Could i still be pregnant after abortion?
Please before any of u pro lifers start i no i have done the wrong thing and so guilty, i know i deserve the emtional pain it is causing me and really dont need u to tell me ok.
i found out that i was pregnant just a few weeks after me and fiance split, there was no chance of us gettin back together and to be honest i was so confused. my mum was so supportive and said she would be there to help me no matter what i decided to do. my friends told me that they thought i should get rid of the baby as it would ruin my life as i am only 19. i was so confused and tried not thinkin about it all untill the day of the abortion arived.. i was petrifyed and still not clear,
see the father he was supportive but didnt show much emotion over this which confused me even more. even as the moment i fell asleep from the drugs the had given me i still was not sure.
this was just over 3 weeks ago and every night since that day i have cried myself to sleep my heart feels tho it will explode from
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First of all, I am sorry you feel that way. I can't even imagine how you feel. But the chances of you being pregnant are zero. Once you have the procedure, it's done. They don't miss anything.
You are still young, your decision was probably for the best hun. Don't beat yourself up. It's really okay. When the right time comes in your life, you will be ready for a baby. If you weren't sure when you went in, it's ok. A baby is a huge responsibility. From your story, it sounds like you were not ready.
Abortion, is not such a terrible thing. (go ahead all of you against it.. blah) It's better to have a life for your child, then not be able to provide, and at your age, it sounds like you would have had a hard time.
No you cannot still be pregnant after an abortion.
Hey honey, get yourself some counselling. You can't reverse what has happened so try not to beat yourself up anymore, there are people out there who can help ease the pain you are feeling.
You're only 19, there's plenty of time yet.
Take care x
It is VERY VERY rare, but yes some women have come away from an abortion, still pregnant. If it's meant to be, then it will happen.
No when it is gone it is gone
sorry this happen to you.. God will forgive you!! i wish the best. here my email address if you need a friend. efrain78223@yahoo.com
Ok, I dont care who judges me either. I had 2 abortions. One when I was 17 and one when I was 19. I had to do what I had to do. I was too young and needed to finish high school. And I was NOT ready to be called mom! You cannot be pregnant after an abortion. I am now proud to say I am 24 years old and 7 months pregnant and ready to be a mother! Wait until you are ready to have children. Dont let anyone tell you that you were wrong for what you did. You did what was right for YOU and YOUR situation. And honey dont cry. It wasnt meant to be.
Good Luck with everything and be proud that you made the right decision for yourself.
you can still be pregnant, very rare, but if you are, chances of the baby being normal are very slim. there could be brain-damage, etc. i am pro-life, but i won't give you any grief about it, since you are giving yourself a lot of it right now. talk to someone, and if you feel as though you might still be pregnant, talk to your OBGYN, asap. he/she will be able to tell.
Darlin, you did what you did because that was what you needed to do at that time - don't slate yourself, don't get at yourself, don't beat yourself up, you did what you needed to. One day you'll be a wonderful mother - with a supportive family and a stable situation and able to commit to what it really takes to bring up a child well in this complicated world, but this was not your time. It wasn't meant to be, forgive yourself, we all do. Hx
I'm sorry, there is no chance you could still be pregnant. Perhaps, since you have been praying, you could talk to a religious councilor who could help you through this and show you that God answers prayers and forgives us for the things we are truly sorry for. If you feel uncomfortable speaking with someone who is religious, perhaps you would feel more comfortable with a regular councilor, who could help you deal with the grief and loss. Many people who go through abortions, even those who were positive it was the right thing, experience the same sadness. I can only hope that things get better for you. Good luck in the future.
i don't think it is possible. the fact that you feel so guilty shows that you are human. i am not at all for abortion but i do feel like you should be talking to someone. you have been through alot with your fiance leaving and now losing your child. go talk to someone. good luck.
no but you can become pregnate again its impossible unless its some miracle made by god but mostlikley its impossible sry
hope you feel better about yourself you might have another chance to make up for your mistake and for now how do you really know it was a mistake what if you really had the baby what would have happened to you think of those things to know that you did the right or wrong thing well all we know now is that the baby is in heavan with god and don't blame your self because its not your fault you were young and didtn' know any better you were confused ppl and things got to your head
I know a lot of women who went through abortions but still got pregnant. Just would like to inform you though that there some who developed health problems of the uterus & its nearby organ ( or even cancer) after abortion, so make sure to have yourself checked by a specialist.
