My 11yr old son witnessed me assaulting our neighbour on the ground during a dispute..?
He has since been in trouble at school for headbutting a girl in his class. Do u think my actions could have encouraged this bad behaviour this?
Answers:
Yes definitely. You need to talk to your son and tell him that your behaviour was wrong and try to explain your reasons for it without justifying it. He needs you to be his role model, and if you want your son to become a mature sensible likeable member of society then you need to model the kind of acceptable behaviour that he can emulate.
Children learn by example. You have unwittingly expressed to him that violence is acceptable.
yep, he obviously thinks its ok to hurt other people. you should know better
Of course kids are very impressionable. What do you expect if you do that crap in front of your kids. If you want your kids to act different it all starts with you!!
YES IM SORRY TO SAY BUT CHILDREN LEARN BY EXSAMPLE
no i dont, kids have their own personality and maybe he head butted the kid coz the kid deserved it
Absolutely, now to reverse the effect, feed and clean a homeless guy in front of him, or give hugs and kisses to your neighbor in fornt of hm!
Yes. The best thing you can do is to sit your child down and explain that you handled that issue the wrong way. Tell him that you and him are going to go to some anger management classes. This way he knows that you acknowledge being wrong and he understands why he shouldn't do this at school. God bless the both of you.
Um, duh. You showed him that physical violence is acceptable by doing what you did.
Nurture plays a big role in human behavior, you need to sit your son down and talk to him before his violence escalates.
More than likely he has seen what you have done and thought that has you done it so its ok for him to do it.
The best thing to sit him down and tell him its not ok to use violence against other people and what you done was wrong and it shouldnt of happened.
Children take cues from the actions of their parents. His thought is. if it's OK for you to assault, it's OK for him to do the same.
Gotta get him some counseling before it's too late, he's assaulting girls, which, in my humble opinion is beyond bad behavior.
children mostly do what they see their parents do.
Jo darling, I find the question a bit confusing, How does one as salt ones neighbour on the ground? Is it a womany thing?
Maybe you could make up with the priest you assaulted and have him counsel your son. Or maybe with the money you could save from not buying him cigarettes you could pay for anger management classes. A better question would be why do you feel the need to fantasize and post such strange questions on Answers?
At the age of 11 he should already have known that it's unacceptable to headbutt someone, so you aren't to blame directly. however, the fact that you would physically assault someone in the first place shows that you aren't a very placid person, so he may have been picking it up from you long before now
Yes, I think you have encouraged this behaviour. It is unacceptable to use physical violence to end a dispute, unless it was used in self defence. You don't say how you feel about your actions and what your views of your son's behaviour are. You would have no credibility if you tried to tell him what he did was wrong, when you do the same yourself. You need to grow up and be a better example to him in the future so that he doesn't attack his neighbours when he is an adult.
yes.. children learn by example and if he saw u doing this hes gonna think its ok
violence causes more violence
yea Ghetto momma Ghetto child!
You need to sit and talk to your child and let the child know what mommy or daddy did was wrong! and they regret what they did and its not the way to resolve a dispute and that you donot appreciate your child following your bad example
Yes they learn by example. You should go to anger management and let him know you are being punished for what you did. That way he See's you take responsibility for what you did and the consequences.
oh my god yes- what were you thinking?
Your actions have obviously made some sort of impact on him. Could you not have spoke about your problem with your neighbour while you knew your child was present? or why didnt you just leave it til you were alone! Fighting is not the answer! you need to sit your son down and explain it was a BIG mistake what you did and you regret it (even if this is not true) it just shows that you are the adult and he does as you say not as you do! you need to really sort it out asap or this situation could get much worse for you both. Good Luck :-)
Nope! You did the right thing! Hope you did her over! Your Son sounds well hard! Good Lad! The girl probably deserved it & had it coming! Hope this advice has helped you!
you need to tell him what you did was wrong and explain you conquences and he should be hitting girls
Yes, but it might not be necessarily copying your bad behaviour.
It may be that you have shattered the illusion of the person he thought you were and he is wrestling with this internally - maybe feeling angry and lashing out on the girl as a substitute for you.
Maybe he is scared the police are going to come and take you away and that you will end up in prison and he will end up in care. This may sound extreme, but children's minds do come up with some awful and often illogical scenarios.
You need to talk to your boy and tell him what you did was wrong. Maybe you can do the right thing and apologise to the neighbour to show your son that you are a good person after all.
You got a lot of good answers and you should listen to about 3/4 of them. This wasn't the first time he saw you loose your temper.Get help for both of you before its to late.I do hope you will do the right thing.
My 11yr old son witnessed me assaulting our neighbour on the ground during a dispute..?
He has since been in trouble at school for headbutting a girl in his class. Do u think my actions could have encouraged this bad behaviour this?
YES i think you have encoouraged it .. BOUGHT UR SON ANY MORE FAGS LATLeY.. BEING AS YOU BOUGHT HIM A PACKET OF FAGS ... YOU THOUGHT THAT WAS GOOD TOO DIDNT YOU? . DONT BE SHE TO ANSWER
The ***** at school deserved it! well done for encouraging his behaviour. Maybe u shud sit down and tell him the teacher was wrong and that he did good over a smoke?
children learn what they live so if he sees you beat hell out the neighbour then course he thinks its ok...are we not the ones to set our kids examples..so when he next comes home from school with punishment for fighting who are you to scold...you set him some great example there so you did
yes, sure thing.
Why would you think otherwise ?
Most educated debate now believes that our childrens behaviour is a direct result of the parents.
