Is this right?
My friend had a beautiful baby girl yesterday by c section .She was fully knocked by aneasthetic. Her husband wasnt allowed in the room when it was delivered because the doctor said most men faint? and when it had been born they didnt gave the baby to them to hold they just put it in a cot beside the bed 4 hours later they still hadnt held it (There was no nurse around to ask) . She could barely move and the husband wasnt shown how to hold it.
Also the nurse gave the baby a bottle of formula milk when it was born she said it was hungry this was before the mother woke up.
Me and my friend are british we are living in turkey she is married to a turkish man.
We are both only 22 so I was wondering was this proccedure correct it all seemed a bit odd to me
Answers:
If the mom was fully knocked out they won't let the dad watch but a nuse should have let him hold the baby!
i don't know the procedure, but i know that its vital for the devolopment of a baby emotionally and for bonding with parents that the parents should have pyshical contact immedietly.
There doesn't seem to be much love in muslim cultures.
I am from New York, and have had 2 c sections. Both times my partner was aloud in the room. He even got to hold the baby right after. I was out for a few hours so the nurse gave the baby water bottles. Maybe the hospital she went to is different,.
I don't know how things work in Turkey, but here in the US the man is allowed in the operating room during the c section, the mother is usually awake, but doesn't feel the operation. The husband is allowed to hold the baby as soon as its born, they clean up the baby and go to the room. The mother is suppose to attempt breast feeding, and if that doesn't work THEN AND ONLY THEN do they give the baby formula. There is always someone to ask questions to, and you usually have all the information you need about the baby. That's about as much as I know. Hope I helped.
it just might be the procedure over there but def not in ireland i had my baby by section and althought i was awake i wasnt able to hold her my partner was given our daughter to hold and he was able to nurse her till i was outta recovery. seems strange the way the do things over there.
I don't know about Turkey hospitals, but in the US this is not the way hospitals handle standard c sections. The father would be in the room and the mother would not be completely knocked out. Also the baby would not have been given formula unless the staff knew that the mother was not going to breast feed.
Stop going to the county hospitals.
It seems odd by British standards. But don't worry about it. Just look on the bright side - they have a beautiful, healthy baby girl - isn't that all that matters?
What? That's ridiculous! The husband should have been allowed to go in after. Ohmigawd..lol. You should complain. Idiots. Absolute idiots. This is why I hate hospitals. Nobody was there to hold the baby that's just plain sad and uncalled for.
It may just be different i'm sure they didn't swop it or a changling or anything. remember different country different culture. it may not have been very freindly for us westerners but it does sound like any serious harm was done, now stop worrying and go and give the baby a cuddle.
OK a "C" section is an operation that requires a sugeons full attention, he can't be distracted by hysterical family members, & fainting husbands. The mother was knocked out of action, so was her baby supposed to be left to starve until the mom woke up? So far it sounds alright to me.
As for the father not knowing how to pick the baby up, he had 9 months to learn that.
You live in Turkey, so I guess that if that is the way things are done in Turkey, & it is below British standards, then maybe your friend should have had the baby in a British hopital.
i dont really know i t might depend on the doctor. but my friend had a c section and her husban got to be in the room both times and held the baby. thats doesnt seem right that no one got to hold the baby. if the mother was passed out they give the baby to the father then when the mother wakes up they let her hold her child
Doesn't seem right to me, perhaps its turkish procedure,don't agree with the formula thing either, but there is no way, if the baby was in a cot beside the bed, would anyone stop me from holding my own child, they themselves would be in another ward receiving treatment, seems like not to have a baby in Turkey!
I had a friend that had a c section and they let the father hold the baby son after but he was also in the room and the grandmother of the baby was also in the room! they had a screen up to where they couldn't see anything they could only see the mom
Well first of all that sounds like a horrible hospital, the liberties they took first of all were so archaic! I am a mother of six and breast fed each of them! When my children were born I immediately held each of them, given to me by the attending nurse while I was sewn up, I've had three c-sections. With the exception of one of my children who was delivered c-section prematurely the fathers were allowed to share in the care of my children from birth. I think that hospital sucks! Congratulate your friend for me will u? Try not to impose on her your views regarding the care the hospital failed to show until she get the rest she is due. The less stress she has to contend with the better for her and her new baby.
