How do i get my 3yr old to sleep in his own bed and not ours?
he wants to sleep with us and not in his own bed as he thinks there is monsters in there
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Fill a spray bottle with water and glitter and then you can patrol together at bedtime with the anti monster spray. Or how about putting a toy under the bed or in a dark corner who can be in charge of scaring monsters if any dare to set foot in his room? Failing that, a night light might be a good idea so that furniture in the room doesn't start to take on scary shapes if he wakes up. Or how about a reward chart? It's amazing the power a few stickers has over a three year old. My daughter had the same problem so I told her that she would get a sticker for every night she stayed in her own bed and that for every ten stickers she would get a little present. They were little things like a comic or a Ladybird book, but they did the trick. And it helped her learn to count up to 40 when she got a bigger present of Barbie outfit. I told her at 40 that it would stop because monsters never came into your room when you were grown up and could count to 40. Seems to have worked, touch wood.
Be firm - set a bed time take him to bed - read a story and stay with him until he sleeps. If he comes to your bed during the night take him back to his bed and stay with him until he sleeps again. Do this as many times as neccessary. He will learn to sleep in his bed. Good luck.
Should have been from the first day you came back from the hospital or wherever!!
Now you could try the disappearing chair method .
Ahhh..he get over it soon . My niece was the same at that age,so my sis would let her fall asleep with her and take her then to her room. Now she doesn't want to be anywhere else but in her own bed !!
Get him an attractive bed (Schumi's ferrari style bed wont hurt) and try soothing his worst fears about sleeping alone. Seems he either suffers from separation anxiety or is worried about monsters under his bed or something.
Try putting him to sleep in his bed and then going off to sleep yourself.
i find its best to tie them to the bed by their ankle. Make sure the knot isnt so tight that it cuts off the blood supply or their foot might drop off and then they can get away.
Relax and let him stay for awhile. He'll grow out of it eventually, and in the meantime you get a happy, contented little boy. You also get a full night's sleep yourself, as he won't wake you by coming in, in the middle of the night, if he's already there!
Get a bigger bed if you and your husband are a bit cramped.
Have him do a "monster patrol" just before bedtime. put his bed on the floor, that way no "monsters" can hide under the bed. Make sure that all "humanistic" dolls and toys are put away because in the dark they look scary. Shut all closet doors, (you can even do an "incantation/spell" that will keep the monsters from being able to open the closet door and come out), or you can tell him that the only monsters that will visit him will be Vin and Sully from Monster's Inc.
pretty much have to make him sleep in his own room..tell him that you or you and the father dont allow monsters to come in the house or that monsters are not real
Not to be mean but you can try putting a gate at his door so he can't get out and try a nightlight and leave the door open with a hall or bathroom light on. And when he goes to bed show him that there are no monsters with the light on and off, also try giving him a flashlight so that he can look and you both look together, and try leaving the closet or any other doors in his room open so he knows that there are none and just do a monster check with him before he goes to bed every night until he knows that there are no monsters.
miss..kids that age need to adapt to their surrondings let him sleep there until he is 4 then let him move to his bed if this still doesn't work then move his bed to your room until he is 4.5 years old you see my primary photo? it was my son when he was 2.5 years old now he is 13 now but back then he was still an infant he would still be in his playpen and cry for his mama or dada he sleeps in the bed with us until he was 3.5 now my daughter who is currently 3 years old sleeps in the bed with my wife she likes the playpen and that's her only refuge when my 3 sons ages 13,9 and 6 tease her
we do a monsters check list with my nephew. every night his father or mother or whomever is visiting...(me or his uncle) will take him in to bed and have him help us check all the scarey places for monsters. he has a special flash light that he shines in the closet and under the bed. since we started that he hasn't come into bed with his parents at all. =)
Move his bed into your room, at first. Then each night move his bed farther away from yours, out the door and into his own room. He will get used to being in his bed while you are close and he feels safe.
Get a friend to dress up as a monster and hide in your bedroom, then jump out on the bratt and kick his head in. Then superglue him to his own bed and tell him to trust you in future.
