What does talking to onesself really mean?
My next door neighbour talks,shouts,converses with himself EVERY day.It's driving me nuts.The content can be violent and racist at times.He has committed a minor sex offence of flashing in the past.What is the best way to handle him?Should I be kind,as he's not living in reality,or,should I get the council on to him 4 noise,etc?Good answers will b greatly appreciated on this one.Thanx.
Answers:
You would be doing him a favor by getting help for him. I've seen people doing the same thing and it is very upsetting. He probably needs a good evaluation and it might take someone to report him to the social services in your city. He might need to be on some medication for his own good. You would not be doing anything to harm him.leaving him alone could be worse.so many people live alone these days and do not take good care of themselves.they do not eat properly or take their much needed medications.or get enough rest..If he had that offense then that is another reason to report him. Children are frightened when faced with someone like him and who knows what it could lead to. Best of luck with your decision.
The guy is lonley, or are seeking intrinsic values for comfort
You had better report him before he commits another offence
report him he's a paedo
I do it and use it as a rehearsal for real life
Wow! Your neighbor sounds like a freak. I'd keep clear of him. I think most people talk to themselves, but i dont think most people scream or actually carry on conversations with themselves. I tend to talk to myself if I'm driving and running errands. I might say out loud what i need to do next or say out loud what i need to buy at the grocery store. I think that is probably normal, but your neighbor is not normal. Ignore him and dont ever let yourself be alone with him. Stay safe and good luck. Oh, and while talking to your self is not against the law, be watchful of any questionable, or illegal bahavior from your neighbor and report that right away.
heres what you do.find a good hiding place close to where you see him the most, if need be make one in his absence, like a enclosure of somme sort. get hidden long before you are sure he will be there. while hidden await his arrival. when he gets there and starts talking answer him in a low whispery voice. invite him to take his clothes off be seductive. when he does pop out with your camera and get as many pics as you can before he comes after you, run in your house and lock the door. now you got the upper hand
report him to the council and get him an ASBO.
is it tourettes or is it age related like vascular dementia .....try not to let it drive you nuts i know it's not easy.
stay clear of this guy. i would contact the council and tell them about his flash offence. you need to get this guy in a funny farm quick
talking to yourself they say is the first sign of madness if he answers himself then he is loony, seriously if he is like you say then you need to talk to the council or social services not sure what dept but by the sounds of it he needs help
Two questions here
What does talking to oneself really mean? - It means you do not have an internet connection.
What is the best way to handle him? - Unless he does something which is a criminal offence, I would do nothing at all. If he is seeking attention from you, or someone else and you do not approve of the method then ignore it.
Perhaps you could speak to him and ask if the weather is good in his garden? Then go off and shout some racist comments, kick some stones in your garden, and go nude sunbathing in your garden.
There is so much conflict going on in everyone's head most of the time that some of us talk to ourselves to try to straighten it out. While it's locked inside, it's just a jumble but when it's brought out by words, it makes sense. It can also help resolve a problem.
However, to do it loudly and angrily indicates something more is going on so I would avoid this person and be a littlle cautious in my dealings with him. However, you should always be kind. People are hurting from all kinds of things..misunderstandings, judgements, unfairness, etc. etc.
If he's really annoying others with the noise, call the police and ask them to handle it.
If you say anything on your own, you may bring some of that anger onto yourself.
He could probably do with a friend. he's talking to the only person he has got..
A lot of people talk to themselves and it's really not a bad thing usually. However there are two types, the crazy schizophrentic people (like your neighbor) and the people who talk (outloud or in thier head) because they're very opinionated enjoy commenting on everything whether someone else is willing to listen or not. As for your neighbor don't be afraid to consult the council about him. A disturbance such as the one you described is definitly a valid complaint.
Maybe he is mentally ill..usually people who have schizophrenia do not see the reality other people see.maybe he ''sees'' other people and talks to them. If he is mentally ill.it's not his fault.he needs help. You can't convince him though to stop doing this.just accept the fact and try to be calm when you are with him.
