MY COUSIN IS 12 years old and she is prenang. what can she do?
worst of all she doesn´t know the father.
Answers:
Realisticly,she is unable to care for a child as she is still one herself.I am not on to judge tho,so i would say she needs to consider all her options.Abortion i dont believe is acceptable in any situation.She could consider adoption.She will be allowed in the childs life if she has an open adoption.They will keep in contact through letters,pictures,email,and weekly visits in some situations.In this case she will not be a mystery when this child grows up and he will know who she is and that she did what was best for him/her.With family support,she could keep this child.That is going to be rough on the family tho,but it is something to consider.Right now,she is going to need someone to talk to and lean on through this whole process of decision making at her age especially.All i can tell you to do,is be there for her.You being there and giving her a shoulder and an ear is all she needs.She and her parents have to do the rest.It is HER decision and with her parents help she can keep this child.She has her whole life ahead of her,if she chooses to keep this child she can do it.It isnt impossible,many young girls do it everyday.Good luck,and God Bless Your Cousin.
a visit to mothercare would be in order
does she wanna keep it? or adopt it? but not abortion she will regret it
No abortions! She made the mistake of having sex now she needs to deal with the consequinces of pregnancy and child birth. If she doesn't want the baby then have her give it up for adoption.
Ye gods, surely she must have some idea, she can't have shagged more than a few men can she? I seriously hope she is considering all options, at that age she is still achild herself and any decision needs to consider her continuing education, ability to cope, support of partner and so on. Did nobody explain the facts of life to her properly to get into this situation?
Doesn't know the father? That's a good one!
You need to find out who made her pregnant and drag the scumbag to the nearest police station. As for your cousin she needs all the support you can give her.
have her knees stapled together?
live with it.
find out who she has been having sex wit and then get her life together because she is in for a rude awakening
Discuss it with her parents, or priest or pastor.
or worse come to worse a school counselor.
(I prefer the first 3).
She wanted to act grownup and have sex, now she can "GROWUP" and raise the baby.
Is this serious?my god she should've kept her legs crossed!! go and talk to someone about it,doctor may help
Do you mean pregnant? If you do she is a bit young, god help her she will need it.
she is a right little you no what no wonder this country is falling apart.
My life what is she like, go to a doctor for advise on this
Nothing..Offer her guidence..and support and hope she makes a smart deciscion and gives the baby up for adaption...12 years of age.is not fair..She needs a friend to raise her self image becuse obviously she feels sleeping with men makes her feel special and it'll just leave a hole in her heart when she gets older and men actully take responsabilitys for their actions
what a fool
at the end of the day its her decision what she wants to do.keep it..termination or adoption.
maybe a close family member could talk to her to try and find out who she has had sex with around the time she got pregnant and then take the dates etc to a family planning clinic who could give her a better idea of who the father may be.
family planning clinics usuall offer pregnancy counselling for the woman to go through her options and talk about her feelings etc. maybe this would be a good option for her?
I think she's a non-catholic believer or muslim who should not give up her baby, but practice abstinence when she haves it because right now she has a failing grade.
Counseling..lots of counseling, for what she's going to do now and how to insure it doesn't happen in the future, and to insure she has a decent future.
She needs to see a doctor and a therapist ASAP. Her family also needs to prosecute the scumbag who got her pregnant.
Having a child at such a young age is dangerous. Her body isn't designed for giving birth so young and carrying a child to term could cause permanent damage. She really needs to see a doctor and get medical advice about what's best for her and if she'll even be able to go through with the pregnancy and produce a healthy child - children who give birth often produce babies that have serious birth defects, low birth weight etc. She needs to see a therapist to deal with the emotional issues - if she's having voluntary sex at this age then she has serious problems. If she was raped then she will have issues as well. But she does need to see a doctor and a therapist as quickly as possible; if abortion is the best solution here (which it probably is) then she needs to do it early to avoid complications.
In Germany, there must be social services which can help you, first you should get her to see a doctor and decide what to do. Where are her parents ? Who is taking care of her ? Is this a case of child abuse ? She must have the answers and she needs help.
She should talk to her parents or someone else she can trust,it would be a good idea if you were with her when she does.
I wish her luck and i hope she takes care.
ok that's really bad. first of all she should tell her parents. then you should find the people she had it with and take her to a hospital or somewhere to find who the real father is and if she doesn't want the baby she could get an abortion she wouldn't have any other choice if she didn't want the baby.
