I refuse to give my 4 month old daughter a dummy as she sucks her thumb as a soother.?
who agrees with me? I know people whose kids still have a dummy at 3 and 4 years of age and they wont part with it.
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i agree with you 100%. I did give my son a dummy, which he only used to get himself to sleep. At about four monthis, he started to push the dummy out and put his thumb in hs mouth instead, so I stopped giving it to him. I prefer him to suck his thumb rather than have a dummy. I hate seeing children and babies with dummies in their mouths for no reason.
I agree with whatever works for you and your daughter. If she's fine without one, good for you guys. But I also have seen 10 year olds still sucking their thumb!
My daughter had a pacifier, and we just stopped it before her 2nd birthday. I could tell she was ready to give it up, and it wasn't a problem at all. But yes, I understand what you are saying about older kids being attached to them.
I think the issue is with a dummy at a certain stage you can take it away. It is hard to take a thumb away. My niece ended up sucking her thumb until she was almost 8 years old!!
you should try and discourage your child from sucking her thumb as it will mishape her teeth
A dummy is better, especially when they get older. It's better than sucking on the thumb and will lead to dental problems later on.
Besides, the dummy should be removed at about the same time that you stop using the breast/bottle.
by dummy, I assume you mean a pacifier or a binky? My personal opinion on this is that it is better for them to suck a pacifier than their own thumb, because when the time comes to get rid of it (when they are too old), it is easier to get rid of a pacifier than a thumb!
i heartily agree with you ..we refused to use any sort of pacifier on our child .much to the disdain of other parents ,do what you think is right for your child and you won`t go wrong
I gave my son a dummy and removed it age 2. We did this gradually starting with not having it during the day. Then the dummy fairy came and replaced it with a toy. He is 3 and a half now and doesn't suck his thumb. I think that is is a better option as you can't remove a thumb and it's a harder habit to break. Also thumb sucking is worse for tooth development. It is however personal choice. Best wishes xx
I totally agree.. I never gave my son one. and he was fine. They don't need them. and won't get hooked unless you give them one.
Sucking on her thimb is instinct, she did it all the time she was in your womb. I would try a small hand towel that has been put in the fridge to help with her teething. We did not want to use a passifier and that was a good alternative for when she was teething.
First off is a dummy suppose to be a pacifier.And if it is then I did give my son one he was totally off of it by the time he was 15 months old. My child wouldn't have had a choose about parting with it. I refused to let him go that long with one but sucking her thumb can be just as hard to stop and can cause buck teeth. Don't think just b/c it's not a pacifer means it wont be hard to stop in fact it will probably be harder with a pacifer she can't use it unless you give it to her but with her thumb that is with her at all times.
that's all well an good but at least u can take a dummy off Ur child at a certain age u cant exactly take her thumb away my aunt is 34 an still sucks her thumb an her speech has always been terrible
I dont agree a soother is better for the teeth and you have to think you can take away a soother you cant take away a thumb?! i have a 19year old friend who still to this day sucks her thumb and because of it her teeth are messed up!
there are pros and cons of both
sucking your thumb is unhygienic and remember it can become a habit more than a soother later in life, i know 18 year olds who still suck their thumb
using a dummy has obvious dental concerns in terms of teething and how the teeth grow
Personally i would let my Lil one use a dummy because you can help them grow out of using them just like potty training, however, thumb sucking can become an irreversible habit and lets be fair how many 7/8 yr olds do you see still using dummies none i believe.
Two of my children had a dummy. I threw it away before they got to 18 months. You can't throw a thumb away.
i think u should give her a pacifier(dummy) because shes going to suck her thumb and make it sore.I know alot of children who's fingers are really messed up.and when she turns 1 then i think u should take it,maybe try some months be4,and try not to give it to her everyday.u will see sometimes see wont need it or want it.that's just my opinion.hoped it help
Go with what's best for baby, all my children had dummies, I personally don't like thumb sucking, I remember girls of 10 + at school still sucking there thumbs, at least with a dummy you can throw it away. I only let my children have one when they really needed it, once pacified i'd take it out of their mouths
I never gave my son a dummy and he never actually sucked his thumb either. But even if he were to suck his thumb, I'd still prefer that to a dummy. Dummys cost money, thumbs are free. Thumbs are also easier to keep clean and you don't have to worry about pieces of them breaking off and choking your child. Most experts actally prefer the thumb to the dummy. Some parents also prefer the thumb since baby can replace it himself during the night instead of waking up screaming because the dummy fell on the floor.
