Why are people on here always going on about adoption like its soo easy?
Seriously!
Teenage pregnancy? Give it up for adoption
Single mother? Give it up for adoption
Not much money? Give it up for adoption
Are you people for real? How many of you have been through pregnancy and birth? I'm 31 weeks pregnant and there is no way in HELL I would be able to give my baby away when it is born! I'm lucky to have a home and a man to support me and I'm 34. But how you can just glibly suggest a woman goes through the huge emotional and physical rollercoaster of pregnancy and birth and then just hand the baby over to strangers like its an unwanted gift I don't know. I would kill me to do that!! Talk about empty arms!
I can understand in cases where it is impossible for the mother the bring the child up or the mother really doesn't want the child. But in cases such as teen mums or single women why the hell should they give their baby up? To be honest giving away the little thing thats been inside me for 8 months would be bloody impossible!!
Answers:
im on your side
there's way too many dumb people on here,I bet most who say that are little boys who think they know it all.
I was a young mother and chose to keep my baby. While some people would argue that putting my daughter up for adoption was the better choice, I personally was not strong enough to do it. We're doing fine now but we have had very rough times where I wondered if I should have. I still recommend adoption for any woman who is strong enough to do it. It is a very difficult, selfless decision, but can be very beneficial for the child.
You probably can't understand it because you are not in that type of situation.
It is truly a selfless gift to give up a child to parents who long for a child.
You are 34, you love your baby. There are women of any age who don't love their baby, and have no way to care for their child. They aren't emotionally competent, financially independent, or stable. Those people should not raise a child, should not have an abortion, they should give their baby up.
I think people suggest adoption so often because when a woman does not want a baby, she so frequently looks for the easy out, ie, abortion.
Your baby is lucky to have you, many are not as lucky.
I agree - I think deciding to give up your baby for adoption or to have an abortion would be heart wrenching decisions, I cannot imagine. I'm so thankful not to have ever had to make such a decision.
I personally think you dont understand what it's like to bring a baby into the world and not have any resources to raise it properly.You have the support of someone, but there is a lot of women, girls, that dont have a pot, or a window to throw it out of.Most of them do it for the child, and go thru mental hell because of it, but know that their baby will get the right things to grow up in a decent environment..
they're not thinking about how the mother feels
You are answering you own question already.
By the way you´ll never understand the million reasons that crazy people have to do strange or silly things.
Would you rather they went around telling people to have abortions?
Well adoption is wayyyyy better than abortion (which is the murder of a baby.not a thing) I would gladly adopt a baby and give it a great home, and I would rather some teenage mom or single mom know that there kid will be in a loving home and be able to have a happy life, than to not have one at all.
I totally understand what you mean, I oculdnt give my kid up ever.
But really abortion is just evil and gross, if only girls and women really knew what it was, not just "oh Im having an abortion"
that makes it sound like a trip to the dentist, it way more gruesome than that.abort73.com and look at the pics, they dont show you that at planned parenthood, which by the way is the biggest supporter of baby killing. Adoption rules over baby killing.
Also maybe some people some arent rich like you and so therefore you have no clue what its like on the other side.
Im 26 and my man makes tons of dough, I drive a Lexus live in a modest home and yes I am aware it could all change one day.
Not everyone is as lucky as us.
I agree, but as an adoptee I see the benefits of adoption, and the horror. The horror is being the adoptee, and knowing that you have no right to ever find your true heritage and geneological truth. Forget medical history, forget feeling like a normal person that has rights. I can't even get a truthful birth certificate. I'm not ungrateful, but I hate that other's do not understand and think it is such a natural thing for adoption to take place, when it is the epitome of unnatural. I did find, after spending several hundred $ of my own money, and several years of turmoil. But I had to for medical reasons (the state won't unseal records even for medical emergencies). Come to find out my adoptive parents are poorer than my first parents, my adoptive mother is more neurotic than my first mother. My adoptive father, well they're pretty much equal in the emotionally absent, and too "manly" to be a father department. Either way, I love them all.
But adoption is a very diffucult, serious matter. It is something mother and baby must grieve, yet society doesn't acknowledge the loss, it can be worse than death.
Google "the primal wound", "Nancy Verrier" Also go to bastardnation.org, and the american adoption congress website.
Actually, I shouldn't have to be grateful. Every child deserves a loving home.