I'm so sorry to hear this..it is a shame..didn't anyone tell her how babies get here? life /sex education can go a long way to prevent this sort of thing.she doesn't know who the father is..for Christs sake how many did she have sex with?(cant call it love making cos its not) ALL the males that had sex with her need to be found as a matter of urgency.did no one tell her that under age sex is illegal.it is a clear case of under age sex.even if the male was the same age..ignorance is no excuse..
She should be getting professional therapy. Two reasons for 'not knowing who the father is' are gang rape and child abuse from an adult in a position of authority. If either of these are the case, a good therapist will help her talk about it and understand it. If the father is one of many men she willingly had sex with, she needs to understand why this isn't a good idea.
How old are you? I think your cousin needs to talk to a professional as she has a lot of very serious decisions to make, about what she is going to do with the baby once it is born. Can you take her to her GP to find someone sympathetic who can help her? When she has decided what to do with the baby she needs to carry on talking about her promiscuous behaviour. She will need to be told about Venereal Diseases, and also find out why she needs to be promiscuous at such a young age.
well i think she should get down to the local family planning clinic they will be able to give her all the options available to her.
ensure her parents are aware of the situation because they will probably be able to help her through it because lets face it she's only a child herself.
She also needs to be told about using condoms in the future to prevent pregnancy and STI' s.
1 800 848 5683 is a National Pregnancy Hot Line
they will connect you to a pregnancy resource center near you - the resource center has trained counselors, and can direct your cousin to resources, like legal adoption agencies, how to continue in school, can counsel family and cousin too - will help in all ways so cousin can have healthy baby - (no abortions are offered) - if she has some idea of who the father is, blood test after baby is born can prove parent - she needs to talk to her parents - they will be whopping mad but this is their grandchild and she needs to keep reminding them of this fact. once they start getting ready for baby, focus will change. please call the number and give it to your cousin. she needs to talk to someone now. all center's services are free and confidential.
what do you want to do? Your 12 year old cousin thinks she's old enough to have sex, she thinks she is old enough to be a mum, leave her alone!! let her deal with it! that will teach her!!
Let her watch the discovery channel where she will see the pain of giving birth then ask her if she still wants to go through it.
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Answers:
Realisticly,she is unable to care for a child as she is still one herself.I am not on to judge tho,so i would say she needs to consider all her options.Abortion i dont believe is acceptable in any situation.She could consider adoption.She will be allowed in the childs life if she has an open adoption.They will keep in contact through letters,pictures,email,and weekly visits in some situations.In this case she will not be a mystery when this child grows up and he will know who she is and that she did what was best for him/her.With family support,she could keep this child.That is going to be rough on the family tho,but it is something to consider.Right now,she is going to need someone to talk to and lean on through this whole process of decision making at her age especially.All i can tell you to do,is be there for her.You being there and giving her a shoulder and an ear is all she needs.She and her parents have to do the rest.It is HER decision and with her parents help she can keep this child.She has her whole life ahead of her,if she chooses to keep this child she can do it.It isnt impossible,many young girls do it everyday.Good luck,and God Bless Your Cousin.
a visit to mothercare would be in order
does she wanna keep it? or adopt it? but not abortion she will regret it
No abortions! She made the mistake of having sex now she needs to deal with the consequinces of pregnancy and child birth. If she doesn't want the baby then have her give it up for adoption.
Ye gods, surely she must have some idea, she can't have shagged more than a few men can she? I seriously hope she is considering all options, at that age she is still achild herself and any decision needs to consider her continuing education, ability to cope, support of partner and so on. Did nobody explain the facts of life to her properly to get into this situation?
Doesn't know the father? That's a good one!
You need to find out who made her pregnant and drag the scumbag to the nearest police station. As for your cousin she needs all the support you can give her.
have her knees stapled together?
live with it.
find out who she has been having sex wit and then get her life together because she is in for a rude awakening
Discuss it with her parents, or priest or pastor.
or worse come to worse a school counselor.
(I prefer the first 3).
She wanted to act grownup and have sex, now she can "GROWUP" and raise the baby.
Is this serious?my god she should've kept her legs crossed!! go and talk to someone about it,doctor may help
Do you mean pregnant? If you do she is a bit young, god help her she will need it.
she is a right little you no what no wonder this country is falling apart.
