My son keeps on getting picked on by the popular kids, they made him cry today, what should he do?
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You need to booster his confidence from home. You cant take the bullies away, but you can help him learn new ways to deal with them.
He doesnt have to be effected by their cruelity on an emotional level. He needs to know that he can seek protection from not only the school staff, but the police if he feels his person is in danger.
I got the crap kicked out of me all the time in school. Was made to sit alone at my own table at lunch while everyone else threw food and things at me, had used toilet paper stuck to me all the time, gum put in my hair, my stuff thrown out the windows.. EVERY DAY.
He can either learn to be the victem, or learn to not be effected by it.
If all else fails, take him out of school, home school him, get him more confidence in himself and his abilities, and put him back in school, or even in a different school.
Either way he has to learn how to deal with it without hate or pitty.
Its the only way to survive it. Trust me, I know what iam talking about.
buy him a pair of winkle picker shoes and get him to kick em up the a r s e.
Failing that go to the school and confront the teacher and the bullys in question.
if he is old enough and can stand up for himself tell him to kick him in the b*ll's
move him to another school or bully the bullies or be firm with teacher tell them to sort it out or get the police
. although i'm not an advocate of violence.
he should fight them, and hard
telling the teachers only sends out the message that he cant fight for himself.
if he fights them, he will learn that they will soon stop, and he can regain his self respect.
its the only way.
he may not win the fight. but they'll think twice before they try it again and if he keeps fighting. they'll soon stop.
report it to the concleor and talk to the bullies parents in a conferance with the princible there and has to stand up for himself! He can't show them that he is week . Enroll him in a teakondo class !
Depending on his age, he should definately stand up to them. If he is 7 or 8 and older, he should go up and tell them to shut up and get a life. I know some of this may sound like a bad idea or bad words but I know from first-hand experience, he has to be aggresive to be taken seriously. If he's in middle school, he shouldn't be crying to begin with and you could talk to the principal but make sure that nothing comes back to him seeming like he told on them. Just tell him that next time they talk to you and bother you, get in their face and do something like you see on TV.
i would go to the kids school and see the head just to let them know whats going on.
You didn't tell us his age. . age is crucial.
If he's 12+ then I would suggest he stands up for himself or tries to ignore the bullying (that is unless their physically hurting him). Going to a teacher or telling the school doesn't help very much because little is done to rectify the problem, but it sends out the message that your son is to weak to fight his own battles.
If he is under 12, I would discuss the problem with a teacher or principle. Good luck!
TAKE OUT THE BIGGEST ONE.THE REST WILL LEAVE HIM ALONE.I CAN'T BELIEVE THE SCHOOL IS EVEN TOLERATING IT IN THIS DAY AND AGE.
You should go see the head teacher at the school and discuss whats been happening. Schools now a days have a no tolerence view to bullying and so they should. If that fails then the board of education should be informed.
Bullies are cowards as we all know teach him to fight back, enrol him in karate or such, this will not only build his confidence but will learn him how to defend himself.
Hope everything works out well for him xx
as someone said, bullies are cowards deep down, who usually have low self esteem so they pick on others to try and make themseleves seem bigger. i am a teenager and havent suffered bad bullying, but i think we have all been picked on at some point. its more easily said than done, but first, he needs to try and ignore them. i know that can be very hard, so if they dont get tired of it, he has to stand up to them, but not in a physical way. he absolutely CANNOT cry, he must resist, because cring is just going to make them more eager to taunt him. he needs to know that he is a bigger person than they are, and hopefully if he keep reminding himself of that, his confidence will grow. you could go to the school, but make sure the bullies dont find out that you are intervening, that will probably make it worse. try taling to their parents through the school and maybe tell them to find out what their kids are doing to other children, without specifying that its your son they are talking about. make sure they put some sense into their little brats.your son has to be strong and resiliant, and i know its not easy.GOOD LUCK!
Let him know that "popularity" is a very fleeting, temporary thing. This might not seem to help right now, but it is true. School age times may seem one way as far as "popularity" and "success", but typically those who were not as popular in school age, become more successful later in life. Jealousy over that sometimes initiates the attacks.
Your son is likely a special and sensitive boy. Let him know that these kids hurting him are more scared inside than he is.
well first thing you should talk to the principle or counselors because bullying could have serious psychological effects on him. second tell him to ignore them. some schools have a anti bullying rule in place that if a kid is being picked on, the bullies will recieve a harsh punishment.
