My 1 year old son doesnt sleep,he has 1hr at dinner and gets up for hours at atime at night ,help !?
he eats well,he never stops through the day and his health is good.Its not the same time every night buts its always for hrs .he has never been a good sleeper but hes getting worse !i have asked my health visitor but no help ,she just says ignore him which i do ,i have also tried going to him which doesnt help ether.im so tired and pregnant again ,does anyone else have a child that wont sleep ?any help would be appriciated !!
Answers:
wow, how familiar, my son now 9 was like that for the longest time and i had to pretty much cut out all naps and sugar.we think that just eating candy but there are alot of juice that contains sugar and the fruit snacks .my son is still on the go but not as bad and when he does fall out its for the night.it was so bad that i even had to ask my dr. if my son was A.D.D. or A.D.H.D. she said that is just the way he is which made me really look at his diet.i wish you luck!!
Try not to let him sleep in the day and give him a relaxing bath just before you put him to bed.
sorry if this isn't much help, im lucky and my son has always been a good sleeper
good luck
Oh honey I feel for you my daughter is 6 and still does that same thing, I have 3 others all a year apart and they sleep,but not her the only thing that helps is letting her play outside running around right before bedtime and then it takes 4 hours to get her to actually go to sleep,good luck I'm in the same boat you are.
i found the best thing to do was ignore him for the first few mins, if he is really screaming go in quietly don't put lights on and don't speak just smooth his head and put him back down in his covers
keep doing this i know its really hard especially when you are pregnant again
if all else fails and he seems really distressed it might be his back teeth so try some calpol or medised
could you ask your mum or sister or friend to take him for the night so you could get some rest
and also when he sleeps at dinnertime you sleep too, don't feel guilty sod the housework you need some rest
good luck
you poor thing-my son still gets up in the night for feeds but im not pregnant so i really feel for you.try to return him to his bed everytime without talking or interacting in anyway, ignore him when he cries and it will work eventually-if youve got a partner get him to do it so youre not doing all the hard work, and dont let him sleep during the day.good luck huni
No doubt some Mothers and goody, goody Health workers will crucify me for this, but my Grandmother used to put a teaspoon of Brandy/Scotch in a bottle of milk and give it to me - I never had problems with sleeping after that!! - try it, If it works all well and good.
You have my sympathy, my daughter was much the same until she was 16 months old - she still wakes during the night but only for 10 minutes or so at a time and, after a drink, goes back to sleep on her own.
Strangely, since she started napping for longer during the day (2-3 hours instead of 45-60 mins) she has slept much better through the night. She also started going to day nursery two days a week, which seems to have helped with routines with sleep and feeding.
I'm afraid I can't offer a magic solution, i wish I could as I remember only too well how hard it is. Just plenty of fresh air, good meals (free of additives) and time - it will get better I promise.
Good luck with both children
my little girl never slept thorough the nite till she was 4 u might just have 2 put up with it I'm afraid and i tried bathing mine at night but it just woke her up more
sorry if youve been told this a thousand times but I have 3 kids (born within 3 1/2 yearsof each other) who have all played up at bed time for one reason or another..
1st keep things calm after your tea and dont eat too late
2nd try a nice calm relaxing bath
3rd try reading a story whilst cuddling up together on the bed
4th leave on a mellow /dim light .at this age kids sometimes get scared of the dark
and last but not least take a deap breath and just keep puting them back into bed if they get up.with as little fuss/talking as possible.
and remember its hard but it wont last for ever!good luck
I have found that if you get a set routine through out the day it helps. Pick a time in the morning to wake and stick with it, wake him the same time every day.
Make lunch (the same time everyday) clean up and then take a nap. I always laid down with my kids and we watched a movie together, whether they fell asleep or not didn't really matter as long as they stayed still and got quiet time. For my kids this was the only nap I allowed after 12 mo.
Then Keep him active, especially 2-3 hrs before bed time to wear him out. Set a regular bed time and just before that take a warm bath, then give a warm glass of milk (My mom used to put nutmeg, vanilla, and a bit of sugar in it) and read a book, sing a lullaby and tuck him in and leave him alone to fall asleep.
Let him cry for a bit like 5 min, then check on him and calm him down but DO NOT PICK HIM UP. Then leave the room. Next time wait 6 min then 7,8, etc. He will eventually cry himself to sleep.
Through the night do the same thing, don't turn on the lights (get a night light) don't pick him up - just check on him. If you give anything throughout the night it should only be water so as not to decay the teeth.
