Is 40 too old to have a baby?
my boyfriend is 13 years younger than me and has no family of his own. however i already have 3 growing up children to a previous partner, and i feel like i am just getting my life back. i love my partner and I would have another baby to keep him happy, but am i too old? i look quite young for my age, i exercise and take care of my self, but mentally, im not sure i could cope with another baby..help i !
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no, 40 is not too old. the best thing to do is talk to him and see what he wants to do. if you have your problems out in the open, such as the fact that you are worried you would not be able to cope, it'll be easier for him to support you in every way he can. you sound in very good shape so i'm sure you wouldn't have a problem and once you have had the baby i know you wouldn't regret it. good luck, i hope this helped you! xx
40 is not too old to have a baby at all, if you still feel capable of looking after it as you have done your previous children then go for it and have fun making the baby.
Not at all. Before you do just go get everything checked out by your doctor so he/she can tell you what do or the way to handle things. =] Good luck!
40 is to old to have sex you dirty slag.
go for it !
It isn't necessarily too old, but it depends on if you're feeling railroaded into this decision. I know someone who had a baby at 48, but she's always tired!
There are many complications that can arise in pregnancy after the age of 35. I'm not saying that you are too old, but I do recommend thinking very long and hard about this, and also consulting your doctor to get a professional opinion. You may feel great, but have other reasons that would complicate a pregnancy. Good luck to you.
It's up to you. Don't do it just for your husband. I'm 43 and expecting my second child. So you're not too old, but you have to make the right decision for yourself first.
You are deffinatly not too young, but I wouldn't waste any time if you really want to have another baby. My mother inlaw had her last baby a year after I had my first when she was 40. I know several other women who had children in their 40's, so it is completley possible. Give it a try!
dont do it for him, only do it if you are both happy to go through with it.
I would definatly go to my OB/GYN and make sure physically you can have another child. Also I would talk to someone if you are not sure that you can cope with an infant. This is another 18 year committment that you are looking at, even if this relationship with your boyfriend doesnt work out. Maybe you can babysit for a long weekend for an infant relative and see if it's something that is even an option. Adopting is also an option and maybe an older child 3-4 would work better for you. I understand the need to want to have a child with the man you love, but sometimes things arent meant to be, So please look at all of the options before deciding to have a child.
If your not sure don't do it, you should only bring a baby into the world if your sure.( ideal world).
You have to think your 40 now, when the child is 10 you will be 50!
My feelings on this is no offence here, too old, you gotta think long term on this subject i believe.
I wouldn't have a baby just to keep him happy, only have a baby if it's what you truly want. Do you really want to put yourself through it all again?
If you really do want a baby for the right reasons then I would suggest you go to your doctor to find out what supplements and things you might be better off taking before you conceive. I wouldn't think that 40 is too old but it's always best to prepare you body for the shock of pregnancy as best you can.
hope its not I will be about that old when I'm ready to have kids.
allo well im 36 and had my first child at 17 and i maybe pregnant, i think if tour healthy then go for it
only if you're not going through menopause. and if you really want one and don't think you are mentally capable of it again go to a baby class and learn about it all over again. another little one could bring more joy and love to your family. :)
well you not to old but rember whe its 10 your 50 will you still be wanting to go to schoo; plays etc i know i would not when i reached 40 live began
best stick with the practise only its far better
no not at all. My mom who is 42 (next month) had twin girls when she was 40 also. ( I am 22 then I have a 20 year old brother) So there is a big span in between age, but I don't have a problem with it. I love them to death. She carried to 39 weeks (just because of scheduled c-section because that's what she had with both of us) They are healthy and cutie pies! My daughter is actually 10 months older than them so it's funny. But they get along great. On that note sit down and talk with your partner and you need to tell him your pro's and con's about getting pregnant. Ultimately it's up to you. If you do end up wanting it you have my support.
Wow, I was all ready to tell you to go for it, because my husband is 43 and we just had a baby and are planning on another one. But it really depends on the mother. There are a lot of health issues to discuss too. If it's something BOTH of you want go for it. Good Luck!
You should never have a baby "to keep him happy" thats a recipe for disaster, you have to ask yourself if having another kid is really what you want and you're truly happy with your other half? if you are then a baby wont make you any more happy and isnt needed? a baby wont solve any problems either.
I'm a 41 year old black man. I have 17 kids, with 9 different women. By 42 I hope to have 20.
So no, you not too old.
It may not be too old physically, but the child will suffer with older parents!
my mom was over 40 dad over 50. it is tough on the child!