Sweetie, I don't know the answer to your question but I just wanted to let you know that I am so sorry that your are going through this. I promise you that you will be in my prayers tonight and I hope that the Lord will send you his peace. If you have asked for forgivness then my dear, you are forgiven. You don't have to ask over and over, you don't have to beg. You see, Jesus died but once on the cross for our sins and only once is what it takes to be forgiven.
I do agree with a previous answerer that you should talk to someone trained in how to deal with the emotions you are feeling.
I also believe that sometimes we go through things for a reason. Even things like this. Maybe this happened so you can heal and get through it to prevent someone else from going through it. Or maybe you are going to become an anti-ablrtion counselor and save someone else from going through it. You never know what God's plans are for you. You can also ask Him to show you what you are supposed to learn from this and when He is ready He will show you.
Again, I am so sorry you are going through this and you are in my prayers.
No you could not or the persentage is only like 35 % chane thats what I have been told.
It is very unlikely, unless you have had multiple pregnancy and they missed one by mistake or something. But that hardly ever happens.
I am very very sorry that you are going through such hard time. I do feel the pain you feel. I know it is really hard. I have gone through similar situation, except the guy was a total bastard and it was me decided that I was not going to have the baby. I couldn't have supported it, and he would never have, although he said he would. But he was just saying that, I know, because even until today he is playing up with girls, being a gigolo, no job no nothing. For him, girlfriend is only someone he could sleep with, and she has to provide everything. I'm glad I left him.
But I tell you, after I terminated my pregnancy I felt awful, and I felt so sorry for the baby. I became badly depressed, and tried to kill myself. I was put on a treatment for depression. It was the worst time in my life so far.
I suggest you to have a word with your doctor, and probably get a counselling sorted. They can help you to feel better.
Lastly, as for the guilt you are feeling..I am not a christian, but this words that a vicar said on TV comforted me.
'Abortion is not a good thing, but sometimes it's a good way out of a very bad situation. You'll be still forgiven. God hates sins, but loves sinners.'
It's highly unlikely that you will still be pregnant.
I too went through a similar situation, only i was seeing this guy for about 1month before i found out i was pregnant, my mum was abroad and i felt so alone. The bloke i was seeing told me i had to get to rid of it as he was going to be moving away for another job (he was an a r s e), even questioned wether it was his.
I agreed to go through with it for a number of reasons, i had just started a new job myself and the way he was i didn't want him to be the father of my child (sounds harsh i know) also i had very litlle money just finished uni, and was renting with my friend i just wasn't ready for a child.
It was a hard decission don't get me wrong then to top it off he text me the morning of my appointment telling me to keep it and that he wanted me back. After speaking to my mates, who knew him well, she said he was unhappy where he was working and wanted a way back.
I thought about it but had my mind made up, i went through with it and i wont say i dont regret it cause it wouldn't be true i have just learnt to deal with the fact that i wasn't ready and that it was in the childs best interest, i knew that if i had it i wouldn't be able to provide for it or let it go for adoption that would be more hurtful than the pain i suffered.
4 years on and i have moved on with my life i have been with new partner for over three years and yes he knows everything.
One day we plan to have children and i'm sure it will be then that realisation hits.
Anyway i'm rambling now, but what i want to say is that you will in time learn to cope with what you have been through, good luck for the future.
First off I feel really bad for you. I have had those thoughts of abortion. I think if the time is not right for a baby your first trimester is very emotional and your hormones make you crazy so these kind of thoughts come as cruel as they may seem. I chose not to have an abortion and am very grateful because I know I would be in your situation full of guilt and what might have been. I seen someone wrote you that you did whats best for you and not to worry about it. Sorry but that really is a cowards way out. Dont lay unless you intend to pay! I dont see how anyone could not have any remorse over such a horrible thing. Although I wish there was something I could do for you or help you in some way I'm glad that you have a conscience and know this was a mistake. I wish you would have put more thought into this and maybe came to this site for advise before you went through with the abortion I think there are lots of people that could have helped you. Unfortunately whats done is done. I dont think your chances of still being with child are very good and I think your chances of a healthy child are even more slim. You are just depressed and scared so you hang on to that hope. I also think that you should get some counseling. It will really help you cope better and God will absolutely forgive you for this. Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone! Just let yourself grieve. I also think if you got into a volunteer program to tell your story to teens that are considering abortion it would really make you feel better. And change the world at that. You can make a difference. If you change one girls mind you have saved a life! When Life hands you lemons.. Anyway good luck to you and I will be praying for you!