This is only a habit your child is in and it can be broken if you set a new habit. If you don't do it now it will only get harder to do. It may seem an eternity to get through this but he will learn. It might seem cruel but after about 2 weeks you will have a happier more rested child and he will know how to sooth himself.
For the new baby, it is best to teach this skill at 4 months or after doubling birth weight, the sooner the better.
I know this from experience. My first were twins and I always got up with them and let them rule the house basically and at four I am only just breaking their habit. For my first son now 2, I never let get into the habit and he as early as 4 mo he slept all night. My baby is now 5 mo. and also sleeps all night. I feel strongly the reason for the differences is that I did get up with the twins and with the last two I just let them cry it out until they realized I wasn't going to get up with them.
when my son kept crying for me at night i just ignored him for a few nights but put a couple of soft toys in his cot. i cried more than him, but persevered and now he sleeps from 7pm till 8.30am, a couple of friends tried it and it worked for them!
my 3 year old doesnt sleep he has been diagnosed with a few things. try getting himn tested for adhd
I DO SYMPATHISE, I HAVE 4 CHILDREN ALL HAVE NEVER NEEDED MUCH SLEEP.
MY 1ST SON WAS DREADFULL, HE WAS EVEN PRESCRIBED VALERGAN A SEDATIVE. WHICH I DON'T REMEMBER WORKING.
ONE THING I WOULD SAY, IS I THINK IT'S WRONG TO OVER STIMULATE A CHILD IN THE EVENING IN THE HOPE THAT HE WILL GET WORN OUT AND SLEEP THROUGH. THIS ALWAYS HAD THE REVERSE EFFECT ON MY 2 ELDEST SONS, THEY WOULD BE UP MOST THE NIGHT OR BE VERY FRETFUL.
ALSO LOOK AT ANY FOODS THAT COULD BE CAUSING HYPERACTIVITY, I DON'T THINK FOR 1 MIN YOU WOULD BE FEEDING YOUR SON WOTSITS, BUT YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN.
IF YOU CAN IS IT POSSIBLE FOR YOU TO SLEEP WITH HIM WHILST YOUR PREGNANT, SO YOU DON'T HAVE TO PHYSICALLY GET UP.
STOP THE DINNER TIME SLEEPS, IF YOU CAN, I KNOW THAT'S TOUGH AS YOU WILL BE SO TIRED.
ASK YOUR OTHER CHILDREN AND HUSBAND TO HELP AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE.
GOOD LUCK AND I HOPE YOU GET SOME SLEEP SOON.
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Answers:
wow, how familiar, my son now 9 was like that for the longest time and i had to pretty much cut out all naps and sugar.we think that just eating candy but there are alot of juice that contains sugar and the fruit snacks .my son is still on the go but not as bad and when he does fall out its for the night.it was so bad that i even had to ask my dr. if my son was A.D.D. or A.D.H.D. she said that is just the way he is which made me really look at his diet.i wish you luck!!
Try not to let him sleep in the day and give him a relaxing bath just before you put him to bed.
sorry if this isn't much help, im lucky and my son has always been a good sleeper
good luck
Oh honey I feel for you my daughter is 6 and still does that same thing, I have 3 others all a year apart and they sleep,but not her the only thing that helps is letting her play outside running around right before bedtime and then it takes 4 hours to get her to actually go to sleep,good luck I'm in the same boat you are.
i found the best thing to do was ignore him for the first few mins, if he is really screaming go in quietly don't put lights on and don't speak just smooth his head and put him back down in his covers
keep doing this i know its really hard especially when you are pregnant again
if all else fails and he seems really distressed it might be his back teeth so try some calpol or medised
could you ask your mum or sister or friend to take him for the night so you could get some rest
and also when he sleeps at dinnertime you sleep too, don't feel guilty sod the housework you need some rest
good luck
you poor thing-my son still gets up in the night for feeds but im not pregnant so i really feel for you.try to return him to his bed everytime without talking or interacting in anyway, ignore him when he cries and it will work eventually-if youve got a partner get him to do it so youre not doing all the hard work, and dont let him sleep during the day.good luck huni
No doubt some Mothers and goody, goody Health workers will crucify me for this, but my Grandmother used to put a teaspoon of Brandy/Scotch in a bottle of milk and give it to me - I never had problems with sleeping after that!! - try it, If it works all well and good.
You have my sympathy, my daughter was much the same until she was 16 months old - she still wakes during the night but only for 10 minutes or so at a time and, after a drink, goes back to sleep on her own.
