Im 15 and i am with a lad (17)but recently iv found im pregnant i want to keep it but he dunt!shud i keep it?
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If you really want this baby don't let anyone talk you out of it. It will be you that has to always live with the what-ifs if you go against what you truly believe and want deep down. Personally I think it's rather selfish of him to try and tell you what to do, it sounds like he's just thinking about himself and not the emotional strain that this may take on you. I say that if you want this baby then you should follow your heart. Guys will come and go, but the heartbreak of getting rid of a child you want never will.
you have to make the decision yourself no one else can do it for you
yes keep the baby you are you your find a nother boy find hes just a *** *****
You must do what feels right to you. If you have an abortion that is it, no going back. I don't think you should stay with your BF whatever you decide to do, he is an immature idiot who is offering you no support whatsoever. Leave him and do what you want with regards to the baby. Life will be hard but millions of people have done it. Talk to your family ASAP.
Good luck.
If you are 15, it will be dangerous for you to bare a baby as your body is not fully developed. Try to seek doctors help on this asap! But first of all remain claim!
what are you going to do with a baby, except be a burden on taxpaying citizens. you have no education, so lifetime of fast food jobs, and welfare checks. you don't even own a car.. you probably won't get invited to the prom unless they think you are an easy score.. take care of this situation and live your life. look at how hard your parents work, are you willing to make them and your siblings resent you for causing a bigger burden on them..use birth control for your sake as well as everyone elses.
deffinatley keep the baby you may regret getting rid of a baby but you will never regret having it because you will grow to love it and your boyfriend would too. trust me keep it. the baby has done nothing wrong so y should it suffer for the sake of keeping him happy, it deserves the right to live, imagine your parents got rid of you! Plus you want to keep it so do what you want, you WILL love this baby more than anyone else and could feel seriousley guilty if you had an abortion. your boyfriend may threaten now but he will come round to it and WILL want to have something to do with the baby, 98% of fathers change their mind after the child is born. KEEP IT
p.s. its not dangerous at all, if your developed enough to get pregnant your developed enough to conceive a baby.
WHAT WOULD HAVE HAPPENED TO YOU IF YOUR MOTHER HAD THE SAME QUESTION TO ANSWER?
I was 15 when i got pregnant. I kept the baby. There is no right or wrong decision. You need to talk to your doctor your parents and any other family that you have then you need to go away and make your decision. your boyfriend has made his. If you decide to keep it then it will be very hard for you and you will not have much of a life. If you decide not to how will you feel about getting rid of it? Good luck with what you decide.
You layed down and made it, you should take care of it. you knew you were taking a chance getting pregnant when you had sex, and you did it anyway. Dont give your baby away just because the dumbass father doesnt want it. Do you want your baby to grow up knowing that its real mommy didnt want him or her so you gave them away? Sounds to me like you need to raise that baby and find it a new daddy. one that will take care of it and be there for it!
If you want the baby, keep it. There will be lots of people to lend a helpig hand. Don't let your boyfriend ruin your life long wish. Let him go there are plenty more fish in the sea.
well only you know what right. What about your parents imput. Just make sure you don't do something you'll regret. Maybe you want to keep the baby and see how things are and try to rasie it. If you really can't there's always adoption.
please dont terminate the life of the innocent one you are carrying it is against God's law which says "thou shall not kill" and since you have wanted this baby keep it. God will see you through and give you the resource to bring the child up.
You don't want him regardless of what you do...you are 15 and 17 and chances are you will not stay together anyway..sorry, but that is true.
If he really loved you, he would not ask you to give your baby up when he sees that you want it. He is going to leave eventually anyway, or better you are going to see he isn't worth it and leave.
I was in love at 15 and I still love him, he is one of my dearest friends, but he would not have acted like this.
You cannot base your decision based on this guy, if you want to keep it, you should not have an abortion. You'll regret it FOREVER long after this guy is gone.
At the very least you should have the baby and give it up for adoption, if you have the support and people to help you, consider keeping it.
This guy is just trying to get out of his responsibility and he sounds like a jerk.
It is too late to go back, and sweetie, I say this like a mom..this is why 15 year olds should not be having sex. You aren't ready for the consequences and whatever you do, this will impact you forever.