My life what is she like, go to a doctor for advise on this
Nothing..Offer her guidence..and support and hope she makes a smart deciscion and gives the baby up for adaption...12 years of age.is not fair..She needs a friend to raise her self image becuse obviously she feels sleeping with men makes her feel special and it'll just leave a hole in her heart when she gets older and men actully take responsabilitys for their actions
what a fool
at the end of the day its her decision what she wants to do.keep it..termination or adoption.
maybe a close family member could talk to her to try and find out who she has had sex with around the time she got pregnant and then take the dates etc to a family planning clinic who could give her a better idea of who the father may be.
family planning clinics usuall offer pregnancy counselling for the woman to go through her options and talk about her feelings etc. maybe this would be a good option for her?
I think she's a non-catholic believer or muslim who should not give up her baby, but practice abstinence when she haves it because right now she has a failing grade.
Counseling..lots of counseling, for what she's going to do now and how to insure it doesn't happen in the future, and to insure she has a decent future.
She needs to see a doctor and a therapist ASAP. Her family also needs to prosecute the scumbag who got her pregnant.
Having a child at such a young age is dangerous. Her body isn't designed for giving birth so young and carrying a child to term could cause permanent damage. She really needs to see a doctor and get medical advice about what's best for her and if she'll even be able to go through with the pregnancy and produce a healthy child - children who give birth often produce babies that have serious birth defects, low birth weight etc. She needs to see a therapist to deal with the emotional issues - if she's having voluntary sex at this age then she has serious problems. If she was raped then she will have issues as well. But she does need to see a doctor and a therapist as quickly as possible; if abortion is the best solution here (which it probably is) then she needs to do it early to avoid complications.
In Germany, there must be social services which can help you, first you should get her to see a doctor and decide what to do. Where are her parents ? Who is taking care of her ? Is this a case of child abuse ? She must have the answers and she needs help.
She should talk to her parents or someone else she can trust,it would be a good idea if you were with her when she does.
I wish her luck and i hope she takes care.
ok that's really bad. first of all she should tell her parents. then you should find the people she had it with and take her to a hospital or somewhere to find who the real father is and if she doesn't want the baby she could get an abortion she wouldn't have any other choice if she didn't want the baby.
I'm so sorry to hear this..it is a shame..didn't anyone tell her how babies get here? life /sex education can go a long way to prevent this sort of thing.she doesn't know who the father is..for Christs sake how many did she have sex with?(cant call it love making cos its not) ALL the males that had sex with her need to be found as a matter of urgency.did no one tell her that under age sex is illegal.it is a clear case of under age sex.even if the male was the same age..ignorance is no excuse..
She should be getting professional therapy. Two reasons for 'not knowing who the father is' are gang rape and child abuse from an adult in a position of authority. If either of these are the case, a good therapist will help her talk about it and understand it. If the father is one of many men she willingly had sex with, she needs to understand why this isn't a good idea.
How old are you? I think your cousin needs to talk to a professional as she has a lot of very serious decisions to make, about what she is going to do with the baby once it is born. Can you take her to her GP to find someone sympathetic who can help her? When she has decided what to do with the baby she needs to carry on talking about her promiscuous behaviour. She will need to be told about Venereal Diseases, and also find out why she needs to be promiscuous at such a young age.
well i think she should get down to the local family planning clinic they will be able to give her all the options available to her.
ensure her parents are aware of the situation because they will probably be able to help her through it because lets face it she's only a child herself.
She also needs to be told about using condoms in the future to prevent pregnancy and STI' s.
1 800 848 5683 is a National Pregnancy Hot Line
they will connect you to a pregnancy resource center near you - the resource center has trained counselors, and can direct your cousin to resources, like legal adoption agencies, how to continue in school, can counsel family and cousin too - will help in all ways so cousin can have healthy baby - (no abortions are offered) - if she has some idea of who the father is, blood test after baby is born can prove parent - she needs to talk to her parents - they will be whopping mad but this is their grandchild and she needs to keep reminding them of this fact. once they start getting ready for baby, focus will change. please call the number and give it to your cousin. she needs to talk to someone now. all center's services are free and confidential.
what do you want to do? Your 12 year old cousin thinks she's old enough to have sex, she thinks she is old enough to be a mum, leave her alone!! let her deal with it! that will teach her!!
Let her watch the discovery channel where she will see the pain of giving birth then ask her if she still wants to go through it.
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