How do you manage your time?
i have a 14 month old son and soon due to have another baby and my time management stinks there is never enough time in the day to do even the simplict things if i want a bath i have to have my son in the bathroom with me or i don't get one. the washing is pileing up and it's really stressing me out so if you could tell me how you manage maybe it will help me out. thank you.
Answers:
Hunni this is the hardest time of your life but it does get better I promise!
Lower your expectations of what you can achieve in a day to zero. Just plan to survive the day doing nothing more than feeding and changing your son. Then when you do achive something else in addition, you will feel great.
Simplify your life down to basics. Everything needs to be wearable without ironing. Food needs to be easy, nutritious and quick! De clutter and there is less to tidy!
Accept help offered gratefully there are absolutely no medals to be won for struggling. If someone offers to take your son out then say yes!
If you are financially secure then pay someone else to do the cleaning washing etc. If not then make time. Use your child's naps, put a load on overnight. Use supermarket online delivery services.
Get 2 old fashioned play pens. One upstairs and one down Put toys in them and then put him in it to keep him safe while you bath or do chores that he can't help with. He will survive if he can see you!
Hate to say this girl, but the TV and computers are big time drains for a busy mom be disciplined.
Finally at some time when he is asleep make time for a treat for yourself every day. It might just be 10 minutes with your feet up and a cup of tea, or a phonecall to a friend, or a magazine or even just to visit the loo in peace!
Forgot to mention. get out every day even if it's just a short walk coz you don't have to look at the pile of unfinished tasks and you can meet other mums in the same situation as you.
How do I what my what?
Does not compute..
I so know the feeling.
Try to plan out your days the best that you can. Take turns on household chores and with your child. Put your son down for a nap and then take your shower and do laundry. Make sure your child is on a schedule , eating times, bathing times, sleeping times, etc. They get used of a time for these things and are less likely to get in the way of things you need to do. Once a week have someone take your kid for a bit and clean and relax. I say all this but I am yet to get it all together, Good luck.
I dont, with three kids & a full time job I just run about from one task to the next in no perticular order until everything is done & I can finally sit down & relax.
anything is only important, if you attach a meaning of importance to it,
you have to ask your self questions like if i didnt
do the washing what could i do instead,
and if i didnt do the washing what would happen,
to cure stress a good way i feel is to
sit down and pick a spot on the wall to stare at,
now while looking at the wall allow your vision
to expand so you can still see the spot on the wall
also you can see what is going on at the sides
of the room as well,
it takes some getting used to
however i find it very hard to get stressed doing this
I have 3 kids under 5, I just prioritise things that need doing, for example your about to have a new baby. While sterlizing bottles put on a load of washing, boil the kettle have a drink then use some water for the bottles. See you have done a few jobs there in a matter of 10 mins. Only Iron clothes when necessary I use the tumble drier then put clothes on coat hangers. Put all shoes in a box near the door this should make things easier. When your eldest is asleep for his nap. organise things for later. But remember your rest you need rest or you won't be able to cope trust me i thought i was wonderwoman, then i crashed. Not plesant. A little bit of dust is not going to kill anybody so don't worry. Enjoy your children
First of all, if you are cluttered, get rid of what you dont need..Secondly remember "a place for everything and everything in its place". Then, make out a schedule such as Saturday-laundry day, but if you can do a little at a time, it won't be so overwhelming. Purchase the baby a walker or something that he can safely entertain himself in. When cleaning the kitchen, strap him into his highchair after you have eaten and let him feed himself while you cleanup. Then bathe him as you normally would. If things get too out of control, enlist grandparents or other family members to babysit while you clean house. Good Luck!
my sympathy to u,i'm in the same boat,its hard i know,but keep ur chin up it can only get easier the older they get,so i'm told.
I know how you feel. I have 2yr old twins and used to freak out because simple things like washing,household chores were lacking. Take a bath when your partner is home, you have to have me time or else you will burn out. I find the best times to do the chores is when one of my twins is napping. The other twin plays with there toys,listen to music etc whilist I put a load in the washing machine etc. I think the biggest thing is having the energy to do anything aswell, but if you have it in your mind what you plan to do you feel better about it. But dont over do it, share the chores with your partner. You will need the help for when the new bub arrives. Good luck and try not to stress.
When you use dishes, rinse them out and load them straight into the dishwasher. When its full, turn it on and walk away. Start a load of clothes in the morning, switch to the dryer during a nap, and fold that evening. Keep wake up time, feeding times, bed time, and bath time on a schedule. He's big enough to eat table food, so he's old enough for a full schedule. Wash when your husband gets home, or during one of the naps. Dust to music and maybe you can get him dancing with you as you clean a bit. I remember cleaning a house as we were preparing to move with the crib in the livingroom, music blaring, the baby playing and dancing, and me mopping up a storm. Try a playpen if you want to. There are just times that you need to do things. Your child doesn't have to be amused 24/7 by you. Give him a couple toys, pop him in a playpen, and go switch out the laundry. Or fold it in the livingroom so you can keep an eye on him. Let him play with the socks while you fold towels. Anything to get the work done. At least he'll get older! And it really does get easier as they age, at least cleaning does.
