Any ideas how to potty train a stubun two and half year old girl run out of ideas and patient?
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maybe shes not ready, some children take longerthan others. unfortunately in the west there is so much pressure on mothers to get their children out of nappies in their 2nd year. It is silly for people to expect all children to be the same.
however if you think she is ready, then here are some ideas....
firstly, perservere ...dont soften, dont put her a nappy on when its easier for you ie trip to the supermarket..this sends mixed meesages.
go shopping for 'big girls pants' let her choose her own. Make a really big deal about it , get her to show them to granny etc
once in pants, dont go back to nappies. I reccomend you still let her wear one in bed, unless she wakes up with dry ones. night time training is very different and you dont want to put too much pressure on her too soon.
tell her what a big girl she is now, if she has older siblings, cousins etc say 'your such a big girl now ,just like....'
try the big toilet rather than a potty, you can buy those seats to make the hole smaller. some children respond better to toilet, because its familier to them. It also makes them feel more grown up.
make a reward chart , give stickers for every time she uses the toilet and after she attains a certain amount, then give her a reward.
buy her special hand washing soap for after wee wee!!!
Heap huge amounts of praise on her when she is successful...'your such a clever girl' tell daddy when he comes home so she can hear and get everyone on board to heap on the praise.
when she has an accident, dont scold her, in a stuborn child it will make her even more stuborn, wait a short while so she feels alittle dis comfort then change her, but keep the interaction to a minimum.
good luck , dont worry too much , shell get there!!!!!!
did you try the underware approach? if your child goes potty in the undies let her sit in them a few minnutes before you change her she wont like that at all. another way would be to bribe her, give her a prize when she goes potty and then wean the prizes away after a while they also sell potty seats with straps so they have to sit there. i sat my daughter on the potty and wouldnt let her up until she went, she would get very angry and just go so she could play again. best of luck
It could be that she isn't ready. Why not take a break and try again in a few months. My sister told me to wait until my daughter (2 years old) told me she was ready. Then to put her into big girl pants and never go back to pull ups, even at night. I haven't tried it yet because my daughter just doesn't seem ready, I know she'll let me know when she is.
She may not be ready. It can do more harm than good if you try to push them into potty training.
If she is showing some interest I found what worked well for my child was that I would sit him on potty and we would read books or watch TV then if some happened to happen I would make a big deal about it.
But the key is that they have to be ready.
The average age for a girl to start training is about 2, the average age for a boy is about 2.5, but those are just averages so I wouldn't worry too much.
Use real panties with plastic cover ups. She won't like the feel of wet panties, but your house won't get ruined.
Be consistent and be tough. It'll work.
Throw away all of her diapers and just put her in underwear, when she pees in them let her stay in them for a little bit, she won't like having them on.
well wat ive done with my sis is i decorated the little potty u no put stickers on it mabey even somthing shiney thel be sure to see wat it does and when they do tell wat it does and how it works and ask them if they kan do it.
She's not ready. Give her time. All children develop at their own pace. Some can't grasp the concept until almost 3.
But when she is ready, try "big girl" panties during the day. At night I would go back to pull ups or what ever you are using. She has to be comfortable, give her privacy, praise not scold. And when she is accomplished, move on to something new, don't dwell. She might resort back to diapers so she can please you all over again.
It takes a bit of your time but this works very well. I raised 19 children and it is the best method I know. First buy a dolly that wets. Have your child teach the dolly to use the potty. Have her award the dolly with a sticker when she successfully makes it to the potty. Never let her give the dolly a sticker when she does not get the dolly to the potty on time. After a short time she wants to take the dolly's place and you can then train her the same way.
she will go when ready
Don't potty train her. She may not be ready. We have a potty seat (fits on our toilet seat) and a potty chair, and Johnny picks which one he wants to use.
There are actually videos that you can get that are for kids and they're all about potty training.
Try an ice cream chart. Make a chart that's tall, and everytime she goes pee, she gets one sticker. When she goes poo, she gets two stickers. When the chart is filled to the top, she gets ice cream (or some other treat).
Also, if she's not ready to potty, let her learn at her own speed. Go to your pedicatrician, they can give you more tips and tricks.
I started trining my daughter at 18 months. Here was my technique:
1.) Let her watch you pee - and hear it, so she understands what you are doing
2.) Take her and put her on the toilet maybe 1-2 times each hour. Even if she doesn't pee let her sit there for a little while. She will learn to like the toilet
3.) I let her run around naked. She will probably pee on the floor like a little puppy at first, but every time she does, put her right on the toilet.