My husband cut the umbilical cords of both of our children. The procedures you describe were fairly typical in the USA in the 50s/60s and started to change as women got more informed.
Your poor friends and their baby. What a terrible beginning.
if the mum was under aneasthetic then they simply dont allow her partner in the room. his role in birthing is to support the mother & when asleep she doesnt need support - he could also not handle witnessing the operation whith his partner asleep. its very different from being awake & is often only done in emergencies.
however i find it very strange that the midwife didnt have him hold his child after birth - as long as the baby is healthy human interaction is encourgaed. im sure if he asked he would have been able to hold the baby, its usually assumed that they dont need to be shown how - babys arent as breakable as they look.
babys arent usually hungry when they are born, but they will suckle if encouraged. there is no reason why the baby couldnt wait till the mother was awake & breastfed or been fed by its father - i guess different hospitals run things in a differnt way. heck, some hospitals of neighbouring towns are run differently.
i do agree that the situation is a bit odd, many people when faced with doctors & nurses often wait to be given instructions, but by speaking up & expressing their own views, your friends experience could have been different. the baby is *theirs* they are in charge, i hope that all is well now & that she is beginning her recovery with plenty of support.
From your information gathered concerning the birth of a baby
girl by your friend who underwent c-ops, I think it's fine with
the procedure as the baby girl was born healthy and she was
fed by the nurse. It was only a few hours that the baby was not
with her mom as she was unable to hold her due to anesthetic
effect.
In the first place, her husband, who is waiting outside, should
quickly request from the doctor or nurse to see and hold his
baby girl. He should then insist that he can manage and not
faint in the delivery room. If he had gone in to see and hold the
baby girl, the situation would then be different. The most
important thing is that the baby girl is born healthy and normal
and the mother is coming around fine.
As for the doctor and the nurse, you must understand that they
have other patients to see and I believe that, since it's a
healthy and normal baby girl, they went about to care for
other patients.
With my c section i had a friend in the room with me. she held the baby and fed him while they did my stiches. This hospital may have been different. Congrats to your friend!
That's not right at all, usually parents are asked how they intend to feed baby. And I would be very angry if the nurses weren't around..
It is very important for the child to have physical contact with one or both of the parents immediatley after birth. Also, if they were waiting for the mommy to wake up for feedings, they should have given the baby sugar water instead of formula. But, this is the United States.
Here in the UK that wouldn't happen.
Skin to skin contact is VERY important to a newborn baby and I know most hospitals (NHS Included) encouarge Dad to do it if Mum can't for whatever reason.
Men can also be present in the C-Section delivery room and generally woman are given a local anisthetic (epidural) so they are awake throughout the procedure.
As for feeding the baby, this might be normal if Mum is to tired or weak.
It seems the Turkish have a different attitude about this.
I hope your friend is doing well and has bonded with baby.
((HUGS)) To all, doesn't sound like the nice experiance birth should be.
i dont think its right a complaint should be made howver im also aware of many cases where this happens i live in the uk
Hi, When I had my son almost 12 years ago I was under a general too. The answer to the 1st part is a definite NO, Husbands or partners are not allowed in the room unless the mum is awake for the c section, they are only allowed in to give support to her and help her to feel more at ease. This is not an issue if she is asleep. My son had also been given a bottle before i had woken up. my son had just been wheeled down to my bedside and left with us, but i have to say that once there he was put in his dad's arms for a cuddle. As most people know the 1st few hours of a baby's life is when it bonds most to mum and dad. they needed to have skin to skin contact really. (I do live in the UK though)
Dad wouldent of been allowed in if this was a unplaned cc. and mum would not be abel to hold baby alone till she had realy come round, However dad should have been able to hold baby as soon as all was finished in theatre
Definately not right compared to English standards, fathers are allowed in theatre, there are enough people in the room to look after him if he does faint, and dad should of been able to hold the baby immediatly once she was checked and wrapped up.This is what we did when I assisted in theatre for C sections. Bonding between baby and parents is very important.
