My boyfriend has dumped me now Im pregnant, he want me to sign a contract so no claim for child support?
this is after turning up at my house at all hours forcing me to have an abortion. He now wants me to sign a contract saying he has nothing to do with the child will never see it and not pay for it. Also we planned this child and he went round telling all family members and he proposed to get married. I live on my own everyone knows Im pregnant and besides I really want this child, the thing is this harassesment is really upsetting me what should I do? He is 35 and Im 30 this both are first child.
Answers:
If you planned the child hje should have thought about what he wanted first. My advise don't sign anything, ask your local Police station about getting a restraint order against him.
He put that life inside you and he should pay what he owes for that. If it was an accident my thought would be different.
By the way i am a man and i think his behavior is disgusting!
Ludacrispix. just in answer to your reply. It is possible for a parent to "sign out" of their parental rights. It is a simular concept to putting a child up for adopton. If both parents agree they can ensure that the "father" is removed from all records in relation to this child. He will not have to pay child support, but also looses ant rights to see that child ext. He can be treat as a totall stranger. I know this from personal experience (not my children i may add). I use father as a very loose word. anyone can get a Woman pregnant, but the real father is the one who sticks with the child to look after and care for it!
don't sign it and seek legal help. look online for women's organizations that may help with expenses.
call the cops have the ^*$%) charged with harrassment and hit him for child support .... DONT sign anything he wants you to sign.
Screw him! Take him for all he's worth unless..(you know him better than me) he's not a good person. If so sign his damn paper under the condition he NEVER has contact with the child!
He's going to have to take responsibility for his actions. Contact a solicitor, do not sign anything.
Nail him, he knew what he was getting into its not your fault he wasn't man enuf to do what is right.
Dont do it. It takes 2 to make a baby and at 35 I think it's time he grew up. Once the baby's born he might change his mind.
Good luck. x
never sign any kind of paper. either you get mary with him or not better you abort it if possible
A child deserves to be financially supported by BOTH parents! Don't make the mistake of giving in to him. I wouldn't sign anything unless it was papers at the District Attorneys office giving them the o.k. to garnish his wages!
My first instinct would be not to sign. However if its the quickest way to get him out of your life, then do it. You dont need all his grief whilst your pregant. You need to move on with your new life and look forward to your new family member. Would you really want someone like that with those opinions round your baby anyway? Good luck
The law does not allow him to sign away his responsibilites/obligations to a child he made.
Tell him no way and you'll be seeing him in court for child support. You may want to contact a lawyer now to see if there is anything he should be paying for now, too.
If he is threatening you with harm, get a Protection From Abuse order against him. Do not take chances. He may want to "eliminate" the problem..if you know what I mean (and that means you, too)
Don't sign anything, try to get as much support from family and friends, if he keeps calling you get a restraint order against him, make sure you claim everything he is responsible for.
Contracts cannot supercede the laws of your state, they must abide by them, so it wouldnt be binding anyway, lol what a stupid guy
Go to the police, get a p.o. (protective order) against him. DON'T SIGN ANYTHING. Take him to court and make him pay for child support. To be 30 sister, you need some growing-up. The guys a jerk. Why you would want him around in the first place is beyond me, but, hey, I'm not you.
damn..well the good news is that if you look good ill step up and be the baby father the bad news is I'm only 17..lol..yall thought i was going to say i saved a bunch of money on my car insurance
If it is at harrasment level then go to the police.
You dont have to sign anything, even if he doesnt want anything to do with the child he still has to pay child support.
I'm really sorry for your situation but dont back down on this no matter how mch he wears you down. x
Tell him to get stuffed!
he's nuts! if he hurts you, call on the cops on him! go to court and suck him dry when the baby comes out!
hopefully he's just probably having a serious bout of the jitters! a lot of men go through that when they become fathers-to-be.
good luck and take care of the baby even if he wont!
DO NOT SIGN IT.
