Mum's out there! What time should a 13 year old go to bed?
Having the same old argument with my 13 yr old boy about what time he has to go to bed, i send him at 9 on a school night and 10 at the weekend..He says that all his friends are allowed to stay up till 11 and it's just noot faaaaaaaaair.What do u think?.I need a bit of me time!
Answers:
dont worry
you are being a GREAT mom!!
all kids should go to bed NO later than 9:30 on school nights.
those kids that say that they can stay up to 11 or even later, are just stupid! their parents have problems! and then those kids parents wonder why their son/daughter is doing so bad school? its because kids dont get enough sleep and they are too lazy to do any school work!!
Im a 13 year old also. I LOVe going to bed at 9 on school nights! even thought i do get mad cause there are some really great shows on at like 10 or something, but i feel very good in the morning. i do well in school, i dont have to be late for anything, because i wake up on time cause i got enough sleep.
just let him know how inportant it is to have a good night sleep and how he will do better in school. If you get him used to going to bed at 9:00 he will get with the routeen and go to bed without even having his parents telling him to go to bed.
Keep it!!
Your doing GREAT!!
I let my 12 year old stay up till 11.
I'd say that's reasonable.
However, maybe ONCE and a while, to show him you trust him and respect him, let him stay up till eleven. But not all the time.
I think 9pm on school nights is fair & 10pm at the weekend is okay also.
If he has somewhere special to go then maybe you could be flexible & allow him an extra 30 minutes occassionally.
mine can stay up as long as he is in his room, he has bloomin everything in there so i do get peace .
Your schedule is perfect already
Tell your son that when he can get himself up for school in the mornings in time to have breakfast, wash and dress, he can go to bed when he likes! Also would he still want what all his friends get if they were given a clip round the ear for arguing with their mums?
9:30 until they are in high school.
I think that 9 on school nights is great and 10 on the weekend is very reasonable. I know I have 3 kids and if they stayed up any later than that mommy would not be a very pleasant person to deal with!
9pm that gives them plenty of time to be rested up for school
9 is reasonable on a school night.
the more you nag the more he will stay up later and later.. best thing is too leave them get on with it . kids are soo resilient at that age.. as long as he is not roaming the streets or on the net until midnight whats the problem? My daughter was surfing the net until 11pm some nights. but she always got up for school, managed 8 GCSE's at grade c or above and has 2 A levels she is only 17! Give him a break. explain you need your time but maybe he could go to his room and read or something.
school night 9:30 and weenkend is good 10:00
If he has school in the morning, you could negociate a 10:30 PM.
If he has school in the afternoon, he can stay up until 00:00.
It mostly depends on how he organizes himself.
How long it takes for him to wake up, get dressed etc. When he does his homework.
My opinion is that the best thing you can do is to tell him to go to bed at 10:30 PM in the weekdays. That way you both get to win, the time difference is small, but he will appreciate it.
And on Fridays and Saturdays let him stay up until ~midnight.
It sounds pretty fair to me. And he would be getting the basic 7-8 hours of sleep.Give my idea a try! See how he reacts.
It's too early in my opinion.
Make this deal with him and he will surely appreciate.
He goes to bed at 11, but at 9 he retires to his room to do his homework, play, read listen to music or play computer, it's his 2 hours. that way you both have a bit of me time.
Bath at sometime between 9 and 9:30 on a schoolday, later at weekends or holidays.
Ooooh, it's just soooooooooooo unfaaaaaaaaair. Yes we all know that one. I tend to reply, in my best Mary Poppins voice "Well life is full of little unfairnesses, so I'm just giving you plenty of practice. Shift it, NOW!"
Sounds good to me! He needs his sleep he is a growing boy.
9pm weekdays 10pm weekends
On a school night my 13yr old went to bed at 9.30 - watched TV or read a book then lights out at 10pm. When there was no school she stayed up till 11pm - 12midnight.
