I have booked martial arts lessons, swimming and trampoling lessons for my child..(see added details)?
I have been told Im a pushy mom, I defended that and said one is for survival, the other is for self defence and the other is for fun and it is showing my child there is more to life than T.V and computer games, WHAT DO YOU THINK?
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At least you are encouraging your child to become more active with things that are fun. Too many children are living their lives through computers and television. If your child is up for it then where is the pushiness? If anything i think you are being a good parent. You know that your child's best interests are in your heart so don't even worry about what others think. There will always be someone somewhere telling you that you're doing something wrong if you let them.
i totally agree with you. You go girl. :)
Have you asked your child whether he/she wants to do these lessons.
I think you're trying to be the best possible mother you can be. Kids need to be active and get away from the TV and computer games - physical activity is the best thing they can do! Well done you.
i agree, i think that there are to many children around that do nothing all day, and this is why we have this growing population of chavs and neds, i think it is great that you are encouraging your child into other activities and therefore giving him a great social life and a good start to his future. I think more mothers should do the same, and i applaud you, WELL DONE!!
I assume the child actually WANTS to do all of these, If not then yes you are being a pushy Mom.
I think its great, just make sure you leave a little time for you and your child, as well as any homework if they are in school. Its a great idea, I think I might get my children into it too. It helps with exercise and also helps them have so much more fun.
i agree with giving your child different options and your right to get them out of the house and off computers. i would definately encourage them but not push them into something they definately did not want to do
I totally agree with you & if that makes you pushy then pushy is good. The more interests your child has the better start you are giving them.
Not necessarily. My mum did the same kind of thing when I was a kid, so I did football, gymnastics, swimming and martial arts, as well as a whole host of activities during the holidays. I think it's great that you are getting your kid out there, but you would fall into the pushy catagory if you made them carry on with it if they didn't enjoy it.
I don't think you're pushy at all. I would have also made my kids take piano and guitar lessons and try to learn another language. (p.s. I am going to make them do martial arts, gymnastics and swimming when they are born).
Without knowing the age of your child, and in my very humble opinion as the father of two - I do wonder whether by enrolling them on martial arts lessons for survival you are reinforcing violence as a solution. I appreciate that the goal of martial arts is for defence - but I think that perhaps being a watchful parent and teaching that intellect can often outwhit ignorance might also be valuable in this area. THAT SAID I live in a sleepy rural idyll and you may live in an habitually violent area where defence is the ONLY solution.
One thing's for sure you clearly care about your child and that has to say a heck of a lot more than those despicable parents who hardly share a word with their children on a daily basis.
Well done :-)
I think its great that you are organising social and active projects for your child!
Assuming your child is enjoying all of these classes and is eager to participate, I do not in any way see how anybody can class you as a pushy mother!
Too many kids spend all their spare time infront of a TV/playstation nowadays, hence we have a nation of unsociable, overweight children.
Good for you!
Hi
I think it depends on how happy your child is doing all those things. I agree that swimming is very important and once they've learnt it can become a fun thing instead (ie drop the lessons and all go at the weekend as a family etc).
As for whether or not the martial art is good for defence really depends on which one you've picked! It can be good for the childs confidence regardless.
The main thing is to listen to your child and be supportive. You're only a pushy parent if you demand s/he goes to all three.. make them practise all weekend, every weeknight etc.
If s/he does seem unhappy at doing so much then there are ways of showing them there's more to life than TV/comp games without rigid routine lessons. Playing ball in the park, going bowling, rollerblading, bike riding, building a camp/treehouse, woodland walks.
:o)
provided your child is happy to participate in all these activites and she doesnt get worn out from them then i applaud you 100%. Parents have it too easy these days - there is such a selection of television programmes and pc games etc etc that a lot of children are no longer encouraged to participate in playing outside or having sporting activities.
I think its absolutely fantastic what you're doing - your child is lucky to have a mother who hasnt had her head turned to the easy lifestyle of installing a tv in her youngsters bedroom!! WELL DONE!
i totally agree with you..these days all kids do is watch tv..and play video games..they are so unsocial..and lack in many other things..you are very lucky to have these types of activities around your area.