Sit down and write out a schedule. Don't think of it as something you have to strictly adhere to but a guideline. For example, my schedule look like this:
5-6: wake up/exercise
6-7: get kids up/get dressed/morning chores
7-8: breakfast/morning tv time
8-11: AM school (we home school)
Now if you look I have an entire hour to get myself up and exercise but I normally don't use the entire time to exercise so I can fit in other things at that time--like maybe start a load of laundry. While the kids are having their morning tv time I can squeeze in a few other household chores. I have an hour of chores scheduled but I don't always need it because I can squeeze things in at other times. I don't particularly like getting up at 5am but I have to get up that early if I want time in the morning to myself. I don't know what your son's schedule is like. If you want to email me with an idea of how your day goes I can set up a sample schedule for you. I actually work out of my home as a time management consultant.
One key is to set aside time for computer, tv or whatever. If I were to get up in the morning and hop right onto the computer I'd never get a thing done. I get sucked in and before i know it a few hours have passed. So, I have to set aside a certain time of day to allow myself those little pleasures. And, of course, you should only schedule the weekdays. That is my opinion. The weekends are for relaxing so no need to follow your weekly routine. I look at being home with the kids like a job. If I worked outside the home and had to be at work by 8 then I'd have to get my butt out of bed. So, on the weekdays I get my butt out of bed because it is my job. I stick to my schedule because otherwise I'm doing a shabby job. But most people slack off on the weekends and so do I. :)
Seriously, if you want to contact me I can maybe help you set something up. I'll need an idea of your current routine, your son's routine and the things you'd like to get done during the day.
I ahve twins and I used cloth nappies. I have no real memory how i did it all. I remember i would feed them and then put them in their cot to play while i Had a shower. this was the most important thing to me. I didn't care if they had to cry for 2 min. as long as i got my shower. I felt human then. I would wash the nappies while they were awake then as soon as they went to sleep i would hang them out then come in and have a quick coffee. Have some time for me. I made tea at whatever time i could and had gates to confine them to one large room when i washed the floors Good luck
I did things during naptime and a few things after the child went to bed. Dads need to pitch in when they are home too.
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Answers:
Hunni this is the hardest time of your life but it does get better I promise!
Lower your expectations of what you can achieve in a day to zero. Just plan to survive the day doing nothing more than feeding and changing your son. Then when you do achive something else in addition, you will feel great.
Simplify your life down to basics. Everything needs to be wearable without ironing. Food needs to be easy, nutritious and quick! De clutter and there is less to tidy!
Accept help offered gratefully there are absolutely no medals to be won for struggling. If someone offers to take your son out then say yes!
If you are financially secure then pay someone else to do the cleaning washing etc. If not then make time. Use your child's naps, put a load on overnight. Use supermarket online delivery services.
Get 2 old fashioned play pens. One upstairs and one down Put toys in them and then put him in it to keep him safe while you bath or do chores that he can't help with. He will survive if he can see you!
Hate to say this girl, but the TV and computers are big time drains for a busy mom be disciplined.
Finally at some time when he is asleep make time for a treat for yourself every day. It might just be 10 minutes with your feet up and a cup of tea, or a phonecall to a friend, or a magazine or even just to visit the loo in peace!
Forgot to mention. get out every day even if it's just a short walk coz you don't have to look at the pile of unfinished tasks and you can meet other mums in the same situation as you.
How do I what my what?
Does not compute..
I so know the feeling.
Try to plan out your days the best that you can. Take turns on household chores and with your child. Put your son down for a nap and then take your shower and do laundry. Make sure your child is on a schedule , eating times, bathing times, sleeping times, etc. They get used of a time for these things and are less likely to get in the way of things you need to do. Once a week have someone take your kid for a bit and clean and relax. I say all this but I am yet to get it all together, Good luck.