And just in case someone decides to add fuel to the fire I have done alot of research on this and you will be able to have healthy children after an abortion the chances of you not having a healthy child due to the abortion are extremely slim. The only time a doctor is a little concerned about this is if the mother has had MULTIPLE abortions. Which I know you will not do. So do not let this add to your stress.
You shoul dnever have done it if you weren't 100% sure you could live with your decision.
There is very very little chance you are still pregnant, that wouldn't make things better even if you were.
Draw a line under this, don't waste any more time or energy thinking and regreting it becuase it isn't going to change a thing.
Firstly, nobody has the right to critcise your actions, not with the emotional trauma this has put you through. Also, medically it is now referred to as a 'termination' of pregnancy (TOP), hopefully alleviating the guilt historically associated with 'abortion'. I hope you are fairing well!
Next, it'd be helpful to know why you think you might still be pregnant. Also whether you had a medical or surgical TOP and at how many weeks? Also were the passed or suctioned 'products' sent to histology to confirm that they are actually products of conception( poc).?
Surgical evacuation is better in guaranteeing TOP for obvious reasons. In medical, you are given tablets either orally or vaginally to stimulate contractions which expel the poc. It has a failure rate. Are you still bleeding? Is it profuse or minimal? Any offensive smell? Any fever? Any abdominal pain? How are your bowels and water works?
If you still have pregnancy symptoms eg. nausea and vomiting, it might be worthwile doing a 'BHCG' blood test. This is to show level of pregnancy hormone which should have fallen sharply after TOP especially if it was surgical.
Not trying to frighten you, it is actually possible to remain pregnant after TOP, though rare. Also chances of it remaining viable are very slim.
Consider the scenario that your pregnancy was actually not in your womb but in your tubes ( ectopic pregnancy)! Surgical and the medical TOP mentioned above only empty the womb and a pregnancy in the tubes would continue and probably cause you a lot of pain as it is in the wrong place. Thus bringing us back to my initial questions about 'symptoms' and 'histology'.
My dear, many have repeatedly done TOPs for a lot less of a reason so give yourself a well deserved break. But Achtung! this is a good time to think of appropriate contraception as it is quite easy to conceive soon after a termination!
It is very rare that a baby will survive an abortion, but it happens. You can read about some abortion survivors here:
http://members.tripod.com/~joseromia/sur.
http://www.sptimes.com/news/051301/citru.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/main.jht.
I have to be honest, though, and say that chances are your baby is gone. You have taken the first, most important step by admitting that what you did was wrong. So many women are unwilling to do that.
I really, really recommend that you go to http://www.healinghearts.org and sign up for their free online post-abortion study called "Binding Up the Brokenhearted." Just about all of their email counselors have aborted babies themselves, and they will be able to help you. In the study, you will be able to work through ALL the issues surrounding your abortion--your friends' influence, the situation with the baby's father, and your own grief and guilt. Most importantly, you will learn about how you can receive forgiveness from God.
Please, from my heart, I encourage you to go to Healing Hearts and see what they have to offer. I can't recommend their program more highly.
I'm so sorry to hear about everything. Makes me so sad. :( I wish you all the best.
I have had a recent experience with this and no the chances of you being pregnant are very slim. The pregnancy hormone is still in your body and the information on this states that its takes 6 weeks for the body to get back to normal. Apparently this is a common reaction post abortion that many women experience. Abortion is very sad and its a very confusing time. I was sick with hyperemisis gravida and had not eaten for a week and was in an abusive relationship. The fact I did not know my diagnosis and was realy fearful. I actualy walked out the first clinic deciding to keep the pregnancy but that evening my partner hit me and I went to another the next day I realy regret it. Its been 4 months and I am still haunted with my decision. In my oppinion the Abortion clinions don't offer none directional counselling, many just want the money and the counselling is not thorough. In my case I had paid my money and was in a robe when I was supposedly counselled. You sound like you would benifit from some post abortion counselling its free, confidential and you can talk on the phone. My heart realy goes out to you. The clinic should of ensured that you were sure. They have a duty of care towards you to ensure that you are certain of your decision.