It's totally your choice. Don't let anyone presure you into anything you are not comfortable for your child.
One of the advantages a dummy has is that it doen's affect the dental structure. Kids who suck their thumbs for ages usually get "sticky-outie" teeth. Plus smelly, wrinkly thumbs that seem to have an affinity for your face. Gross.
I'd go with the dummy myself, but everyone's different.
Hi Carol
I am the father of 3
My son now 19 had a dummy until he was app 2
My daughter now 17 sucked her thumb
My other daughter now 14 had a dummy until app 2
My 17 year old daughter still to this day sucks her thumb
i am forever telling her to stop
So you can throw a dummy away
But thumbs you are stuck with.
A pacifer would be better than her hands. My eight year old refused a paci but she still sucks her thumb..and she doesn't want to stop.I can't take her tumg away, but I could've taken a paci away.
I sucked my thumb as a little girl. When my second teeth came in they were really bucked and I had to endure 4 years of orthadontists and braces..
Therefore, when my children were born, I gave them dummies.because at least you can remove them as soon as they have fallen asleep. They both gave up their dummies by two years old.
At the end of the day, it is entirely your decision and it would be better for all if they had neither
I agree! Pacifiers can be nice, but they end up being a crutch and more trouble than they're worth. I finally got fed up with the damn things when my son was about 16 months old (we had just got back from a trip to Hawaii, and we needed them at the time to help equalize the pressure in his ears during the plane's takeoff). I rounded up every last one of them and threw them in the garbage. There was much wailing and gnashing of teeth for about 2-3 days, then it was over; and life went on..
Hard to say what will be best at this age since they may grow out of it.
My babes never sucked their thumb but needed to be pacified with a dummy.
1. A thumb can always be found at night but pacifiers/dummys can get lost and you have to get up and find it.
2. Easier to take a dummy away, not easy to take a thumb away.
My babes rid the dummy within a few days.
Is a dummy and pacifier? If so, just take it away. It was hard for my son to give his up, but he didn't have a choice. As for the thumb sucking, knock it out of his mouth every time you see it in there. You have to break the habit now and if he sucks his thumb in the night, make him wear socks on his hands. Just break the habits, it wont take long if you are persistent. I sucked my thumb till the was 12, had to have major orthodontics's done because my mother didn't break my habit, she thought it was cute. Just be persistent and constant, you CAN do it. : )
Your kid your choice right but a word of advice.i am a dental assistant and trust me when i say it is a lot easier to break the dummy habit as opposed to the thumb habit.see sucking a thumb can cause the child palate to vault and teeth to stck out then alot of work will be needed to fix this problem later in life and a lot of money! ( ex palatal expanding appliances and braces at a young age and for a long time.) the kids thumb is always with them as with a dummy is not. not that either is a great idea but if you have to choose between the to go for the dummy.its easier to ween them off not to mention the fact that if you just take it away they have no choice but not to use it. Good Luck oh and just a note regarding the person that said that thumbs are esier to keep clean..they are not you child uses their hands for everything and bacteria builds up on the thumbs more than other fingers not to mention that it grows under and areound the nails .the other thing is that eventually your childs thumb will start to deform (ever heard of a hitchhikers thumb? ) it will look all bend backwards and stuff. GOod LUck
I think dummies are better because not only does it give your baby something to suck but it doesn't push the teeth forward and it's easier to ween a kid off a dummy than sucking their thumb. My cousin (18) still sucks her thumb.
I didn't give my daughter a pacifier either. She was fine. She's six now and does not suck her thumb.