Well you could try 11 on the weekends and if he has no problem getting up for school in the mornings then fine but if he does then keep it at 10
I think your totally reasonable. 9pm on a school night is late enough and 10 on a weekend. They always say their friends don't do this or that. Stick to your guns.
First of all you are the parent,this is your house, whatever, to what the other kids do.
I dont think it is unreasonable to have a night bedtime especially on a school night. Studies have shown that kids during school years, need to get a minimum of 8-10 hrs. a night for both growth as well as functioning throughout the day. YOu know what is best for him, regardless as to what he thinks. Be supportive of his wants, but let him know on this issue, right now, there is no discussion. Some things we need to be flexible about right? Decide if there is any room for flexibility on this issue and go from there. Good luck ;)
Oh yeah here we go the old 'arry enfields' set in my son is now 21 and I have a 16 year old daughter, I know that feeling of they can do this and they can do that, have a bit of a compromise where by you you agree to a 9.30 pm shut down through the week and say a 10.30 at the weekend, I agree with you and stick to your guns you have compromised to a certain extent and I personally do not think they should be up any later at that age it will affect their education.
I always had to be in my room by 9 PM but I didn't have to in bed by then.if he wants to stay up till 11 in his room let him.
My personal opinion is that you seem to have got it right. He is trying to push his luck and it may be that you need to gain some support from his teacher. If he is coping well with his school work you could every now and again give him a reward of a special night out that would go beyond the normal bedtime. That would show your appreciation for his efforts and give him some thing to work toward. It needn't be anything too expensive - just ensure that he is aware that this is the compromise you are prepared to make as a result of him keeping to the ground rules you have set, working hard etc.
Good Luck.
I think 9.30 is fair. My 9 year old goes to bed at 9 even though his bedtime is 8.30. They just dont like bedtime do they? He reads in bed until 9 and the lights are out at 9 on the dot whether its fair or not. Weekends i'm more flexible and more often than not his droopy eyes will lead him to his bed. Try this experiment, dont set a bedtime at the weekend and i can guarantee you that he will let you know when hes ready for bed and it wont be as late as you imagtne
9 is fine on school nights, but let him stay up until 11 on weekends as long as he is not bothering you or keeping you up. Maybe use this as a way to have him cooperate on another issue, like better grades, more respect towards you or keeping up his room. I always love bargaining to get something out of it for me.
he is definatly testing you. Using the nagging approach, made worse by the whole 'just half way through puberty/ hormones changing' scenario. I taught in a secondary school last year and I have heard all the stories. If he says all his friends stay up till 11, that means one or two do, but not all his friends. He is laying it on and clearly want to be 'cool' amongst his friends.
However, I think you have it just right. Definatly 9 on a school night.thats late enough. If its any later he will get ratty the next day and start loosing attention in class. You could stretch to 11 on a friday/sat night though as its a weekend. If you give a little but still stand firm then you will be winning all the way.
Good luck!
It depends to some extent what time he needs to get up and what amount of sleep he really needs. I go bed at 1am and get up at 7.45am (I'm not 13). It also depends whether he's a lark or an night owl. I've always preferred going to bed late. I'm writing this at 00:05am and it's the best time of the day!
If you need a bit of "me" time, you can't penalise the boy for your needs. (pm does seem a bit early and in fact the boy is telling you so. He won't die if he goes to bed later, but maybe the real issue isn't about him but it's about you. You need some time alone so maybe he should be left to his own devices in his own room so you can chill out and at the same time negotiate a better bedtime for him. 13 is an odd age, they're kind of kicking off your control and you need to negotiate more than tell. If you keep forcing it'll only cause both of you grief. Put the problem back at him and allow him to start making some choices of his own, you can make sure the consequences aren't too dire.
If it helps, you're lucky he's not a girl! Mine is 14 and has suddenly become the spawn of satan. Want to swap?
Try a compromise for 9:30 on a school night and 11 on weekends.
I think 9 is a lil bit harsh.maybe u should let him stay up till at least 930.and for the weekends..I think u sohuld let him stay up till like 11 or 1130 be a lil more flexible.good luck!!