I have a friend who had a baby at 15 and everyone said it would ruin her life. That baby girl saved her life..it made her become responsible and do things for herself and her baby. She got her education, she dumped the dad and married a great guy and has a lovely home and two more kids.
This baby could make your life, it doesn't have to ruin it.
Don't do anything you'll regret for the rest of your life long after he is gone.
so what if he dosent want the baby its ur body and ur the one who is having the baby. forget him if he is that way u have to think am i too young for this and or can i give this baby what is needs even if the dad/ sperm doner isent there
You can't terminate your pregnancy just because he doesn't want it. It is your body and your baby- this is a decision you will have to live with forever, and you can't take back.
He will have to support the child financially. If he doesn't want to be involved in any other way, then it's up to you whether you want to be a single mother. If you really want to keep the baby, that takes priority over what he wants. He shouldn't be having sex if he can't live with the consequence.
any form of life is precious, if your boyfriend is that hard-hearted and cold to want to 'get rid of it' then he doesnt value human life as is befitting of any good kind human heart. You REALLY think you love someone like this? Does he really love you? Do you know that women are generally 5 years more mature than their peers. That means that while you may be 'ready' to have a baby on an emotional level, he is still trying to dry his nose properly. Its not easy to deal with, since we women have to tolerate men in order to ensure survival of our species. But this guy, he's quite something else, when things get hard, he'll stuff you over and THIS is clearly one example. I'm asking you from the bottom of my heart to not kill a human life, your unborn baby has a right to life, imagine you were in the baby's position and someone had to decide for you if you should or should not be allowed to live. Obviously the baby can't speak for itself, but you as the baby's mother to be have a choice, choose to let love rule your decision.
Whatever your decision, your boyfriend will not stand by you through thick and thin, he's pretty much like a candy coated worm. strip away the candy and all you're left with, is the worm. men will come and go honey, but you have to live with your conscience for all time, until you die, i know a university girl i befriended who couldnt ever shake the guilt, all because she felt her family would abandon her.there are other support structures in place (speak to the council or to someone at hospital or the samaritans).
You know, as a final word i just want to say that sometimes life is like this, you found out at an early age how hard it can be to make decision around family situations. Lets say for example, Jack the Ripper's wife knew all about his murders, should she have kept quiet to protect her husband while more and more women were being killed? I think if i was his wife it would have hurt me tremendously, but for the greater good of life beyond that family unit, i would have gone to the police so that other women's lives were no longer in danger. i would've lost a husband, but what good is he if on a mental level, he had been lost to me anyway.
Your boyfriend has already said he doesnt love you enough to put up with hard times. HOney, life is FULL of ups and downs. Today its the baby, tomorrow it can be hardship and unemployment, the next week it could be something else.what then? He is not WORTH the dirt that sticks to the soles of your shoes. Get rid of HIM. The fact that you did not immediately listen to his request means you have goodness in your heart. Keep your baby. Take care.
Dont let your boyfriend talk you out of anything but my advice is think long n hard about what you really want. you are so young and have your whole life ahead of you. having children isn't always a life of roses its hard work. Good luck in wot eva u decide hun. oh n talk to your mum. x x
yes if you want to keep it ,do, dont let anyone change your mind for you, its your own decision, and if your boyfriend loves you, he should respect your decision.
well its your choice. but if i were you than i would definitly keep the baby and throw the guy out. you will find someone better.
You need to do whats best for you i have been in your situation but my boyfriend at the time said he would leave me if i didn't have it.I had an abortion because that was what i wanted that was 7 years ago now and i have never looked back i wasn't mature enough to bring up a child. Do what your heart tells you but please think it through fully before you make your decision i wish you all the best.
you need to put the baby up for adoption. you need to go to school and learn some english and spelling before considering to be a mother.
dont listen to bf if he doesnt want the baby then he doesnt want you dont make a stupid mistake please
If you haven't already, go to your doctors get it all confirmed and talk to somebody about it. Get some options and have a think yourself. You really need to get some support from someone (mum or dad, brother or sister - auntie.somebody) before you make your decision though at the end of the day it is YOUR decision. Look at it in the long term, accommodation, financial support, your schooling/education, your further career once the baby is old enough to start school itself..a lot to think about I know.
