Would you have a vasectomy if the only reason you were doing it was for a quiet life!?
My partner wants me to have a vasectomy because we have 3 children already. She has told me she will not sleep with me until i have had it done. We haven't got the best marriage and i can't see us being together for much longer and now i all i can think about is that i am having it done for her and not me. What would you do?
Answers:
don't do something just to please a partner it will only make you miserable
Its a simple question. Do you want more kids? With or without your wife..
Dont have a vasectomy if you're not sure.
don't have it done then & not have sex unless you use a condom, or she can go on the pill, have a coil fitted etc if she definitely doesn't want any more kids.
you might split from her & meet someone else who you do want more kids with & if you've had a vasectomy although they can be reversed that doesn't always work.
besides the biggest factor here is ITS YOUR BODY! its not for her to decide what you do with it
If there's a possibilty you may want more children with another partner - then obviously no. However, bringing 3 kids into this overpopulated world seems enough. But then again, if you do split you may meet a childless woman who wants kids.
It's your body ultimately; and have either of you heard of contraception?
I would never do anything permanently myself. You never know what could happen. You may meet the woman of your dreams tomorrow, but she won't marry you if you can't have any kids. Tell your wife to get an IUD or something. Or, since you don't really like her anyway, just don't sleep with her.
dont do it unless you want it done
if she's told you she won't sleep with you until you have it done then she's blackmailing you boy. this is enough reason not to do it. there are lots of ways to prevent unwanted children. if you can't see yourself with her in the future then where is the profit in having it done.
Don't do it unless you are 100% sure it's what you want, especially as you say your marriage is on the rocks.
I can understand your wife not wanting anymore children but the two of you really need to sit down and discuss the vasectomy.
Don't have it done then, she may suspect you are not happy, It may be her way of making sure you can't have anymore children with anybody else! Tell her you need time to think about it! Lets face it, you would be capable of having more children, but would her body really want to go through it again?
tell her she can get herself fixed because you don't want to give up cu.mming
ask your self one question what happens if you and your wife go your separate ways?
what if you fall in love with someone and she wants children with you. what then?
there are a number of contraceptives out there way choose the most drastic option?
don't have the op to keep the peace! you have a life and a future too. its your body not your wifes.
this is definately a 'personal' decision, but remember ..you & the mrs may not last forever & if say in 2-3 years you started over with someone else.would you consider having a 'family' again.
just think about it
good luck
NO NO NO and NO
Not because i don't agree with vasectomy but because you say your marriage is rocky - tell her if she really wants you to ahve a vasectomy then you need to have marriage counselling first.
If you think your marriage isn't going to last then why get a vasectomy you might meet some one else and want children with them.
I would suggest you use a condom instead.
tell her that she should get herself done. if it dont feel right for you then dont do it. my brother in law had a vasectomy because his ex didnt wont any more kids he split with her a few years later and meet my sister they have been married for 5 years and he had to pay to go private to have it revised because he already had children the nhs would not help,sadly for them now that he has it revised his body is killing of the spem as it is produced so know they are saving up to pay for a spem donor. so my best advise to you is so no if she does not wont any more kids let her have the op, at the end of the day its up to you dont be pressed into doing something that you may later regreat, if she does t wont an op there are many other thing that you can both use instead.
dont be bulled or blackmail in to it coz it will affect you for the rest of your life good luck and think hard before you make up your mind.
I wouldn't get it done, your not happy and said yourself you might not be together for to much longer. Why would you do something to please her if all she is doing is making you mersierable. Don't do it.
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Answers:
don't do something just to please a partner it will only make you miserable
Its a simple question. Do you want more kids? With or without your wife..
Dont have a vasectomy if you're not sure.
don't have it done then & not have sex unless you use a condom, or she can go on the pill, have a coil fitted etc if she definitely doesn't want any more kids.
you might split from her & meet someone else who you do want more kids with & if you've had a vasectomy although they can be reversed that doesn't always work.
besides the biggest factor here is ITS YOUR BODY! its not for her to decide what you do with it
If there's a possibilty you may want more children with another partner - then obviously no. However, bringing 3 kids into this overpopulated world seems enough. But then again, if you do split you may meet a childless woman who wants kids.
It's your body ultimately; and have either of you heard of contraception?
I would never do anything permanently myself. You never know what could happen. You may meet the woman of your dreams tomorrow, but she won't marry you if you can't have any kids. Tell your wife to get an IUD or something. Or, since you don't really like her anyway, just don't sleep with her.
dont do it unless you want it done
if she's told you she won't sleep with you until you have it done then she's blackmailing you boy. this is enough reason not to do it. there are lots of ways to prevent unwanted children. if you can't see yourself with her in the future then where is the profit in having it done.
Don't do it unless you are 100% sure it's what you want, especially as you say your marriage is on the rocks.
I can understand your wife not wanting anymore children but the two of you really need to sit down and discuss the vasectomy.
Don't have it done then, she may suspect you are not happy, It may be her way of making sure you can't have anymore children with anybody else! Tell her you need time to think about it! Lets face it, you would be capable of having more children, but would her body really want to go through it again?
tell her she can get herself fixed because you don't want to give up cu.mming
ask your self one question what happens if you and your wife go your separate ways?
what if you fall in love with someone and she wants children with you. what then?
there are a number of contraceptives out there way choose the most drastic option?
don't have the op to keep the peace! you have a life and a future too. its your body not your wifes.
this is definately a 'personal' decision, but remember ..you & the mrs may not last forever & if say in 2-3 years you started over with someone else.would you consider having a 'family' again.
just think about it
good luck
NO NO NO and NO
Not because i don't agree with vasectomy but because you say your marriage is rocky - tell her if she really wants you to ahve a vasectomy then you need to have marriage counselling first.
If you think your marriage isn't going to last then why get a vasectomy you might meet some one else and want children with them.
I would suggest you use a condom instead.
tell her that she should get herself done. if it dont feel right for you then dont do it. my brother in law had a vasectomy because his ex didnt wont any more kids he split with her a few years later and meet my sister they have been married for 5 years and he had to pay to go private to have it revised because he already had children the nhs would not help,sadly for them now that he has it revised his body is killing of the spem as it is produced so know they are saving up to pay for a spem donor. so my best advise to you is so no if she does not wont any more kids let her have the op, at the end of the day its up to you dont be pressed into doing something that you may later regreat, if she does t wont an op there are many other thing that you can both use instead.
dont be bulled or blackmail in to it coz it will affect you for the rest of your life good luck and think hard before you make up your mind.
I wouldn't get it done, your not happy and said yourself you might not be together for to much longer. Why would you do something to please her if all she is doing is making you mersierable. Don't do it.
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