Sounds to me like you are trying to raise a well rounded child. Martial Arts are great, teaches self defense, and self control. Swimming and trampoline are great physical activities and lots of fun. I have six kids and I let them play or do whatever activities they want. We do basketball, football, baseball, cheerleading, show livestock, horse club and anything else they want to do. Just remember, the more activities they do, the better the college applications look.
When does she get to be a kid? Pretend things about being able to fly? Play in the mud? Make a fort out of sheets and dinning chairs? Ride a bike? Lay on her back and look at the picture in the clouds? Over doing "lessons" and activities can harm more than help. Children have the rest of thier lives to be on time for something. They need time to waste.
I think you have to play it by ear. You will know if your child gets knackered by it all, or you may find that your child has a natural talent for one of the skills they are learning and drop something else to allow them to concentrate on that particular skill.
My 2 older kids (9 and 5) do 2 things each. Its money that holds meback from them doing anything else. (I have 4 kids in total)
I think you are a fantastic mum, I teach Martial Arts to all ages and in this day and age you can never over protect your children.
Martial Arts whichever one you choose will give your child great confidence,self security and self respect.
You seem to have balanced things in a practical way with as you say mixing swimming for survival and the good old trampoline for fun,(don't forget a good diet) and if your daughter is up for this get on with it and good luck to her, and yourself. (don't upset her though)
I think that is great, if she wants it too. I was raised pretty much without TV (last show I remember watching was Felix the Cat, before I started going to school - yes I am older). I think it turned out for the best cause I hardly ever watch TV at all. I love bicycling and walking and I am very physically fit (even with my family history of being overweight, I am not at all). I contribute this to not ever being a couch potatoe. I have no interest in TV and I am proud of it. I think getting out and doing things and finding out more about the world in this way is better. I think f you find things that she is interested in that is not TV, you are doing a great thing as a mother. I would suggest doing one class with her to connect with her more, whether it be doing the class with her, or letting her teach you what she is learning at home. Good luck with raising your child like this. I think its great.
it depends on how old your child is. i think it's good that you're giving your child a lot of stimulation, but there is such a thing as overstimulation and that can cause stress - and i'm sure we both agree that there shouldn't be any such thing as a stressed-out preschooler. i'd say you should monitor your child closely for signs of stress and be understanding if he/ she wants to drop out of any of these activities. also keep in mind that there is more to life than physical activities and fitness. it is extremely beneficial for children to be creative, draw, pain, learn a musical instrument, and a lot of fun too. watch him/ her around such ventures and respond if he/ she shows any inclination for hobbies of that kind. you probably shouldn't add anything to the stuff he/ she is already doing but might drop one of the physical activities for a more intellectual one.
I think you are doing the right thing. What you teach and show your child now will help them in later life. My son does martial arts, not only does it teach them self defence, it teaches them co-ordination, gives them confidence, and is also good exercise & fun.
Swimming is a must, and trampolines are fun and again these two are good exercise. If you your child has plenty of exercise it helps to keep them healthy and motivated.
As long as the activities are not interferring with school and your child is happy and willing to go, there is no problem at all.
JJ
i think you love your child very much and you want wats best for him or her
There is a fine line however between caring and being pushy. Don't keep her too busy all week long. This adds stress on a child whenever they don't have time to breathe. Make sure if she starts to complain often about being sick or she is making excuses that she doesn' t want to go- ask her if she is bored or tired of it. I am not sure how old she is but from experience with my sisters- keeping her too busy may backfire down the road. If she is enjoying all of these and is excited about going then continue but keep your eyes open and watch her. Also make sure that there is still time for her to just chill out at the house or at a friends. Make sure that it is never everyday!~ Good luck! Last thing you want to do is create a child that is sooo busy and stressed all the time that she ends up with health problems because she is always go go go ! Bottom line you know your daughter better than anyone else and as long as you are spending quality time with her while she is at these activities and she likes them GO FOR IT!
i am 15 and my mum is a very pushy mum. you see, i have been dancing since i was 5 years old. i do disco, street, hip hop, ballroom, latin, jazz, rock n roll, ballet, tap and irish! i no it is alot but i enjoy it and if my mum doesnt push me then i would be really lazy. i fit my school and home work around all of this so it isnt a problem.
Swimming definitly.
Other stuff if she wants to do it.
My daughter must have joined every single club going in school, she'll stick at the stuff she wants to do. but hey you gotta try it.
