How Would You React?
You take your boyfriend out for a family meal and he disappears for half an hour. The next evening he tells you he asked the barmaid for her phone number, he got it and it wasnt hard. After the arguement he says he was only joking, he really didnt ask for any phone number, it was to find out what your reaction would be? Do you believe him? Is he lying? Did he really do it? Do you dump him and walk out in disgust? What would you do? How would you react?
Answers:
A half an hour is a long time to be gone, so the question is where was he during that time and what was he doing? I suspect he might have been chatting up the barmaid and even had gotten her phone number as he had said. He might have figured he could have told you about it, then told you he was only joking and thought you would believe him.
The question is what do you believe, and do you want someone who is going to be playing those kind of head games with you? If they are playing those kinds of games now what is it going to be like later on, and do you know if you can ever trust anything they say?
Back to the half hour that he was gone. Where did he say he was for the half hour after he said he was only joking? If he said he was in the restroom that's an awful long time to be in there.
you are making too much out of this. i will put cash on that there was a good amount of alcohol involved.
he is obvious in mature and needs to grow up. walk out on him and make him feel stupid.
my gut tells me he's lying about not asking for the number.. yours probably tells you the same..
either
A.) He DID ask for the number and is now lying about it (which makes him a sleaze)
or B.) He lied about ever asking for her number, and said it knowing it would be hurtful to you
either way. he sounds like a loser based on that info.
That is too much information for a joke . I say he did ask the bar maid for her phone number (it also give an indication of where he was for the missing half hour).
Dump his sorry *** ... .you can do better than that.
What the hell could he do for 30 mins ? o.O
dump love, there is plenty of nicer guys out an about. what u doing tomorrow?
Get back at him. Go ask someone for their number right in front of him.
he sounds like a bit of a joker, a person like this will always have you guessing, you will never know if he's joking of being serious, be prepared for a long and turbulous roller coaster ride.i doubt if he did ask for the barmaids phone number, he just enjoys winding people up.If i thought i could handle him and join him in his mind games i'd stick with him..if not i'd show im the door..
RUN dont Walk to the nearest exit. If you put up with this, next thing you know, you'll be living in a trailer park, 4 kids, eating Salsbury steak TV dinners and watching Jerry Springer re-runs.
Where would you go for a half an hour in a restaurant? hmmmm...
Its a typical man thing! Probably has had number and still got it!
I would certainly not be happy with him but only you know what he is normally like? Personally I would have a good look at you relationship and see where its going if it is going anywhere.
If this is the only time he does some thing like this forget about it.
But if he does this often, forget about him. If he is looking for some one else you don't need him.
It's one thing to be friendly but not to the point of getting a phone number.
Shag his brother or if hes not too disgusting his father, that'll teach the bastard.
i would sort of laugh it off.. but if he does this any more you should confront him. if he was with your family he might just not like them.. or maybe he has some weird disease or something that he doesnt want to tell you so he goes to the bathroom to puke or something.. there could be a lot of reasons. give him another chance
worth better than that rate yourself higher. dont let him walk over you like that. lying is the worst desease you could possibly get. no right to be out with you and f**k off like that. SORT IT GIRL.
joking or not he shouldn't play with your feelings like that
Say bye to him. Better and more fish in the big sea out there.
I'd assume he was telling the truth about getting her phone number and dump him. But then, I've been burned before and don't necessarily react in the most rational ways!
Does sound like he gets off on playing mind games though, I'd be very wary if you don't decide to dump him.
dump him and find someone you can trust
I say he is bull shitting..he is just trying to make you feel jealous .a lire ..his has no feelings.he is a bighead ..what ever he is..he is a uncaring bastard ..real man don't say or do things like that ..dump him show him .his not god sent to woman..
Regardless of what he was doing, disappearing for a half-hour during a family meal was rude. Then you have his "excuse": if true, he's either two-timing you or playing games with some poor barmaid; if false, he's still lying to you, either to "test" you or to hide what he was REALLY doing for that half-hour. Take a good look at this guy. Can't you do better?
dont trust him
A guy here.
Your boyfriend has all the basics in place for being an abusive, controlling a&&hole jerk. It's one thing to flirt and play around (bad enough) but he made a point of terrorizing you with his activities. He did it in front of you and your parents.
