a good cause,
purchase some copies of private Eye read facts about what we the western countries are really up to,eg selling weapons to dictaters etc sending our troops to die from weapons of our making.
Why not train to be a plumber/driving instructer or something ,make excellant money ,then again if your thinking of it maybe your to daft too help
What is your / your partner’s ultimate aim? in accepting a job? (Let it be any job)
If you are “born” one day you must die. This may happen- any time -any where. 'Job' has nothing to do with it.
A soldier is authorized ( by his government )to KILL ‘some one else’ or the so called ‘ENEMY’ (another human being –from another family –relationship and or emotions remains common) and you justify this sort of killing . Correct. ? Think again, you will get the correct answer.
I was going to say exactly what Bozo said. I personally wouldn't want that life, but we are all individuals and if you feel this is a good decision, then go for it. And have a happy stay there. Good luck.
Noooooo!! Unfortunately, the wars these days are pointless and our great country bullying others. That's not what the army really should be getting in volved with. My brother was in the army posted to Iraq - did not end up going - was involved in an accident during training - almost fatal. I'm pround of him but it almost seems pointless him having to deal with the after effects including emotional trauma for a war as pointless as the Iraq war.
I agree with your partners mum-joining the army is a mugs game-all you are is cannon fodder to the government. Just remember when you do a certain trade in the army-you are primerially a soldier and will be sent off to blow someones head off or worse still get your own blown off. At the end of the day it is your choice nobody on here can make your mind up for you-you have to live with the consequences.
no,join the navy or raf,pays better and treated better ,better postings less chance of being sent somewhere dodgy.
yes tell him to go for it.
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