My boys . less so!
Sounds pretty okay to me! my kids did lots, but make sure they have time to get bored too, thats really important.
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At least you are encouraging your child to become more active with things that are fun. Too many children are living their lives through computers and television. If your child is up for it then where is the pushiness? If anything i think you are being a good parent. You know that your child's best interests are in your heart so don't even worry about what others think. There will always be someone somewhere telling you that you're doing something wrong if you let them.
i totally agree with you. You go girl. :)
Have you asked your child whether he/she wants to do these lessons.
I think you're trying to be the best possible mother you can be. Kids need to be active and get away from the TV and computer games - physical activity is the best thing they can do! Well done you.
i agree, i think that there are to many children around that do nothing all day, and this is why we have this growing population of chavs and neds, i think it is great that you are encouraging your child into other activities and therefore giving him a great social life and a good start to his future. I think more mothers should do the same, and i applaud you, WELL DONE!!
I assume the child actually WANTS to do all of these, If not then yes you are being a pushy Mom.
I think its great, just make sure you leave a little time for you and your child, as well as any homework if they are in school. Its a great idea, I think I might get my children into it too. It helps with exercise and also helps them have so much more fun.
i agree with giving your child different options and your right to get them out of the house and off computers. i would definately encourage them but not push them into something they definately did not want to do
I totally agree with you & if that makes you pushy then pushy is good. The more interests your child has the better start you are giving them.
Not necessarily. My mum did the same kind of thing when I was a kid, so I did football, gymnastics, swimming and martial arts, as well as a whole host of activities during the holidays. I think it's great that you are getting your kid out there, but you would fall into the pushy catagory if you made them carry on with it if they didn't enjoy it.
I don't think you're pushy at all. I would have also made my kids take piano and guitar lessons and try to learn another language. (p.s. I am going to make them do martial arts, gymnastics and swimming when they are born).
Without knowing the age of your child, and in my very humble opinion as the father of two - I do wonder whether by enrolling them on martial arts lessons for survival you are reinforcing violence as a solution. I appreciate that the goal of martial arts is for defence - but I think that perhaps being a watchful parent and teaching that intellect can often outwhit ignorance might also be valuable in this area. THAT SAID I live in a sleepy rural idyll and you may live in an habitually violent area where defence is the ONLY solution.
One thing's for sure you clearly care about your child and that has to say a heck of a lot more than those despicable parents who hardly share a word with their children on a daily basis.
Well done :-)
I think its great that you are organising social and active projects for your child!
Assuming your child is enjoying all of these classes and is eager to participate, I do not in any way see how anybody can class you as a pushy mother!
Too many kids spend all their spare time infront of a TV/playstation nowadays, hence we have a nation of unsociable, overweight children.
Good for you!
Hi
I think it depends on how happy your child is doing all those things. I agree that swimming is very important and once they've learnt it can become a fun thing instead (ie drop the lessons and all go at the weekend as a family etc).
As for whether or not the martial art is good for defence really depends on which one you've picked! It can be good for the childs confidence regardless.
The main thing is to listen to your child and be supportive. You're only a pushy parent if you demand s/he goes to all three.. make them practise all weekend, every weeknight etc.
If s/he does seem unhappy at doing so much then there are ways of showing them there's more to life than TV/comp games without rigid routine lessons. Playing ball in the park, going bowling, rollerblading, bike riding, building a camp/treehouse, woodland walks.
:o)
provided your child is happy to participate in all these activites and she doesnt get worn out from them then i applaud you 100%. Parents have it too easy these days - there is such a selection of television programmes and pc games etc etc that a lot of children are no longer encouraged to participate in playing outside or having sporting activities.
I think its absolutely fantastic what you're doing - your child is lucky to have a mother who hasnt had her head turned to the easy lifestyle of installing a tv in her youngsters bedroom!! WELL DONE!
i totally agree with you..these days all kids do is watch tv..and play video games..they are so unsocial..and lack in many other things..you are very lucky to have these types of activities around your area.
Sounds to me like you are trying to raise a well rounded child. Martial Arts are great, teaches self defense, and self control. Swimming and trampoline are great physical activities and lots of fun. I have six kids and I let them play or do whatever activities they want. We do basketball, football, baseball, cheerleading, show livestock, horse club and anything else they want to do. Just remember, the more activities they do, the better the college applications look.
