Who hates it when people watch you like a hawk with your kids?
Hate it when your out in public and your kids want to have a spit about not getting something and you have to say no for very good reason,but the tantrum attracts the eye of strangers who look at you as if you are mistreating your kids or they are waiting for you to do so. I find that happens alot around where I live (Australia) and not so much when I was living in Ireland. But the kids grow out of it and they aren't too bad for it.
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I don't care. My kids know I do not act one way with them in public and another at home. If necessary, I will swat that behind in front of God and everyone.
I usually look hard, but it's never to see if the parent is mistreating the kid.
I usually look to see who the parent is.because usually the kid will get angry and hit the parent.that way, i know that the 3 year old is the chief, and the big, tall lady is the indian
I do I do
My neibors are my PARENTS! and i cant punish my kids with out my mom or dad running across the yard to see what i have done to "their" babies, and they scoop them up and pamper them after i've punished them. and so now they thing all they have to do is run to granmas house for salvation. I cant even let my kids into my yard to play unless i stay two stepps behind them or my parents call me and ask me if i know where my kids are and that i need to be out there with them.
Its really getting on my nerves! (but in a pinch sometimes they are handy to have around!)
why do you think there are so many bratty or unappreciative children and teenagers now? because these kinds of people will give them whatever they want because they think if the child cries that they are being a bad parent or something. lack of parenting skills and confidence in their roles as parents, i think. And some people just stare and think you are doing something wrong because they don't understand. I used to feel weird when kids threw fits in stores and the mothers would have to discipline them in public. I felt bad for the mothers, but it was akward for everyone. I have more compassion for them now!
I know how you feel. My daughter's fav thing is to try to throw a tantrum in public. I usually ignore her or take her home to her dad. One day I was at the store and told her she could not have a toy and she started yelling and crying. I took her by the arm and told her to stop or we were going to the car. Some old lady said I should be reported for child abuse. I turned around and told her to mind her own business. And if you want a child to parent then to go to hell and get one. It's not like I was hitting her or spanking or anything I simply said stop or we go to the car.
Well, I look to just observe and to show my kids how retarded it looks to act out in public. I have 3 children, girl 14 and 2 boys 11 and 2. None of them ever thru tantrums in a store because they wanted something. Maybe you need to observe yourself more and get a grip on your kid. My children respect me and understand that they can't always get what they want. Children know how to work their parents and to get reactions from them. And in the end most parents give up and give in. I was (observing) a tantrum once, a little girl maybe 3. She was sitting in the cart crying and her father bit her and said "here I'll give ya something to cry about". Sicko.I did call the police..and intervened.Maybe that's why i stare when i hear a child crying, instinct?..who knows?
I don't know, I'm in the UK and the people I find who are the greatest offenders are elderly people, who seem to think they can intervene when I'm telling my kids off. Either to tell me to smack them or tell me that I'm too hard !!!
I really struggle not to be down right rude to these people, we are the parents and hey we are doing the best we can -- get off of our cases!!
thanks for the vent - been a big bug bare of mine for ages !
I think there is over-reaction psyche in the country and you find in their dealings ,be emigration,child care,social privileges or cricket umpiring.So,bear with it.
Yes! People judge us every which way. However, I'll pass on a tip. Before you go out, tell your children how you want them to behave. eg no nagging me for sweets, or else no tv.
And reward or punish them when you get home. Consistency is the key.
I have 5 kids. I used to worry all the time about what other people thought. I don't give a flying fig about anybody else's views on my parenting anymore. I know I'm doing the best I can, mistakes and all. I'm not abusive but I make the rules. Not my kids. I usually try to deal with problems when I get home, but sometimes a situation needs to be dealt with. I gave my youngest a timeout in the middle of a grocery store once. He sat cross-legged in the middle of the isle and didn't move for 10 minutes.
Anyway, if you believe what you're doing is best, don't let other people judge you. If they're staring, tell them to mind their own business and remember that you're doing the right thing for your kids.
yeah i hate it it is like people are looking at you as though you are a bad parent but hey if no rules then they get out of control and yeah they benifit later on in life
I also hate this but i am my children's mum not the member of public who is meant to be watching. I only tell my children off if they have been naughty/dangerous e.t.c not just cause they are pestering this is how children learn asking questions. Nobody as actually come up to me and said anything yet but if they do, i would have no problems dealing with the situation.