4.) After she starts indicating that she wants to go. take her every time with consistancy.
5.) Start using pantie (she might get a little confused thinking they're diapers and back track a little)
6. Never yell about an accident, try to make it enjoyable, give lots of praise everytime she succssfully uses the potty.
get the pull ups that let them feel when they wet.. then every 15 mins take her to the potty and sit thre for 5 mins.. she will eventually go then over time(once she starts using it) then go 20 mins, 25 mins etc
and get some star stickers and a posterboard.. when she makes potty in the chair she can get a sticker, then after so many stickers she can get a prize/ treat
it depends on what her problem is.
ive never known a little girl who didnt want to be a grown up woman. That said, most of the time coaching her with "some day when you decide to be a big girl you will go potty in the toilet and not in your pants like a baby girl".
make sure she's in the room with you when you're going potty every once in a while. just leave the door open, she'll probably follow you in, or find you there. kids learn from watching, its perfectly normal for them to see mom on the toilet. It gives you a great chance to coach her again "some day when you're a big girl like mommy you will go potty on the toilet and not in your pants like when you were a baby."
Also, girls like nice things, new things, and the though of making something theirs. You can try taking her out and letting her pick out some potty things. one of the child seats that fits on the big toilet, maybe some flushable wipes, a book to keep by the toilet. that sort of thing. And then make sure she only uses those things when she's on the toilet.
Dont force her to go on the toilet, just make sure you're explaining to her that going potty in your pants is yucky when you're such a big girl. remind her she's not a baby anymore, she's bigger now. You dont want to shame her, but you want to draw a clear line between whats acceptable and whats not. When you have to change her make sure she knows its unpleasant for both of you "icky, this is what toilets are for, big kids dont go potty in their pants. yuuuck."
She'll catch on. Just dont make it a battle of wills. Its natural for kids to want to move into the next stage, but they have to make that choice some times, with your neverending coaching.
believe it or not i have 2 grandchildren that were hard to train so we took thier bottoms completely off . that way they didnt have anything to potty in. try it ! might be surprised.
Have you tried the reward chart? I know it worked on my niece and she was 2 and a half too. My daughter has been dry since just before she was two but that's because of perseverance and advice from my mum from when she was 6 months old so that won't help but anyway the reward chart.
Just a simple bit of paper split into days of the week and a set of attractive stickers. Everytime she goes on the potty she gets a sticker. If she goes on the potty a set amount of times a week (its up to you how many you do, don't set it too low tho!) then she can have a treat, something inexpensive but that she'll love even if only for a week or so.
Try getting her into a routine of it too. Sit her on the toilet/potty as soon as you get up, after breakfast etc. Even try moving the potty into the bathroom and get her to sit on it when you yourself go to the toilet so she can be 'just like Mummy'.
Other than that its heap loads of praise on her when she does go and try not to make too much of a fuss if she does have an accident. Oh and if she does have an accident try sitting her on the potty then because she'll get use to the association between the two (hopefully!). I know its frustrating (my much younger brother was still using his undies as a portapotty when he was 6) and its hard not to get angry when you have the mess to clean up. I'm afraid perseverance and praise are the best advice I can give, that and a treat if she's really, really good!
Oh I just remembered, my friends daughter is about the same age and was potty trained but due to a new baby has taken a step back, is being given her favourite chocolates as a treat if she 'keeps her hearts/bows' on her princess training pants (the ones where the hearts/bows disappear if they're wet) for a whole day. not sure how that's going to be honest but perhaps if your daughter can see as well as feel when she's been, try and get her to be proud of her hearts/bows even if it means running round the house in just them and a t-shirt, its worth a try, right?
Sorry its a bit long winded but you have all the luck i can send you!