I agree with you. I hate seeing older kids with pacifiers. Also, I hate it when parents stick the pacifier in the kids mouth, just so they won't have to hear them. My niece is almost three and her parents still give her a pacifier on a regular basis, which really annoys me, not that I would tell them that.
I supposed you are referring to a pacifier?
My first one had a pacifier and I refused to let her suck her thumb, you cannot throw away a thumb.
When she was five months old and had her teeth comming in, I started taking it away a little at a time, adn when she was six months old, she threw it away, and it was "gone gone"
Now some people prefer the thumb so you don't have to worry about losing it, but I also have a 26 yr old friend who still sucks her thumb, all the time!
So having it for an extended amount of time has nothing to do with it being a thumb or a pacifier, it has to do with the parents ability to teach and take authority of it.
I gave my children a pacifier beause it was easier to take away than their thumb.
We started w/ 'out in pulbic'. I'd tell them that 'big girls' don't do that in public. None of the others big girls you see have them. Oh, look. there's a baby, she has a pacifier, but hte big girls don't. That made them not want to use it in public; they gave that up on their own. Then, we'd start loosing them around the house, & only find them at nap & nite time. Then we'd loose them on nights that they were very tired, then on other nights as well. I'd tell them that it wasn't really important.. big girls don't sleep w/ them. I don't, your sisters don't.
Worked the same w/ the boys,just change the gender.
I don't know how I ever would have lost their thumbs!!
You don't have to worry about them switching from a pacifier to a thumb, the taste & feel is very different!
Some babies just have a very strong sucking instinct. They need more sucking thna they get from eating. That's specially true if they eat from a bottle, it is easier to get the milk from. One more good thing about nursing your baby!
with my daughter she sucks her thumb and has been since birth. now she is 18 months. she wouldnt take a pacifier. but on the other hand my son is 2 months old and he loves his pacifier. but i am with you on the cant stand seeing older children have one in thier mouth. my osn will be broke at or around 10 months. maybe sooner if he gives it up himself. breaking kids from paccifiers are just like breaking from bottle. just throw vthem away. i am running in a problem with my daughter though. i cant throw her thumb away so i will have to do other things when the time is right. whatever makes your daughter happy then do it.
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i agree with you 100%. I did give my son a dummy, which he only used to get himself to sleep. At about four monthis, he started to push the dummy out and put his thumb in hs mouth instead, so I stopped giving it to him. I prefer him to suck his thumb rather than have a dummy. I hate seeing children and babies with dummies in their mouths for no reason.
I agree with whatever works for you and your daughter. If she's fine without one, good for you guys. But I also have seen 10 year olds still sucking their thumb!
My daughter had a pacifier, and we just stopped it before her 2nd birthday. I could tell she was ready to give it up, and it wasn't a problem at all. But yes, I understand what you are saying about older kids being attached to them.
I think the issue is with a dummy at a certain stage you can take it away. It is hard to take a thumb away. My niece ended up sucking her thumb until she was almost 8 years old!!
you should try and discourage your child from sucking her thumb as it will mishape her teeth
A dummy is better, especially when they get older. It's better than sucking on the thumb and will lead to dental problems later on.
Besides, the dummy should be removed at about the same time that you stop using the breast/bottle.
by dummy, I assume you mean a pacifier or a binky? My personal opinion on this is that it is better for them to suck a pacifier than their own thumb, because when the time comes to get rid of it (when they are too old), it is easier to get rid of a pacifier than a thumb!
i heartily agree with you ..we refused to use any sort of pacifier on our child .much to the disdain of other parents ,do what you think is right for your child and you won`t go wrong
I gave my son a dummy and removed it age 2. We did this gradually starting with not having it during the day. Then the dummy fairy came and replaced it with a toy. He is 3 and a half now and doesn't suck his thumb. I think that is is a better option as you can't remove a thumb and it's a harder habit to break. Also thumb sucking is worse for tooth development. It is however personal choice. Best wishes xx
I totally agree.. I never gave my son one. and he was fine. They don't need them. and won't get hooked unless you give them one.