But adoption isn't something to be so blaze about. Until there are better alternatives to adoption (besides abortion), people need to become more aware and stop throwing it out as such an easy thing to do. Did you know that open adoption isn't legal in almost every state? There is no protection for either mother or child that the agreement will be upheld. Did you know that in all but 2 states, adoptees are denied access to their own birth certificate? Even Foley isn't guarunteed his IM's are private, but my own birth certificate is private from me. Please visit the sites I mentioned for more info. Edit: BTW, People should also stop thinking of it as "giving up" a child. A mother dosn't "give up" or "give away" her own child. She relinquishes her parental rights, or "surrenders" her child for adoption. This is the kind of backwards thinking/terminology that perpetuates adoptions most painful stereotypes. Do some research, adoption reform is the civil rights struggle of the 21st century. Get with the times, and the PC terminology.
i don't know how people could do such a thing.i was raped but i still kept my baby.now i have 4 and i would do anything for them.for someone to willingly give up their child that person has no soul and them themself have no right to live.i never planed not once of having a baby.i didn't have that much money,i was just gettin started to live on my own but i never once denied my baby the right to live and or live with me.i get up set when the kids go to their grandmas house cause i always worry if their ok(i know they are)but it's just the thought of being away from them.and to all those women who has ever thought of abortion...shame on you.killing a life is NOT gonna save your own it WILL come back to huant you.my best friend had an abortion but only because she had to because the baby was growing in her tube.when i had my second child she broke down when she saw the baby.i never heard from her for 3 weeks,she killed her self.she wanted the baby,but could not carry.i'm gonna stop now cause i'm starting to cry.
I agree 100 percent.. people don't think about those things.. and how hard it would have been for them to give up their little ones after carrying them for nine months..sometimes that is easier..
I just don't support it if the woman is using it as a form of BC..
Or when people come in and say they are pregnant and getting an abortion and the response is.. 'you should wear a condom' it's like hello.a little late for that.. I mean if you can't give good advice that is applicable to the situation.. I say don't give it at all.
Sorry..that was my little rant.
But I agree with you..
you are probably going to get some responses from people that don't agree, but heck with em.
i am adopted along with my real sister, being adopted was never easy for me growing up and my parents had a really rough time with me and now with my 15 year old sister, i am now 18 and could contact my birth mother, but know my family is with the people that adopted me, they have provided for me for nearly 13 years and they are MY FAMILY, there is one thing that may puzzle you as it does me and always has done. My birth mother gave my sister and i but still has my two brothers why i ask myself but might never get the answer, in answer too your question my mum and dad have had a real rollercoaster time with me and my sister since the day they adopted us botH they also knew it wasn't going to be easy but they wanted me and my sister so much, they say that they have no regrets in adopting us but it has been very very hard work and people that think its easy are mad, do they not know the trouble some adopted children have been through and the baggage they may hold? WHO KNOWS? because one thing is for sure it is far from easy.
Sometimes it's necessary, but nobody ever said it was easy. It's all about what you can deal with and what's best for the baby.
I will be a teen mother in may i am due may 14th.. When i first found out that i was pregnant.. i didnt know what to do.. the first thing on my mind was adoption.me and boyfriend were not planning this and we both have college comin up and big trips we have to take for our music...all of which will be alot fo money. i we didnt know how we would do it. raise a baby. still be in high school..try to have a job. find a babysitter..where we were goin to live..we didnt have a clue about any of it..I kno that there are soo many couple out there that cannot have a baby. my aunt is one of them..she finally adopted my cousin..who is the best person in the world.and Is totally one of us...she is 15 now. and doesnt even consider finding her birth mother. because to her my aunt (her mom) is her birth mom.. my aunt was soo happy. when she came into her life.
adoption is giving a child a chance... Im all for it..
I feel the same way, my girl just turned two and I can't believe it. I could never imagine not having her around. I loved being pregnant with her (most of the time). I never wanted to give her up and never will. But yes, if the kid is better off being adopted than abortion or being with the parent, I certainly agree with adoption.
i agree. oh and the abortion thing to how stupid
because 9 out of 10 people getting pregnant and having abortions are actually kids they think having sex is great cool but then getting pregnant is a big sympathy thing no affence to parents hows kids have had kids but in no way is it cool its dumb the law of sex should go up to atleast 18
I agree and disagree.In your case I wouldn't suggest giving up your baby, but some of the people in here with their situations really should put their baby up for adoption.If you put your baby up for adoption just because then your dumb, but most people have a good reason, and if someone would decide to put their baby up for adoption that's their choice.In most situations that I've heard on here where people are telling them to put babies up for adoption they really should so the baby can have a chance at a better life.Plus that's the mothers choice.No body is making her put her baby up for adoption.And I'm happy to see more people putting babies up for adoption rather than abortion.