That would be all wrong if it happened in the United States, but I know that customs differ everywhere.
I had a c-section back in February, and this is how it went:
I had a spinal (numb from the chest down), because here they only knock you out if it's an emergency procedure. After everything was all set up, they let my boyfriend come in, and he had a little stool set up by my head. There was a paper curtain set up, so neither of us could see what was happening.
At the moment the were going to take the baby out, they lowered the curatain so we could see him being born, but only because I asked them to. That isn't a normal part of the procedure.
The baby and his daddy were taken to a warming table at the side of the room, and the baby was wiped off a little, wrapped up snug in a blanket, and had a hat put on. Then they let me see him, and he and his daddy were taken to the nursery (his daddy was allowed to carry him) where they cleaned him up the rest of the way, checked him over well, and weighed and measured him.
I was still in the operating room for another 30 minutes, but someone called in and told me the weight and length.
I was taken back to my room, and within a few minutes, a nurse escorted my boyfriend and my son into the room, where I was able to hold him for a moment, but then had to have my boyfriend hold him because I was shaking badly because of a reaction to the spinal.
We stayed in the room, just the three of us for about a half an hour, and I was able to nurse him for the first time, even though the nurses explained to me that he wasn't really hungry yet, but the sooner you nurse, the sooner he'd get used to it, and the sooner my milk would come in.
There was one nurse that gave my son bottles while we were in the hospital, but she got into trouble for it, because that interfered with my breast feeding.
I think that if I were your friends husband, I would have picked the baby up anyway. There should be no need to ask someone if you can pick up your own child, so long as the baby was perfectly healthy and not hooked up to some kind of machines, or anything.
I'm sorry that she had a not-so-good birthing experience, and congrats on her new baby girl!
it sounds odd to me too
all my mates have has c sections a partner has always been around in the room mum is usually awake throughout and baby is given to mum to see taken by nurse to be wrapped up and weighed then given to partner to hold it seems a bit strange to me.
no way, i had a c section an emergency 1 and my partner was there
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Also the nurse gave the baby a bottle of formula milk when it was born she said it was hungry this was before the mother woke up.
Me and my friend are british we are living in turkey she is married to a turkish man.
We are both only 22 so I was wondering was this proccedure correct it all seemed a bit odd to me
Answers:
If the mom was fully knocked out they won't let the dad watch but a nuse should have let him hold the baby!
i don't know the procedure, but i know that its vital for the devolopment of a baby emotionally and for bonding with parents that the parents should have pyshical contact immedietly.
There doesn't seem to be much love in muslim cultures.
I am from New York, and have had 2 c sections. Both times my partner was aloud in the room. He even got to hold the baby right after. I was out for a few hours so the nurse gave the baby water bottles. Maybe the hospital she went to is different,.
I don't know how things work in Turkey, but here in the US the man is allowed in the operating room during the c section, the mother is usually awake, but doesn't feel the operation. The husband is allowed to hold the baby as soon as its born, they clean up the baby and go to the room. The mother is suppose to attempt breast feeding, and if that doesn't work THEN AND ONLY THEN do they give the baby formula. There is always someone to ask questions to, and you usually have all the information you need about the baby. That's about as much as I know. Hope I helped.
it just might be the procedure over there but def not in ireland i had my baby by section and althought i was awake i wasnt able to hold her my partner was given our daughter to hold and he was able to nurse her till i was outta recovery. seems strange the way the do things over there.
I don't know about Turkey hospitals, but in the US this is not the way hospitals handle standard c sections. The father would be in the room and the mother would not be completely knocked out. Also the baby would not have been given formula unless the staff knew that the mother was not going to breast feed.
Stop going to the county hospitals.
It seems odd by British standards. But don't worry about it. Just look on the bright side - they have a beautiful, healthy baby girl - isn't that all that matters?
