How do i get her to sleep all night?
my little girl is 5 months, had to start weaning cos she refuses her formula milk so she has baby food during the day, at around 9pm she has a farleys rusk to keep her going till morning but she has started to wake in the night and im having to put her in bed with me and my partner to make her go back to sleep after feeding her at 3am. i no im just making it worse but i also have a 18 month old so if i dont keep the little one quiet in the night she wakes her sister, what can i do? i dont want the baby to share a bed with us cos she will never get out of it. please help!!
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Good luck. My daughter is nearly two and she still creeps in to sleep with us at night - she finds it comforting and if I'm being honest, so do I! If you really want your daughter to sleep in her cot you must put up with the crying - like Supernanny suggests. If she wakes your other daughter you must deal with her too. There's no simple answer apart from perseverence.
Bringing the baby into your bed is only making her get used to your proximity and she will associate going to sleep with being with you. It won't be easy but you're going to have to encourage her to go back to sleep in her own bed. Make sure she has regular mealtimes and a regular bedtime - routine is everything. If she wakes in the night, feed her if necessary but don't talk to her, make it clear that feeding is all you'll be doing for her. She will eventually get used to going to sleep on her own.
you must go to see ya gp there might be something wrong be a good mother and take the baby to be seen be safe than sorry
Understand your dilemma..but your baby is still too young to sleep thru the night
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what is FARLEY RUSK?
what are you feeding her?
These little beings have minds of their own and routines of their own as well. You cannot force her to sleep right through the night. It is obvious that she needs a little extra during the night to get her to morning. They go through stages as they continue growing. I know with my baby - 1 week she will sleep through and then its like she has a growth spurt and for the next two weeks she will wake up once or twice during the night for something to eat. Good Luck
i don't know butt this might help my baby brother was like that and we tried feeding him a bottle a little later at night and tried to play with him as much as possible during the day so that he will be good a tired when it is time for him to go to sleep. it might also help not to put her to bed so early try putting her to bed late as possible that way she can sleep a little longer at night from being so tired of playing all day
any way i hope that this helps
good luck
In all honesty, if you seriously dont think she is hungry, at least realise that if she is screaming she is alive, she knows your buttons and is pushing them, put her cot away down the other side of the house if you have to, it will be less than a week, and she will be sleeping through, ignore her, and cope with the other one, I promise it will be less than a week and you will have a good night sleep, but from my experience, just when you sort her oyut the other one will get sick or something, just tell yourself that when they get older, you wont be able to wake them in the morning,.! that what gets me through, nothing lasts forever
I have a 2 yr old daughter & 10 month old twins (boy & girl), my son wakes at 5 every morning so that is when our day starts because as soon as he starts crying the other 2 wake up & won't go back to sleep! Yes if you leave your daughter to cry she will wake the older one but if you keep putting her in your bed she will never get out of it!
When she wakes give her water instead of milk, if she gets milk when she wakes she will keep on waking but if you replace it with water she won't bother cos who wants to wake just for water?! When I was pregnant with the twins I had the same problem, my daughter was waking at 4 for milk & it's hard but you have to let her cry it out. Eventually she will go back to sleep. It took my daughter about a week for her to stop waking early but it's taking the twins much longer now as there is 2 of them in the same room & the eldest that wakes at the slightest noise.
Your eldest may wake when your daughter cries but it won't be forever, if needs be just get up with your eldest at 3 just so your daughter can go back to sleep. Give it a week or 2 & she'll be out of this habit but you have to stop putting her in your bed now, that's one thing I've never done & I'm so glad because some of my friends still have their 7 yr olds sleeping with them!
Good luck
Hi
When my little boy wouldn't sleep after a feed i used to just rock him and talking gently in his ears, or sing him lullaby's, you could try getting one of the light and sounds machine what goes on the side of the cot, it plays soft music and has pictures which show up on the ceiling, that never failed us and he used to fall asleep quickly. good luck
Ok, my baby started sleeping through the night at one and half MONTHS old! We establish a nighttime routine with her, starting with a warm bath, then a book, then a warm bottle while listening to lullibies! But the real trick we've found is to bundle her up real tight with her blankies before we read! I think she feels safe and secure all bundled up just like she feels safe and secure when she is with her mommy! Make sure her arms are at her side so she is totally wrapped up (our little girl used to fling her arms up while sleeping and she would wake herself up by hitting herself in the face1) PUT HER IN HER CRIB then hit the repeat button on the cd player, so if she does start to rustle around a little the music puts her back to sleep before she totally wakes up!
five months is young to sleep all night
My first one didn't sleep all night until she was about.well never. She finally learned to stay quiet in her room while the rest of us slept, she was about 6 by then. She still stays up nights, she's 20 now and works the night shift.