After you are fealing better in the next few months you may like to join an ever growing campaign by women who have under gone abortions that regret the decision and feal they were not properly counselled by supposed counsellors at these clinics. The other issue is that there is view that women have a right to terminate but in my oppinion they have a right to an informed decision. There's a cooling off period with buying a car but any one, sick, confused, frightened woman with enough hormones bouncing around in their body can walk into one of these clinics, spend 5 minutes talking about the abortion decision often with unqualified counsellors and then the "procedure" is done and off these women go to deal with the aftermath of guilt and confusion.
The right to lifers are another issue. I respect their views and after all I have gone through I realy wish somebody had of spoken calmly to me outside the clinic. Maybe talked with me rationally about the decision I was going to make but instead they shout abuse at these scared, confused women and shove over sized foetus dolls in their faces and cause the security guards to virtually have to escort these women inside. Not one person who was protesting came accross to me to talk but were just abusive.
Its a very difficult time for you and I can emphasise with you. I hope that you are able to come to terms with your decision and realise that at the time you were frightened, sick and hormonal and not able to make a decision that was not emotive based. In the cold light of day its easier to look back but the person you were then is not the person you are now. Forgive yourself its ok.
There is a VERY Small chance you might still be pregnant but it is MOST unlikely. You did what you did because you thought at the time it was the right thing. Please stop punishing yourself. We learn from our mistakes. You don't deserve the emotional pain you need to talk to a counsellor about all this. I do have one word of advice though. Don't rush into getting pregnant again because you feel guilty. How would a child born from that feel. Give yourself some time and maybe in a few years you will feel ready to be a great mother. Please take care of yourself.
Hey Hun. Sorry to hear that you are going through this.. I have had an abortion too and regret it myself.
After the abortion though, your hormones will still be all over the place and you will feel depressed, I did, I drank myself stupid for about a week, I was in such a state, I was late for work, my face was a mess, I was a mess, I was all over the place, I had no family around me as I live in London and all my family are in Wales, my flat mates hated me, the father of the baby was around but we were going through a rough patch, to make things worse we were not together, it was all a shambles. When I was in the abortion clinic waiting to go in, I was on my own, and all I wished was for the babys father to come in and make me keep the baby, but he didnt :(
I don't think there is a high chance you could still be pregnant, your probably just wishing you are and your mind is so fragile right now that its making you think you still are..
Anyways sweetie, I hope you will be ok, God Bless.
If you wana chat my email is jamie.kirkham@hotmail.com xxx
it is possible ive read a story of a baby survivng a abortion if u arnt dont feel to bad about it abortions hard decision but ull have a baby in the future and u will love it the timeing will be right im 19 january im desperate for a baby and i thought i was a few weeks ago with this loser and if i had i would of done wat u did then when i meet a good father for a baby i keep it and be a family
It is very unlikely, it sounds as if the pregnancy hormones are still in your body.
Go and see your GP for some counselling - you sound really depressed. Please don't heap up the guilt upon yourself. You are not a murderer, you are a woman just like one half of the population. I hope the sadness passes soon.
you might not pregnant there is a tiny % that you could be, it's probably the symptoms just still there, and will go, or go to your doctors for a scan then you will know good luck
u should have thought about this before the abortion, i don't give u any sympathy because u didn't give your child any when they ripped it to pieces, as far as u still being pregnant the answer would be no, see that would be an embarrassment on the doc if that were to happen so they try and make sure that something like that don't happen.
i feel so sad for you sweetie what an awful thing for you to be going through you really need to go and see a councillor or your doctor cause this is eating you up. the chances are you are not pregnant like you say wishful thinking, plus your body is confused and still have hormones going through it but there are rare cases of abortions going wrong and people having babies they tried to abort but the chances are very slim. yo are still young so you have plenty of time to find the right person to settle down with and have babies.
