Moving in together?
My guy and I have known each other for 3years now. He split up with his gf in the beginning of this year after he found out she had cheated on him with his mate last year, after the break up she found out she was pregnant. Me and my guy have talked about moving in together. We know we get on well as time has told these past few months as we've been so close, closer than ever. He is still close to his ex as she is having his baby, and I don't want to get in the way of that, he said he doesn't want to be with her. Should we move in together or not do you think? I think it would be nice if we did and then the baby can come and stay with us when he/she is born, and come for weeknds to see daddy, I think it will be nice .. Or is it a bad idea moving in together?
I have asked this Q earlier but seen as different ppl are on at different times and my other Q would of moved further down the line by now...
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I would wait until the baby is born, then see how things are then. If you love each other, then sure, moving in together could be great.
This sounds a bit messed up at the moment though.
Exercise patience!
Very bad idea!! : )
Hope that helps
I believe people should only live together if they are MARRIED.
Move in together after you get married.
Why not get a short term contract when you rent. That way you can see how it goes living together without it being such a big commitment. If it goes well then you can just extend the contract.
I also think its a good idea to live with someone before you get married. Its quite different living with someone to going out with them.
Are you sure the baby is his for starters, if she has cheated it could be someone elses baby. Before he commits himself to anything, he shoud get a DNA test when the baby is born.
On the subject of the both of you moving in together, I don't see why not, if you are happy now, go for it. But be warned that it may go wrong in the future. Also if the baby is his, he might want to fight for custody, are you going to be comfortable being a step-mum full time?
good luck in whatever you do
Go for it, and is he sure the baby is his?
i wouldn't unless you two got married especially since she's pregnant. she might use that to try and get him back if you're just living together.
You should only move in together if you are both ready and it is the right thing for your relationship. I believe that living together before marriage is actually a good thing as you get to know all the annoying little things your partner does before its too late and winds up in divorce.
I think this idea is a terrible one. Unless you and he marry, keep your own independence and this includes living apart until then.
Hi there, I think you should move in with your boyfriend, just because you both are in love and the baby on change a thing. You also should ask your boyfriend what his truly feeling are towards her ex with the arrive of new baby. If she still fancys him she definetelly will try to get him back. Therefore you and your boyfriend shoulb be talking very open about those issue
i basically believe before you move in together
make sure the baby is his first also make sure he is 100% over his ex because if this baby is born then he/she might want to make a go of things and being a proper family with the baby
and she will win him if she wants him back she will play the want to be a family card and you wont have a hope in hell
so just be carefull what your doing
Hey chick,
This is definetly a tough one but if i were you i would def sit down with your man and ask him what he thinks about the pregnancy etc and work out if there is any possibility that they are going to get back together. If its obvious this was just an accident and their are no other feelings and you both are just going to make the best out of the situation then go for it, but if you are just doing it for something new because she is having a baby or he isnt 100% commited to you then you could end up a doormat and he could have the best of both worlds, so maybe take some more time getting to know him a bit more make sure he is the bloke he says he is.
Good luck x
At the end of the day honey the decision is up to you and your partner.
I would like to forewarn you that it will be hard whether your man says he wants nothing to do with his ex or not when the baby comes along it may change him completely everything will change for him, his priorities may not be you anymore the baby may come first (as it should) but are you willing to take a backseat to this special thing that your man and his ex will be sharing.
I hope so and I hope that you are both strong enough to stay together
Good Luck xx
Do what you think is right but just becuase you have known each other for a while doesn't mean you can live together. It is not easy living with someone, even if you care about each other. When I moved in with my boyfriend after being together for 2 years, it was hard at first. He had habits that annoy the hell out of me and I am sure I do things he can't stand but you work at it and put up with these things to an extent.
If you feel it is the right thing to do, go for it. You never know until you go through with it.
Good Luck.
Make sure he is completely over his ex first - you don't want to rush into it only to find out they want to get back together after the baby is born. Having a child together is for life and you might find it brings them closer together again after the birth. If you get on so well whats the harm in waiting a few months longer? It doesn't stop you staying at each others houses, but moving in together is a huge step to take. Of course there are no guarantees of it working out - not even with marriage as some people would like to think but thats life. If moving in together is what both of you want then go for it. Best of luck xx
Don't get married it is a waste of time. But do move in with your man. My advice if you do live together is just rent for a few months and see if you can cope with each others living habits first - otherwise sorting out a mortgage is a pain! I think you should go for it!! Good luck chick xxxxx
That sounds like a good question for Jeremy Kyle to sort out!
