3yrs old with dummy!?
i am having real trouble with trying toget my daughter to give up the dummy.she dosent have it during the day it is really when going to bed at night. she is 3 yrs old will be 4 in feb,i was just wondering if anybody has any tips on trying to get her out of this habbit.
Answers:
hide it out of site out of mind
she'll get tired of it eventually; just wait until she's ready.
perphaps u could intrest her with something else
My kids gave there's to the "babies" we got a zip lock bag put them in a placed them out side the door for the lady to pick them up to give to the babies that needed them, it worked great.
Well just take it away of course shes 3 she can't go out and buy another one,you are in conteol.
If you don't want her to do something then you have the power to do something about it. Yes, she will scream for a few days but she'll get over it
I told my daughter it was time for the pacifier fairy to come and get the pacifiers. She came and got them to take to the new babies who needed them. We still had a couple of rough nights, but I just reminded her that the pacifier fairy came, and eventually she stopped asking about them.
Get her to leave it for Santa on Christmas Eve in exchange for her presents on Christmas morning. You have plenty of time to start to suggest she might like to do this and help her to loose that attachment so it's not going to be a sudden loss to her.
My daughter was showing signs of not needing hers anymore just before turning 2. We just gradually weaned her off it, then took it away one night. I didn't mention it, just told her it was all gone when she started looking for it, she doesn't need it anymore cuz she's a big girl. Like I said, she was already showing signs of not needing it, so it was a bit easier. Maybe you could go shopping together and ask her to trade in her pacifier for a new doll or stuffed animal to sleep with instead?
This is a tricky one, cos hearing your story I'm inclined to say just let her keep it until she no longer needs it, because it's only at night time, so no one sees her with it during the day, and it won't be affecting her speech etc. However, if it was my son, who's 4 in December, I'd be climbing the walls trying to find a way to get him to ditch it! I've heard that popping them in a box and "sending" them to the "fairies" is a good one, because the fairies need them for all the newborn babies..but it depends whether how altruistic she is I guess! I had my dummy until I was nearly 6, yes 6.and there was nothing or no one that could convince me to get rid! I eventually through it out of the car when we were on the motorway, because my dad said he'd give up smoking if I gave up my dummy.he still smokes, but I guess I'm glad I no longer have the dummy!
With my eldest, he was 15 months when his went, and he through it in for the ducks (by accident) and then refused any other dummy I gave him.I must've bought hundreds trying to entice him, but he just screamed! It was hard for 3 night's, and then it was almost as if he never had it! My youngest son is now 17 month's, and I'm not really interested in taking his away yet, because he's so clingy with it, and I just feel he's not ready yet!
Good luck whatever you decide.
Try to stay positive abou the whole think and not make it a dramatic event. She should be getting ready real soon. Try to give it to a family member with a younger child and explain to them what is going on before it happens.
You might try starting by asking the child to wait 15 minutes before using the pacifier and then 20 minutes a few days later, and then increase the time until she gives it up.
Or offer her small rewards (like the kind of thing kids get when they go to birthday parties) for each night she goes without it.
I think the idea of the fourth poster (giving them to the "babies") was a great one!
Good luck, all will pass in time, very few kids go to first grade still sucking on pacifiers!
awww sweet, she'l give it up in time
Is it really doing harm...my sons wouldn't give up their pacifiers so instead of making a battle of wills I just limited where they were allowed, their bedroom. If they walked out of their rooms with it I escorted them back and reminded them of the limit and they had the choice..be out in the living room with us without it or in their room ALONE with it.
Dummy is security, love and a hug when you aren't there.(name sounds bad with the intent of that sentence) Why not let her have it? When she is ready, she will. She is only 4.
My son is 3 and just gave his up recently.We had a talk about how he was getting to big for it and he still didn' want to give it up. Finally when he wasn't around i put them all up. I told him he could haven't a pacifier only babies took pacifiers. At first he tried taking my younger sons but I told him no after a few day of "withdraw" he was over it. For some reason my 1 year old gave his up to. I guess he figured he wasn't a bbaby either lol. Just try to reason with her.
I met a lady at the dr's office who told her daughter that her teeth would grow funny aif she didn't stop taking it and she said she threw hers away herself. Good Luck!
First, it isn't her, but you. You need to get rid of her dummy. You give it to her when she's upset, you give it to her when you would like her to sleep or stop crying or whatever. It is you who needs to get over it (sorry, but that needs to be your frame of mind if you are going to succeed). best way is to throw it out. and NOT BUY A NEW ONE! Tell her she's used it so much that it has gone "off" and replace it at bed-time with a glass of warm-milk (no need to bribe with sweets!) She'll cry for it a lot the first night, and less the following. within at most a week, if you've stuck to it firmly, she'll be over it.
I have the same trouble with my son who has just turned three. Iam going to tell him that father Christmas will be taking it this year or he won't get his toys, you've got to be cruel to be kind.
give her something else to chew or suck and/or distract her from needing to suck something. instead of leaving her needing something to suck, distract her (possibly change the subject)
Also hide all the dummies in the house and tell her that they have all been taken away. she only needs to get used to NOT having it
My friend said that when Santa came with the presents he would have to taked all the dummies away. This worked a treat because you can blame someone else.