Sucking on her thimb is instinct, she did it all the time she was in your womb. I would try a small hand towel that has been put in the fridge to help with her teething. We did not want to use a passifier and that was a good alternative for when she was teething.
First off is a dummy suppose to be a pacifier.And if it is then I did give my son one he was totally off of it by the time he was 15 months old. My child wouldn't have had a choose about parting with it. I refused to let him go that long with one but sucking her thumb can be just as hard to stop and can cause buck teeth. Don't think just b/c it's not a pacifer means it wont be hard to stop in fact it will probably be harder with a pacifer she can't use it unless you give it to her but with her thumb that is with her at all times.
that's all well an good but at least u can take a dummy off Ur child at a certain age u cant exactly take her thumb away my aunt is 34 an still sucks her thumb an her speech has always been terrible
I dont agree a soother is better for the teeth and you have to think you can take away a soother you cant take away a thumb?! i have a 19year old friend who still to this day sucks her thumb and because of it her teeth are messed up!
there are pros and cons of both
sucking your thumb is unhygienic and remember it can become a habit more than a soother later in life, i know 18 year olds who still suck their thumb
using a dummy has obvious dental concerns in terms of teething and how the teeth grow
Personally i would let my Lil one use a dummy because you can help them grow out of using them just like potty training, however, thumb sucking can become an irreversible habit and lets be fair how many 7/8 yr olds do you see still using dummies none i believe.
Two of my children had a dummy. I threw it away before they got to 18 months. You can't throw a thumb away.
i think u should give her a pacifier(dummy) because shes going to suck her thumb and make it sore.I know alot of children who's fingers are really messed up.and when she turns 1 then i think u should take it,maybe try some months be4,and try not to give it to her everyday.u will see sometimes see wont need it or want it.that's just my opinion.hoped it help
Go with what's best for baby, all my children had dummies, I personally don't like thumb sucking, I remember girls of 10 + at school still sucking there thumbs, at least with a dummy you can throw it away. I only let my children have one when they really needed it, once pacified i'd take it out of their mouths
I never gave my son a dummy and he never actually sucked his thumb either. But even if he were to suck his thumb, I'd still prefer that to a dummy. Dummys cost money, thumbs are free. Thumbs are also easier to keep clean and you don't have to worry about pieces of them breaking off and choking your child. Most experts actally prefer the thumb to the dummy. Some parents also prefer the thumb since baby can replace it himself during the night instead of waking up screaming because the dummy fell on the floor.
It's totally your choice. Don't let anyone presure you into anything you are not comfortable for your child.
One of the advantages a dummy has is that it doen's affect the dental structure. Kids who suck their thumbs for ages usually get "sticky-outie" teeth. Plus smelly, wrinkly thumbs that seem to have an affinity for your face. Gross.
I'd go with the dummy myself, but everyone's different.
Hi Carol
I am the father of 3
My son now 19 had a dummy until he was app 2
My daughter now 17 sucked her thumb
My other daughter now 14 had a dummy until app 2
My 17 year old daughter still to this day sucks her thumb
i am forever telling her to stop
So you can throw a dummy away
But thumbs you are stuck with.
A pacifer would be better than her hands. My eight year old refused a paci but she still sucks her thumb..and she doesn't want to stop.I can't take her tumg away, but I could've taken a paci away.
I sucked my thumb as a little girl. When my second teeth came in they were really bucked and I had to endure 4 years of orthadontists and braces..
Therefore, when my children were born, I gave them dummies.because at least you can remove them as soon as they have fallen asleep. They both gave up their dummies by two years old.
At the end of the day, it is entirely your decision and it would be better for all if they had neither
I agree! Pacifiers can be nice, but they end up being a crutch and more trouble than they're worth. I finally got fed up with the damn things when my son was about 16 months old (we had just got back from a trip to Hawaii, and we needed them at the time to help equalize the pressure in his ears during the plane's takeoff). I rounded up every last one of them and threw them in the garbage. There was much wailing and gnashing of teeth for about 2-3 days, then it was over; and life went on..
Hard to say what will be best at this age since they may grow out of it.
My babes never sucked their thumb but needed to be pacified with a dummy.