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Teenage pregnancy? Give it up for adoption
Single mother? Give it up for adoption
Not much money? Give it up for adoption
Are you people for real? How many of you have been through pregnancy and birth? I'm 31 weeks pregnant and there is no way in HELL I would be able to give my baby away when it is born! I'm lucky to have a home and a man to support me and I'm 34. But how you can just glibly suggest a woman goes through the huge emotional and physical rollercoaster of pregnancy and birth and then just hand the baby over to strangers like its an unwanted gift I don't know. I would kill me to do that!! Talk about empty arms!
I can understand in cases where it is impossible for the mother the bring the child up or the mother really doesn't want the child. But in cases such as teen mums or single women why the hell should they give their baby up? To be honest giving away the little thing thats been inside me for 8 months would be bloody impossible!!
Answers:
im on your side
there's way too many dumb people on here,I bet most who say that are little boys who think they know it all.
I was a young mother and chose to keep my baby. While some people would argue that putting my daughter up for adoption was the better choice, I personally was not strong enough to do it. We're doing fine now but we have had very rough times where I wondered if I should have. I still recommend adoption for any woman who is strong enough to do it. It is a very difficult, selfless decision, but can be very beneficial for the child.
You probably can't understand it because you are not in that type of situation.
It is truly a selfless gift to give up a child to parents who long for a child.
You are 34, you love your baby. There are women of any age who don't love their baby, and have no way to care for their child. They aren't emotionally competent, financially independent, or stable. Those people should not raise a child, should not have an abortion, they should give their baby up.
I think people suggest adoption so often because when a woman does not want a baby, she so frequently looks for the easy out, ie, abortion.
Your baby is lucky to have you, many are not as lucky.
I agree - I think deciding to give up your baby for adoption or to have an abortion would be heart wrenching decisions, I cannot imagine. I'm so thankful not to have ever had to make such a decision.
I personally think you dont understand what it's like to bring a baby into the world and not have any resources to raise it properly.You have the support of someone, but there is a lot of women, girls, that dont have a pot, or a window to throw it out of.Most of them do it for the child, and go thru mental hell because of it, but know that their baby will get the right things to grow up in a decent environment..
they're not thinking about how the mother feels
You are answering you own question already.
By the way you´ll never understand the million reasons that crazy people have to do strange or silly things.
Would you rather they went around telling people to have abortions?
Well adoption is wayyyyy better than abortion (which is the murder of a baby.not a thing) I would gladly adopt a baby and give it a great home, and I would rather some teenage mom or single mom know that there kid will be in a loving home and be able to have a happy life, than to not have one at all.
I totally understand what you mean, I oculdnt give my kid up ever.
But really abortion is just evil and gross, if only girls and women really knew what it was, not just "oh Im having an abortion"
that makes it sound like a trip to the dentist, it way more gruesome than that.abort73.com and look at the pics, they dont show you that at planned parenthood, which by the way is the biggest supporter of baby killing. Adoption rules over baby killing.
Also maybe some people some arent rich like you and so therefore you have no clue what its like on the other side.
Im 26 and my man makes tons of dough, I drive a Lexus live in a modest home and yes I am aware it could all change one day.
Not everyone is as lucky as us.
I agree, but as an adoptee I see the benefits of adoption, and the horror. The horror is being the adoptee, and knowing that you have no right to ever find your true heritage and geneological truth. Forget medical history, forget feeling like a normal person that has rights. I can't even get a truthful birth certificate. I'm not ungrateful, but I hate that other's do not understand and think it is such a natural thing for adoption to take place, when it is the epitome of unnatural. I did find, after spending several hundred $ of my own money, and several years of turmoil. But I had to for medical reasons (the state won't unseal records even for medical emergencies). Come to find out my adoptive parents are poorer than my first parents, my adoptive mother is more neurotic than my first mother. My adoptive father, well they're pretty much equal in the emotionally absent, and too "manly" to be a father department. Either way, I love them all.
But adoption is a very diffucult, serious matter. It is something mother and baby must grieve, yet society doesn't acknowledge the loss, it can be worse than death.
Google "the primal wound", "Nancy Verrier" Also go to bastardnation.org, and the american adoption congress website.
Actually, I shouldn't have to be grateful. Every child deserves a loving home.