I dont, with three kids & a full time job I just run about from one task to the next in no perticular order until everything is done & I can finally sit down & relax.
anything is only important, if you attach a meaning of importance to it,
you have to ask your self questions like if i didnt
do the washing what could i do instead,
and if i didnt do the washing what would happen,
to cure stress a good way i feel is to
sit down and pick a spot on the wall to stare at,
now while looking at the wall allow your vision
to expand so you can still see the spot on the wall
also you can see what is going on at the sides
of the room as well,
it takes some getting used to
however i find it very hard to get stressed doing this
I have 3 kids under 5, I just prioritise things that need doing, for example your about to have a new baby. While sterlizing bottles put on a load of washing, boil the kettle have a drink then use some water for the bottles. See you have done a few jobs there in a matter of 10 mins. Only Iron clothes when necessary I use the tumble drier then put clothes on coat hangers. Put all shoes in a box near the door this should make things easier. When your eldest is asleep for his nap. organise things for later. But remember your rest you need rest or you won't be able to cope trust me i thought i was wonderwoman, then i crashed. Not plesant. A little bit of dust is not going to kill anybody so don't worry. Enjoy your children
First of all, if you are cluttered, get rid of what you dont need..Secondly remember "a place for everything and everything in its place". Then, make out a schedule such as Saturday-laundry day, but if you can do a little at a time, it won't be so overwhelming. Purchase the baby a walker or something that he can safely entertain himself in. When cleaning the kitchen, strap him into his highchair after you have eaten and let him feed himself while you cleanup. Then bathe him as you normally would. If things get too out of control, enlist grandparents or other family members to babysit while you clean house. Good Luck!
my sympathy to u,i'm in the same boat,its hard i know,but keep ur chin up it can only get easier the older they get,so i'm told.
I know how you feel. I have 2yr old twins and used to freak out because simple things like washing,household chores were lacking. Take a bath when your partner is home, you have to have me time or else you will burn out. I find the best times to do the chores is when one of my twins is napping. The other twin plays with there toys,listen to music etc whilist I put a load in the washing machine etc. I think the biggest thing is having the energy to do anything aswell, but if you have it in your mind what you plan to do you feel better about it. But dont over do it, share the chores with your partner. You will need the help for when the new bub arrives. Good luck and try not to stress.
When you use dishes, rinse them out and load them straight into the dishwasher. When its full, turn it on and walk away. Start a load of clothes in the morning, switch to the dryer during a nap, and fold that evening. Keep wake up time, feeding times, bed time, and bath time on a schedule. He's big enough to eat table food, so he's old enough for a full schedule. Wash when your husband gets home, or during one of the naps. Dust to music and maybe you can get him dancing with you as you clean a bit. I remember cleaning a house as we were preparing to move with the crib in the livingroom, music blaring, the baby playing and dancing, and me mopping up a storm. Try a playpen if you want to. There are just times that you need to do things. Your child doesn't have to be amused 24/7 by you. Give him a couple toys, pop him in a playpen, and go switch out the laundry. Or fold it in the livingroom so you can keep an eye on him. Let him play with the socks while you fold towels. Anything to get the work done. At least he'll get older! And it really does get easier as they age, at least cleaning does.
Sit down and write out a schedule. Don't think of it as something you have to strictly adhere to but a guideline. For example, my schedule look like this:
5-6: wake up/exercise
6-7: get kids up/get dressed/morning chores
7-8: breakfast/morning tv time
8-11: AM school (we home school)
Now if you look I have an entire hour to get myself up and exercise but I normally don't use the entire time to exercise so I can fit in other things at that time--like maybe start a load of laundry. While the kids are having their morning tv time I can squeeze in a few other household chores. I have an hour of chores scheduled but I don't always need it because I can squeeze things in at other times. I don't particularly like getting up at 5am but I have to get up that early if I want time in the morning to myself. I don't know what your son's schedule is like. If you want to email me with an idea of how your day goes I can set up a sample schedule for you. I actually work out of my home as a time management consultant.
One key is to set aside time for computer, tv or whatever. If I were to get up in the morning and hop right onto the computer I'd never get a thing done. I get sucked in and before i know it a few hours have passed. So, I have to set aside a certain time of day to allow myself those little pleasures. And, of course, you should only schedule the weekdays. That is my opinion. The weekends are for relaxing so no need to follow your weekly routine. I look at being home with the kids like a job. If I worked outside the home and had to be at work by 8 then I'd have to get my butt out of bed. So, on the weekdays I get my butt out of bed because it is my job. I stick to my schedule because otherwise I'm doing a shabby job. But most people slack off on the weekends and so do I. :)
Seriously, if you want to contact me I can maybe help you set something up. I'll need an idea of your current routine, your son's routine and the things you'd like to get done during the day.
I ahve twins and I used cloth nappies. I have no real memory how i did it all. I remember i would feed them and then put them in their cot to play while i Had a shower. this was the most important thing to me. I didn't care if they had to cry for 2 min. as long as i got my shower. I felt human then. I would wash the nappies while they were awake then as soon as they went to sleep i would hang them out then come in and have a quick coffee. Have some time for me. I made tea at whatever time i could and had gates to confine them to one large room when i washed the floors Good luck
I did things during naptime and a few things after the child went to bed. Dads need to pitch in when they are home too.
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