I had this problem too. I made it a routine where, when I put her to bed, her own bed, I'd read a story. if she came into my bed, "No Story" took a few days to get it right but, it did work!
put him in his bed and pretend to sleep in there with him and when he falls asleep , go to your own bed and when he wakes up tell him he's a big boy now and you are proud of him for sleeping by his self .... and he will see how proud you are of him that he will want to feel like a big boy and want to sleep by his self more . do this until you can tell him to go to his room by his self and see if it works...My 4 yr old still wants somebody in the bed with her also.. her 3 yr old sister sleeps in the bed w/her ...
it's a tough one but you just have to stick with it, keep a routine, playing in room quietly for half an hour then bath and changed ready for bed at a certain time, teeth brushed, then bed. keep returning him when he does get up, and do it in a quiet fashion so he's not getting the attention he's seeking. try playing some soft music just before bed time to help get him relaxed. it is very difficult and i realise it's easier said than done, but really stick to it and eventually he will go to bed no problem. good luck
Let him in your bed for stories and cuddles, then go scare the monsters away in his room. If he comes into your room at night, take him back to his own bed and scare the monsters away again - only do this once though! If he gets out of bed again, take him back to bed and say 'its bedtime now'. If it happens again, take him back and don't say anything. It'll take about 2 weeks and it will be hard, but he'll soon get the idea.
Good luck!
mmm, this is a tricky one! Have you allowed him to watch monsters inc over and over. My daughter loves it and thinks all onsters are quite nice actually. try lie in his bed with him at bedtime and read books and sing lullaby's till he drops off and tell him that you will kep coming to check on him. Maybe he needs reassurance
six inch nails tend to stop them leaving their own room
You can get them to sleep in their own bed quite easily by various methods (see other answers), mainly by being firm and ignoring their pleas for clemency - but just don't expect them to stay there forever. When ill, scared, or just a bit fragile, expect to see them back in your bed again many times in the next few years.
We have the dog do a monster check every night. So far, the dog just walks around the room looking confused lol.
Then be firm. Every time he gets into bed with you, return him to his own bed. You'll probably have to do this 1000 times lol, so be prepared for a few nights of no sleep for you and spouse.
Oh, since he's probably still in the land of "make believe is real", give him a flashlight with "monster killer beams" to use in case he thinks one is on to him.
Don't tell him there are no monsters, tell him monsters don't come to your house because they are scared of 1) Daddy, because he's so big and strong, 2) the dog because he'll bite the monsters, or 3) Mommy because she'll give them a spanking, tell their mommy and take away their monster kibbles for an entire week.
My step son is was the same. We let him fall asleep in our bed, then take him into his own. If he wakes up and gets back in with us, we again wait for him to fall back to sleep and take him back to his own bed. You don't get a very good night's sleep granted, but it doesn't last forever (thankfully!) He now, very rarely wakes in the night and quite happily goes to bed in his own room!
I could have asked this Q.
Im nto having any luck with this either.. but i have a 3 yr old AND a almost 5 yr old coming in to my bed at nite!!
Ive been told my best bet is to get up when they come in and bring them right back to bed.
Get him a night light. A friend of mine got her daughter a small spray bottle and put in it some lavender oil drops and mixed with water and put a label on it saying Monster repellent spray. Every night she would go around her room and spray under her bed and her closet or where ever she thought a monster would hide in her room. My friend told her daughter that monsters do not like the smell of Lavender so it will keep them away. The bonus of the lavender is to help your son sleep cause it is a calming smell. Try doing that and hope it works as well for you as it did for my friend! GOOD LUCK!
Do a monster check get the monster and throw him outside and let him sleep with his stuffed animals to make him feel better, try a night lite too.
Ha Ha i wake up in the night and theres my SEVEN year old clinging to me like a fruit bat
Try leaving the landing light on and putting a stair gate at your bedroom door at least you'll wake and can control the situation
I am not sure, but when you get the answer let me know. My daughter does the same thing. She has slept in her bed every day of her life til bout 6 months ago. She continues to get up in the middle of the night and sleep on the couch, in our bed or makes a pallat on our floor. Night lights dont work, and letting her sleep with her brother now and again dont work either. She ALWAYS ends up in our room or on the couch. saying there are monsters in her room also, you arent alone, trust me.
According to my two year old daughter, all real monsters live in Kentucky, we live in Tennessee. Only pretend monsters are allowed in Tennessee, the Police won't let them in. Also there are bears in Kentucky and bears think that Monsters are delicious, very good to eat. My daughter no longer has any problems with monsters. as for the sleeping in her own bed, my wife and I read her a story every night, she picks the story and whether she gets one or two stories. My wife and I make it very fun, but then when we say we're done, she gets to choose whether Mommy tuck-tucks, or Daddy tuck-tucks. We have not had a problem with her sleeping in her own bed unless she is sick. We also made her crib into a toddler bed, she thinks its great that she can get out of bed by herself and come wake up Daddy in the mornings.