I can't believe society has had to have this debate, surely we've known it for 1000s of years, it's only recently that people have been trying to blame others.
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Answers:
Yes definitely. You need to talk to your son and tell him that your behaviour was wrong and try to explain your reasons for it without justifying it. He needs you to be his role model, and if you want your son to become a mature sensible likeable member of society then you need to model the kind of acceptable behaviour that he can emulate.
Children learn by example. You have unwittingly expressed to him that violence is acceptable.
yep, he obviously thinks its ok to hurt other people. you should know better
Of course kids are very impressionable. What do you expect if you do that crap in front of your kids. If you want your kids to act different it all starts with you!!
YES IM SORRY TO SAY BUT CHILDREN LEARN BY EXSAMPLE
no i dont, kids have their own personality and maybe he head butted the kid coz the kid deserved it
Absolutely, now to reverse the effect, feed and clean a homeless guy in front of him, or give hugs and kisses to your neighbor in fornt of hm!
Yes. The best thing you can do is to sit your child down and explain that you handled that issue the wrong way. Tell him that you and him are going to go to some anger management classes. This way he knows that you acknowledge being wrong and he understands why he shouldn't do this at school. God bless the both of you.
Um, duh. You showed him that physical violence is acceptable by doing what you did.
Nurture plays a big role in human behavior, you need to sit your son down and talk to him before his violence escalates.
More than likely he has seen what you have done and thought that has you done it so its ok for him to do it.
The best thing to sit him down and tell him its not ok to use violence against other people and what you done was wrong and it shouldnt of happened.
Children take cues from the actions of their parents. His thought is. if it's OK for you to assault, it's OK for him to do the same.
Gotta get him some counseling before it's too late, he's assaulting girls, which, in my humble opinion is beyond bad behavior.
children mostly do what they see their parents do.
Jo darling, I find the question a bit confusing, How does one as salt ones neighbour on the ground? Is it a womany thing?
Maybe you could make up with the priest you assaulted and have him counsel your son. Or maybe with the money you could save from not buying him cigarettes you could pay for anger management classes. A better question would be why do you feel the need to fantasize and post such strange questions on Answers?
At the age of 11 he should already have known that it's unacceptable to headbutt someone, so you aren't to blame directly. however, the fact that you would physically assault someone in the first place shows that you aren't a very placid person, so he may have been picking it up from you long before now
Yes, I think you have encouraged this behaviour. It is unacceptable to use physical violence to end a dispute, unless it was used in self defence. You don't say how you feel about your actions and what your views of your son's behaviour are. You would have no credibility if you tried to tell him what he did was wrong, when you do the same yourself. You need to grow up and be a better example to him in the future so that he doesn't attack his neighbours when he is an adult.
yes.. children learn by example and if he saw u doing this hes gonna think its ok
violence causes more violence
yea Ghetto momma Ghetto child!
You need to sit and talk to your child and let the child know what mommy or daddy did was wrong! and they regret what they did and its not the way to resolve a dispute and that you donot appreciate your child following your bad example
Yes they learn by example. You should go to anger management and let him know you are being punished for what you did. That way he See's you take responsibility for what you did and the consequences.
oh my god yes- what were you thinking?
Your actions have obviously made some sort of impact on him. Could you not have spoke about your problem with your neighbour while you knew your child was present? or why didnt you just leave it til you were alone! Fighting is not the answer! you need to sit your son down and explain it was a BIG mistake what you did and you regret it (even if this is not true) it just shows that you are the adult and he does as you say not as you do! you need to really sort it out asap or this situation could get much worse for you both. Good Luck :-)
Nope! You did the right thing! Hope you did her over! Your Son sounds well hard! Good Lad! The girl probably deserved it & had it coming! Hope this advice has helped you!
you need to tell him what you did was wrong and explain you conquences and he should be hitting girls
Yes, but it might not be necessarily copying your bad behaviour.
It may be that you have shattered the illusion of the person he thought you were and he is wrestling with this internally - maybe feeling angry and lashing out on the girl as a substitute for you.
Maybe he is scared the police are going to come and take you away and that you will end up in prison and he will end up in care. This may sound extreme, but children's minds do come up with some awful and often illogical scenarios.
You need to talk to your boy and tell him what you did was wrong. Maybe you can do the right thing and apologise to the neighbour to show your son that you are a good person after all.
You got a lot of good answers and you should listen to about 3/4 of them. This wasn't the first time he saw you loose your temper.Get help for both of you before its to late.I do hope you will do the right thing.
My 11yr old son witnessed me assaulting our neighbour on the ground during a dispute..?
He has since been in trouble at school for headbutting a girl in his class. Do u think my actions could have encouraged this bad behaviour this?
YES i think you have encoouraged it .. BOUGHT UR SON ANY MORE FAGS LATLeY.. BEING AS YOU BOUGHT HIM A PACKET OF FAGS ... YOU THOUGHT THAT WAS GOOD TOO DIDNT YOU? . DONT BE SHE TO ANSWER
The ***** at school deserved it! well done for encouraging his behaviour. Maybe u shud sit down and tell him the teacher was wrong and that he did good over a smoke?
children learn what they live so if he sees you beat hell out the neighbour then course he thinks its ok...are we not the ones to set our kids examples..so when he next comes home from school with punishment for fighting who are you to scold...you set him some great example there so you did
yes, sure thing.
Why would you think otherwise ?
Most educated debate now believes that our childrens behaviour is a direct result of the parents.
I can't believe society has had to have this debate, surely we've known it for 1000s of years, it's only recently that people have been trying to blame others.
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