When you feed her around 9pm with a rusk, try giving her a bottle 30mins after the rusk(if you have a routine give rusk 8.30pm), if shes refusing her milk have you considered changing brands as if she for example is still on gold, try white instead as its curd based and fills them for longer(apparently) also when she wakes at 3am and is fully burped, sit in her room settle her until she falls asleep then when shes about to nod off place her in her own bed but make sure she can see you whilst she falls asleep properly.
If that fails to work, try the controlled crying method and although you have another littleone I can understand your reluctancy, as its more work for you, but after a week or so you will know how much it paid off, as I tried everything with my littleone and it seemed to be one thing after the other and in the end the controlled crying worked for me! As the crying alone tires them out after about 15-30mins. Hope this helps and goodluck!
my little boy refused to drink his milk when he was 4 months old so i started weening him then but i think you need to give her a rusk before she goes to bed with her milk and then another one when she wakes later on but please never get her into bed with you i realise it is difficult but the other little one will get used to the noise ive also got a 4 year old and he sleeps through any crying because hes used to the noise. but after getting past the first three night it will become easier its hard work but worth it.
this is how my mum keeps my niece to sleep:
she uses a blanket to wrap around her body to avoid her hands to move around.
she said the blanket can help to make the babies feel more secure.
Have you tried giving her a different formula or maybe a soya one? Maybe she just doesn't like the taste. She should be having at least a pint of milk a day, she won't be getting enough calcium and nutrients. What is she being fed at 3am? If you let your baby cry after the 3 am feed, your 18 month old will eventually get used to it and sleep through it. It would be better to have a week of sleepless nights with the two of them than a baby sleeping in your bed for years!
adrian says its all in the routine
I woulod try and increase her food intake during the day, and still give her the rusks at night. I used to mix rusks with my kids formula with their last bottle at night just to give them a bit of substance. It worked. Good luck. Not a good idea to take kids into bed with you as they dont want to come out of the habit of that, could be that this is what she wants to tucked in beside you and your partner, I would persevere for a few nights and keep putting her in her cot
knock the noisy bugger out with a couple of shots of brandy, it'll be out like a light !!.
;-)
Only a suggestion, but the baby food companies make a boxed cereal in the baby isle
rice and oatmeal I think. We put 2 teaspoons in our 4 month old's bottle before bed and gave her a bath with that lavender baby bath she slept all night evey night doing these two things
Sorry you are going through this but I think you need to be firm and get your baby into a routine. Taking her into your bed, as you know, was a big mistake. Try not to let her sleep in the afternoon. Give her a feed at about 6 or 7 and put her down "for the night". I found babies like routine and you need to let her know who is boss - at the moment she is! I got the message across to my son that I was not impressed with night time activity by just doing the basics and not really talking to him as I would during the day. This seems to have got the message across that I wasn't impressed with night time waking. He has done this with his own daughter now and it worked from 2 months. Good luck. It will be hard but you need to persevere or she will be doing this for years, not months.
Hi here
we have a ten year old girl who still gets up in the night because we were not hard enough when she was a baby - you have to leave your baby to cry until she goes to sleep it may take a week and it is heartbreaking but it is the only way believe me , do not make the mistake we did by giving in as it will make your life a misery as she gets older . We did it once when she was 6 months and it worked but we did not follow it up we gave in and it was the worst mistake ever, not only is your child tired and cannot concentrate at school , the whole of the family is tired! also whenever you want to go away it causes problems we have to share twin rooms with our little girl , she has just started to sleep through all night again but it never lasts , so be strong and bite the bullet for a week and it will pay massive dividends later on i promise you .If we could turn the clock back we would have one week of hell instead of 10 years on and off of disturbed nights . good luck
GIVE IT A TRANQUILIZER!! joking erm i dunno really i doubt you can do anything, like the other guy said 5 months is young for a baby to sleep all night. But it will get better with time.