But adoption isn't something to be so blaze about. Until there are better alternatives to adoption (besides abortion), people need to become more aware and stop throwing it out as such an easy thing to do. Did you know that open adoption isn't legal in almost every state? There is no protection for either mother or child that the agreement will be upheld. Did you know that in all but 2 states, adoptees are denied access to their own birth certificate? Even Foley isn't guarunteed his IM's are private, but my own birth certificate is private from me. Please visit the sites I mentioned for more info. Edit: BTW, People should also stop thinking of it as "giving up" a child. A mother dosn't "give up" or "give away" her own child. She relinquishes her parental rights, or "surrenders" her child for adoption. This is the kind of backwards thinking/terminology that perpetuates adoptions most painful stereotypes. Do some research, adoption reform is the civil rights struggle of the 21st century. Get with the times, and the PC terminology.
i don't know how people could do such a thing.i was raped but i still kept my baby.now i have 4 and i would do anything for them.for someone to willingly give up their child that person has no soul and them themself have no right to live.i never planed not once of having a baby.i didn't have that much money,i was just gettin started to live on my own but i never once denied my baby the right to live and or live with me.i get up set when the kids go to their grandmas house cause i always worry if their ok(i know they are)but it's just the thought of being away from them.and to all those women who has ever thought of abortion...shame on you.killing a life is NOT gonna save your own it WILL come back to huant you.my best friend had an abortion but only because she had to because the baby was growing in her tube.when i had my second child she broke down when she saw the baby.i never heard from her for 3 weeks,she killed her self.she wanted the baby,but could not carry.i'm gonna stop now cause i'm starting to cry.
I agree 100 percent.. people don't think about those things.. and how hard it would have been for them to give up their little ones after carrying them for nine months..sometimes that is easier..
I just don't support it if the woman is using it as a form of BC..
Or when people come in and say they are pregnant and getting an abortion and the response is.. 'you should wear a condom' it's like hello.a little late for that.. I mean if you can't give good advice that is applicable to the situation.. I say don't give it at all.
Sorry..that was my little rant.
But I agree with you..
you are probably going to get some responses from people that don't agree, but heck with em.
i am adopted along with my real sister, being adopted was never easy for me growing up and my parents had a really rough time with me and now with my 15 year old sister, i am now 18 and could contact my birth mother, but know my family is with the people that adopted me, they have provided for me for nearly 13 years and they are MY FAMILY, there is one thing that may puzzle you as it does me and always has done. My birth mother gave my sister and i but still has my two brothers why i ask myself but might never get the answer, in answer too your question my mum and dad have had a real rollercoaster time with me and my sister since the day they adopted us botH they also knew it wasn't going to be easy but they wanted me and my sister so much, they say that they have no regrets in adopting us but it has been very very hard work and people that think its easy are mad, do they not know the trouble some adopted children have been through and the baggage they may hold? WHO KNOWS? because one thing is for sure it is far from easy.
Sometimes it's necessary, but nobody ever said it was easy. It's all about what you can deal with and what's best for the baby.
I will be a teen mother in may i am due may 14th.. When i first found out that i was pregnant.. i didnt know what to do.. the first thing on my mind was adoption.me and boyfriend were not planning this and we both have college comin up and big trips we have to take for our music...all of which will be alot fo money. i we didnt know how we would do it. raise a baby. still be in high school..try to have a job. find a babysitter..where we were goin to live..we didnt have a clue about any of it..I kno that there are soo many couple out there that cannot have a baby. my aunt is one of them..she finally adopted my cousin..who is the best person in the world.and Is totally one of us...she is 15 now. and doesnt even consider finding her birth mother. because to her my aunt (her mom) is her birth mom.. my aunt was soo happy. when she came into her life.
adoption is giving a child a chance... Im all for it..
I feel the same way, my girl just turned two and I can't believe it. I could never imagine not having her around. I loved being pregnant with her (most of the time). I never wanted to give her up and never will. But yes, if the kid is better off being adopted than abortion or being with the parent, I certainly agree with adoption.
i agree. oh and the abortion thing to how stupid
because 9 out of 10 people getting pregnant and having abortions are actually kids they think having sex is great cool but then getting pregnant is a big sympathy thing no affence to parents hows kids have had kids but in no way is it cool its dumb the law of sex should go up to atleast 18
I agree and disagree.In your case I wouldn't suggest giving up your baby, but some of the people in here with their situations really should put their baby up for adoption.If you put your baby up for adoption just because then your dumb, but most people have a good reason, and if someone would decide to put their baby up for adoption that's their choice.In most situations that I've heard on here where people are telling them to put babies up for adoption they really should so the baby can have a chance at a better life.Plus that's the mothers choice.No body is making her put her baby up for adoption.And I'm happy to see more people putting babies up for adoption rather than abortion.
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