1. A thumb can always be found at night but pacifiers/dummys can get lost and you have to get up and find it.
2. Easier to take a dummy away, not easy to take a thumb away.
My babes rid the dummy within a few days.
Is a dummy and pacifier? If so, just take it away. It was hard for my son to give his up, but he didn't have a choice. As for the thumb sucking, knock it out of his mouth every time you see it in there. You have to break the habit now and if he sucks his thumb in the night, make him wear socks on his hands. Just break the habits, it wont take long if you are persistent. I sucked my thumb till the was 12, had to have major orthodontics's done because my mother didn't break my habit, she thought it was cute. Just be persistent and constant, you CAN do it. : )
Your kid your choice right but a word of advice.i am a dental assistant and trust me when i say it is a lot easier to break the dummy habit as opposed to the thumb habit.see sucking a thumb can cause the child palate to vault and teeth to stck out then alot of work will be needed to fix this problem later in life and a lot of money! ( ex palatal expanding appliances and braces at a young age and for a long time.) the kids thumb is always with them as with a dummy is not. not that either is a great idea but if you have to choose between the to go for the dummy.its easier to ween them off not to mention the fact that if you just take it away they have no choice but not to use it. Good Luck oh and just a note regarding the person that said that thumbs are esier to keep clean..they are not you child uses their hands for everything and bacteria builds up on the thumbs more than other fingers not to mention that it grows under and areound the nails .the other thing is that eventually your childs thumb will start to deform (ever heard of a hitchhikers thumb? ) it will look all bend backwards and stuff. GOod LUck
I think dummies are better because not only does it give your baby something to suck but it doesn't push the teeth forward and it's easier to ween a kid off a dummy than sucking their thumb. My cousin (18) still sucks her thumb.
I didn't give my daughter a pacifier either. She was fine. She's six now and does not suck her thumb.
I agree with you. I hate seeing older kids with pacifiers. Also, I hate it when parents stick the pacifier in the kids mouth, just so they won't have to hear them. My niece is almost three and her parents still give her a pacifier on a regular basis, which really annoys me, not that I would tell them that.
I supposed you are referring to a pacifier?
My first one had a pacifier and I refused to let her suck her thumb, you cannot throw away a thumb.
When she was five months old and had her teeth comming in, I started taking it away a little at a time, adn when she was six months old, she threw it away, and it was "gone gone"
Now some people prefer the thumb so you don't have to worry about losing it, but I also have a 26 yr old friend who still sucks her thumb, all the time!
So having it for an extended amount of time has nothing to do with it being a thumb or a pacifier, it has to do with the parents ability to teach and take authority of it.
I gave my children a pacifier beause it was easier to take away than their thumb.
We started w/ 'out in pulbic'. I'd tell them that 'big girls' don't do that in public. None of the others big girls you see have them. Oh, look. there's a baby, she has a pacifier, but hte big girls don't. That made them not want to use it in public; they gave that up on their own. Then, we'd start loosing them around the house, & only find them at nap & nite time. Then we'd loose them on nights that they were very tired, then on other nights as well. I'd tell them that it wasn't really important.. big girls don't sleep w/ them. I don't, your sisters don't.
Worked the same w/ the boys,just change the gender.
I don't know how I ever would have lost their thumbs!!
You don't have to worry about them switching from a pacifier to a thumb, the taste & feel is very different!
Some babies just have a very strong sucking instinct. They need more sucking thna they get from eating. That's specially true if they eat from a bottle, it is easier to get the milk from. One more good thing about nursing your baby!
with my daughter she sucks her thumb and has been since birth. now she is 18 months. she wouldnt take a pacifier. but on the other hand my son is 2 months old and he loves his pacifier. but i am with you on the cant stand seeing older children have one in thier mouth. my osn will be broke at or around 10 months. maybe sooner if he gives it up himself. breaking kids from paccifiers are just like breaking from bottle. just throw vthem away. i am running in a problem with my daughter though. i cant throw her thumb away so i will have to do other things when the time is right. whatever makes your daughter happy then do it.
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