My little brother was still sucking a dummy at the age of four, how we got him off them was by getting him to put his on our Christmas tree for "santa" to take them when he leaves his pressies.
Santa actually left him a special pressie for his dummies and my little bro hasn't looked back since.
We did tell him that he was getting to big for a dummy numerous times but the thing Santa really did work :)
What my friend did to break her child from the binky(I hope thats what you are talking about) is she found every one she could find and cut a small whole in the bottom of it. When her son figured out they weren't the same, he told her that they all broke and he qiut sucking them!
i told my toddler that Easter bunny wanted to swap her dummies for Easter eggs. i waited till she had fallen asleep took the dummies and hid them all. She wasn't pleased until she saw the chocolate eggs downstairs waiting for her. She never mentioned the dummies again. You could try something similar, try a fairy, or Santa, whatever you like, it might work
Try one of the pass it on to someone more needy tactics above. But remember, once she has gone one night without it, she may protest more the following night when she realises that this is it from now on. You have got to be firm once you decide to take it away and dont give in or else you will be setting urself up for a whole lot of trouble at bedtime
everytime she wants her dummy dip it in curry powder, that will definately stop her wanting it!
if you dont stop her soon she will ruin her teeth, my son stopped having his dummy when he was 6 months old as soon as he got his first tooth it went in the bin!
you could tell her to give it to santa for the other babies that are smaller than her, because they need them more!
I think it's more important to figure out why she needs this type of comfort at age three? What is making her feel insecure and in need of this oral pacification? What about her bedtime routine is disturbing.is there anything you can do to make the process more peaceful and soothing? Try rubbing her back and singing to her until she falls asleep.
A star chart might work? When I was having trouble getting my son into his own bed at night I created a star chart. A star for going to bed and a star for staying there. If he filled the chart for the week I would treat him. It took me a week. Maybe try the same sort of system?
try the stop bitting nails the bitter taste should discourage her from wanting it get rid of all but one so she cant swap to a nicer tasting one good luck
i got my daughter to throw it in the bin herself so she new it was gone there were a few nights after which were hard but on the whole it worked she was about 2 at the time.
if it was my child i would take the dummy away and let the child learn that dummy's are for baby's not toddlers the child will learn maybe u should not give it in the day time only night.
Explain her she need to give it to Santa, or to the fairy at night, and when she wake up in the morning, she will have a present instead. Good luck.
and after you throw it in the bin, make sure that you do not give her an another one, even if she cry for it.
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Answers:
hide it out of site out of mind
she'll get tired of it eventually; just wait until she's ready.
perphaps u could intrest her with something else
My kids gave there's to the "babies" we got a zip lock bag put them in a placed them out side the door for the lady to pick them up to give to the babies that needed them, it worked great.
Well just take it away of course shes 3 she can't go out and buy another one,you are in conteol.
If you don't want her to do something then you have the power to do something about it. Yes, she will scream for a few days but she'll get over it
I told my daughter it was time for the pacifier fairy to come and get the pacifiers. She came and got them to take to the new babies who needed them. We still had a couple of rough nights, but I just reminded her that the pacifier fairy came, and eventually she stopped asking about them.
Get her to leave it for Santa on Christmas Eve in exchange for her presents on Christmas morning. You have plenty of time to start to suggest she might like to do this and help her to loose that attachment so it's not going to be a sudden loss to her.
My daughter was showing signs of not needing hers anymore just before turning 2. We just gradually weaned her off it, then took it away one night. I didn't mention it, just told her it was all gone when she started looking for it, she doesn't need it anymore cuz she's a big girl. Like I said, she was already showing signs of not needing it, so it was a bit easier. Maybe you could go shopping together and ask her to trade in her pacifier for a new doll or stuffed animal to sleep with instead?
This is a tricky one, cos hearing your story I'm inclined to say just let her keep it until she no longer needs it, because it's only at night time, so no one sees her with it during the day, and it won't be affecting her speech etc. However, if it was my son, who's 4 in December, I'd be climbing the walls trying to find a way to get him to ditch it! I've heard that popping them in a box and "sending" them to the "fairies" is a good one, because the fairies need them for all the newborn babies..but it depends whether how altruistic she is I guess! I had my dummy until I was nearly 6, yes 6.and there was nothing or no one that could convince me to get rid! I eventually through it out of the car when we were on the motorway, because my dad said he'd give up smoking if I gave up my dummy.he still smokes, but I guess I'm glad I no longer have the dummy!
With my eldest, he was 15 months when his went, and he through it in for the ducks (by accident) and then refused any other dummy I gave him.I must've bought hundreds trying to entice him, but he just screamed! It was hard for 3 night's, and then it was almost as if he never had it! My youngest son is now 17 month's, and I'm not really interested in taking his away yet, because he's so clingy with it, and I just feel he's not ready yet!
Good luck whatever you decide.
