Should I be a father?
I never really wanted kids.
I work stupid hours.
My career is really important to me.
Is becoming a father really worth giving it all up?
How much do you actually have to give up?
Answers:
Eventually you may realize that other things in life are moe important than your career. YOur outlook may change, and luckily for you there are no upper age restrictions on becoming a father.
of course not never!!! I tell you never again never in your life ok bye i hope you pick the right answer
If you really wanted kids you shouldn't,i want to be a farther someday, but that's just me.
The day you stop talking about 'giving things up' to become a father, will be the day you are ready.
Totally your choice mate, but dont be silly about it, and take it likely. best of luck!.xx
Becoming a father means different things to different people. To be a good father you need to want to have a life long relationship with a person that you helped to create. It's a tough job and there are no good instructional manuals. With so many selfish questions I would say you need to wait a good long time before considering becoming a father. You need to experience and enjoy life yourself first.
You give up the chance to teach someone right from wrong and how to be a man. It is amazing. Imagine how your parents felt when you were coming soon. You will have the chance to become a parent and most importantly a father. Good Luck
the gratest feeling in the world
having and looking after your own children
i have 3 boys and i girl
its a wonderful feeling
dont leave it to late
i'm nearly 50 and my children are 10 and under
well number one is you never wanted kids, i think that answers your question.
Well let's hope you have a mate! lol.. If your mate is going to be a stay at home mom, you won't be affected real bad. Plus you need to make enough money for everyone. Of course going out to dinner is going to be hard and your social life will change a lot. If you are having a child alone, forget it.
To become a father requires that you give up everything that is necessary for you to ensure your childs happiness and security. If you are not prepared to give up these things then the answer to your question is definately no. No child or woman deserves a man who is not totally devoted to them.
Don't you think it might be a good idea, first of all, to find a woman who would want a self-confessed kid-hater to be the father of her children? You are the sort who give selfish bastards a bad name!
If you really never wanted children as you say, then I think you just answered your own question, if you don't want them please don't have them they make the worst kind of parent.
You should do what you feel is right. It is possible that right now is not a good time, but in the future you may think differently. I wouldn't make any permanent decisions right now. If your career is important to you then continue working on it, kids can wait until you are ready.
to be totally honnest no-one can tell u the answer to that!
if u want to be then be one... If you don't want to be then don't!
any man can be a father...it takes someone special to be a daddy
Considering your frame of mind, this is not a good time for you to become a father; you are definitely too self-centered to include a life that will be dependent on you for survival. (I do not mean self-centered in a derogatory way).
the pursuit of money for happiness there is nothing wrong with that. i would gladly give up the abilty to father a child for money. eventually when you've made enough money to retire early then would be the time to have a kid that way you'll have the means and the time to enjoy being a father.
If you never really wanted kids, then don't have them. It's totally up to you. not everyone is cut out to be a parent.
Don't do it! It was the worst decision I ever made!
I believe that you will know when you are ready. It sounds like you are not ready quite yet, but maybe someday you'll feel like you are ready to have children
Being a parent is a *huge* job. Your life gets completely re-routed. All of a sudden everything centers around your child. Although that may seem horrible to you, it is the most rewarding thing you can do in your life. I became pregnant at the age of 20. Talk about not wanting to give things up, like youth, freedom, bad (yet fun) habits, etc. For me giving up whatever I had to, was 100% worth it. There is no love like the love for one's child. That being said, there are people who should not be parents. There is a "switch" that goes off in a person's head when he/she becomes a parent. This switch changes the focus of your life. Some people's switch is broken. Only you can determine that.
you said u never wanted kids.so that's a sign u shouldn't have any.but who knows maybe when u have a kid you'll love it and be glad u are a father.
You may have to give up somethings but get other things in return..see it more as a trade.
If you don;t want kids, don't have them. My sister in law is sort of the same mind set as you..she has decided to be the super cool auntie instead.
I have more respect for someone who says I don't want kids and would rather focus on my career rather than somebody who caves into social pressure and tries to squeeze them in, doing a crap job at being a parent.
But I would suggest this, if you get serious with a woman be upfront if you decide not to have kids. It is not fair for her if she does or yourself to feel pressured into having 'just one'. And to be frank men are in a better situation because they can have kids at 50 if they want to, unlike women that have a best before date lol.
Yeah like women are gonna queue up to let you father a child with a cv like that !
if you must ask then no.. wait.
wait until it's not a question in your mind.
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you have to give up everything. the child will consume your life for the rest of it's life basically.
but the first 20 years of it's life will be your life also.
if you think you must give up yourself NO don't do it!
remember parenting is dedication for the child. it's the tenderest years of it's life those first 20. after that. well you think you had let go and the child is on their way. but it's not like that.
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if you're not prepared. it will effect everything and the upbringing of the child, you, the wife. so on. it's one of the biggest, most important jobs of your life and one must be secure in every essence! job, emotional, health.. so on.
You know, you will probablly have to give alot up. I don't know from experience, but life generally throws you things that cause you to take from elsewhere. You've already done that, by the sounds of it, with your current job, so maybe that is just preparing you for something larger.
Even though you say you don't want kids, the fact that you even think about it means that it is something you could see yourself doing, but you probably have more time to do it, so wait and think about it. Don't rush into it, but maybe talk to some specialists, or read some books.
Good luck with your life. :D
Don't give it up until you are ready. There may come a time when cutting down hours at work seems right for you so you can have children. If you don't feel like that don't worry and maybe you are not right for children. Don't give up your career for children unless you feel ready as you will regret it and this will have a negative effect on your relationship with them.
I work stupid hours too.
My job is really important to me, too. (I wouldn't really consider forklift driving a career)
I think the question you need to ask is, are you any good with kids? Remember, there's another person to consider here. the kid. Becoming a father isn't like buying a toaster, you can't just decide to take it back or sell it and take a loss on the whole deal. If becoming a father doesn't work out, everybody loses.
If you're good with kids, by all means, become a father. It's the best experience you'll ever have. And it's life-changing, believe me. But your career doesn't have to suffer if you have someone competent to watch your child, preferably family, like a wife.
All I do is drive a forklift, yet I rarely take time off work for my child. I maximize the time we spend together when I'm not working.
can i just say that being a father doesn't mean you have to give everything up, you can still work - yes.even stupid hours, my husband never wanted kids, they never interested him, and he became a father 15 months ago. he is 44, he runs his own buisness so works silly hours ansd things seem to be ok with us at the moment.
When you feel ready to become a father you will know, but please don't think you have to give everything up, you don't, we made a understanding that i would do all the day to day looking after the baby, like nappies, feeding etc, he provides for her, also as im with her all the time, and she only sees her daddy for a hour in the morning and then for a few hours at night, shes a right daddy's girl, you work your life around a child, as long as the mother is willing to look after the child while you work, things won't change too much
being a parent changes your life in every way. if you have a hectic life style and you feel as though you cannot change it, then no you shouldn't become a father just yet. having children is not for everyone. if having a child is not what you want right now then you should make sure that you take the right precautions to insure you don't have one. even if you don't put it in your "life plan" it could happen. having a child is the best gift in the world and if you're asking yourself if your life style is "really worth" giving it all up than you don't get what parenthood is all about. it's not all about giving things up, it's about growing and sharing in ways you never imagined. i don't know how old you are, but it sounds as if you still want to enjoy a no strings attached life.. and it's not wrong to feel that way. Go ahead and live your life to the fullest and if the day comes that you want to be a father than set out for that path.. good luck in your future.
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