i had an abortion at 17 and yes i did regret it and no i don't regret it, it was under similar circumstances. i wont lie and say i never think about it cause i do but i did what i thought was best at the time and i occasionally have a good cry about it and think about how my life could of been but ever thing happens for a reason. so please don't beat yourself up over it you did what you thought was best at the time however hard the decision was you did it nothing can change it now so you just have to concentrate on the future. please go and talk to someone about it don't let it ruin your life. good luck for every thing
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i found out that i was pregnant just a few weeks after me and fiance split, there was no chance of us gettin back together and to be honest i was so confused. my mum was so supportive and said she would be there to help me no matter what i decided to do. my friends told me that they thought i should get rid of the baby as it would ruin my life as i am only 19. i was so confused and tried not thinkin about it all untill the day of the abortion arived.. i was petrifyed and still not clear,
see the father he was supportive but didnt show much emotion over this which confused me even more. even as the moment i fell asleep from the drugs the had given me i still was not sure.
this was just over 3 weeks ago and every night since that day i have cried myself to sleep my heart feels tho it will explode from
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First of all, I am sorry you feel that way. I can't even imagine how you feel. But the chances of you being pregnant are zero. Once you have the procedure, it's done. They don't miss anything.
You are still young, your decision was probably for the best hun. Don't beat yourself up. It's really okay. When the right time comes in your life, you will be ready for a baby. If you weren't sure when you went in, it's ok. A baby is a huge responsibility. From your story, it sounds like you were not ready.
Abortion, is not such a terrible thing. (go ahead all of you against it.. blah) It's better to have a life for your child, then not be able to provide, and at your age, it sounds like you would have had a hard time.
No you cannot still be pregnant after an abortion.
Hey honey, get yourself some counselling. You can't reverse what has happened so try not to beat yourself up anymore, there are people out there who can help ease the pain you are feeling.
You're only 19, there's plenty of time yet.
Take care x
It is VERY VERY rare, but yes some women have come away from an abortion, still pregnant. If it's meant to be, then it will happen.
No when it is gone it is gone
sorry this happen to you.. God will forgive you!! i wish the best. here my email address if you need a friend. efrain78223@yahoo.com
Ok, I dont care who judges me either. I had 2 abortions. One when I was 17 and one when I was 19. I had to do what I had to do. I was too young and needed to finish high school. And I was NOT ready to be called mom! You cannot be pregnant after an abortion. I am now proud to say I am 24 years old and 7 months pregnant and ready to be a mother! Wait until you are ready to have children. Dont let anyone tell you that you were wrong for what you did. You did what was right for YOU and YOUR situation. And honey dont cry. It wasnt meant to be.
Good Luck with everything and be proud that you made the right decision for yourself.
you can still be pregnant, very rare, but if you are, chances of the baby being normal are very slim. there could be brain-damage, etc. i am pro-life, but i won't give you any grief about it, since you are giving yourself a lot of it right now. talk to someone, and if you feel as though you might still be pregnant, talk to your OBGYN, asap. he/she will be able to tell.
Darlin, you did what you did because that was what you needed to do at that time - don't slate yourself, don't get at yourself, don't beat yourself up, you did what you needed to. One day you'll be a wonderful mother - with a supportive family and a stable situation and able to commit to what it really takes to bring up a child well in this complicated world, but this was not your time. It wasn't meant to be, forgive yourself, we all do. Hx
I'm sorry, there is no chance you could still be pregnant. Perhaps, since you have been praying, you could talk to a religious councilor who could help you through this and show you that God answers prayers and forgives us for the things we are truly sorry for. If you feel uncomfortable speaking with someone who is religious, perhaps you would feel more comfortable with a regular councilor, who could help you deal with the grief and loss. Many people who go through abortions, even those who were positive it was the right thing, experience the same sadness. I can only hope that things get better for you. Good luck in the future.
i don't think it is possible. the fact that you feel so guilty shows that you are human. i am not at all for abortion but i do feel like you should be talking to someone. you have been through alot with your fiance leaving and now losing your child. go talk to someone. good luck.
no but you can become pregnate again its impossible unless its some miracle made by god but mostlikley its impossible sry
hope you feel better about yourself you might have another chance to make up for your mistake and for now how do you really know it was a mistake what if you really had the baby what would have happened to you think of those things to know that you did the right or wrong thing well all we know now is that the baby is in heavan with god and don't blame your self because its not your fault you were young and didtn' know any better you were confused ppl and things got to your head
I know a lot of women who went through abortions but still got pregnant. Just would like to inform you though that there some who developed health problems of the uterus & its nearby organ ( or even cancer) after abortion, so make sure to have yourself checked by a specialist.