When does she get to be a kid? Pretend things about being able to fly? Play in the mud? Make a fort out of sheets and dinning chairs? Ride a bike? Lay on her back and look at the picture in the clouds? Over doing "lessons" and activities can harm more than help. Children have the rest of thier lives to be on time for something. They need time to waste.
I think you have to play it by ear. You will know if your child gets knackered by it all, or you may find that your child has a natural talent for one of the skills they are learning and drop something else to allow them to concentrate on that particular skill.
My 2 older kids (9 and 5) do 2 things each. Its money that holds meback from them doing anything else. (I have 4 kids in total)
I think you are a fantastic mum, I teach Martial Arts to all ages and in this day and age you can never over protect your children.
Martial Arts whichever one you choose will give your child great confidence,self security and self respect.
You seem to have balanced things in a practical way with as you say mixing swimming for survival and the good old trampoline for fun,(don't forget a good diet) and if your daughter is up for this get on with it and good luck to her, and yourself. (don't upset her though)
I think that is great, if she wants it too. I was raised pretty much without TV (last show I remember watching was Felix the Cat, before I started going to school - yes I am older). I think it turned out for the best cause I hardly ever watch TV at all. I love bicycling and walking and I am very physically fit (even with my family history of being overweight, I am not at all). I contribute this to not ever being a couch potatoe. I have no interest in TV and I am proud of it. I think getting out and doing things and finding out more about the world in this way is better. I think f you find things that she is interested in that is not TV, you are doing a great thing as a mother. I would suggest doing one class with her to connect with her more, whether it be doing the class with her, or letting her teach you what she is learning at home. Good luck with raising your child like this. I think its great.
it depends on how old your child is. i think it's good that you're giving your child a lot of stimulation, but there is such a thing as overstimulation and that can cause stress - and i'm sure we both agree that there shouldn't be any such thing as a stressed-out preschooler. i'd say you should monitor your child closely for signs of stress and be understanding if he/ she wants to drop out of any of these activities. also keep in mind that there is more to life than physical activities and fitness. it is extremely beneficial for children to be creative, draw, pain, learn a musical instrument, and a lot of fun too. watch him/ her around such ventures and respond if he/ she shows any inclination for hobbies of that kind. you probably shouldn't add anything to the stuff he/ she is already doing but might drop one of the physical activities for a more intellectual one.
I think you are doing the right thing. What you teach and show your child now will help them in later life. My son does martial arts, not only does it teach them self defence, it teaches them co-ordination, gives them confidence, and is also good exercise & fun.
Swimming is a must, and trampolines are fun and again these two are good exercise. If you your child has plenty of exercise it helps to keep them healthy and motivated.
As long as the activities are not interferring with school and your child is happy and willing to go, there is no problem at all.
JJ
i think you love your child very much and you want wats best for him or her
There is a fine line however between caring and being pushy. Don't keep her too busy all week long. This adds stress on a child whenever they don't have time to breathe. Make sure if she starts to complain often about being sick or she is making excuses that she doesn' t want to go- ask her if she is bored or tired of it. I am not sure how old she is but from experience with my sisters- keeping her too busy may backfire down the road. If she is enjoying all of these and is excited about going then continue but keep your eyes open and watch her. Also make sure that there is still time for her to just chill out at the house or at a friends. Make sure that it is never everyday!~ Good luck! Last thing you want to do is create a child that is sooo busy and stressed all the time that she ends up with health problems because she is always go go go ! Bottom line you know your daughter better than anyone else and as long as you are spending quality time with her while she is at these activities and she likes them GO FOR IT!
i am 15 and my mum is a very pushy mum. you see, i have been dancing since i was 5 years old. i do disco, street, hip hop, ballroom, latin, jazz, rock n roll, ballet, tap and irish! i no it is alot but i enjoy it and if my mum doesnt push me then i would be really lazy. i fit my school and home work around all of this so it isnt a problem.
Swimming definitly.
Other stuff if she wants to do it.
My daughter must have joined every single club going in school, she'll stick at the stuff she wants to do. but hey you gotta try it.
My boys . less so!
Sounds pretty okay to me! my kids did lots, but make sure they have time to get bored too, thats really important.
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