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Fill a spray bottle with water and glitter and then you can patrol together at bedtime with the anti monster spray. Or how about putting a toy under the bed or in a dark corner who can be in charge of scaring monsters if any dare to set foot in his room? Failing that, a night light might be a good idea so that furniture in the room doesn't start to take on scary shapes if he wakes up. Or how about a reward chart? It's amazing the power a few stickers has over a three year old. My daughter had the same problem so I told her that she would get a sticker for every night she stayed in her own bed and that for every ten stickers she would get a little present. They were little things like a comic or a Ladybird book, but they did the trick. And it helped her learn to count up to 40 when she got a bigger present of Barbie outfit. I told her at 40 that it would stop because monsters never came into your room when you were grown up and could count to 40. Seems to have worked, touch wood.
Be firm - set a bed time take him to bed - read a story and stay with him until he sleeps. If he comes to your bed during the night take him back to his bed and stay with him until he sleeps again. Do this as many times as neccessary. He will learn to sleep in his bed. Good luck.
Should have been from the first day you came back from the hospital or wherever!!
Now you could try the disappearing chair method .
Ahhh..he get over it soon . My niece was the same at that age,so my sis would let her fall asleep with her and take her then to her room. Now she doesn't want to be anywhere else but in her own bed !!
Get him an attractive bed (Schumi's ferrari style bed wont hurt) and try soothing his worst fears about sleeping alone. Seems he either suffers from separation anxiety or is worried about monsters under his bed or something.
Try putting him to sleep in his bed and then going off to sleep yourself.
i find its best to tie them to the bed by their ankle. Make sure the knot isnt so tight that it cuts off the blood supply or their foot might drop off and then they can get away.
Relax and let him stay for awhile. He'll grow out of it eventually, and in the meantime you get a happy, contented little boy. You also get a full night's sleep yourself, as he won't wake you by coming in, in the middle of the night, if he's already there!
Get a bigger bed if you and your husband are a bit cramped.
Have him do a "monster patrol" just before bedtime. put his bed on the floor, that way no "monsters" can hide under the bed. Make sure that all "humanistic" dolls and toys are put away because in the dark they look scary. Shut all closet doors, (you can even do an "incantation/spell" that will keep the monsters from being able to open the closet door and come out), or you can tell him that the only monsters that will visit him will be Vin and Sully from Monster's Inc.
pretty much have to make him sleep in his own room..tell him that you or you and the father dont allow monsters to come in the house or that monsters are not real
Not to be mean but you can try putting a gate at his door so he can't get out and try a nightlight and leave the door open with a hall or bathroom light on. And when he goes to bed show him that there are no monsters with the light on and off, also try giving him a flashlight so that he can look and you both look together, and try leaving the closet or any other doors in his room open so he knows that there are none and just do a monster check with him before he goes to bed every night until he knows that there are no monsters.
miss..kids that age need to adapt to their surrondings let him sleep there until he is 4 then let him move to his bed if this still doesn't work then move his bed to your room until he is 4.5 years old you see my primary photo? it was my son when he was 2.5 years old now he is 13 now but back then he was still an infant he would still be in his playpen and cry for his mama or dada he sleeps in the bed with us until he was 3.5 now my daughter who is currently 3 years old sleeps in the bed with my wife she likes the playpen and that's her only refuge when my 3 sons ages 13,9 and 6 tease her
we do a monsters check list with my nephew. every night his father or mother or whomever is visiting...(me or his uncle) will take him in to bed and have him help us check all the scarey places for monsters. he has a special flash light that he shines in the closet and under the bed. since we started that he hasn't come into bed with his parents at all. =)
Move his bed into your room, at first. Then each night move his bed farther away from yours, out the door and into his own room. He will get used to being in his bed while you are close and he feels safe.
Get a friend to dress up as a monster and hide in your bedroom, then jump out on the bratt and kick his head in. Then superglue him to his own bed and tell him to trust you in future.