Sounds like he might be schizophrenic or some other psychotic disorder.
He could also be manifesting Bipolar disorder or another severe mood disorder such as major depressive disorder.
If you have a way to refer him to mental health where he can get some help that would be the correct thing to do.
No mental illness gets better untreated, they will only get sicker.
What is it to you?, if the guy is not actively hurting you, then it's none of your business. Talking to yourself is not a crime!
flashing is - but you said it was a long time ago!, so long as he isn't doing it now, it's not your problem!
He might have a mental heath problem. Talk to social services (if they have the funding they might send someone to see him).
it sounds like your neighbour has mental health problems it may be worth while reporting it and if at all possible tape what is being said so you have back up
what ever way you look at it he is ill, worth mention to the council, they may know of his condition, if you see him out side just say a quick hi, he may not acknowledge you or even stare wired at you,
if he dose just turn away don't make a issue cos you don't know what his mental illness is, but i would ask the council or social service, (if they will tell you) so you know where you are with him,
it means you don't want an argument from who ever is near you
The reason he does it is irrelevant, if he is that loud that he is disturbing your quality of life you can complain to the council but if, as you say, he is not living in reality, what difference would it make. They are not like to move him just because he talks to himself. you'd probably be better off being more tolerant.
Well,try one thing honestly.
Because I am the one who talk to himself and I really dont feel embarrassment about it. But I dont shout or do something crazy.
What I can suggest try to get close these people may be you will find something else and may be it will change alot in your life.Little problem-with the start and it will continue till the end but something is really damn good about it.Try it
Thank your lucky stars that you don't have the worry of a loved one suffering in the same way, with a neighbour that doesn't understand.
Your next door neighbour is probably getting much more interesting answers to his/her questions than you are - he/she answers them him/herself - Laugh.
You're best to try to ignore it, put some music on. Maybe you're angrier than normal because of his past.
everyone talks to themselves,but if he is really bad,try to stay away from him, if he says hello than respond but i would just try to ignore it.or ask around the neighborhood and ask if there is something someone can do to help him
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Answers:
You would be doing him a favor by getting help for him. I've seen people doing the same thing and it is very upsetting. He probably needs a good evaluation and it might take someone to report him to the social services in your city. He might need to be on some medication for his own good. You would not be doing anything to harm him.leaving him alone could be worse.so many people live alone these days and do not take good care of themselves.they do not eat properly or take their much needed medications.or get enough rest..If he had that offense then that is another reason to report him. Children are frightened when faced with someone like him and who knows what it could lead to. Best of luck with your decision.
The guy is lonley, or are seeking intrinsic values for comfort
You had better report him before he commits another offence
report him he's a paedo
I do it and use it as a rehearsal for real life
Wow! Your neighbor sounds like a freak. I'd keep clear of him. I think most people talk to themselves, but i dont think most people scream or actually carry on conversations with themselves. I tend to talk to myself if I'm driving and running errands. I might say out loud what i need to do next or say out loud what i need to buy at the grocery store. I think that is probably normal, but your neighbor is not normal. Ignore him and dont ever let yourself be alone with him. Stay safe and good luck. Oh, and while talking to your self is not against the law, be watchful of any questionable, or illegal bahavior from your neighbor and report that right away.
heres what you do.find a good hiding place close to where you see him the most, if need be make one in his absence, like a enclosure of somme sort. get hidden long before you are sure he will be there. while hidden await his arrival. when he gets there and starts talking answer him in a low whispery voice. invite him to take his clothes off be seductive. when he does pop out with your camera and get as many pics as you can before he comes after you, run in your house and lock the door. now you got the upper hand
report him to the council and get him an ASBO.
is it tourettes or is it age related like vascular dementia .....try not to let it drive you nuts i know it's not easy.
stay clear of this guy. i would contact the council and tell them about his flash offence. you need to get this guy in a funny farm quick
talking to yourself they say is the first sign of madness if he answers himself then he is loony, seriously if he is like you say then you need to talk to the council or social services not sure what dept but by the sounds of it he needs help
Two questions here
What does talking to oneself really mean? - It means you do not have an internet connection.
