15 year old daughter has left home to live with 22y/old against my wishes what should i do?
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Please please don't keep telling her it won't work out, that she doesn't know what she's doing, she's not responsible enough etc. I moved out when was 15. I got on well generally with both parents and can't explain why i was desperate to leave. My parents are divorced but both of them kept telling me all of the above, and more, and believe me it made me TOTALLY DETERMINED to go it alone and prove them wrong. Even at my lowest I would not go back just because they would have been right. Stupid, I know that now I'm 23, but thats hindsight for you. I still live on my own and have done since I left home, I have a three year old son, nice home and am doing A-levels, but the first few years made me grow up way too fast. Your daughter is best with you, as you well know. Here are a few things that got my back up and/or helped me. Don't slag her boyfriend off, she will defend him, he is akin to God to her right now. Don't give her cash, feed her at your house if it gets that bad. ( she may not come without the boyfriend, just grit your teeth, feed them). Don't nag her, the worst thing you can do is push her away, she WILL need you sometime in the near future, if she doesn't feel she can come to you, where will she turn? Be her friend. Don't threaten her with anything, this will make her hate you.
I know iv'e waffled but I really really feel for you. Me and my mum have the best relationship now but i am ashamed of what I put her through. If you are there for her and don't push her away, one day i promise your relationship will be stronger than ever and when she says she is sorry for hurting you, she will mean it.
Leave her alone. She will realise her mistakes soon enough.
Dont understand that the Police and Social Services say they can do nothing. She is a minor. Call them back.
as long as shes not in danger then let her find out her mistakes but talk to her about protecting herself and birth control theres mistakes in leavin home so young but then theres mistakes that could ruin her life gd luck
BEAT HER *** SHE IS ONLY 15 NOT 18
Ground her.
Remember if you come down hard on her or fight with her she isn't gonna come back. You need to talk this through calmly (If you can, personally if it was my daughter I'd want to throttle her). Give it a couple of weeks, stay calm and good luck.
thes best advice is to stay calm, dont over react.show her that NO MATTER WHAT, yyou still love her and she is your child and tell her she can coem back home ANYTIME she wants to cause you love her and you miss her but she has to decide for herself. keep A close eye on her and if you see she deteriates, you will have to step in and take action. She is only a teenager and you will have to look out for her and maybe have a chat to the boyfriend
Tell her to go home immdiately or you'll file statutory rape against the guy. You can also file for seduction of a minor. I don't believe the police in your area didn't do anything. Stupid them.
I'd make a bet she'll come back very quickly when she realises life is not all roses and sunshine.
this is hard. I would leave her for a few days but keep in contact just to make sure she is OK. You never know she may come running home soon. I don't envy you at all as you must be going through a extremely hard time of you life now. Keep strong and just try and remember when you were a teenager you did not like listening to you parents so just be there for her and she we be a little more understanding towards you to. Good luck and keep us informed about this situation. Just try and sort it out in a peaceful way.
Let her be with that guy. Its a cold world out there just give her some time to figure that out. She will realize that this is wrong and she will come home. Im 14 and i ran away with a 16 year old. My dad let me go and after a week with that guy i went home. I realized it wasnt right and she will 2 trust me!
Go down to the police station and raise holy hell. That is statutory rape.
I agree with ********** get her back.
She will be pregnant soon if you son't.
it's very surprising that social services wont intervene, personally leave her to it, but go round and visit her in her new home and try to make friends with them both that way you can keep an eye on what there getting upto and she will feel that the door is open for her to come back when she realises the grass isn't always greener.
go see a solicitor
Best to do nothing but let her know you're there for her and always will be. try to keep some contact like meet once a week at least but don't try to change her mind, that'll send her more into his arms. Be there when she needs support. hopefully she'll see sense. But it could be true love. Age won't be a problem when she is a little older. you should prepare yourself for both, but most importantly don't fight with her, be her support for her to make the best decision for her.
Call the police and file a complaint for statutory rape. He will probably kick her out when it starts being a hassle. At that point, find her some counseling and maybe some volunteer work in a teen center. It is a real eye-opener to see young people with babies and/or terminal illnesses.
http://www.sexlaws.org/statrape.html.
let her go cos then when she comes home knowing that it was all a mistake, you can be there to support her, it will either work out good and you will have an independant mature daughter, or it wont and she will come running home with her tail between her legs saying you were right all along
good luck.
kick the bollox out of the 22yr old, i'd would wipe him off the face of the planet and bury him in a forest, seriously, no-one would ever find him, muppet.
Of corse the police can do something.Your her legal guardian,he's not!.Plus im 22+i dont see why he's living with a 15 year old.Something loose up there?.Ring the police again!
Make a formal complaint to both the Police and Social Services. Your daughter is a minor and you are her legal guardian. Try and find a good family case solicitor.
What has a 22 year old got in common with a 15 year old? Not much I'd bet.
Don't give up.
Make up a bunch of leaflets declaring that this guy is a paedophile who seduces and molests young girls. Put his name, address and - if you have one - picture on the leaflet. Distribute them around your neighbourhood and wait for mob rule to take effect - probably about an hour or so.
Harsh, but effective.
Call the police back. They are required to help you. You are responsible for her until she's 18. You need to tell her until she's 18 she legally has to live with you and abide by your rules. Good luck!
Police or at least the Social Services should be able to do something about this problem. What about the guy she has gone with, it is an offence to have sex with a minor under sixteen. You should really find out more about the options you have. Someone has not informed you correctly. Keep on trying your daughter is worth all your efforts to get her on the right track again before matters get more complicated.
When I was 15 my mum pretty much did not see me for about a year as I went off to live with my 20 year old boyfriend.
It may seem a nightmare now, but the more you try to stop her and try and tell her what to do, the more she will rebel against you.
Leave her to it, but don't lose contact, let her know that you love her and even invite him round (as much as you don't want to, at least you will get to see her)
I got bored of him pretty quickly and ended up coming home-but only because my mum left me to it.
Good luck, and I know its hard but I now 23 and have the best relationship with my mum and I am glad she let me make my own mistakes!
The police are lying. They must act if you report a crime. A crime is being committed. Go and kick up Hell. Phone the Chief Constable if you have to, call the council and ask to speak to the chairman of the Police Committee. Don't stop.
I truly don't think you'll get your daughter back. You can't help her if she won't be helped, but you can make life difficult for the sad perv who took her. I'm sorry for all your troubles.
call the prosecuiting attorney for your area, they can file charges without the police. they don;t charge anything.
The 22 -year-old is breaking the law. the police should be doing their job. If It were my 15 year old, I would beat the **** out of him, make sure the whole town knew what he was up to, and drag the daughter kicking and screaming to boot camp!
Report the guy for having sex with a minor, remove him from the equation but don't say it was your doing. Extreme actions needed.
Your daughter is only 15 that is under the age of consent I am assuming that the 22year old is Male and that they are cohabiting together it is illegal, the police and the social services should take action to protect your daughter, Social services can take the legal steps through the courts to make your daughter a ward of court
My friend did the same and her mum made a big fuss about it and all her friends said to leave her and she will come home and she did after a bout 2 months...it will be ok x x x x
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