Try to stay positive abou the whole think and not make it a dramatic event. She should be getting ready real soon. Try to give it to a family member with a younger child and explain to them what is going on before it happens.
You might try starting by asking the child to wait 15 minutes before using the pacifier and then 20 minutes a few days later, and then increase the time until she gives it up.
Or offer her small rewards (like the kind of thing kids get when they go to birthday parties) for each night she goes without it.
I think the idea of the fourth poster (giving them to the "babies") was a great one!
Good luck, all will pass in time, very few kids go to first grade still sucking on pacifiers!
awww sweet, she'l give it up in time
Is it really doing harm...my sons wouldn't give up their pacifiers so instead of making a battle of wills I just limited where they were allowed, their bedroom. If they walked out of their rooms with it I escorted them back and reminded them of the limit and they had the choice..be out in the living room with us without it or in their room ALONE with it.
Dummy is security, love and a hug when you aren't there.(name sounds bad with the intent of that sentence) Why not let her have it? When she is ready, she will. She is only 4.
My son is 3 and just gave his up recently.We had a talk about how he was getting to big for it and he still didn' want to give it up. Finally when he wasn't around i put them all up. I told him he could haven't a pacifier only babies took pacifiers. At first he tried taking my younger sons but I told him no after a few day of "withdraw" he was over it. For some reason my 1 year old gave his up to. I guess he figured he wasn't a bbaby either lol. Just try to reason with her.
I met a lady at the dr's office who told her daughter that her teeth would grow funny aif she didn't stop taking it and she said she threw hers away herself. Good Luck!
First, it isn't her, but you. You need to get rid of her dummy. You give it to her when she's upset, you give it to her when you would like her to sleep or stop crying or whatever. It is you who needs to get over it (sorry, but that needs to be your frame of mind if you are going to succeed). best way is to throw it out. and NOT BUY A NEW ONE! Tell her she's used it so much that it has gone "off" and replace it at bed-time with a glass of warm-milk (no need to bribe with sweets!) She'll cry for it a lot the first night, and less the following. within at most a week, if you've stuck to it firmly, she'll be over it.
I have the same trouble with my son who has just turned three. Iam going to tell him that father Christmas will be taking it this year or he won't get his toys, you've got to be cruel to be kind.
give her something else to chew or suck and/or distract her from needing to suck something. instead of leaving her needing something to suck, distract her (possibly change the subject)
Also hide all the dummies in the house and tell her that they have all been taken away. she only needs to get used to NOT having it
My friend said that when Santa came with the presents he would have to taked all the dummies away. This worked a treat because you can blame someone else.
My little brother was still sucking a dummy at the age of four, how we got him off them was by getting him to put his on our Christmas tree for "santa" to take them when he leaves his pressies.
Santa actually left him a special pressie for his dummies and my little bro hasn't looked back since.
We did tell him that he was getting to big for a dummy numerous times but the thing Santa really did work :)
What my friend did to break her child from the binky(I hope thats what you are talking about) is she found every one she could find and cut a small whole in the bottom of it. When her son figured out they weren't the same, he told her that they all broke and he qiut sucking them!
i told my toddler that Easter bunny wanted to swap her dummies for Easter eggs. i waited till she had fallen asleep took the dummies and hid them all. She wasn't pleased until she saw the chocolate eggs downstairs waiting for her. She never mentioned the dummies again. You could try something similar, try a fairy, or Santa, whatever you like, it might work
Try one of the pass it on to someone more needy tactics above. But remember, once she has gone one night without it, she may protest more the following night when she realises that this is it from now on. You have got to be firm once you decide to take it away and dont give in or else you will be setting urself up for a whole lot of trouble at bedtime
everytime she wants her dummy dip it in curry powder, that will definately stop her wanting it!
if you dont stop her soon she will ruin her teeth, my son stopped having his dummy when he was 6 months old as soon as he got his first tooth it went in the bin!
you could tell her to give it to santa for the other babies that are smaller than her, because they need them more!
I think it's more important to figure out why she needs this type of comfort at age three? What is making her feel insecure and in need of this oral pacification? What about her bedtime routine is disturbing.is there anything you can do to make the process more peaceful and soothing? Try rubbing her back and singing to her until she falls asleep.
A star chart might work? When I was having trouble getting my son into his own bed at night I created a star chart. A star for going to bed and a star for staying there. If he filled the chart for the week I would treat him. It took me a week. Maybe try the same sort of system?
try the stop bitting nails the bitter taste should discourage her from wanting it get rid of all but one so she cant swap to a nicer tasting one good luck
i got my daughter to throw it in the bin herself so she new it was gone there were a few nights after which were hard but on the whole it worked she was about 2 at the time.
if it was my child i would take the dummy away and let the child learn that dummy's are for baby's not toddlers the child will learn maybe u should not give it in the day time only night.
Explain her she need to give it to Santa, or to the fairy at night, and when she wake up in the morning, she will have a present instead. Good luck.
and after you throw it in the bin, make sure that you do not give her an another one, even if she cry for it.
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