How do you begin to plan to have a baby? should we marry first?
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Well, if i were you, i would wait until you are financially secure, and wait until you are able to provide for the child. Having a baby is a very expensive, yet well worth it deal. However, you do not want it to grow up to have nothing. You want to be able to provide for it. Also, i would recommend that you have insurance before you become pregnant, or have a child. Usually, depending on which state you live in, births can be very expensive. A vaginal birth is anywhere from 2000.00 and on up. Plus, not counting all of your doctor bills. A normal pregnancy you will have to go to the doctor at least 12 times. You usually go once a month up until your 9th month, and then you go every 2 weeks. Some other things to consider is how long will you financially be able to take off work? They usually recommend that a new mother at LEAST take off 6 weeks. Also, after you go back to work, who will keep it? If there is no one in the immediate family to keep it, daycare charges can un pretty steep. That also depends on where you live. But, usually it ranges from 80 and on up. Diapers also will cost alot. And if you dont plan to breast feed milk can be expensive. If you do plan to breast feed, you will save alot of money, but you will have to buy a pump, and those can cost anywhere from 100 and up. If i were you, i would start to try and save money. Each week or whenever you get your paycheck, try and put some money aside for your unborn child. Also, maybe try and eliminate bills that you really dont need. Try and save more than you spend, and be a wise shopper when you do have to shop. There are alot of things to consider when opting for a child. But, also remember than there is a program called WIC and it is a great program. They help mothers buy baby milk, they also buy gallon milk, bread, cheese, and eggs. They give you a slip each week and you just go to a grocery store, and get what is on the list, and you take it to the counter, and you do not have to pay anything at all, it is free. Also, to help elminate some of your doctor expenses, you would probably qualify for medicaid. It is like an insurance, and they pay for everything. Including the babys deleivery, its shots, and vaccinations, and it would probably be a big help to you. There are alot of programs that would help parents that are on a low income. Also, just make sure that you will be able to afford a baby, and make sure that it is something that you and your spouse really want to do, beacuse it is a lifetime commintment, and it is well worth it. Babies are the most precious gifts from god. But, at the same time they can be expensive. And as for your marriage situation, that is really a decision that you and your spouse have to make. That is just based on your morals whether or not you want to be unwed parents. Just like i said maybe wait a 1 or so, and get some money saved up, and then maybe start and think about it. And it is good to hear that you alls realtionship is stable. Good luck, and pray. God will lead you in the way that he thinks is best for you. Hope that i have helped you. If you need anything else, just let me know.
When you are financially secure.
MUST marry before you have one.
Get married first. you don't want to face the possibility of your child knowing she's out of wedlock child
First thing I would say is that you need to be able to afford a house, or a bigger place to live.. then I would say yes it would be nice if you wherre married..
It will be nice for you two to get married first and work on your Financies/career(plan),but sometimes it just happens,you never know when you'll start a family. I FEEL OUR CREATOR send up precious bundles when he feel we are strong enough and ready, we may not think we are ready but it happens, when it is your time it will happen. I had my son, when I first started college i though it was over for me but it wasn't it made me stronger. i would not change anything,it made me push harder.having a family and parenthood is beautiful.
Financial is important and so is your partner in this act of reproduction. Is he the one you want to spend the rest of your life with? Does he want to spend the rest of his life with you? Have you gone to pre-marital counseling to see a professionals opinion?(it usually goes 6 to one year, that way you really get to know each other). Studies show that it is better to have both parents under the same roof. You have a chance to go over those areas before bringing a baby into the world. Good luck.
hey if you got pregnant tomorrow you would figure it out honey thats just how life works.First of all if you think you want a baby start taking a multi vitamin and start gettng rid of bad habits like smoking or drinking worry about what u can control for now. talk to him too big weddings r a drain you don't have to get a morgage you can lease! i hope you are fourtunate in your choices!
first of all you need to make sure you are financially able to care for a child. I have 3 kids 12,10,& 7 and im only 26. yes i started young and it was hard. i had my 1st child when i was 14 my 2nd when i was 16 and my 3rd when i 19 and i had no help from the state. the only help i had was from wic and that was great! i made the mistake of having children so young but i dont regret any of them and i dont consider them a mistake either because its not their fault they was born they didnt ask to be. and yes i would recommend you be married 1st otherwise it could get ugly and this way you know he really wants a baby as well. im just lucky i found a great guy that took on the responsibility to raise 1 of my children since she was 3 months old(my 1st child passed away before my husband and i got together)and thats when i had my 3rd child and we have been married for 8 years today march 20th!!!
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