I am pregnant for the second time(moral support needed)?
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Congratulations of the upcomming bundle of joy! I have two that are a little farther apart than yours, but yes, they are each other's buddies, they always have someone to play with (Which is nice, because it is heartbreaking when no other kids at the park want to play with yours for whatever reason) My hubby was fine when I told him, I think that he was more worried about putting me through all of this again so soon, he was happy about the pregnancy after I told him not to worry. Right now, my two share a bedroom (they are 3 and almost 2) and it all works out just fine. So, chin up! Your babies will have someone to lean on their whole lives in each other.
hi. i totally sympathise with you. i fell pregnant when my first child was only 8 months old and i never thought id be able to love another child just yet. my family lectured me a bit then got over it but i have to tell you its a hard slog when you got 2 little ones screaming the place down and its all a matter of getting them in a good routine a.s.a.p. yer its great because they are close age but they hate each other now but thats just mine dont worry about that. its going to be tough when your baby is born but you will adjust to it perfectly as any loving mother does. congrats n good luck x
I have 7 children 19yrs 17 16 9 8 5 3 yes my 9yr old and 8 yr old were 12 mths apart they are very very close boy and girl same as the 16 and 17 yr old they help each other out with school work etc because of there closeness to age...as me and my husband wanted a big family we were very glad of the closeness of the pregnancies....they share clothes and shoes because they are into the same styles etc I think having children 12 mths apart means they grow up together without the big gap of age everything worked out great with mine yours will too.
My children are 15 months apart and both girls. They share a room and get along quit well. I was very blessed having them so close together, because they always have a friend close by. It may be hard at first, because your going to have two in diapers and your 12 month old may not understand, why their not the baby anymore. But Patience and guidance will make for a happy outcome. Your partner should take this time to bond with your older child, this will help make up for mommy being busy with the new baby. My husband was gone when I had my second and I thought I would never get through, having two babies, but it worked out. Oh Did it ever. Hang in there!! The best is still to come!
i am a mother of six kids ages 17,14,11,10,7,3months there 11,and 10 yrs old were obviously born close together and it was just like having twins i had a double stroller two baby's to diaper different sizes of coarse and it 2 was just fine they are very close to each other and it has been a joy ! you will be just fine but make sure you take really good care of yourself during the pregnacy doc told me it really take 2 yrs to fully recover frome the birth of a child > so be good 2 you ! good luck and god bless !
I recently found out that we were unexpectedly expecting again. My son is only 10 1/2 months at present and will be 15 months when the new baby's born.
I came back from the docs after some tests and my hubby was in the restroom. So, I sat down to feed my son and when my hubby was through, he came in the main room and I was all doe-eyed and said, "I love you." He said, "You're pregnant again, aren't you?" I nodded, and he was really frightened at first, but both him and I warmed up to the idea over time.
We figure, maybe it's for the best that our kids are so close together. They'll learn to share and hopefully become good friends :) We may, hopefully, be getting a council flat pretty soon, so we may not need to have them share rooms. We don't even know what we're having at the moment!
congratulations babe..as for advice, it'll just work itself out, you're no doubt a great mum, just chill and don't get too stressed...everything will be fine
My two youngest sons are only 15 months apart in age. To be honest it was easier coping with the two born close together, than the first two who were three years apart. You just continue with the nappies etc for a while longer! It was hard work, as at one point I had 3 boys under five but I wouldn't change a thing now, almost 30 years later!
yes it will be fine I am sure.People do tend to over worry about having their babies close but really if you are happy and can feed,love and support them you just can't go wrong.
my mum had my two sisters very close together, it wasent planned but they get on great now they are grown up and they shared a room, there is 51 weeks between the two of them so that makes it out to be just under a year of diffrence
hi i've just had baby number 3!!- baby number two was 21 months old when our new addition arrived!!
its awful to say but i was devastated when found out I was pregnant I could think of nothing worse!- but as soon as I saw the scan and I saw the little kidney bean shape I thought " there are much worse things that can happen"- Our little surprise arrived in August and shes lovely- My eldest is 6 and to be honest more effort that the little ones!
Daisy loves her little sister although we have to watch her- life is very hectic and theres never a dull moment- get yourself into a routine if you can and enjoy it!!- they are only little once!
they will eventually share a room- but nobody sleeps in the same bed two nights in a row in our hhouse- so we'll play that by ear!!
good luck!
As a man who has been surprised now four times by my wife sitting me down and telling me she's pregnant my reactions ranged from joy to sitting in a corner and rocking. The fourth time my wife fell pregnant was the week after I had booked myself in for a vasectomy and then the idiots didn't want to do it because the wife was pregnant again.
Believe me if your husband is anything like me he will be over the moon that you are pregnant.
My brother and I are ten months apart. Wisely, from the nappy point of view, my own children are much further apart.
Often, you're so in love with your first child, that your second child is a pleasure.
My brother and I were extremely close - we adored each other. In all our photos, there we are, holding hands and kissing. Didn't last beyond 6 or 7, but by then, we were just normal kids. We shared a bedroom. We've grown apart over the years - it's a long story - but we were close as children.
My own are 3 - 4 years apart. First two were boys and they were very close,. Second two are girls and the older one resents the younger.
It's the luck of the draw, their characters and their personalities are what will make it difficult.
Good luck!
