UK single mothers would you approve if once your child hit 18 that?
UK single mothers would you approve if once your child hit 18 that they should be sent by the court a copy of the custody/ access battle?
So they child can actually see the written proof of how their parents acted on their behalf knowning that the child(ren) are really what matter and not the mothers or fathers wants and wishes that lead to the child living with the parent with parental resposabilities.
And also that the child will know if the parent with out the residentail order did really want access and that the mother did not allow the father to see the child because she was using the child as a weapon, we all know some mothers do deny the child the right to see its dad just because she is bitter and twisted etc.
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I WOULD HAVE NO PROBLEM AT ALL WITH THAT INFORMATION BEING AVAILABLE TO MY CHILDREN WHEN THEY REACH 18..IN THEORY I THINK IT IS A VERY GOOD IDEA BECAUSE MAYBE IT WOULD STOP CHILDREN BEING PUT IN THE MIDDLE OF SITUATIONS THEY HAVE NO CONTROL OVER , AND THEY WOULD SEE WHETHER THEIR PARENTS ACTED IN THEIR BEST INTERESTS OR WHETHER A PARENT TRIED TO USE THEM TO GET AT THE OTHER. IS VERY SAD BUT IT HAPPENS AND MAYBE SOMETHING LIKE THIS WOULD DETER PEOPLE ACTING SO SELFISH AND MEAN TO EACH OTHER.
Yes the child has a right
That would be fine and dandy if the documents were as positive as you're making out.but if it automatically got sent and the battle was a less pleasant one, think how the child would feel then? 18 is an adult, and I think finding out anything like this will be too late and might well do more harm than good.
yes because the papers tell the truth!
Well, surely it's lot easier if once the child is 18 the parent who has been wronged just gets in touch with him/her. And to be honest, if a the child (now and adult) actually wants to get in touch with another parent they can do that themselves. If they want to see the court papers, then they can ask their parents for copies.
It's the way of the world, some mothers are nasty, some fathers avoid responsibility, but that doesn't mean all separated parents are irresponsible.
I don't think one parent getting the papers and forcing them on to the child is actually any different to using it as a weapon when it's little. If the 18 year old can be bothered then it's up to them ask.
at the age of 18 the child has the right to know anything that you want them to just remember that your child will always love you
I think in this day and age, its quite a sensitive issue. Sending this sort of document out, could make things worse in some cases. Unfortunately, one day, I'm going to have to explain to my daughter why she didn't see her father. I have genuine reasons for this, and as her mother, I have done this for the best. I can imagine when she is older though, she may not understand my reasons for doing so. Although I do have the backing of his family and my own for what I've done, so hopefully, they will still be around to help me out of a sticky situation or not. Who knows.
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So they child can actually see the written proof of how their parents acted on their behalf knowning that the child(ren) are really what matter and not the mothers or fathers wants and wishes that lead to the child living with the parent with parental resposabilities.
And also that the child will know if the parent with out the residentail order did really want access and that the mother did not allow the father to see the child because she was using the child as a weapon, we all know some mothers do deny the child the right to see its dad just because she is bitter and twisted etc.
Answers:
I WOULD HAVE NO PROBLEM AT ALL WITH THAT INFORMATION BEING AVAILABLE TO MY CHILDREN WHEN THEY REACH 18..IN THEORY I THINK IT IS A VERY GOOD IDEA BECAUSE MAYBE IT WOULD STOP CHILDREN BEING PUT IN THE MIDDLE OF SITUATIONS THEY HAVE NO CONTROL OVER , AND THEY WOULD SEE WHETHER THEIR PARENTS ACTED IN THEIR BEST INTERESTS OR WHETHER A PARENT TRIED TO USE THEM TO GET AT THE OTHER. IS VERY SAD BUT IT HAPPENS AND MAYBE SOMETHING LIKE THIS WOULD DETER PEOPLE ACTING SO SELFISH AND MEAN TO EACH OTHER.
Yes the child has a right
That would be fine and dandy if the documents were as positive as you're making out.but if it automatically got sent and the battle was a less pleasant one, think how the child would feel then? 18 is an adult, and I think finding out anything like this will be too late and might well do more harm than good.
yes because the papers tell the truth!
Well, surely it's lot easier if once the child is 18 the parent who has been wronged just gets in touch with him/her. And to be honest, if a the child (now and adult) actually wants to get in touch with another parent they can do that themselves. If they want to see the court papers, then they can ask their parents for copies.
It's the way of the world, some mothers are nasty, some fathers avoid responsibility, but that doesn't mean all separated parents are irresponsible.
I don't think one parent getting the papers and forcing them on to the child is actually any different to using it as a weapon when it's little. If the 18 year old can be bothered then it's up to them ask.
at the age of 18 the child has the right to know anything that you want them to just remember that your child will always love you
I think in this day and age, its quite a sensitive issue. Sending this sort of document out, could make things worse in some cases. Unfortunately, one day, I'm going to have to explain to my daughter why she didn't see her father. I have genuine reasons for this, and as her mother, I have done this for the best. I can imagine when she is older though, she may not understand my reasons for doing so. Although I do have the backing of his family and my own for what I've done, so hopefully, they will still be around to help me out of a sticky situation or not. Who knows.
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