Sweetie, I don't know the answer to your question but I just wanted to let you know that I am so sorry that your are going through this. I promise you that you will be in my prayers tonight and I hope that the Lord will send you his peace. If you have asked for forgivness then my dear, you are forgiven. You don't have to ask over and over, you don't have to beg. You see, Jesus died but once on the cross for our sins and only once is what it takes to be forgiven.
I do agree with a previous answerer that you should talk to someone trained in how to deal with the emotions you are feeling.
I also believe that sometimes we go through things for a reason. Even things like this. Maybe this happened so you can heal and get through it to prevent someone else from going through it. Or maybe you are going to become an anti-ablrtion counselor and save someone else from going through it. You never know what God's plans are for you. You can also ask Him to show you what you are supposed to learn from this and when He is ready He will show you.
Again, I am so sorry you are going through this and you are in my prayers.
No you could not or the persentage is only like 35 % chane thats what I have been told.
It is very unlikely, unless you have had multiple pregnancy and they missed one by mistake or something. But that hardly ever happens.
I am very very sorry that you are going through such hard time. I do feel the pain you feel. I know it is really hard. I have gone through similar situation, except the guy was a total bastard and it was me decided that I was not going to have the baby. I couldn't have supported it, and he would never have, although he said he would. But he was just saying that, I know, because even until today he is playing up with girls, being a gigolo, no job no nothing. For him, girlfriend is only someone he could sleep with, and she has to provide everything. I'm glad I left him.
But I tell you, after I terminated my pregnancy I felt awful, and I felt so sorry for the baby. I became badly depressed, and tried to kill myself. I was put on a treatment for depression. It was the worst time in my life so far.
I suggest you to have a word with your doctor, and probably get a counselling sorted. They can help you to feel better.
Lastly, as for the guilt you are feeling..I am not a christian, but this words that a vicar said on TV comforted me.
'Abortion is not a good thing, but sometimes it's a good way out of a very bad situation. You'll be still forgiven. God hates sins, but loves sinners.'
It's highly unlikely that you will still be pregnant.
I too went through a similar situation, only i was seeing this guy for about 1month before i found out i was pregnant, my mum was abroad and i felt so alone. The bloke i was seeing told me i had to get to rid of it as he was going to be moving away for another job (he was an a r s e), even questioned wether it was his.
I agreed to go through with it for a number of reasons, i had just started a new job myself and the way he was i didn't want him to be the father of my child (sounds harsh i know) also i had very litlle money just finished uni, and was renting with my friend i just wasn't ready for a child.
It was a hard decission don't get me wrong then to top it off he text me the morning of my appointment telling me to keep it and that he wanted me back. After speaking to my mates, who knew him well, she said he was unhappy where he was working and wanted a way back.
I thought about it but had my mind made up, i went through with it and i wont say i dont regret it cause it wouldn't be true i have just learnt to deal with the fact that i wasn't ready and that it was in the childs best interest, i knew that if i had it i wouldn't be able to provide for it or let it go for adoption that would be more hurtful than the pain i suffered.
4 years on and i have moved on with my life i have been with new partner for over three years and yes he knows everything.
One day we plan to have children and i'm sure it will be then that realisation hits.
Anyway i'm rambling now, but what i want to say is that you will in time learn to cope with what you have been through, good luck for the future.
First off I feel really bad for you. I have had those thoughts of abortion. I think if the time is not right for a baby your first trimester is very emotional and your hormones make you crazy so these kind of thoughts come as cruel as they may seem. I chose not to have an abortion and am very grateful because I know I would be in your situation full of guilt and what might have been. I seen someone wrote you that you did whats best for you and not to worry about it. Sorry but that really is a cowards way out. Dont lay unless you intend to pay! I dont see how anyone could not have any remorse over such a horrible thing. Although I wish there was something I could do for you or help you in some way I'm glad that you have a conscience and know this was a mistake. I wish you would have put more thought into this and maybe came to this site for advise before you went through with the abortion I think there are lots of people that could have helped you. Unfortunately whats done is done. I dont think your chances of still being with child are very good and I think your chances of a healthy child are even more slim. You are just depressed and scared so you hang on to that hope. I also think that you should get some counseling. It will really help you cope better and God will absolutely forgive you for this. Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone! Just let yourself grieve. I also think if you got into a volunteer program to tell your story to teens that are considering abortion it would really make you feel better. And change the world at that. You can make a difference. If you change one girls mind you have saved a life! When Life hands you lemons.. Anyway good luck to you and I will be praying for you!