Hi! You certainly have your hands full there! I'm going with most of the other answers here. My tip is to not give too many snacks during the afternoon/evening, then a nice relaxing supper of something like porridge with a large drink of milk, after a nice warm bath. When she wakes during the night, comfort her if necessary at first, but make it clear straight away that she is not going in your bed,or having a drink during the night. It sounds tough, but after just a few days she'll get fed up and go back to sleep. if your other child wakes, just say "It's okay baby, go back to sleep" and don't make too much fuss. It won't take long I promise, and it's worth it.
Give her more feeding during the day.Try and give her more formula food during the day.Its what she eats during the day that keeps her going at night.Hope this helps.
i am having the same problem wiht my 8 month old boy but i breastfed him as he wont take a bottle he is driving me mad and i feel like i am starting to dislikke him because of it i really wish i could get him into a routine but nothing seems to work so just gotta hope te he finds his own routine and will eventually sleep all night in his own bed
YOU SHOULD HAVE BREASTFED HER AND I REALLY HOPE THE RUSKS ARE SUGAR AND GLUTEN FREE!
I have a little boy, he is now nearly seven months and is still being breastfed. He is the youngest of three. My other two are four and two. I had this problem too where he kept waking up to be fed. Could it be that she is cold? Maybe getting a sleeping bag (like my youngest has) would be a good idea. That way she stays warm no matter what. Is she actually hungry? It sounds silly but my son kept waking up took a very small feed and went back to sleep. (If she keeps doing it give her water - if she is actually hungry the water won't satisfy her. If she realises water is all she is getting she might just give up and sleep. Do not take her into bed with you.) My son has three feeds a day and a rusk at night. He has been sleeping through the night since he was four months. My other children used to wake up when he cried during the night but after being woken up by him for around a week they soon slept through him crying. Its hard but if all else fails just keep putting her back down to sleep after a feed and if she cries lift her, settle her, put her down and walk away. Even at this age they know how to get attention! I hope this helps. Good luck!
I think she is too young to be sleeping through the night yet. My son was 9 months when he did and that is quite early. Don't get hung up on her getting use to sleeping with you, if it means the whole family get some sleep then it's worth doing. She may need that comfort at the moment. When she refuses to go in her cot at all then you know you have a problem and need to stop her sleeping in your bed. If she goes down on her own you're half way there. Just go with the flow for now.
I think your daughter just simply misses you, - if you make sure she's well fed before tucking her in, try giving her one of your t-shirts (sort of a comfort-blanket). The t-shirt carries your scent, and the scent of you might just give her the security she needs. It worked a charm with my youngest.
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Good luck. My daughter is nearly two and she still creeps in to sleep with us at night - she finds it comforting and if I'm being honest, so do I! If you really want your daughter to sleep in her cot you must put up with the crying - like Supernanny suggests. If she wakes your other daughter you must deal with her too. There's no simple answer apart from perseverence.
Bringing the baby into your bed is only making her get used to your proximity and she will associate going to sleep with being with you. It won't be easy but you're going to have to encourage her to go back to sleep in her own bed. Make sure she has regular mealtimes and a regular bedtime - routine is everything. If she wakes in the night, feed her if necessary but don't talk to her, make it clear that feeding is all you'll be doing for her. She will eventually get used to going to sleep on her own.
you must go to see ya gp there might be something wrong be a good mother and take the baby to be seen be safe than sorry
Understand your dilemma..but your baby is still too young to sleep thru the night
http://www.babycenter.com/search/?bodyqu.
what is FARLEY RUSK?
what are you feeding her?
These little beings have minds of their own and routines of their own as well. You cannot force her to sleep right through the night. It is obvious that she needs a little extra during the night to get her to morning. They go through stages as they continue growing. I know with my baby - 1 week she will sleep through and then its like she has a growth spurt and for the next two weeks she will wake up once or twice during the night for something to eat. Good Luck
i don't know butt this might help my baby brother was like that and we tried feeding him a bottle a little later at night and tried to play with him as much as possible during the day so that he will be good a tired when it is time for him to go to sleep. it might also help not to put her to bed so early try putting her to bed late as possible that way she can sleep a little longer at night from being so tired of playing all day
any way i hope that this helps
good luck
In all honesty, if you seriously dont think she is hungry, at least realise that if she is screaming she is alive, she knows your buttons and is pushing them, put her cot away down the other side of the house if you have to, it will be less than a week, and she will be sleeping through, ignore her, and cope with the other one, I promise it will be less than a week and you will have a good night sleep, but from my experience, just when you sort her oyut the other one will get sick or something, just tell yourself that when they get older, you wont be able to wake them in the morning,.! that what gets me through, nothing lasts forever
I have a 2 yr old daughter & 10 month old twins (boy & girl), my son wakes at 5 every morning so that is when our day starts because as soon as he starts crying the other 2 wake up & won't go back to sleep! Yes if you leave your daughter to cry she will wake the older one but if you keep putting her in your bed she will never get out of it!