I relate to my children on the same way when we are at home or outdoors.I never beat them.I use positive discipline and it works 100 times better than beating or shouting and critisicing.
Ah yes, it really does my head in. I am a sensible professional (actually I'm a health visitor - which is a nurse who deals with child development and behaviour, etc) yet recently when I was in my GP surgery with my 3 year old I had an older man actually come over and scold my son because he was getting a bit noisy - he wasn't even having a tantrum, I could understand if he was throwing a full scale wobbler. I had already told him off and asked him to calm down and just gave the man a filthy look and said thank you, but as your so interested I'm sure you'll already have noticed that I have told my child off - I am perfectly capable of disciplining him without your assistance. I don't think he knew where to look, but no harm to the guy it really wasn't any of his flaming business! Sorry, I am still ripping about it and it was a fortnight ago. I know my wee boy can be a rip at times, but he isn't rude to people and he doesn't destroy things and he is only 3 - and how perfect were any of us at that age?
i hate being watched when I'm out with my children. my 6 yr old is autistic and find going shopping difficult to cope with and starts screaming and hitting. people always come up to me to give advice and this annoying. i only take my children shopping when they need something like new shoes. i wish people would stop staring at me and look at there own children and be grateful that there child can cope with shopping.
I feel awful taking my children out as my daughter throws herself on the floor and screams her head off and every body just stops and stares as if i should be doing something differently or that its my fault that she is having a temper tantrum
I get it alot, im 23 y son is almost 4 but i admit i look young for my age where as everyone thinks hes about 5 being so tall etc. So if he has a tantrum everyone stares at the 'teenager' with her naughty child. Luckily this is a rarety, my son is pretty amazing when we go out, if hes naughty i bend down say stop it or we go home and thats the end of the strop.
This happend the other day, we were in a que and he wanted some sweets, i said no and he had a strop, some old granny properly stared and tutted, i bent donw and said stop it now or we go straight home and you'll have to stay in your room for the rest of the day' my son said ok mummy, took my hand and stood there good as gold.the look on the ladys face was classic.
Ignore people staring and just deal with your children the way you always do.
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Answers:
I don't care. My kids know I do not act one way with them in public and another at home. If necessary, I will swat that behind in front of God and everyone.
I usually look hard, but it's never to see if the parent is mistreating the kid.
I usually look to see who the parent is.because usually the kid will get angry and hit the parent.that way, i know that the 3 year old is the chief, and the big, tall lady is the indian
I do I do
My neibors are my PARENTS! and i cant punish my kids with out my mom or dad running across the yard to see what i have done to "their" babies, and they scoop them up and pamper them after i've punished them. and so now they thing all they have to do is run to granmas house for salvation. I cant even let my kids into my yard to play unless i stay two stepps behind them or my parents call me and ask me if i know where my kids are and that i need to be out there with them.
Its really getting on my nerves! (but in a pinch sometimes they are handy to have around!)
why do you think there are so many bratty or unappreciative children and teenagers now? because these kinds of people will give them whatever they want because they think if the child cries that they are being a bad parent or something. lack of parenting skills and confidence in their roles as parents, i think. And some people just stare and think you are doing something wrong because they don't understand. I used to feel weird when kids threw fits in stores and the mothers would have to discipline them in public. I felt bad for the mothers, but it was akward for everyone. I have more compassion for them now!
I know how you feel. My daughter's fav thing is to try to throw a tantrum in public. I usually ignore her or take her home to her dad. One day I was at the store and told her she could not have a toy and she started yelling and crying. I took her by the arm and told her to stop or we were going to the car. Some old lady said I should be reported for child abuse. I turned around and told her to mind her own business. And if you want a child to parent then to go to hell and get one. It's not like I was hitting her or spanking or anything I simply said stop or we go to the car.