You can't make a child go to the bathroom in a toilet. They will do it when they are ready. If people make comments to you, ignore them. All children are different, you can't compare yours to a friend who's 1 1/2 yr old is already potty trained. My daughter was almost 3 before she was even ready to go into training pants. She is almost four and has only been in underwear for about 5 months. My son is almost 2 and I know he isn't going to be ready for a while. First thing is to make sure they are off the bottle. And no drinks an hour prior to bed time. If the wake up with a dry diaper in the morning then that's a good sign. I've also heard, that letting them run around naked is a good way to start. Because they have spent so much time in diapers they do not know what it feels like before they have to releave themselves. So. if they are free forming it then they will learn to know when they have to go. They will have a few messes, yes, but if you keep a close eye on them and try to make sure you take them to the potty when they do go, they may learn a bit faster. Make potty time fun, go in and sing with them. Make it a bonding time for you two, so they find it a good thing and not just a chore, something they have to do. And never punish them for not going in the toilet. It ruins their self esteem. I found that everytime my daughter went in her pulls ups and I scolded her, she was loose some progress. She stared not caring about going in the toilet anymore. Also buy them some really cool underwear something they want to wear, and then tell them that it is for when they start going to the bathroom in the toilet. Don't say you can't have it till then, make it a fun goal. Don't reward them with candy and stuff when they go, this will only make them think they can get something every time they go. And if you don't have something fo them then the next time they may decide not to go in the toilet again. Remember that your child's bladder is not developed like ours, it is not always their fault, my daughter wets the bed a few times a week. I started setting my alarm, and getting her up in the middle of the night to go. It is lessoned the amount of laundry I do and the number of wet nights. Take your child into the bathroom with you when you go, show them that you do it too make it fun. Most important thing to do is be patient. You can also buy one of those toilets that sings, that is what worked for my niece. My sister had a hard time getting her off the toilet. If you don't have other kids running around, buy a few different potty seats. Put one in the living room and one in the bathroom so it's there and they have a constant reminder. But don't push, let it happen gradually. And remember not to compare your child to others, all kids are different and need different things and develope at different rates. Your child is no better or worse than another one.
send her to her grandparents house if they are willing for like a week and all. that is how me and all my 7 cousins learned to use the potty and then if she comes back using the potty get her that new bike or something that she wanted and good luck.
What is the hurry?
She is the right age for potty training. Start as soon as you can. Here is an idea my mom used with me:
1) create or buy a chart
2) buy some reuseable stickers
3) each time she uses the potty, give her a sticker to put on the
chart
4) each time she goes in her panties, take a sticker away
5) when she gets 15 or 20 stickers (or whatever you think
resonable) take her out for ice cream or something
I hope this helps. Good luck!
I trained two chidren the same way. Firstly you have to clear your schedule for 5 days. If you want to see people ask them to come to you.
Next have a potty available to your child and let them run round without any underwear on for the whole 5 day period. Changing from nappy to pants confuses them as they still have the feeling of somthing on. You may have a couple of accidents but they should soon get the gist of things. Obviously a nappy at night until confident they will sleep through without an accident but ensuring they go before bedtime should help.
Good luck and hope it works. Also don't scold if they have an accident this will just set things back.praise for using the potty and a quick oh dear for anything else
Never use those daft 'Pull-up' things. I have 3 kids and never used them. All they are is nappies that fasten differently. For kids to learn control, they need to feel 'unprotected'...Pull-ups are STILL NAPPIES ..just a gimmick to get companies to part with our cash. Have you tried taking her out with no undies on, just a skirt/dress? Obviously, you need to be careful with choice of trip/venue and take emergency underwear with you. Never go back to nappies once you have gone down the potty route. Be consistent.
As a footnote, a health visitor once told me that the bladder is intolerant to milk, so steer clear of that when you come to night-time training. Good luck.
The underwear approach. She will find it uncomfortable to sit in wet knickers. Also praise her when she is good. Do a chart. When she has used the potty to go to toilet, then she gets a star. A certain amount of stars gets a prize. But do not use the potty get a spot. Spots mean a toy is taken away. Also try sitting her on the toilet. That sometimes helps too.
shes not ready. i had the same problem when i tried with mine at that age, i gave up and restarted when she turned 3 and she was dry day and night in 3 days! if she isnt ready mentally then pushing her will just make her more anxious and make things worse for you. take the pressure off. and make it fun! lots of praise and rewards for using potty/loo and no big deal when accidents occour. get a sticker chart and rewards at the end of each week. tyr to relax and good luck x
Hi there. i am having the same problem with my almost 3yr old son, he just refuses to use the potty and the toilet, at first i changed his potty and most recent i've tried using a potty reward chart i brought from e-bay. But i've had no luck still. I've been told to start my son at apre school and he will learn in time with the other children, maybe this will help your little girl, I know there are a fffew 2yr old group pre schools around.
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