When she wakes give her water instead of milk, if she gets milk when she wakes she will keep on waking but if you replace it with water she won't bother cos who wants to wake just for water?! When I was pregnant with the twins I had the same problem, my daughter was waking at 4 for milk & it's hard but you have to let her cry it out. Eventually she will go back to sleep. It took my daughter about a week for her to stop waking early but it's taking the twins much longer now as there is 2 of them in the same room & the eldest that wakes at the slightest noise.
Your eldest may wake when your daughter cries but it won't be forever, if needs be just get up with your eldest at 3 just so your daughter can go back to sleep. Give it a week or 2 & she'll be out of this habit but you have to stop putting her in your bed now, that's one thing I've never done & I'm so glad because some of my friends still have their 7 yr olds sleeping with them!
Good luck
Hi
When my little boy wouldn't sleep after a feed i used to just rock him and talking gently in his ears, or sing him lullaby's, you could try getting one of the light and sounds machine what goes on the side of the cot, it plays soft music and has pictures which show up on the ceiling, that never failed us and he used to fall asleep quickly. good luck
Ok, my baby started sleeping through the night at one and half MONTHS old! We establish a nighttime routine with her, starting with a warm bath, then a book, then a warm bottle while listening to lullibies! But the real trick we've found is to bundle her up real tight with her blankies before we read! I think she feels safe and secure all bundled up just like she feels safe and secure when she is with her mommy! Make sure her arms are at her side so she is totally wrapped up (our little girl used to fling her arms up while sleeping and she would wake herself up by hitting herself in the face1) PUT HER IN HER CRIB then hit the repeat button on the cd player, so if she does start to rustle around a little the music puts her back to sleep before she totally wakes up!
five months is young to sleep all night
My first one didn't sleep all night until she was about.well never. She finally learned to stay quiet in her room while the rest of us slept, she was about 6 by then. She still stays up nights, she's 20 now and works the night shift.
When you feed her around 9pm with a rusk, try giving her a bottle 30mins after the rusk(if you have a routine give rusk 8.30pm), if shes refusing her milk have you considered changing brands as if she for example is still on gold, try white instead as its curd based and fills them for longer(apparently) also when she wakes at 3am and is fully burped, sit in her room settle her until she falls asleep then when shes about to nod off place her in her own bed but make sure she can see you whilst she falls asleep properly.
If that fails to work, try the controlled crying method and although you have another littleone I can understand your reluctancy, as its more work for you, but after a week or so you will know how much it paid off, as I tried everything with my littleone and it seemed to be one thing after the other and in the end the controlled crying worked for me! As the crying alone tires them out after about 15-30mins. Hope this helps and goodluck!
my little boy refused to drink his milk when he was 4 months old so i started weening him then but i think you need to give her a rusk before she goes to bed with her milk and then another one when she wakes later on but please never get her into bed with you i realise it is difficult but the other little one will get used to the noise ive also got a 4 year old and he sleeps through any crying because hes used to the noise. but after getting past the first three night it will become easier its hard work but worth it.
this is how my mum keeps my niece to sleep:
she uses a blanket to wrap around her body to avoid her hands to move around.
she said the blanket can help to make the babies feel more secure.
Have you tried giving her a different formula or maybe a soya one? Maybe she just doesn't like the taste. She should be having at least a pint of milk a day, she won't be getting enough calcium and nutrients. What is she being fed at 3am? If you let your baby cry after the 3 am feed, your 18 month old will eventually get used to it and sleep through it. It would be better to have a week of sleepless nights with the two of them than a baby sleeping in your bed for years!
adrian says its all in the routine
I woulod try and increase her food intake during the day, and still give her the rusks at night. I used to mix rusks with my kids formula with their last bottle at night just to give them a bit of substance. It worked. Good luck. Not a good idea to take kids into bed with you as they dont want to come out of the habit of that, could be that this is what she wants to tucked in beside you and your partner, I would persevere for a few nights and keep putting her in her cot
knock the noisy bugger out with a couple of shots of brandy, it'll be out like a light !!.