Absolutley not! Just start taking care of yourself, and start taking vitamins and folic acid, calcium supplements , fish oil, and vitamin E&C. Believe me you will cope once that beautiful baby is born! Good luck TTC!
never have a baby too please someone else no matter how much you love them.You know if you have three grown children how hard it is to be a mother if you know you are not mentally prepared to go through that again don't do it.My mom has an 18 month old and she is 46 and even though she loves my baby bro she resents him sometimes and i know it.I don't think 40 is too old its just a matter of are you willing to give up yourself because thats pretty much what you have to do or would you rather enjoy the years you have on this earth with peace and quiet and not have to deal with a screaming baby.I know i would not want that at age 40 but thats up to you just think long and hard about what its going to take and if its not what you want do not give yourself up for that.good luck to ya
my mother gave birth to me at 46.
Not really, you should try and struggle hard..
At this age
But even 55 years can also have
but struggling is the worst part.
You already have 3 and why dont try another one.
Try to keep your life happy.
So you are doing that with a guy of your childs age.
That is not good..
girl. dont even go there, enjoy your life with your kids and your man. 40 is tooooooooooooooo old.
it sounds like u wud only have 1 4 his sake and ur not really that keen im 30 and i have 2 kid my eldest is 9 my youngest is 5my partner is only my 5 year old sons dad and he wanted me 2 have more but i just didnt want 2 start again and i have 1 of each so i sort of get where ur coming from i had my tubes tied cuz at the end of the day if ur not totally happy about it then u shouldnt go ahead with it and i dont think 40 is too old my dad met some1 else later in life and had a son at 49 i hope this helps but dont feel pressured to do this unless its def what u want
If you don't think you are mentally able to cope don't do it. However, physically as long as you are healthy I say go for it. I also suggest you get married first.
i have just become a gran at 44 and while it is the most wonderful feeling in the world it is also exhausting. i mind the little one for a few hours each day while mummy works and i had forgotten just how hard it is. just going to the loo or down the garden is impossible without taking her with me because i wont leave her in a room on her own. you forget that you cant nip upstairs to have a shower or go the shop quickly if you want to. however i can't wait to see her everyday, she makes me feel so content and happy that nothing else really matters. so basically if you feel you can cope and adore children and dont mind starting the school run again at 45 then go for it, if not then wait to be a gran and take your boyfriend on a nice holiday instead and show him what he'd be missing. if you got pregnant. at the end of the day only you can decide after weighing up the pros and cons. good luck
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no, 40 is not too old. the best thing to do is talk to him and see what he wants to do. if you have your problems out in the open, such as the fact that you are worried you would not be able to cope, it'll be easier for him to support you in every way he can. you sound in very good shape so i'm sure you wouldn't have a problem and once you have had the baby i know you wouldn't regret it. good luck, i hope this helped you! xx
40 is not too old to have a baby at all, if you still feel capable of looking after it as you have done your previous children then go for it and have fun making the baby.
Not at all. Before you do just go get everything checked out by your doctor so he/she can tell you what do or the way to handle things. =] Good luck!
40 is to old to have sex you dirty slag.
go for it !
It isn't necessarily too old, but it depends on if you're feeling railroaded into this decision. I know someone who had a baby at 48, but she's always tired!
There are many complications that can arise in pregnancy after the age of 35. I'm not saying that you are too old, but I do recommend thinking very long and hard about this, and also consulting your doctor to get a professional opinion. You may feel great, but have other reasons that would complicate a pregnancy. Good luck to you.
It's up to you. Don't do it just for your husband. I'm 43 and expecting my second child. So you're not too old, but you have to make the right decision for yourself first.
You are deffinatly not too young, but I wouldn't waste any time if you really want to have another baby. My mother inlaw had her last baby a year after I had my first when she was 40. I know several other women who had children in their 40's, so it is completley possible. Give it a try!
dont do it for him, only do it if you are both happy to go through with it.
I would definatly go to my OB/GYN and make sure physically you can have another child. Also I would talk to someone if you are not sure that you can cope with an infant. This is another 18 year committment that you are looking at, even if this relationship with your boyfriend doesnt work out. Maybe you can babysit for a long weekend for an infant relative and see if it's something that is even an option. Adopting is also an option and maybe an older child 3-4 would work better for you. I understand the need to want to have a child with the man you love, but sometimes things arent meant to be, So please look at all of the options before deciding to have a child.
If your not sure don't do it, you should only bring a baby into the world if your sure.( ideal world).
You have to think your 40 now, when the child is 10 you will be 50!