And just in case someone decides to add fuel to the fire I have done alot of research on this and you will be able to have healthy children after an abortion the chances of you not having a healthy child due to the abortion are extremely slim. The only time a doctor is a little concerned about this is if the mother has had MULTIPLE abortions. Which I know you will not do. So do not let this add to your stress.
You shoul dnever have done it if you weren't 100% sure you could live with your decision.
There is very very little chance you are still pregnant, that wouldn't make things better even if you were.
Draw a line under this, don't waste any more time or energy thinking and regreting it becuase it isn't going to change a thing.
Firstly, nobody has the right to critcise your actions, not with the emotional trauma this has put you through. Also, medically it is now referred to as a 'termination' of pregnancy (TOP), hopefully alleviating the guilt historically associated with 'abortion'. I hope you are fairing well!
Next, it'd be helpful to know why you think you might still be pregnant. Also whether you had a medical or surgical TOP and at how many weeks? Also were the passed or suctioned 'products' sent to histology to confirm that they are actually products of conception( poc).?
Surgical evacuation is better in guaranteeing TOP for obvious reasons. In medical, you are given tablets either orally or vaginally to stimulate contractions which expel the poc. It has a failure rate. Are you still bleeding? Is it profuse or minimal? Any offensive smell? Any fever? Any abdominal pain? How are your bowels and water works?
If you still have pregnancy symptoms eg. nausea and vomiting, it might be worthwile doing a 'BHCG' blood test. This is to show level of pregnancy hormone which should have fallen sharply after TOP especially if it was surgical.
Not trying to frighten you, it is actually possible to remain pregnant after TOP, though rare. Also chances of it remaining viable are very slim.
Consider the scenario that your pregnancy was actually not in your womb but in your tubes ( ectopic pregnancy)! Surgical and the medical TOP mentioned above only empty the womb and a pregnancy in the tubes would continue and probably cause you a lot of pain as it is in the wrong place. Thus bringing us back to my initial questions about 'symptoms' and 'histology'.
My dear, many have repeatedly done TOPs for a lot less of a reason so give yourself a well deserved break. But Achtung! this is a good time to think of appropriate contraception as it is quite easy to conceive soon after a termination!
It is very rare that a baby will survive an abortion, but it happens. You can read about some abortion survivors here:
http://members.tripod.com/~joseromia/sur.
http://www.sptimes.com/news/051301/citru.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/main.jht.
I have to be honest, though, and say that chances are your baby is gone. You have taken the first, most important step by admitting that what you did was wrong. So many women are unwilling to do that.
I really, really recommend that you go to http://www.healinghearts.org and sign up for their free online post-abortion study called "Binding Up the Brokenhearted." Just about all of their email counselors have aborted babies themselves, and they will be able to help you. In the study, you will be able to work through ALL the issues surrounding your abortion--your friends' influence, the situation with the baby's father, and your own grief and guilt. Most importantly, you will learn about how you can receive forgiveness from God.
Please, from my heart, I encourage you to go to Healing Hearts and see what they have to offer. I can't recommend their program more highly.
I'm so sorry to hear about everything. Makes me so sad. :( I wish you all the best.
I have had a recent experience with this and no the chances of you being pregnant are very slim. The pregnancy hormone is still in your body and the information on this states that its takes 6 weeks for the body to get back to normal. Apparently this is a common reaction post abortion that many women experience. Abortion is very sad and its a very confusing time. I was sick with hyperemisis gravida and had not eaten for a week and was in an abusive relationship. The fact I did not know my diagnosis and was realy fearful. I actualy walked out the first clinic deciding to keep the pregnancy but that evening my partner hit me and I went to another the next day I realy regret it. Its been 4 months and I am still haunted with my decision. In my oppinion the Abortion clinions don't offer none directional counselling, many just want the money and the counselling is not thorough. In my case I had paid my money and was in a robe when I was supposedly counselled. You sound like you would benifit from some post abortion counselling its free, confidential and you can talk on the phone. My heart realy goes out to you. The clinic should of ensured that you were sure. They have a duty of care towards you to ensure that you are certain of your decision.