Hello there I am pleased to have come across your Question, I am a 26 yr old mother of 6 yes 6 and I have been in your situation more than once,My partner along with my friend who was also going through this took it hard at first then said to late to turn back now kinda thing, If your partner is Angry keep your calm but also let him know you didnt do this on your own, Then the fun part, Figuring out what your going to do you have a child in Diapers a new one on the way all the expenses what are you going to do, Well, You sit down write it out and make sure that one of you can stick to the Budget or find someone that can it does really work, After the initial shock wears off they will either except it or they wont and if they don't that I Love you he said to you this morning was a Lie..And about sharing rooms that all goes on what you have as for space, But with your child being that much older I suggest keeping baby with you for the first month or so tell baby develops a good sleep pattern.. Hope this helps a little, good luck and Congrats.
my husband and I accidently go pregnant when our daughter was only 12 weeks old. They are only 12 months apart. It was pretty upsetting when I found out b/c I felt like I was going to cheat my daughter out of being the baby; which I did. It was hard when they were babies. 2 diapers, sometimes 2 bottles, 2 kids waking up at night.etc. Also, when my son-the baby- was born Mmy step son was only 3. So, I had a 3 year old, a 12 month, and a newborn. But, now they are 6, 4, and 3. I wouldn't have it any other way. My 3 and 4 year olds are so close. They don't like to even be apart during school! They play together, laugh together, cry together, sleep together..they do everything together. They love each other so much. So, don't worry.it will work out! congrats!
I have a 23 month old and a 4.5 month old. I also have a 6 year old. All my children are boys and they love each other. The 6 year old is great at "taking care" of his little brothers and the 23 month old loves the baby, he thinks it's his baby. We were not planning on having the third as soon as we did, but although it was a shock my husband and I are both happy and proud to have such beautiful and healthy children.
Just remember that you need to give lots of hugs and kisses to the older child, and make sure you get him a present from the baby when you bring the baby home.
When you are playing with the toddler and the baby gets upset, for something minor, tell the baby "sorry, baby you will have to wait one second, mommy is busy playing with ______." The reason I say this is because your toddler is going to hear tthat line in reverse so much he or she may feel that he's not as special as the baby. Even if you only play for 30 more seconds it shows the toddler that he is important.
Try to make sure you get one on one time with your Toddler everyday, both you and your husband. Even if it's 15 minutes a day helps.
If a stranger or family member comment on how cute the new baby is in front of your toddler and doesn't say anything right away to the toddler say "yes, that's ________new brother, _________ is so proud of his brother." That usually diverts the attention given to the baby to the toddler and makes the toddler feel special.
My youngest share a room.well shared a room. The baby is having health problems that have arisen in the last month so he is now sleeping in my room. But we will most likely be moving him back to his room if he continues to stay healthy.
Regardless of how great a parent you are, there will be some jelousy from your toddler. Just try to give him as much attention as possible. Good luck
Congratulations! I'm actually pregnant with my second and ours will be 18 months apart. I don't know how it's going to work for you, but here is just one thing that came to my mind when I found out I was pregnant that brought me peace, and got me excited as well!
With my first, I love her so much! She's made me happier than I had any idea I could possibly be! But I didn't know how much I could love a baby until I had my own. I think now that I have an idea of the depth of that love, it will be so much faster for me to know how to love my new baby, does that make sense? It's not that I didn't immediately love my first, but my love for her has grown and grown so much that it far surpasses how I very first felt about her. So when our second baby comes, I will be able to start out with that much more love, because I already know how much I will grow to love him.
I have a brother who is just a little over 13 months younger than I am so he was always there when I was small, I honestly felt like a twin because we did everything together, he started nursery the day I started school so we were never apart until I left to go to senior school, Admittedly we fought like cat & dog sometimes but on my 1st overnight trip away from home with the school he was the one I missed the most! We are great friends now and I can tell him anything.. he is like an extension of me, the best friend I could ever have.
My first baby was 7 months old when I found out we were expecting our second. I was a little freaked out and so was my boyfriend, but once we started going to the doctor's appointments and seeing the ultrasounds, we realized everything was the way it was meant to be. They're 15 months apart - my oldest is almost 2 and the baby is 6 months - and they're already playing together. It's really great to watch them laugh at each other and to know that they're always going to have each other. My oldest already says "I love my brother - he's my best friend" . I'm so glad I didn't wait longer to have another. Be happy about it! It's what was meant to be!
my kids are 16 months apart. My husband was very excited. My kids don't share a room. We're lucky to have the space I guess. Isabella is now 23 mos and Joey is 7 mos. Isabella has her moments at times but for the most part she loves him and shares toys with him. She also brings me his bib when I am going to feed him and rips it off of him when he is finished eating. Sometimes she sits on him sometimes she smothers him with kisses. He pretty much laughs at everything. but in the beginning he would cry if she approached him. she was a little bit of a brute, I suppose.
It's hard at first but it's awesome having them close together. They won't ever remember being the only child and watching them grow and play together is great.
You'll need a double stroller! :) I like the Maclren's .but my double is actually a mountain buggy since I live in Costa Rica. But my single is a maclren techno XT and if I still lived in the US I would simply by that double.
My first two children (both boys) were 23 months apart. They are now 11 and 9 years old and have always been best friends. Of course they have their moments when they fight, but I really enjoy that they are so close in age and do have a good relationship. They shared a room until just recently. I also have a 13 month old daughter and am due mid January with another girl. They will be 16 months apart and will share a room. All of my pregnancies were planned as I wanted my children to have someone to grow up with. These last two are so close because of my age (I will be 38 in April) and didn't want to worry about birth defects as the risk goes up substantially every year after age 35.
There is a lot of work involved having two little ones at the same time, but in the long run you will really love it. I wouldn't have it any other way.
Best of luck!
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