What? That's ridiculous! The husband should have been allowed to go in after. Ohmigawd..lol. You should complain. Idiots. Absolute idiots. This is why I hate hospitals. Nobody was there to hold the baby that's just plain sad and uncalled for.
It may just be different i'm sure they didn't swop it or a changling or anything. remember different country different culture. it may not have been very freindly for us westerners but it does sound like any serious harm was done, now stop worrying and go and give the baby a cuddle.
OK a "C" section is an operation that requires a sugeons full attention, he can't be distracted by hysterical family members, & fainting husbands. The mother was knocked out of action, so was her baby supposed to be left to starve until the mom woke up? So far it sounds alright to me.
As for the father not knowing how to pick the baby up, he had 9 months to learn that.
You live in Turkey, so I guess that if that is the way things are done in Turkey, & it is below British standards, then maybe your friend should have had the baby in a British hopital.
i dont really know i t might depend on the doctor. but my friend had a c section and her husban got to be in the room both times and held the baby. thats doesnt seem right that no one got to hold the baby. if the mother was passed out they give the baby to the father then when the mother wakes up they let her hold her child
Doesn't seem right to me, perhaps its turkish procedure,don't agree with the formula thing either, but there is no way, if the baby was in a cot beside the bed, would anyone stop me from holding my own child, they themselves would be in another ward receiving treatment, seems like not to have a baby in Turkey!
I had a friend that had a c section and they let the father hold the baby son after but he was also in the room and the grandmother of the baby was also in the room! they had a screen up to where they couldn't see anything they could only see the mom
Well first of all that sounds like a horrible hospital, the liberties they took first of all were so archaic! I am a mother of six and breast fed each of them! When my children were born I immediately held each of them, given to me by the attending nurse while I was sewn up, I've had three c-sections. With the exception of one of my children who was delivered c-section prematurely the fathers were allowed to share in the care of my children from birth. I think that hospital sucks! Congratulate your friend for me will u? Try not to impose on her your views regarding the care the hospital failed to show until she get the rest she is due. The less stress she has to contend with the better for her and her new baby.
My husband cut the umbilical cords of both of our children. The procedures you describe were fairly typical in the USA in the 50s/60s and started to change as women got more informed.
Your poor friends and their baby. What a terrible beginning.
if the mum was under aneasthetic then they simply dont allow her partner in the room. his role in birthing is to support the mother & when asleep she doesnt need support - he could also not handle witnessing the operation whith his partner asleep. its very different from being awake & is often only done in emergencies.
however i find it very strange that the midwife didnt have him hold his child after birth - as long as the baby is healthy human interaction is encourgaed. im sure if he asked he would have been able to hold the baby, its usually assumed that they dont need to be shown how - babys arent as breakable as they look.
babys arent usually hungry when they are born, but they will suckle if encouraged. there is no reason why the baby couldnt wait till the mother was awake & breastfed or been fed by its father - i guess different hospitals run things in a differnt way. heck, some hospitals of neighbouring towns are run differently.
i do agree that the situation is a bit odd, many people when faced with doctors & nurses often wait to be given instructions, but by speaking up & expressing their own views, your friends experience could have been different. the baby is *theirs* they are in charge, i hope that all is well now & that she is beginning her recovery with plenty of support.
From your information gathered concerning the birth of a baby
girl by your friend who underwent c-ops, I think it's fine with
the procedure as the baby girl was born healthy and she was
fed by the nurse. It was only a few hours that the baby was not
with her mom as she was unable to hold her due to anesthetic
effect.
In the first place, her husband, who is waiting outside, should
quickly request from the doctor or nurse to see and hold his
baby girl. He should then insist that he can manage and not
faint in the delivery room. If he had gone in to see and hold the
baby girl, the situation would then be different. The most
important thing is that the baby girl is born healthy and normal
and the mother is coming around fine.
As for the doctor and the nurse, you must understand that they
have other patients to see and I believe that, since it's a
healthy and normal baby girl, they went about to care for
other patients.