I had this problem too. I made it a routine where, when I put her to bed, her own bed, I'd read a story. if she came into my bed, "No Story" took a few days to get it right but, it did work!
put him in his bed and pretend to sleep in there with him and when he falls asleep , go to your own bed and when he wakes up tell him he's a big boy now and you are proud of him for sleeping by his self .... and he will see how proud you are of him that he will want to feel like a big boy and want to sleep by his self more . do this until you can tell him to go to his room by his self and see if it works...My 4 yr old still wants somebody in the bed with her also.. her 3 yr old sister sleeps in the bed w/her ...
it's a tough one but you just have to stick with it, keep a routine, playing in room quietly for half an hour then bath and changed ready for bed at a certain time, teeth brushed, then bed. keep returning him when he does get up, and do it in a quiet fashion so he's not getting the attention he's seeking. try playing some soft music just before bed time to help get him relaxed. it is very difficult and i realise it's easier said than done, but really stick to it and eventually he will go to bed no problem. good luck
Let him in your bed for stories and cuddles, then go scare the monsters away in his room. If he comes into your room at night, take him back to his own bed and scare the monsters away again - only do this once though! If he gets out of bed again, take him back to bed and say 'its bedtime now'. If it happens again, take him back and don't say anything. It'll take about 2 weeks and it will be hard, but he'll soon get the idea.
Good luck!
mmm, this is a tricky one! Have you allowed him to watch monsters inc over and over. My daughter loves it and thinks all onsters are quite nice actually. try lie in his bed with him at bedtime and read books and sing lullaby's till he drops off and tell him that you will kep coming to check on him. Maybe he needs reassurance
six inch nails tend to stop them leaving their own room
You can get them to sleep in their own bed quite easily by various methods (see other answers), mainly by being firm and ignoring their pleas for clemency - but just don't expect them to stay there forever. When ill, scared, or just a bit fragile, expect to see them back in your bed again many times in the next few years.
We have the dog do a monster check every night. So far, the dog just walks around the room looking confused lol.
Then be firm. Every time he gets into bed with you, return him to his own bed. You'll probably have to do this 1000 times lol, so be prepared for a few nights of no sleep for you and spouse.
Oh, since he's probably still in the land of "make believe is real", give him a flashlight with "monster killer beams" to use in case he thinks one is on to him.
Don't tell him there are no monsters, tell him monsters don't come to your house because they are scared of 1) Daddy, because he's so big and strong, 2) the dog because he'll bite the monsters, or 3) Mommy because she'll give them a spanking, tell their mommy and take away their monster kibbles for an entire week.
My step son is was the same. We let him fall asleep in our bed, then take him into his own. If he wakes up and gets back in with us, we again wait for him to fall back to sleep and take him back to his own bed. You don't get a very good night's sleep granted, but it doesn't last forever (thankfully!) He now, very rarely wakes in the night and quite happily goes to bed in his own room!
I could have asked this Q.
Im nto having any luck with this either.. but i have a 3 yr old AND a almost 5 yr old coming in to my bed at nite!!
Ive been told my best bet is to get up when they come in and bring them right back to bed.
Get him a night light. A friend of mine got her daughter a small spray bottle and put in it some lavender oil drops and mixed with water and put a label on it saying Monster repellent spray. Every night she would go around her room and spray under her bed and her closet or where ever she thought a monster would hide in her room. My friend told her daughter that monsters do not like the smell of Lavender so it will keep them away. The bonus of the lavender is to help your son sleep cause it is a calming smell. Try doing that and hope it works as well for you as it did for my friend! GOOD LUCK!
Do a monster check get the monster and throw him outside and let him sleep with his stuffed animals to make him feel better, try a night lite too.
Ha Ha i wake up in the night and theres my SEVEN year old clinging to me like a fruit bat
Try leaving the landing light on and putting a stair gate at your bedroom door at least you'll wake and can control the situation
I am not sure, but when you get the answer let me know. My daughter does the same thing. She has slept in her bed every day of her life til bout 6 months ago. She continues to get up in the middle of the night and sleep on the couch, in our bed or makes a pallat on our floor. Night lights dont work, and letting her sleep with her brother now and again dont work either. She ALWAYS ends up in our room or on the couch. saying there are monsters in her room also, you arent alone, trust me.
According to my two year old daughter, all real monsters live in Kentucky, we live in Tennessee. Only pretend monsters are allowed in Tennessee, the Police won't let them in. Also there are bears in Kentucky and bears think that Monsters are delicious, very good to eat. My daughter no longer has any problems with monsters. as for the sleeping in her own bed, my wife and I read her a story every night, she picks the story and whether she gets one or two stories. My wife and I make it very fun, but then when we say we're done, she gets to choose whether Mommy tuck-tucks, or Daddy tuck-tucks. We have not had a problem with her sleeping in her own bed unless she is sick. We also made her crib into a toddler bed, she thinks its great that she can get out of bed by herself and come wake up Daddy in the mornings.
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