My feelings on this is no offence here, too old, you gotta think long term on this subject i believe.
I wouldn't have a baby just to keep him happy, only have a baby if it's what you truly want. Do you really want to put yourself through it all again?
If you really do want a baby for the right reasons then I would suggest you go to your doctor to find out what supplements and things you might be better off taking before you conceive. I wouldn't think that 40 is too old but it's always best to prepare you body for the shock of pregnancy as best you can.
hope its not I will be about that old when I'm ready to have kids.
allo well im 36 and had my first child at 17 and i maybe pregnant, i think if tour healthy then go for it
only if you're not going through menopause. and if you really want one and don't think you are mentally capable of it again go to a baby class and learn about it all over again. another little one could bring more joy and love to your family. :)
well you not to old but rember whe its 10 your 50 will you still be wanting to go to schoo; plays etc i know i would not when i reached 40 live began
best stick with the practise only its far better
no not at all. My mom who is 42 (next month) had twin girls when she was 40 also. ( I am 22 then I have a 20 year old brother) So there is a big span in between age, but I don't have a problem with it. I love them to death. She carried to 39 weeks (just because of scheduled c-section because that's what she had with both of us) They are healthy and cutie pies! My daughter is actually 10 months older than them so it's funny. But they get along great. On that note sit down and talk with your partner and you need to tell him your pro's and con's about getting pregnant. Ultimately it's up to you. If you do end up wanting it you have my support.
Wow, I was all ready to tell you to go for it, because my husband is 43 and we just had a baby and are planning on another one. But it really depends on the mother. There are a lot of health issues to discuss too. If it's something BOTH of you want go for it. Good Luck!
You should never have a baby "to keep him happy" thats a recipe for disaster, you have to ask yourself if having another kid is really what you want and you're truly happy with your other half? if you are then a baby wont make you any more happy and isnt needed? a baby wont solve any problems either.
I'm a 41 year old black man. I have 17 kids, with 9 different women. By 42 I hope to have 20.
So no, you not too old.
It may not be too old physically, but the child will suffer with older parents!
my mom was over 40 dad over 50. it is tough on the child!
Absolutley not! Just start taking care of yourself, and start taking vitamins and folic acid, calcium supplements , fish oil, and vitamin E&C. Believe me you will cope once that beautiful baby is born! Good luck TTC!
never have a baby too please someone else no matter how much you love them.You know if you have three grown children how hard it is to be a mother if you know you are not mentally prepared to go through that again don't do it.My mom has an 18 month old and she is 46 and even though she loves my baby bro she resents him sometimes and i know it.I don't think 40 is too old its just a matter of are you willing to give up yourself because thats pretty much what you have to do or would you rather enjoy the years you have on this earth with peace and quiet and not have to deal with a screaming baby.I know i would not want that at age 40 but thats up to you just think long and hard about what its going to take and if its not what you want do not give yourself up for that.good luck to ya
my mother gave birth to me at 46.
Not really, you should try and struggle hard..
At this age
But even 55 years can also have
but struggling is the worst part.
You already have 3 and why dont try another one.
Try to keep your life happy.
So you are doing that with a guy of your childs age.
That is not good..
girl. dont even go there, enjoy your life with your kids and your man. 40 is tooooooooooooooo old.
it sounds like u wud only have 1 4 his sake and ur not really that keen im 30 and i have 2 kid my eldest is 9 my youngest is 5my partner is only my 5 year old sons dad and he wanted me 2 have more but i just didnt want 2 start again and i have 1 of each so i sort of get where ur coming from i had my tubes tied cuz at the end of the day if ur not totally happy about it then u shouldnt go ahead with it and i dont think 40 is too old my dad met some1 else later in life and had a son at 49 i hope this helps but dont feel pressured to do this unless its def what u want
If you don't think you are mentally able to cope don't do it. However, physically as long as you are healthy I say go for it. I also suggest you get married first.
i have just become a gran at 44 and while it is the most wonderful feeling in the world it is also exhausting. i mind the little one for a few hours each day while mummy works and i had forgotten just how hard it is. just going to the loo or down the garden is impossible without taking her with me because i wont leave her in a room on her own. you forget that you cant nip upstairs to have a shower or go the shop quickly if you want to. however i can't wait to see her everyday, she makes me feel so content and happy that nothing else really matters. so basically if you feel you can cope and adore children and dont mind starting the school run again at 45 then go for it, if not then wait to be a gran and take your boyfriend on a nice holiday instead and show him what he'd be missing. if you got pregnant. at the end of the day only you can decide after weighing up the pros and cons. good luck
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