I go for 10 o'clock on a school night, half 11 on weekends.
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Answers:
dont worry
you are being a GREAT mom!!
all kids should go to bed NO later than 9:30 on school nights.
those kids that say that they can stay up to 11 or even later, are just stupid! their parents have problems! and then those kids parents wonder why their son/daughter is doing so bad school? its because kids dont get enough sleep and they are too lazy to do any school work!!
Im a 13 year old also. I LOVe going to bed at 9 on school nights! even thought i do get mad cause there are some really great shows on at like 10 or something, but i feel very good in the morning. i do well in school, i dont have to be late for anything, because i wake up on time cause i got enough sleep.
just let him know how inportant it is to have a good night sleep and how he will do better in school. If you get him used to going to bed at 9:00 he will get with the routeen and go to bed without even having his parents telling him to go to bed.
Keep it!!
Your doing GREAT!!
I let my 12 year old stay up till 11.
I'd say that's reasonable.
However, maybe ONCE and a while, to show him you trust him and respect him, let him stay up till eleven. But not all the time.
I think 9pm on school nights is fair & 10pm at the weekend is okay also.
If he has somewhere special to go then maybe you could be flexible & allow him an extra 30 minutes occassionally.
mine can stay up as long as he is in his room, he has bloomin everything in there so i do get peace .
Your schedule is perfect already
Tell your son that when he can get himself up for school in the mornings in time to have breakfast, wash and dress, he can go to bed when he likes! Also would he still want what all his friends get if they were given a clip round the ear for arguing with their mums?
9:30 until they are in high school.
I think that 9 on school nights is great and 10 on the weekend is very reasonable. I know I have 3 kids and if they stayed up any later than that mommy would not be a very pleasant person to deal with!
9pm that gives them plenty of time to be rested up for school
9 is reasonable on a school night.
the more you nag the more he will stay up later and later.. best thing is too leave them get on with it . kids are soo resilient at that age.. as long as he is not roaming the streets or on the net until midnight whats the problem? My daughter was surfing the net until 11pm some nights. but she always got up for school, managed 8 GCSE's at grade c or above and has 2 A levels she is only 17! Give him a break. explain you need your time but maybe he could go to his room and read or something.
school night 9:30 and weenkend is good 10:00
If he has school in the morning, you could negociate a 10:30 PM.
If he has school in the afternoon, he can stay up until 00:00.
It mostly depends on how he organizes himself.
How long it takes for him to wake up, get dressed etc. When he does his homework.
My opinion is that the best thing you can do is to tell him to go to bed at 10:30 PM in the weekdays. That way you both get to win, the time difference is small, but he will appreciate it.
And on Fridays and Saturdays let him stay up until ~midnight.
It sounds pretty fair to me. And he would be getting the basic 7-8 hours of sleep.Give my idea a try! See how he reacts.
It's too early in my opinion.
Make this deal with him and he will surely appreciate.
He goes to bed at 11, but at 9 he retires to his room to do his homework, play, read listen to music or play computer, it's his 2 hours. that way you both have a bit of me time.
Bath at sometime between 9 and 9:30 on a schoolday, later at weekends or holidays.
Ooooh, it's just soooooooooooo unfaaaaaaaaair. Yes we all know that one. I tend to reply, in my best Mary Poppins voice "Well life is full of little unfairnesses, so I'm just giving you plenty of practice. Shift it, NOW!"
Sounds good to me! He needs his sleep he is a growing boy.
9pm weekdays 10pm weekends
On a school night my 13yr old went to bed at 9.30 - watched TV or read a book then lights out at 10pm. When there was no school she stayed up till 11pm - 12midnight.
Well you could try 11 on the weekends and if he has no problem getting up for school in the mornings then fine but if he does then keep it at 10
I think your totally reasonable. 9pm on a school night is late enough and 10 on a weekend. They always say their friends don't do this or that. Stick to your guns.