I'd say you should rent for the 6month contract (that's usually the minimum term for rentals in the UK) then see how you go.
If it doesn't work out you can still go your own way but I'd advise caution as if he's still that close to his ex is he on the rebound?
From my experience, bad idea. I've decided never again to get involved with any guy who has kids and an ex.
Why not. The only reason I'd say no is if the pregnant ex still wants to be with him.Get him to sit down with you and ex and discuss how you all plan to make the baby work in your lives.She may not want you to be apart of the kids life and you need to know this before hand.Get to know the rules that she will set for her kid and what ever you do don't think that just cause your with him that your like mommy to the kid.This child has 2 parents not 3 at least not until you and your guy get married than you can play mom too.And good luck.
Bad idea. Moving in together before marriage is always a bad idea, but it sounds particularly bad in your case. Don't do it until after you say "I do". If you're not ready to get married, you're not ready to move in together. I don't just say that because it's morally wrong. Studies show that couples have better relationships and are less likely to get divorced if they don't live together before marriage.
I think I would give it time. Just to make sure he doesnt change his mind. Like atleast 3 to 5 months. Babies have an effect on people hon and you dont need to get hurt. Possible it will all work out like you think it has happened to work for plenty of others, but it also dont hurt to prepare for the worst and cover your own back. So give it some time to sink in for him then make that decision of moving in. That is what I would do.
How would th ex feel about the child staying with your partner if you live together? not that that is a good reason for you not to do it, just to concider that it might not work out that way and also to bear in mind that there will be a connection that you will not be able to share.i say this because i am in the position of your partners ex in a way in that my daughtr's father is now living with his gf. under no circumstances do i allow her to be around my daughter, and i watch the poor woman being brushed aside time after time after time because the bond between a parent and child is always going to be closer than between partners. also can you cope with the fact that your bf and his ex are going to be the baby's family? If you move in with him these are things that you ought to concider because one or more are likely to come up one way or another.
Maybe you get on well with the ex in which case it could be a threesome made in heaven and a pre made kid with no childbirth to do lol.
Do what feels right x
Theres no reason why you should not try it out. What is there to lose. What might be a problem is if the mum to be gets jealous and restricts visits. She will have all sorts of hormones racing through her and could make life difficult. Its nice of you to stick by your man though andI hope it all works out.
Only if you have the word "Doormat" written across your back!
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I have asked this Q earlier but seen as different ppl are on at different times and my other Q would of moved further down the line by now...
Answers:
I would wait until the baby is born, then see how things are then. If you love each other, then sure, moving in together could be great.
This sounds a bit messed up at the moment though.
Exercise patience!
Very bad idea!! : )
Hope that helps
I believe people should only live together if they are MARRIED.
Move in together after you get married.
Why not get a short term contract when you rent. That way you can see how it goes living together without it being such a big commitment. If it goes well then you can just extend the contract.
I also think its a good idea to live with someone before you get married. Its quite different living with someone to going out with them.
Are you sure the baby is his for starters, if she has cheated it could be someone elses baby. Before he commits himself to anything, he shoud get a DNA test when the baby is born.
On the subject of the both of you moving in together, I don't see why not, if you are happy now, go for it. But be warned that it may go wrong in the future. Also if the baby is his, he might want to fight for custody, are you going to be comfortable being a step-mum full time?
good luck in whatever you do
Go for it, and is he sure the baby is his?
i wouldn't unless you two got married especially since she's pregnant. she might use that to try and get him back if you're just living together.
You should only move in together if you are both ready and it is the right thing for your relationship. I believe that living together before marriage is actually a good thing as you get to know all the annoying little things your partner does before its too late and winds up in divorce.
I think this idea is a terrible one. Unless you and he marry, keep your own independence and this includes living apart until then.