What is the best way to handle him? - Unless he does something which is a criminal offence, I would do nothing at all. If he is seeking attention from you, or someone else and you do not approve of the method then ignore it.
Perhaps you could speak to him and ask if the weather is good in his garden? Then go off and shout some racist comments, kick some stones in your garden, and go nude sunbathing in your garden.
There is so much conflict going on in everyone's head most of the time that some of us talk to ourselves to try to straighten it out. While it's locked inside, it's just a jumble but when it's brought out by words, it makes sense. It can also help resolve a problem.
However, to do it loudly and angrily indicates something more is going on so I would avoid this person and be a littlle cautious in my dealings with him. However, you should always be kind. People are hurting from all kinds of things..misunderstandings, judgements, unfairness, etc. etc.
If he's really annoying others with the noise, call the police and ask them to handle it.
If you say anything on your own, you may bring some of that anger onto yourself.
He could probably do with a friend. he's talking to the only person he has got..
A lot of people talk to themselves and it's really not a bad thing usually. However there are two types, the crazy schizophrentic people (like your neighbor) and the people who talk (outloud or in thier head) because they're very opinionated enjoy commenting on everything whether someone else is willing to listen or not. As for your neighbor don't be afraid to consult the council about him. A disturbance such as the one you described is definitly a valid complaint.
Maybe he is mentally ill..usually people who have schizophrenia do not see the reality other people see.maybe he ''sees'' other people and talks to them. If he is mentally ill.it's not his fault.he needs help. You can't convince him though to stop doing this.just accept the fact and try to be calm when you are with him.
Sounds like he might be schizophrenic or some other psychotic disorder.
He could also be manifesting Bipolar disorder or another severe mood disorder such as major depressive disorder.
If you have a way to refer him to mental health where he can get some help that would be the correct thing to do.
No mental illness gets better untreated, they will only get sicker.
What is it to you?, if the guy is not actively hurting you, then it's none of your business. Talking to yourself is not a crime!
flashing is - but you said it was a long time ago!, so long as he isn't doing it now, it's not your problem!
He might have a mental heath problem. Talk to social services (if they have the funding they might send someone to see him).
it sounds like your neighbour has mental health problems it may be worth while reporting it and if at all possible tape what is being said so you have back up
what ever way you look at it he is ill, worth mention to the council, they may know of his condition, if you see him out side just say a quick hi, he may not acknowledge you or even stare wired at you,
if he dose just turn away don't make a issue cos you don't know what his mental illness is, but i would ask the council or social service, (if they will tell you) so you know where you are with him,
it means you don't want an argument from who ever is near you
The reason he does it is irrelevant, if he is that loud that he is disturbing your quality of life you can complain to the council but if, as you say, he is not living in reality, what difference would it make. They are not like to move him just because he talks to himself. you'd probably be better off being more tolerant.
Well,try one thing honestly.
Because I am the one who talk to himself and I really dont feel embarrassment about it. But I dont shout or do something crazy.
What I can suggest try to get close these people may be you will find something else and may be it will change alot in your life.Little problem-with the start and it will continue till the end but something is really damn good about it.Try it
Thank your lucky stars that you don't have the worry of a loved one suffering in the same way, with a neighbour that doesn't understand.
Your next door neighbour is probably getting much more interesting answers to his/her questions than you are - he/she answers them him/herself - Laugh.
You're best to try to ignore it, put some music on. Maybe you're angrier than normal because of his past.
everyone talks to themselves,but if he is really bad,try to stay away from him, if he says hello than respond but i would just try to ignore it.or ask around the neighborhood and ask if there is something someone can do to help him
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