As an adult strongly support him in these circumstances and deal with the issue of the popular kids making him cry and put a stop to the bullying straightaway
tell him to find the ringleader and fight him.....my son went through the same thing and eventually he did what i told him...i know its hard telling your son to do violence but since that happened he does not get bullied anymore and now has become very popular himself...this went on for 4 years and i went through hell because of this got my son to do aikido so he knows how to defend himself..get your son to do some sort of self defence or martial art its suprising how much they learn in a very short time..if he can defend himself he will not be bullied..the bullies only pick on him because he does not fight back and always in these cases there is one who eggs on the others..i.e. the ringleader....the schools anti bullying policy is a joke i know i,ve had fights with the education board over it believe me i know your son is going through hell also yourself but please do what i say because i'm speaking from bitter experience....hope things get better soon for you but be prepared to be in it for the long term......show your son all the love you can and encourage him to do lots of activities to take his mind of this horrible problem .be involved with everything he does it gives you both much needed love..once again i'm really sorry someone else has to go through this i wouldn't wish it on anyone
As a kid in school I used to get picked on too. By the time I was in my sophmore year in HS I was one of the most popular girls in the school. And I went to school in Eugene, OR. My parents always encouraged me that I was a great kid and that if other people made fun or picked on me that it was just because they were jealous. If your kid isn't in any type of extra curricular activity maybe you could try to interest him in a sport or band or something that he could make some good friends at. But most of all listen to what your son is telling you. Maybe you could even talk to some of the teachers. But don't do this if it would be detremental to his image in the eyes of other students. Just let him feel like he is worth something and be sure to tell him you love him. You probably already do but a little more can never hurt. You seem like a good parent if you are worried enough to ask people for advice. Hope that this gets worked out.
Tell your son to defend himself.
ignore them and if they say like Ur ugly say well i do no that but u don't need to bring it up stuff like that and they think oh hes boring lets pick on someone else but if it doesn't work tell a teacher.
I think that if popular kids pick on him, perhaps there is something that makes him worthy of being picked on (aka wears dorky clothes, etc.). If there is anything like that is fixable, do that. But otherwise, he needs to learn to fight/stand up for himself. So next time hes should tell them to shut up.
Calling the school and getting involved will only make it worse.
make him swicht skools or let ur son beat em up or make them get da kids bullying ur son 2 get suspended tell da skoool that sumbody is bullying ur son
definitely stand up for himself - but it does not have to be with fists. He can outsmart them simply - shut them up. They all have a weak point and probably quite a few weak points. What are they? He could just tell them off - like yeah maybe i am shorter than you but at least i know - something whatever is cool to know these days among kids etc. Or whatever bugs them.
Confidence is the key.
Maybe you should take him to self defence classes - they instill confidence in lot of kids and if it comes to fists he will have skills.
Well u should maybe go up to the school and confront the bully because he really can't do anything about but ignore them. kids are gonna be kids and they probably will treat him worse.
Have a word with the other kids parents , i know i would be very angry at my child if someone came to my door because my child was a bully . I hate bullying !
Well, a lot of people go through this, maybe he should stick up for himself like take boxing or something, or just try to ignore it one day it will be over (school) and the popular kids will then probably be pumping his gas, but you could do things with him to build his self-esteem or do special things with him to make him feel better when he's down
u should move him from the school that hes in now.
Enroll him in martial arts and let him to snap teh obnoxious popular kids in 2
I think it probably depends on how old he is, and if the kids are using violence. If they are using words, simply laughing with the insults works many times (make sure that he knows not to take their insults seriously - they just like to watch people suffer), and a lot of the times when the kid laughs, they will either laugh or just not pick on him as often because their insults don't make him angry anymore. He shouldn't laught AT them, though, as this might anger him; it has to be more an "I can handle your insults as a joke" laugh. If it is violent, though, he really needs to report it to the principal/other officials because that could be dangerous. Trying to fight back physically might only cause problems (of course tell him to defend himself, but never start the physical fighting).
Every kid goes through it, and the best way to handle it is to let him handle it himself. If you take action when they are only calling him names or something like that, it isn't going to help your son at all. It is only going to help him lean on you more and more. He just has to deal with it himself and stand strong. He'll get through it. Usually those kids are insecure about themselves and pick people to make fun of so they can feel good about themselves. Trust me, every kid goes through it. He'll get through it, too. Look at Bill Gates! I'm sure he got picked on! All of the famous people get picked on. All of those popular kids' lives go down the drain and they end up taking care of their own kids by the time their eighteen. Let him handle it himself and someday he'll look back on it and just laugh.
Your son just needs how to ignore them "so called" popular kids because those kids think their all that because they have probably family problems and take out their frustration on the less superior looking kids.
move and tell him to hide under a rock, thanks bye
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