My 8 month old wont go to sleep on his own in his cot, he wants to play and stand up, any ideas on what to do?
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hey i know what you are going through my wife and i used carry our son for hours to get him to sleep as soon as he was put down he would wake and screeeeeeam blue murder. it is hard but his is how we approached it set a simple routine and keep to it!!!!!!
bath, bottle book and bed tell him exactly what you are doing before you do it. then comes the hard part when you put him to bed use the same phrases each time, we said its time for a sleep know so we are going to bed, put him in his cot, tell him you will be back in a little while kiss him and walk out. he will do every thing in his power to get you to come back, but wait 10 Min's before going back and just repeat the phrase for going to bed and leave again return only once more after 10 Min's here on extend by 5 Min's after a few days he will get the message, extend the first returns by 5 it may take a week or so but it did work just remember you have a stronger will than him but only leave him as long as you know he is safe and well.it is distressing but stick to it like your mental health depends on it.
i hope this helps
I got an 8 month old baby daughter. Just let him play and tire himself out. I know its a big sacrifice, especially if you are working, but that's the price of parenthood and I'm happily paying for it. Good luck, God Bless and Peace. ;o)
Be even tougher. Ignore him. As long as he's safe. The more you go back, the more he'll do it.
Get a set of earplugs to reduce the noise, but so you can still hear him.
Keep to a strict bedtime routine and take no prisoners!
I know it feels wicked but you have to persevere. They have to have a bedtime routine and then be laid down. If they get up you have to keep going in there and laying them back down again. Be gentle and kind and just say. "Bedtime now baby". And then leave the room again. It will sink in eventually and they will be so much better off for it in the long run. Don't feel bad, just remember that you have to be cruel to be kind.
I've watched The House of Tiny Tearaways and one Mum had to lay her son back down 125 times in one evening! Then only 100 times the second evening! But eventually after a week he gave in. A bit of work now will save years of sleep problems in the future.
Is like you see on all the help programmes on the telly, if he is sleeping in the day you need to wean him out of that, also the heat doesn't help, no mother likes to hear their baby cry for too long but sometimes it is the only way, try to be persistent and when you go to him do not pick him up and put him in your arms to rock him to sleep, pick him up and lay him down in the sleeping position even if this takes hours and days to do the little might will soon learn that it is sleep time and will give in. He may even stop the crying and just lay there and start talking to himself, you just have to be firm and keep laying him down and leaving the room, but do not pick him up for cuddles as this could confuse him. Just remember he is still learning and it takes time, and most of all your patients.
Good luck..
try to cut his sleep out or maybe only let him have a little sleep through the day then he will be ready to go to sleep when you put him down at night,my son used to do exactly the same and i reduced his day time sleep and he was as good as gold .good luck.
You have to set up a routine and stick to it. I know its hard, I learnt the hard way, my son didn't sleep until he was 4, consequently, when i had my daughter things were different. I had a routine in place from day 1 and she has always been a fantastic sleeper. I know all kids are different but it really does help.
Bath time
Quiet Story
Bed
No stimulation.
He has learn ed that every time he cries you pick him up and he gets attention. You need to break this cycle as soon as possible. And be tough! I know it's hard, but it truly does work.
You have to be brave, as long as he is safe let him be.
Good luck
xx
i had the same thing with my son who is now 4. i used to put him in his cot and he would do all the things that you have mentioned. eventually i was advised to put him to bed, read a story, kiss and cuddle him good night and then lay him down. when you leave the room tell him you will be back in a few minutes. potter about the house near to his room so he can still hear you and the every 10-15 minutes or so pop in to check on him and keep repeating this but after the second attempt don't talk to him just lie him down and walk out. i persisted with this with my son and eventually after about a week he got the hang of it and has slept great since then. Hope this helps :-)
Give the child twenty minutes attention at bedtime only. Then decrease the time gradually. Eventually the kid should go to sleep knowing that you have reassured them enough previously and that they needn't be insecure.
the best solution is have cot in your room next to bed
let him go to sleep with you wrapped in a sheet
when asleep lay him in his cot
this has worked with family and friends any time of the day
its comfort and reassurance he wants
my 9 month old daughter after discovering just how active she can be does the same thing.
what he is doing is fighting his sleep because the only thing he singlemindedly knows thus far is that mommy will put me to sleep in her arms (or whatever case/scenario bonding routine you find yourself doing with baby at night).
you have to slowly wean him away from this bond (i know doesn't sound good) but it helps to rest more if that's what you want is to gain more sleep. I have tried so with my daughter for a week by standing-over her crib in the dark and gently rocking her to sleep side to side. seeing mommy's face before going into a deep slumber will help baby to calm easy. if you try this routine for a little more than a week you'll begin to notice a change.
he'll graduate after you do the above recommended. then gradually you will find yourself getting closer and closer outside the room your child is sleeping in. he's done one thing so long he's used to and your conditioning him should help fall asleep normally.
hmmm how about leaving him to cry out i know its painful but u hav 2 do it to practica him 4 the dog eat dog world and leave him with a toy
I think you answered your own question. If the only way he'll go to sleep is if you hold him, then you should hold him! I'm not sure what you are asking.
I had that problem. i know it's hard but u really do have 2 leave him. leave him 4 perhaps 5 mins then go in & comfort him but DO NOT pick him up, once calmed leave the room. keep increasing the time u leave him until he falls asleep. it worked with my little boy in just 3days he stopped resisting & just layed down. the first night i did it, he fell asleep hanging on 2 the side of the cot. it worked so well i'd do it again with my new child, he's only 6 months old.
Congratulations! Your baby has learned a new skill and is practicing using it. If you notice he will do this all through the day over and over. It's a normal thing and there isn't a lot that you can do about except for now make time to sit with him until he is asleep. This too shall pass.
I have a one year old that used to be a bit of a nightmare around 8 months putting to bed and in the end he went to bed at 10pm-which was too late.
So I got tough and started a count down,
eg. 7pm bottle of milk, 8pm bath, 9pm bottle and bed.I stuck to these times rigidly, then after his last milk gave him a big cuddle, said night night and put him down, at first he screamed the house down but only after 10 mins of crying would I go up and check but I didn't speak to him or pick him up - just looked in on him just to reassure him I was still about.
I did this for about a week.
The next week I left him crying 20 mins - he only did this once, the next night he didn't cry longer than 5 mins and hasn't done so since.
It's just at that age they start becoming aware of themselves and there is so much going on in their eyes to see and learn about they don't want to sleep and miss out on anything.
It's really tough hearing your baby cry but it will get better,especially when he starts walking - it really knackers them out!
I have a 9 month old daughetr who has learnt to stand up in her cot. She's fine sleeping, what I did find helps her go off is putting a flannel or a comfort toy over her face, she rubs her eyes and falls asleep within minutes. It falls off about 5 minutes later so it's not dangerous I promise!
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