And, contact a lawyer. What he is doing is harassment and he has no right to do all this to you, especially when he knows you are pregnant. Just consider yourself lucky that you found out what a true loser he is before you got married or wasted more time with him. The fact that he does not want to pay for his own child shows what an egotistical bastard he is. If you fear for your safety, get a restraining order. You can still collect child support and have a restraining order against him.
Protect you and your child.
Good luck. And, congratulations! Don't let his nastiness ruin a truly beautiful thing.
Don't sign it at all. Call a lawyer and get legal advice. You could start getting money while you are pregnant to help with baby supplies, medicines, and clothes. Hay he helped make the baby and at 35 this guy needs to grow up and should damn well pay. Maybe he will feel differently once the baby is born? Who knows though, maybe he will thank you for not signing the papers. Here's to wishing the best for you. Either way it is a blessing with or without him, CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
Girl, do not sign anything! I don't think that would be legally binding anyways but you don't want to take any chances. This guy sounds like a complete loser - hell he's 35 tell him to
GROW UP!
he cant do that its illegal. sign nothing.
I strongly advise you against signing anything
your legal eagle friend
Tell him to piss off then report him to the police and be glad you discovered he was such an asshole before he destroyed you and your child's life.
If the two of you planned this pregnancy, then I would do 4 things.
1. Get a restraining order.
2. Get a good Lawyer.
3. Get Child Support (Don't sign anything unless your lawyer says OK)
4. Have that kid.
By the way, I am a guy, and a single parent with custody.
Oh my God. You poor thing. Don't sign anything. Don't let this *** harass you. Do you have the support of your family at least? Could you work and support the child on your own? Many women have had children on their own and made it work. You are stronger than you think. You can do this. It will be difficult and scary, but you can do this. There is a chance that once he sees the baby or gets used to the idea that he will grow up and step up to the plate, but you have to move forward as if he is a lost cause. He may just be panicing now and may regret his actions later. Nevertheless, you have to let him go and focus on you and your child now. Clear your head and take charge. Do not allow yourself or your baby become victims to this irresponsible man. If there is any chance at all for this guy to come around, it will only be after you have taken charge and shown him you neither need him nor will be intimidated by him. Good luck.
You are 30 and let a boyfriend knock you up?You dont have to sign anything..,get a restraining order or best yet move in with your parents if you are afraid.If I were you I would give the baby up for adoption..,too many children out here with no parents and end up in day care.Should have gotten married before getting knocked up.Man..,30 years old and asking for advice on yahoo.Give the baby up for adoption.
sue that bastard.......call up his family.tell them everything...even if this doesn't work than there is something called LAW.......get to the cops....and be brave
prepare 4 a wonderful event enjoy your baby screw him 4 every penny the callous btd
Don't you dare sign anything!! My ex and I were married and had a child,even named her the name he always wanted to name his child. I got awarded CS when we divorced, yet he still owes me about 50K. So, even if/when it's awarded to you, you still might not get it. But, do not sign anything giving anything away. He may even be able to sign his rights away as a father, and still owe CS. Tell him if he doesn't stop harrassing you, you will get a RO on him, then if he doesn't stop, DO IT! And get proof of the harrassment, I used to forward my calls from my ex to someone else, so I had verification he was harrassing me at work. Good luck and hang in there hon!
it sounds to me that both you and your child would be better off without that loser in your livesw, but whatever you do dont sign anything yet. if i were you i would see a solicitor and also get in touch with the police if he is harassing you all the time.
I'm feel sad that you are going through this alone. Don't sign ANYTHING even if your boyfriend turns physically violent. If you really want to keep this child, keep the child no matter what obstacles you face.
I have a friend who was contemplating abortion because her boyfriend disappeared on her too. But eventually, she kept her child and she's had no regrets ever since. Looking at her beautiful child everyday keeps her going. And every time when she entertained the thought of almost aborting her child made her shudder.
I do hope you are financially independent because honestly, you don't need this boyfriend to bring up your child. You've finally seen his true colours, but aren't we glad we found out before you got married? You need to join a group of other single mothers and they will tell you how to cope bringing up your child alone.