If your boyfriend isn't interested and he's not offering you support then he's really not gonna be a good enough 'partner' for you (or a Daddy if you decide to keep it). I think you should go talk to somebody who knows all the options and take it from there.
Good luck.
1. I think your bf is an ***, he's nos offering you any support, just being selfish. He's not a good man now and he will neve ber, so why mind keeping him, that makes no sense
2. You should follow your heart and keep your baby, you have no idea how much you will regret it if you get an abortion. Take risponsability on your actions.
3. You need to talk to your parents right away, and you also need to see a dr, you are very young and you and your baby need special care !
Good luck
Sounds like he's giving you a really unfair ultimatum. If he's that shallow, he won't stick around for the long run anyway so you're better off without him (but that's not really what you asked)
If you really want to keep the baby then you should. There is assistance out there for people who have low incomes and hopefully since you're 15, your parents will help you out until you can finish school and get a job.
If you want this baby and you choose to abort because some boy told you to you will regret it for the rest of your life. You'll never stop thinking about what would have happened if you'd kept him/her. Boys like that are a dime a dozen. Stick to what YOU want and if he leaves, tell him good riddance, slam the door and don't look back.
dont let your boyfriend pressure you into anything you dont want to do. if you decide to go ahead and have the baby there is plenty of help you can get and im sure your parents would support you with your decision.
sweetie what you won't if he didn't want and kid he should have cover up or took steps not to get you pregnant. if you want to keep you baby your going to need help with family and friends having and kid young isn't easy and it very expanvise. you need to be seeing and obgyn if you aren't already there alot of help though the health depoment for young mothers. just have to look into it.and plp how are saying that your body isnt ready for and kid right i thing they think your to young my aunt had her first at 14 her sound at 15 and there both ok and make all a's in school. but she got help though the state medacade and stuff and see her obgyn like she was spose too. i can't stress how inportent it is to see and obgyn ween pregnant.
the reason i didnt have an kid so young my aunt lived in and room that was just big enough for and bed ,cook on and hot plate and no kitchen just and bath room with tolit and sink. they had to wash the babys in the sink and there slef out the sink. and the dishes there too my mom.worked so she let my aunt watch so she could some money.
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it is to have and kid so young and i didnt want to live like that.
babycost and lot of money !
look at in the long run do you think you well be able to proved for this child.
also to you think your mom and dad well help you out if you need it.
i am 23 years old and i be the first to say i had my lil girl at 19 and think god i had help from family. and think godfor my mom and step dad i be in world of troble with out them too. my mom bought crib, crib matress,stroller,carseat, and all her clothing. my step dad help her out with this stuff also.i had nothing and my mom went to yard sells and on ebay and got all this stuff for me. my mom also has 5 kids at home and dont really have the money to be helping me out that much but me and hubby bought and home and trying to make it in this world she told me long as were trying she well help ween she can. she had me young also had help though my great grandma and great grandaddy. we have alot of bills and some time i try to help out with things much as i can but just lil here and there i try and babysit we cant aford day care so i stay at home while hubby works.
your 15 ,, if you have a really good and supportive family ,, and you want to keep the child go for it.. it doesnt really matter what the father wants your the one carrying your child ,, you do whatever your heart tells you to do ,, the decision is your NOONE elses
I got pregnant with my first when I was 15. I never even thought about getting rid of my baby.I had my second one when I was17 and my third and final 4 months ago. I am now 20 years old married to my kids father.And yes they all have the same father. I have never been a burden to the taxpayers. I have never been on welfare. I love my 3 children very much and I have never regretted keeping them. I had the support of my family and friends. You need to talk to your family asap. But in the end you need to do what you feel is right for you and the baby.Good Luck.
i used to be in the exact same position. i chose not to keep ot. i totally regreted that. now i am with the same man. we are having trouble getting pregnant. i sometimes think to myself that it would be better to keep the child and lose the boyfriend, though i do not think that he would really leave me if i had kept it. if you really want that child just keep it. do not thing of him. trust me
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