Strangely, since she started napping for longer during the day (2-3 hours instead of 45-60 mins) she has slept much better through the night. She also started going to day nursery two days a week, which seems to have helped with routines with sleep and feeding.
I'm afraid I can't offer a magic solution, i wish I could as I remember only too well how hard it is. Just plenty of fresh air, good meals (free of additives) and time - it will get better I promise.
Good luck with both children
my little girl never slept thorough the nite till she was 4 u might just have 2 put up with it I'm afraid and i tried bathing mine at night but it just woke her up more
sorry if youve been told this a thousand times but I have 3 kids (born within 3 1/2 yearsof each other) who have all played up at bed time for one reason or another..
1st keep things calm after your tea and dont eat too late
2nd try a nice calm relaxing bath
3rd try reading a story whilst cuddling up together on the bed
4th leave on a mellow /dim light .at this age kids sometimes get scared of the dark
and last but not least take a deap breath and just keep puting them back into bed if they get up.with as little fuss/talking as possible.
and remember its hard but it wont last for ever!good luck
I have found that if you get a set routine through out the day it helps. Pick a time in the morning to wake and stick with it, wake him the same time every day.
Make lunch (the same time everyday) clean up and then take a nap. I always laid down with my kids and we watched a movie together, whether they fell asleep or not didn't really matter as long as they stayed still and got quiet time. For my kids this was the only nap I allowed after 12 mo.
Then Keep him active, especially 2-3 hrs before bed time to wear him out. Set a regular bed time and just before that take a warm bath, then give a warm glass of milk (My mom used to put nutmeg, vanilla, and a bit of sugar in it) and read a book, sing a lullaby and tuck him in and leave him alone to fall asleep.
Let him cry for a bit like 5 min, then check on him and calm him down but DO NOT PICK HIM UP. Then leave the room. Next time wait 6 min then 7,8, etc. He will eventually cry himself to sleep.
Through the night do the same thing, don't turn on the lights (get a night light) don't pick him up - just check on him. If you give anything throughout the night it should only be water so as not to decay the teeth.
This is only a habit your child is in and it can be broken if you set a new habit. If you don't do it now it will only get harder to do. It may seem an eternity to get through this but he will learn. It might seem cruel but after about 2 weeks you will have a happier more rested child and he will know how to sooth himself.
For the new baby, it is best to teach this skill at 4 months or after doubling birth weight, the sooner the better.
I know this from experience. My first were twins and I always got up with them and let them rule the house basically and at four I am only just breaking their habit. For my first son now 2, I never let get into the habit and he as early as 4 mo he slept all night. My baby is now 5 mo. and also sleeps all night. I feel strongly the reason for the differences is that I did get up with the twins and with the last two I just let them cry it out until they realized I wasn't going to get up with them.
when my son kept crying for me at night i just ignored him for a few nights but put a couple of soft toys in his cot. i cried more than him, but persevered and now he sleeps from 7pm till 8.30am, a couple of friends tried it and it worked for them!
my 3 year old doesnt sleep he has been diagnosed with a few things. try getting himn tested for adhd
I DO SYMPATHISE, I HAVE 4 CHILDREN ALL HAVE NEVER NEEDED MUCH SLEEP.
MY 1ST SON WAS DREADFULL, HE WAS EVEN PRESCRIBED VALERGAN A SEDATIVE. WHICH I DON'T REMEMBER WORKING.
ONE THING I WOULD SAY, IS I THINK IT'S WRONG TO OVER STIMULATE A CHILD IN THE EVENING IN THE HOPE THAT HE WILL GET WORN OUT AND SLEEP THROUGH. THIS ALWAYS HAD THE REVERSE EFFECT ON MY 2 ELDEST SONS, THEY WOULD BE UP MOST THE NIGHT OR BE VERY FRETFUL.
ALSO LOOK AT ANY FOODS THAT COULD BE CAUSING HYPERACTIVITY, I DON'T THINK FOR 1 MIN YOU WOULD BE FEEDING YOUR SON WOTSITS, BUT YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN.
IF YOU CAN IS IT POSSIBLE FOR YOU TO SLEEP WITH HIM WHILST YOUR PREGNANT, SO YOU DON'T HAVE TO PHYSICALLY GET UP.
STOP THE DINNER TIME SLEEPS, IF YOU CAN, I KNOW THAT'S TOUGH AS YOU WILL BE SO TIRED.
ASK YOUR OTHER CHILDREN AND HUSBAND TO HELP AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE.
GOOD LUCK AND I HOPE YOU GET SOME SLEEP SOON.
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