Meanwhile, convince your boyfriend (if he haunts you again) you don't need him nor his financial support.
Do you have siblings, cousins or parents? If you do, turn to them for support. An extra helping hand will help you through this difficult period.
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Answers:
If you planned the child hje should have thought about what he wanted first. My advise don't sign anything, ask your local Police station about getting a restraint order against him.
He put that life inside you and he should pay what he owes for that. If it was an accident my thought would be different.
By the way i am a man and i think his behavior is disgusting!
Ludacrispix. just in answer to your reply. It is possible for a parent to "sign out" of their parental rights. It is a simular concept to putting a child up for adopton. If both parents agree they can ensure that the "father" is removed from all records in relation to this child. He will not have to pay child support, but also looses ant rights to see that child ext. He can be treat as a totall stranger. I know this from personal experience (not my children i may add). I use father as a very loose word. anyone can get a Woman pregnant, but the real father is the one who sticks with the child to look after and care for it!
don't sign it and seek legal help. look online for women's organizations that may help with expenses.
call the cops have the ^*$%) charged with harrassment and hit him for child support .... DONT sign anything he wants you to sign.
Screw him! Take him for all he's worth unless..(you know him better than me) he's not a good person. If so sign his damn paper under the condition he NEVER has contact with the child!
He's going to have to take responsibility for his actions. Contact a solicitor, do not sign anything.
Nail him, he knew what he was getting into its not your fault he wasn't man enuf to do what is right.
Dont do it. It takes 2 to make a baby and at 35 I think it's time he grew up. Once the baby's born he might change his mind.
Good luck. x
never sign any kind of paper. either you get mary with him or not better you abort it if possible
A child deserves to be financially supported by BOTH parents! Don't make the mistake of giving in to him. I wouldn't sign anything unless it was papers at the District Attorneys office giving them the o.k. to garnish his wages!
My first instinct would be not to sign. However if its the quickest way to get him out of your life, then do it. You dont need all his grief whilst your pregant. You need to move on with your new life and look forward to your new family member. Would you really want someone like that with those opinions round your baby anyway? Good luck
The law does not allow him to sign away his responsibilites/obligations to a child he made.
Tell him no way and you'll be seeing him in court for child support. You may want to contact a lawyer now to see if there is anything he should be paying for now, too.
If he is threatening you with harm, get a Protection From Abuse order against him. Do not take chances. He may want to "eliminate" the problem..if you know what I mean (and that means you, too)
Don't sign anything, try to get as much support from family and friends, if he keeps calling you get a restraint order against him, make sure you claim everything he is responsible for.
Contracts cannot supercede the laws of your state, they must abide by them, so it wouldnt be binding anyway, lol what a stupid guy
Go to the police, get a p.o. (protective order) against him. DON'T SIGN ANYTHING. Take him to court and make him pay for child support. To be 30 sister, you need some growing-up. The guys a jerk. Why you would want him around in the first place is beyond me, but, hey, I'm not you.
damn..well the good news is that if you look good ill step up and be the baby father the bad news is I'm only 17..lol..yall thought i was going to say i saved a bunch of money on my car insurance
If it is at harrasment level then go to the police.
You dont have to sign anything, even if he doesnt want anything to do with the child he still has to pay child support.
I'm really sorry for your situation but dont back down on this no matter how mch he wears you down. x
Tell him to get stuffed!
he's nuts! if he hurts you, call on the cops on him! go to court and suck him dry when the baby comes out!
hopefully he's just probably having a serious bout of the jitters! a lot of men go through that when they become fathers-to-be.
good luck and take care of the baby even if he wont!
DO NOT SIGN IT.
And, contact a lawyer. What he is doing is harassment and he has no right to do all this to you, especially when he knows you are pregnant. Just consider yourself lucky that you found out what a true loser he is before you got married or wasted more time with him. The fact that he does not want to pay for his own child shows what an egotistical bastard he is. If you fear for your safety, get a restraining order. You can still collect child support and have a restraining order against him.