First of all you are the parent,this is your house, whatever, to what the other kids do.
I dont think it is unreasonable to have a night bedtime especially on a school night. Studies have shown that kids during school years, need to get a minimum of 8-10 hrs. a night for both growth as well as functioning throughout the day. YOu know what is best for him, regardless as to what he thinks. Be supportive of his wants, but let him know on this issue, right now, there is no discussion. Some things we need to be flexible about right? Decide if there is any room for flexibility on this issue and go from there. Good luck ;)
Oh yeah here we go the old 'arry enfields' set in my son is now 21 and I have a 16 year old daughter, I know that feeling of they can do this and they can do that, have a bit of a compromise where by you you agree to a 9.30 pm shut down through the week and say a 10.30 at the weekend, I agree with you and stick to your guns you have compromised to a certain extent and I personally do not think they should be up any later at that age it will affect their education.
I always had to be in my room by 9 PM but I didn't have to in bed by then.if he wants to stay up till 11 in his room let him.
My personal opinion is that you seem to have got it right. He is trying to push his luck and it may be that you need to gain some support from his teacher. If he is coping well with his school work you could every now and again give him a reward of a special night out that would go beyond the normal bedtime. That would show your appreciation for his efforts and give him some thing to work toward. It needn't be anything too expensive - just ensure that he is aware that this is the compromise you are prepared to make as a result of him keeping to the ground rules you have set, working hard etc.
Good Luck.
I think 9.30 is fair. My 9 year old goes to bed at 9 even though his bedtime is 8.30. They just dont like bedtime do they? He reads in bed until 9 and the lights are out at 9 on the dot whether its fair or not. Weekends i'm more flexible and more often than not his droopy eyes will lead him to his bed. Try this experiment, dont set a bedtime at the weekend and i can guarantee you that he will let you know when hes ready for bed and it wont be as late as you imagtne
9 is fine on school nights, but let him stay up until 11 on weekends as long as he is not bothering you or keeping you up. Maybe use this as a way to have him cooperate on another issue, like better grades, more respect towards you or keeping up his room. I always love bargaining to get something out of it for me.
he is definatly testing you. Using the nagging approach, made worse by the whole 'just half way through puberty/ hormones changing' scenario. I taught in a secondary school last year and I have heard all the stories. If he says all his friends stay up till 11, that means one or two do, but not all his friends. He is laying it on and clearly want to be 'cool' amongst his friends.
However, I think you have it just right. Definatly 9 on a school night.thats late enough. If its any later he will get ratty the next day and start loosing attention in class. You could stretch to 11 on a friday/sat night though as its a weekend. If you give a little but still stand firm then you will be winning all the way.
Good luck!
It depends to some extent what time he needs to get up and what amount of sleep he really needs. I go bed at 1am and get up at 7.45am (I'm not 13). It also depends whether he's a lark or an night owl. I've always preferred going to bed late. I'm writing this at 00:05am and it's the best time of the day!
If you need a bit of "me" time, you can't penalise the boy for your needs. (pm does seem a bit early and in fact the boy is telling you so. He won't die if he goes to bed later, but maybe the real issue isn't about him but it's about you. You need some time alone so maybe he should be left to his own devices in his own room so you can chill out and at the same time negotiate a better bedtime for him. 13 is an odd age, they're kind of kicking off your control and you need to negotiate more than tell. If you keep forcing it'll only cause both of you grief. Put the problem back at him and allow him to start making some choices of his own, you can make sure the consequences aren't too dire.
If it helps, you're lucky he's not a girl! Mine is 14 and has suddenly become the spawn of satan. Want to swap?
Try a compromise for 9:30 on a school night and 11 on weekends.
I think 9 is a lil bit harsh.maybe u should let him stay up till at least 930.and for the weekends..I think u sohuld let him stay up till like 11 or 1130 be a lil more flexible.good luck!!
I go for 10 o'clock on a school night, half 11 on weekends.
Oh sorry, I'm a Dad
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