Well, I look to just observe and to show my kids how retarded it looks to act out in public. I have 3 children, girl 14 and 2 boys 11 and 2. None of them ever thru tantrums in a store because they wanted something. Maybe you need to observe yourself more and get a grip on your kid. My children respect me and understand that they can't always get what they want. Children know how to work their parents and to get reactions from them. And in the end most parents give up and give in. I was (observing) a tantrum once, a little girl maybe 3. She was sitting in the cart crying and her father bit her and said "here I'll give ya something to cry about". Sicko.I did call the police..and intervened.Maybe that's why i stare when i hear a child crying, instinct?..who knows?
I don't know, I'm in the UK and the people I find who are the greatest offenders are elderly people, who seem to think they can intervene when I'm telling my kids off. Either to tell me to smack them or tell me that I'm too hard !!!
I really struggle not to be down right rude to these people, we are the parents and hey we are doing the best we can -- get off of our cases!!
thanks for the vent - been a big bug bare of mine for ages !
I think there is over-reaction psyche in the country and you find in their dealings ,be emigration,child care,social privileges or cricket umpiring.So,bear with it.
Yes! People judge us every which way. However, I'll pass on a tip. Before you go out, tell your children how you want them to behave. eg no nagging me for sweets, or else no tv.
And reward or punish them when you get home. Consistency is the key.
I have 5 kids. I used to worry all the time about what other people thought. I don't give a flying fig about anybody else's views on my parenting anymore. I know I'm doing the best I can, mistakes and all. I'm not abusive but I make the rules. Not my kids. I usually try to deal with problems when I get home, but sometimes a situation needs to be dealt with. I gave my youngest a timeout in the middle of a grocery store once. He sat cross-legged in the middle of the isle and didn't move for 10 minutes.
Anyway, if you believe what you're doing is best, don't let other people judge you. If they're staring, tell them to mind their own business and remember that you're doing the right thing for your kids.
yeah i hate it it is like people are looking at you as though you are a bad parent but hey if no rules then they get out of control and yeah they benifit later on in life
I also hate this but i am my children's mum not the member of public who is meant to be watching. I only tell my children off if they have been naughty/dangerous e.t.c not just cause they are pestering this is how children learn asking questions. Nobody as actually come up to me and said anything yet but if they do, i would have no problems dealing with the situation.
I relate to my children on the same way when we are at home or outdoors.I never beat them.I use positive discipline and it works 100 times better than beating or shouting and critisicing.
Ah yes, it really does my head in. I am a sensible professional (actually I'm a health visitor - which is a nurse who deals with child development and behaviour, etc) yet recently when I was in my GP surgery with my 3 year old I had an older man actually come over and scold my son because he was getting a bit noisy - he wasn't even having a tantrum, I could understand if he was throwing a full scale wobbler. I had already told him off and asked him to calm down and just gave the man a filthy look and said thank you, but as your so interested I'm sure you'll already have noticed that I have told my child off - I am perfectly capable of disciplining him without your assistance. I don't think he knew where to look, but no harm to the guy it really wasn't any of his flaming business! Sorry, I am still ripping about it and it was a fortnight ago. I know my wee boy can be a rip at times, but he isn't rude to people and he doesn't destroy things and he is only 3 - and how perfect were any of us at that age?
i hate being watched when I'm out with my children. my 6 yr old is autistic and find going shopping difficult to cope with and starts screaming and hitting. people always come up to me to give advice and this annoying. i only take my children shopping when they need something like new shoes. i wish people would stop staring at me and look at there own children and be grateful that there child can cope with shopping.
I feel awful taking my children out as my daughter throws herself on the floor and screams her head off and every body just stops and stares as if i should be doing something differently or that its my fault that she is having a temper tantrum
I get it alot, im 23 y son is almost 4 but i admit i look young for my age where as everyone thinks hes about 5 being so tall etc. So if he has a tantrum everyone stares at the 'teenager' with her naughty child. Luckily this is a rarety, my son is pretty amazing when we go out, if hes naughty i bend down say stop it or we go home and thats the end of the strop.
This happend the other day, we were in a que and he wanted some sweets, i said no and he had a strop, some old granny properly stared and tutted, i bent donw and said stop it now or we go straight home and you'll have to stay in your room for the rest of the day' my son said ok mummy, took my hand and stood there good as gold.the look on the ladys face was classic.
Ignore people staring and just deal with your children the way you always do.
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