;-)
Only a suggestion, but the baby food companies make a boxed cereal in the baby isle
rice and oatmeal I think. We put 2 teaspoons in our 4 month old's bottle before bed and gave her a bath with that lavender baby bath she slept all night evey night doing these two things
Sorry you are going through this but I think you need to be firm and get your baby into a routine. Taking her into your bed, as you know, was a big mistake. Try not to let her sleep in the afternoon. Give her a feed at about 6 or 7 and put her down "for the night". I found babies like routine and you need to let her know who is boss - at the moment she is! I got the message across to my son that I was not impressed with night time activity by just doing the basics and not really talking to him as I would during the day. This seems to have got the message across that I wasn't impressed with night time waking. He has done this with his own daughter now and it worked from 2 months. Good luck. It will be hard but you need to persevere or she will be doing this for years, not months.
Hi here
we have a ten year old girl who still gets up in the night because we were not hard enough when she was a baby - you have to leave your baby to cry until she goes to sleep it may take a week and it is heartbreaking but it is the only way believe me , do not make the mistake we did by giving in as it will make your life a misery as she gets older . We did it once when she was 6 months and it worked but we did not follow it up we gave in and it was the worst mistake ever, not only is your child tired and cannot concentrate at school , the whole of the family is tired! also whenever you want to go away it causes problems we have to share twin rooms with our little girl , she has just started to sleep through all night again but it never lasts , so be strong and bite the bullet for a week and it will pay massive dividends later on i promise you .If we could turn the clock back we would have one week of hell instead of 10 years on and off of disturbed nights . good luck
GIVE IT A TRANQUILIZER!! joking erm i dunno really i doubt you can do anything, like the other guy said 5 months is young for a baby to sleep all night. But it will get better with time.
Hi! You certainly have your hands full there! I'm going with most of the other answers here. My tip is to not give too many snacks during the afternoon/evening, then a nice relaxing supper of something like porridge with a large drink of milk, after a nice warm bath. When she wakes during the night, comfort her if necessary at first, but make it clear straight away that she is not going in your bed,or having a drink during the night. It sounds tough, but after just a few days she'll get fed up and go back to sleep. if your other child wakes, just say "It's okay baby, go back to sleep" and don't make too much fuss. It won't take long I promise, and it's worth it.
Give her more feeding during the day.Try and give her more formula food during the day.Its what she eats during the day that keeps her going at night.Hope this helps.
i am having the same problem wiht my 8 month old boy but i breastfed him as he wont take a bottle he is driving me mad and i feel like i am starting to dislikke him because of it i really wish i could get him into a routine but nothing seems to work so just gotta hope te he finds his own routine and will eventually sleep all night in his own bed
YOU SHOULD HAVE BREASTFED HER AND I REALLY HOPE THE RUSKS ARE SUGAR AND GLUTEN FREE!
I have a little boy, he is now nearly seven months and is still being breastfed. He is the youngest of three. My other two are four and two. I had this problem too where he kept waking up to be fed. Could it be that she is cold? Maybe getting a sleeping bag (like my youngest has) would be a good idea. That way she stays warm no matter what. Is she actually hungry? It sounds silly but my son kept waking up took a very small feed and went back to sleep. (If she keeps doing it give her water - if she is actually hungry the water won't satisfy her. If she realises water is all she is getting she might just give up and sleep. Do not take her into bed with you.) My son has three feeds a day and a rusk at night. He has been sleeping through the night since he was four months. My other children used to wake up when he cried during the night but after being woken up by him for around a week they soon slept through him crying. Its hard but if all else fails just keep putting her back down to sleep after a feed and if she cries lift her, settle her, put her down and walk away. Even at this age they know how to get attention! I hope this helps. Good luck!
I think she is too young to be sleeping through the night yet. My son was 9 months when he did and that is quite early. Don't get hung up on her getting use to sleeping with you, if it means the whole family get some sleep then it's worth doing. She may need that comfort at the moment. When she refuses to go in her cot at all then you know you have a problem and need to stop her sleeping in your bed. If she goes down on her own you're half way there. Just go with the flow for now.
I think your daughter just simply misses you, - if you make sure she's well fed before tucking her in, try giving her one of your t-shirts (sort of a comfort-blanket). The t-shirt carries your scent, and the scent of you might just give her the security she needs. It worked a charm with my youngest.
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