Protect you and your child.
Good luck. And, congratulations! Don't let his nastiness ruin a truly beautiful thing.
Don't sign it at all. Call a lawyer and get legal advice. You could start getting money while you are pregnant to help with baby supplies, medicines, and clothes. Hay he helped make the baby and at 35 this guy needs to grow up and should damn well pay. Maybe he will feel differently once the baby is born? Who knows though, maybe he will thank you for not signing the papers. Here's to wishing the best for you. Either way it is a blessing with or without him, CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
Girl, do not sign anything! I don't think that would be legally binding anyways but you don't want to take any chances. This guy sounds like a complete loser - hell he's 35 tell him to
GROW UP!
he cant do that its illegal. sign nothing.
I strongly advise you against signing anything
your legal eagle friend
Tell him to piss off then report him to the police and be glad you discovered he was such an asshole before he destroyed you and your child's life.
If the two of you planned this pregnancy, then I would do 4 things.
1. Get a restraining order.
2. Get a good Lawyer.
3. Get Child Support (Don't sign anything unless your lawyer says OK)
4. Have that kid.
By the way, I am a guy, and a single parent with custody.
Oh my God. You poor thing. Don't sign anything. Don't let this *** harass you. Do you have the support of your family at least? Could you work and support the child on your own? Many women have had children on their own and made it work. You are stronger than you think. You can do this. It will be difficult and scary, but you can do this. There is a chance that once he sees the baby or gets used to the idea that he will grow up and step up to the plate, but you have to move forward as if he is a lost cause. He may just be panicing now and may regret his actions later. Nevertheless, you have to let him go and focus on you and your child now. Clear your head and take charge. Do not allow yourself or your baby become victims to this irresponsible man. If there is any chance at all for this guy to come around, it will only be after you have taken charge and shown him you neither need him nor will be intimidated by him. Good luck.
You are 30 and let a boyfriend knock you up?You dont have to sign anything..,get a restraining order or best yet move in with your parents if you are afraid.If I were you I would give the baby up for adoption..,too many children out here with no parents and end up in day care.Should have gotten married before getting knocked up.Man..,30 years old and asking for advice on yahoo.Give the baby up for adoption.
sue that bastard.......call up his family.tell them everything...even if this doesn't work than there is something called LAW.......get to the cops....and be brave
prepare 4 a wonderful event enjoy your baby screw him 4 every penny the callous btd
Don't you dare sign anything!! My ex and I were married and had a child,even named her the name he always wanted to name his child. I got awarded CS when we divorced, yet he still owes me about 50K. So, even if/when it's awarded to you, you still might not get it. But, do not sign anything giving anything away. He may even be able to sign his rights away as a father, and still owe CS. Tell him if he doesn't stop harrassing you, you will get a RO on him, then if he doesn't stop, DO IT! And get proof of the harrassment, I used to forward my calls from my ex to someone else, so I had verification he was harrassing me at work. Good luck and hang in there hon!
it sounds to me that both you and your child would be better off without that loser in your livesw, but whatever you do dont sign anything yet. if i were you i would see a solicitor and also get in touch with the police if he is harassing you all the time.
I'm feel sad that you are going through this alone. Don't sign ANYTHING even if your boyfriend turns physically violent. If you really want to keep this child, keep the child no matter what obstacles you face.
I have a friend who was contemplating abortion because her boyfriend disappeared on her too. But eventually, she kept her child and she's had no regrets ever since. Looking at her beautiful child everyday keeps her going. And every time when she entertained the thought of almost aborting her child made her shudder.
I do hope you are financially independent because honestly, you don't need this boyfriend to bring up your child. You've finally seen his true colours, but aren't we glad we found out before you got married? You need to join a group of other single mothers and they will tell you how to cope bringing up your child alone.
Meanwhile, convince your boyfriend (if he haunts you again) you don't need him nor his financial support.
Do you have siblings, cousins or parents? If you do, turn to them for support. An extra helping hand will help you through this difficult period.
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