With my c section i had a friend in the room with me. she held the baby and fed him while they did my stiches. This hospital may have been different. Congrats to your friend!
That's not right at all, usually parents are asked how they intend to feed baby. And I would be very angry if the nurses weren't around..
It is very important for the child to have physical contact with one or both of the parents immediatley after birth. Also, if they were waiting for the mommy to wake up for feedings, they should have given the baby sugar water instead of formula. But, this is the United States.
Here in the UK that wouldn't happen.
Skin to skin contact is VERY important to a newborn baby and I know most hospitals (NHS Included) encouarge Dad to do it if Mum can't for whatever reason.
Men can also be present in the C-Section delivery room and generally woman are given a local anisthetic (epidural) so they are awake throughout the procedure.
As for feeding the baby, this might be normal if Mum is to tired or weak.
It seems the Turkish have a different attitude about this.
I hope your friend is doing well and has bonded with baby.
((HUGS)) To all, doesn't sound like the nice experiance birth should be.
i dont think its right a complaint should be made howver im also aware of many cases where this happens i live in the uk
Hi, When I had my son almost 12 years ago I was under a general too. The answer to the 1st part is a definite NO, Husbands or partners are not allowed in the room unless the mum is awake for the c section, they are only allowed in to give support to her and help her to feel more at ease. This is not an issue if she is asleep. My son had also been given a bottle before i had woken up. my son had just been wheeled down to my bedside and left with us, but i have to say that once there he was put in his dad's arms for a cuddle. As most people know the 1st few hours of a baby's life is when it bonds most to mum and dad. they needed to have skin to skin contact really. (I do live in the UK though)
Dad wouldent of been allowed in if this was a unplaned cc. and mum would not be abel to hold baby alone till she had realy come round, However dad should have been able to hold baby as soon as all was finished in theatre
Definately not right compared to English standards, fathers are allowed in theatre, there are enough people in the room to look after him if he does faint, and dad should of been able to hold the baby immediatly once she was checked and wrapped up.This is what we did when I assisted in theatre for C sections. Bonding between baby and parents is very important.
That would be all wrong if it happened in the United States, but I know that customs differ everywhere.
I had a c-section back in February, and this is how it went:
I had a spinal (numb from the chest down), because here they only knock you out if it's an emergency procedure. After everything was all set up, they let my boyfriend come in, and he had a little stool set up by my head. There was a paper curtain set up, so neither of us could see what was happening.
At the moment the were going to take the baby out, they lowered the curatain so we could see him being born, but only because I asked them to. That isn't a normal part of the procedure.
The baby and his daddy were taken to a warming table at the side of the room, and the baby was wiped off a little, wrapped up snug in a blanket, and had a hat put on. Then they let me see him, and he and his daddy were taken to the nursery (his daddy was allowed to carry him) where they cleaned him up the rest of the way, checked him over well, and weighed and measured him.
I was still in the operating room for another 30 minutes, but someone called in and told me the weight and length.
I was taken back to my room, and within a few minutes, a nurse escorted my boyfriend and my son into the room, where I was able to hold him for a moment, but then had to have my boyfriend hold him because I was shaking badly because of a reaction to the spinal.
We stayed in the room, just the three of us for about a half an hour, and I was able to nurse him for the first time, even though the nurses explained to me that he wasn't really hungry yet, but the sooner you nurse, the sooner he'd get used to it, and the sooner my milk would come in.
There was one nurse that gave my son bottles while we were in the hospital, but she got into trouble for it, because that interfered with my breast feeding.
I think that if I were your friends husband, I would have picked the baby up anyway. There should be no need to ask someone if you can pick up your own child, so long as the baby was perfectly healthy and not hooked up to some kind of machines, or anything.
I'm sorry that she had a not-so-good birthing experience, and congrats on her new baby girl!
it sounds odd to me too
all my mates have has c sections a partner has always been around in the room mum is usually awake throughout and baby is given to mum to see taken by nurse to be wrapped up and weighed then given to partner to hold it seems a bit strange to me.
no way, i had a c section an emergency 1 and my partner was there
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