After you are fealing better in the next few months you may like to join an ever growing campaign by women who have under gone abortions that regret the decision and feal they were not properly counselled by supposed counsellors at these clinics. The other issue is that there is view that women have a right to terminate but in my oppinion they have a right to an informed decision. There's a cooling off period with buying a car but any one, sick, confused, frightened woman with enough hormones bouncing around in their body can walk into one of these clinics, spend 5 minutes talking about the abortion decision often with unqualified counsellors and then the "procedure" is done and off these women go to deal with the aftermath of guilt and confusion.
The right to lifers are another issue. I respect their views and after all I have gone through I realy wish somebody had of spoken calmly to me outside the clinic. Maybe talked with me rationally about the decision I was going to make but instead they shout abuse at these scared, confused women and shove over sized foetus dolls in their faces and cause the security guards to virtually have to escort these women inside. Not one person who was protesting came accross to me to talk but were just abusive.
Its a very difficult time for you and I can emphasise with you. I hope that you are able to come to terms with your decision and realise that at the time you were frightened, sick and hormonal and not able to make a decision that was not emotive based. In the cold light of day its easier to look back but the person you were then is not the person you are now. Forgive yourself its ok.
There is a VERY Small chance you might still be pregnant but it is MOST unlikely. You did what you did because you thought at the time it was the right thing. Please stop punishing yourself. We learn from our mistakes. You don't deserve the emotional pain you need to talk to a counsellor about all this. I do have one word of advice though. Don't rush into getting pregnant again because you feel guilty. How would a child born from that feel. Give yourself some time and maybe in a few years you will feel ready to be a great mother. Please take care of yourself.
Hey Hun. Sorry to hear that you are going through this.. I have had an abortion too and regret it myself.
After the abortion though, your hormones will still be all over the place and you will feel depressed, I did, I drank myself stupid for about a week, I was in such a state, I was late for work, my face was a mess, I was a mess, I was all over the place, I had no family around me as I live in London and all my family are in Wales, my flat mates hated me, the father of the baby was around but we were going through a rough patch, to make things worse we were not together, it was all a shambles. When I was in the abortion clinic waiting to go in, I was on my own, and all I wished was for the babys father to come in and make me keep the baby, but he didnt :(
I don't think there is a high chance you could still be pregnant, your probably just wishing you are and your mind is so fragile right now that its making you think you still are..
Anyways sweetie, I hope you will be ok, God Bless.
If you wana chat my email is jamie.kirkham@hotmail.com xxx
it is possible ive read a story of a baby survivng a abortion if u arnt dont feel to bad about it abortions hard decision but ull have a baby in the future and u will love it the timeing will be right im 19 january im desperate for a baby and i thought i was a few weeks ago with this loser and if i had i would of done wat u did then when i meet a good father for a baby i keep it and be a family
It is very unlikely, it sounds as if the pregnancy hormones are still in your body.
Go and see your GP for some counselling - you sound really depressed. Please don't heap up the guilt upon yourself. You are not a murderer, you are a woman just like one half of the population. I hope the sadness passes soon.
you might not pregnant there is a tiny % that you could be, it's probably the symptoms just still there, and will go, or go to your doctors for a scan then you will know good luck
u should have thought about this before the abortion, i don't give u any sympathy because u didn't give your child any when they ripped it to pieces, as far as u still being pregnant the answer would be no, see that would be an embarrassment on the doc if that were to happen so they try and make sure that something like that don't happen.
i feel so sad for you sweetie what an awful thing for you to be going through you really need to go and see a councillor or your doctor cause this is eating you up. the chances are you are not pregnant like you say wishful thinking, plus your body is confused and still have hormones going through it but there are rare cases of abortions going wrong and people having babies they tried to abort but the chances are very slim. yo are still young so you have plenty of time to find the right person to settle down with and have babies.
i had an abortion at 17 and yes i did regret it and no i don't regret it, it was under similar circumstances. i wont lie and say i never think about it cause i do but i did what i thought was best at the time and i occasionally have a good cry about it and think about how my life could of been but ever thing happens for a reason. so please don't beat yourself up over it you did what you thought was best at the time however hard the decision was you did it nothing can change it now so you just have to concentrate on the future. please go and talk to someone about it don't let it ruin your life. good luck for every thing
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