Hi there, I think you should move in with your boyfriend, just because you both are in love and the baby on change a thing. You also should ask your boyfriend what his truly feeling are towards her ex with the arrive of new baby. If she still fancys him she definetelly will try to get him back. Therefore you and your boyfriend shoulb be talking very open about those issue
i basically believe before you move in together
make sure the baby is his first also make sure he is 100% over his ex because if this baby is born then he/she might want to make a go of things and being a proper family with the baby
and she will win him if she wants him back she will play the want to be a family card and you wont have a hope in hell
so just be carefull what your doing
Hey chick,
This is definetly a tough one but if i were you i would def sit down with your man and ask him what he thinks about the pregnancy etc and work out if there is any possibility that they are going to get back together. If its obvious this was just an accident and their are no other feelings and you both are just going to make the best out of the situation then go for it, but if you are just doing it for something new because she is having a baby or he isnt 100% commited to you then you could end up a doormat and he could have the best of both worlds, so maybe take some more time getting to know him a bit more make sure he is the bloke he says he is.
Good luck x
At the end of the day honey the decision is up to you and your partner.
I would like to forewarn you that it will be hard whether your man says he wants nothing to do with his ex or not when the baby comes along it may change him completely everything will change for him, his priorities may not be you anymore the baby may come first (as it should) but are you willing to take a backseat to this special thing that your man and his ex will be sharing.
I hope so and I hope that you are both strong enough to stay together
Good Luck xx
Do what you think is right but just becuase you have known each other for a while doesn't mean you can live together. It is not easy living with someone, even if you care about each other. When I moved in with my boyfriend after being together for 2 years, it was hard at first. He had habits that annoy the hell out of me and I am sure I do things he can't stand but you work at it and put up with these things to an extent.
If you feel it is the right thing to do, go for it. You never know until you go through with it.
Good Luck.
Make sure he is completely over his ex first - you don't want to rush into it only to find out they want to get back together after the baby is born. Having a child together is for life and you might find it brings them closer together again after the birth. If you get on so well whats the harm in waiting a few months longer? It doesn't stop you staying at each others houses, but moving in together is a huge step to take. Of course there are no guarantees of it working out - not even with marriage as some people would like to think but thats life. If moving in together is what both of you want then go for it. Best of luck xx
Don't get married it is a waste of time. But do move in with your man. My advice if you do live together is just rent for a few months and see if you can cope with each others living habits first - otherwise sorting out a mortgage is a pain! I think you should go for it!! Good luck chick xxxxx
That sounds like a good question for Jeremy Kyle to sort out!
I'd say you should rent for the 6month contract (that's usually the minimum term for rentals in the UK) then see how you go.
If it doesn't work out you can still go your own way but I'd advise caution as if he's still that close to his ex is he on the rebound?
From my experience, bad idea. I've decided never again to get involved with any guy who has kids and an ex.
Why not. The only reason I'd say no is if the pregnant ex still wants to be with him.Get him to sit down with you and ex and discuss how you all plan to make the baby work in your lives.She may not want you to be apart of the kids life and you need to know this before hand.Get to know the rules that she will set for her kid and what ever you do don't think that just cause your with him that your like mommy to the kid.This child has 2 parents not 3 at least not until you and your guy get married than you can play mom too.And good luck.
Bad idea. Moving in together before marriage is always a bad idea, but it sounds particularly bad in your case. Don't do it until after you say "I do". If you're not ready to get married, you're not ready to move in together. I don't just say that because it's morally wrong. Studies show that couples have better relationships and are less likely to get divorced if they don't live together before marriage.
I think I would give it time. Just to make sure he doesnt change his mind. Like atleast 3 to 5 months. Babies have an effect on people hon and you dont need to get hurt. Possible it will all work out like you think it has happened to work for plenty of others, but it also dont hurt to prepare for the worst and cover your own back. So give it some time to sink in for him then make that decision of moving in. That is what I would do.
How would th ex feel about the child staying with your partner if you live together? not that that is a good reason for you not to do it, just to concider that it might not work out that way and also to bear in mind that there will be a connection that you will not be able to share.i say this because i am in the position of your partners ex in a way in that my daughtr's father is now living with his gf. under no circumstances do i allow her to be around my daughter, and i watch the poor woman being brushed aside time after time after time because the bond between a parent and child is always going to be closer than between partners. also can you cope with the fact that your bf and his ex are going to be the baby's family? If you move in with him these are things that you ought to concider because one or more are likely to come up one way or another.
Maybe you get on well with the ex in which case it could be a threesome made in heaven and a pre made kid with no childbirth to do lol.
Do what feels right x
Theres no reason why you should not try it out. What is there to lose. What might be a problem is if the mum to be gets jealous and restricts visits. She will have all sorts of hormones racing through her and could make life difficult. Its nice of you to stick by your man though andI hope it all works out.
Only if you have the word "Doormat" written across your back!
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