Why wont my 7 month old daughter let other reletives hold her or pick her up?
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dont worry i have 4 kids all of them went through that, they are all fine now, well except my 11 month baby! ignore other stupid comments, let you baby feel secure with you! others can wiat to bond when your baby is ready! just goes to show what a good mum you are!
they can be shy or just feel more comfy with you, but dont work the phase will pass and she wll learn to interact!
does she see them often enough? this could be one reason. another might be that you coddle her too much and she is used to ONLY mommy (and/ or daddy) picking her up. She needs to get used to "other relatives" by being around them more.
She has just started reconizing faces and people around her. You are her world. Others are frightening. She will out grow this phase. Takes time and patience.
She probably has stranger anxiety. It's a very common thing in babies that age.
Just let her sit on your lap and watch everyone. When she is ready, she will let them hold her.
Some babies/kids are like that. I would only go to certain people. It is best not to let people force themselves on her. Let her warm up to them.
because they all go through that clingy stage it will pass plenty of reassurance from u that mommy is not going away and she will get used to been held by other family members.
insecurity.
she is used to you.
Every child is different, is she with you all the time ? this is the time their little personalities start along with insecurities. if someone picks her up and she starts crying , reassure her but dont hold her...let her see that you are near by. its really hard because you dont want to see her upset, however you need to nip it in the bud, otherwise she will always cling to you.
sounds like a apoilt mardarse to me, stop encouraging her to be a clingon or u will regret it later !
My 9 month old is like it, and screams at people that try to pick her up, unless she sees alot of them.
I think they get nervous when they can't instantly remember the person that is so intent on picking them up, probably feel threatened. My daughter reaches straight to me or someone she really knows when someone comes in that she doesn't remember straight away
She doesn't want them to. That's normal for babies. Would you want a person you don't really know to pick you up? Just suggest other things like watching her play or feed her if she allows and explain that she is too shy to be held and it's just a phase. They probably already know that too.
She likes her mummy and is use to your smell. Let them do it and let her cry for a short period she needs to get use to being held by others.
Because maybe she's to use to you, she's a mummy's girl, u just have to let her cry n get use to other people otherwise she'll always be too attached to u and never learn much independence.
my 6 month old is the same, he is just to attached to me and his father at the moment and not used to seeing other people yet.
don't worry its just a phase, she'll grow out of it
kids can be weird my nephew is 1 and a half cool kid wont let his mum and dad feed him but wants me to also lets some people pick him up and other he wont have itthats kids for ya.
Totally natural, she's attached to her mom! You'll have to sit next to your relatives and friends while you hold her and they can hold her hand, she'll probibly turn her head away from this, but it's okay. You have to take baby steps to start introducing her.
But when she's old enough to learn about strangers, teach her that police officers are okay people because the other day I heard a lady tell her little boy if he kept being bad she was going to get the cop (security gaurd) to come get him.
Anyways.she'll also be scared of Santa around 2 or 3.
the reason why your 7 month old daughter doesn't want to be by your relatives is that she has been with and didn't make contact with she hasn't seen, if shes a new face then she either gets scared or shy and begins to cry. but if your relatives come every single day, your daughter will recognize them and she will allow them to hold her. it just takes time.
I went through the exact same thing. Only my son was 12 months and it was still happening. He would scream his lungs out if my mother in law or some of my aunts would try to hold him.
It is partly separation anxiety.she may think that they are pulling her apart from you and she gets scared. She also may not see them as often as other people.like you.
The best way to ease them into it is to tell the relatives to start playing/interacting with her first..while in a neutral place like the floor on a blanket or rug or on the couch while you are right there too. Then when they try to pick her up, they aren't prying her from your arms. The more they talk to her in a calm voice.without too much commotion, the safer she will feel. But most relatives talk all loud and high pitched because they are excited to see her, right?
Good luck, it will go away someday hopefully in the second year.around 13-14 months when she's more independent and able to move around on her own. She will feel less threatened by a stranger (even though it's not a stranger at all.)
Take care.
some kids dont like anyone except their parents pick them up. dont worry, it just means that she loves and trusts you and your partner more than anyone else in your family! as long as she doesnt seem unusually unconfortable around your other family members, i wouldnt worry! she is still young!
one of my little cousins used to cry when anyone except her mum or brother picked her up, but the time she was 1 i was babysitting and putting her to bed!
when she gets used to your other family members and learns to love and trust them as you do, she will be fine!
if you sleep with the baby hold the baby all the time or even while the baby i asleep the baby finds compfort in your smell. this is not a bad thing the baby has bonded with its mother try holding the baby and letting them feed him or her or maybe let the family member feed the baby food always seems to compfort a baby when they feel insecure i dont mean over feed or just give a baby a bottle becuase it cries i mean try making the baby feel compfortable and sometimes babies are just close with their mothers in time things will change enjoy it while you can i cant get my baby away from my sisters in law to save my soul " hey give me my baby"
This is a totally normal phase your daughter is going through. Don't be alarmed. All babies go through a stage of shyness around strangers and people who they willingly went to at 6 months suddenly get shunned for no apparent reason.
Don't push her, she'll grow out of it in her own time.
(Secretly enjoy it, it makes you feel special! lol)
It's a normal stage where she has stranger anxiety and only likes mom/dad. It also is good because she is learning that you are her mom and at this time she only wants you. Don't fret it. Just keep her in the situation but don't force her to go to the relatives. Just explain to them that she's going through a phase and maybe if you hang out with them for a little while she may warm up to them while you're there. Good luck and congrats!
Because she now knows the difference between people. They are not you or your husband.
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