So, how would I react? I'd break up with him. Bonus points if you go to counseling to find out why you were attracted to him in the first place, and (more importantly) why he was attracted to you.
that would be a real turn-off for me. I mean is that a man? During a family meal too.
ignorant and rude- get rid. I'd act as though nothing had happened, then say he did you a favour as an ex of yours turned up and it would have been embarassing!
here is a way to find out.
tell him you have been bi-curious for a while.. then tell him you SAW the barmaid and she was HOT!.. then tell him that just for him.. if he still has her number you agree to a threesome.
if he produces the number.. smile.. and walk away. never talk to him again.
He's playing games, a definite sign of immaturity. Only you can decide what you will or will not accept in relationship. Peace!
In the 1970s, my date disappeared at a rock concert when he left to get me a soda! Being an idiot, I drove around and around the Cap Centre afterwards, to try to find him. He jokingly told me that next day he met a girl, then he told me no, he .. gee - i can't even remember the lame excuse. Anyway, friends of his finally told me he did met another girl and leave with her.
I think the excuses, jokes, reasons are unimportant. The bottom line is your bf, like mine, left when he shouldn't have. You'll make better decisions by focusing on behavior and deciding whether the behavior is up to your standards.
he's a child.I'd drop him!
sorry men are not that creative, i reckon he did ask for her number. now weather he got it or not is neither here not there.
He asked and meant it!!
the only question is how long will you believe the lie?!!
DUMP the zero and get a hero, plenty of good guys out there!
he's a clown and the circus is in town! if you keep him, you have the lowest self-esteem. do your self a favor, you already know the answer.
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Answers:
A half an hour is a long time to be gone, so the question is where was he during that time and what was he doing? I suspect he might have been chatting up the barmaid and even had gotten her phone number as he had said. He might have figured he could have told you about it, then told you he was only joking and thought you would believe him.
The question is what do you believe, and do you want someone who is going to be playing those kind of head games with you? If they are playing those kinds of games now what is it going to be like later on, and do you know if you can ever trust anything they say?
Back to the half hour that he was gone. Where did he say he was for the half hour after he said he was only joking? If he said he was in the restroom that's an awful long time to be in there.
you are making too much out of this. i will put cash on that there was a good amount of alcohol involved.
he is obvious in mature and needs to grow up. walk out on him and make him feel stupid.
my gut tells me he's lying about not asking for the number.. yours probably tells you the same..
either
A.) He DID ask for the number and is now lying about it (which makes him a sleaze)
or B.) He lied about ever asking for her number, and said it knowing it would be hurtful to you
either way. he sounds like a loser based on that info.
That is too much information for a joke . I say he did ask the bar maid for her phone number (it also give an indication of where he was for the missing half hour).
Dump his sorry *** ... .you can do better than that.
What the hell could he do for 30 mins ? o.O
dump love, there is plenty of nicer guys out an about. what u doing tomorrow?
Get back at him. Go ask someone for their number right in front of him.
he sounds like a bit of a joker, a person like this will always have you guessing, you will never know if he's joking of being serious, be prepared for a long and turbulous roller coaster ride.i doubt if he did ask for the barmaids phone number, he just enjoys winding people up.If i thought i could handle him and join him in his mind games i'd stick with him..if not i'd show im the door..
RUN dont Walk to the nearest exit. If you put up with this, next thing you know, you'll be living in a trailer park, 4 kids, eating Salsbury steak TV dinners and watching Jerry Springer re-runs.
Where would you go for a half an hour in a restaurant? hmmmm...
Its a typical man thing! Probably has had number and still got it!
I would certainly not be happy with him but only you know what he is normally like? Personally I would have a good look at you relationship and see where its going if it is going anywhere.
If this is the only time he does some thing like this forget about it.
But if he does this often, forget about him. If he is looking for some one else you don't need him.
It's one thing to be friendly but not to the point of getting a phone number.
Shag his brother or if hes not too disgusting his father, that'll teach the bastard.
i would sort of laugh it off.. but if he does this any more you should confront him. if he was with your family he might just not like them.. or maybe he has some weird disease or something that he doesnt want to tell you so he goes to the bathroom to puke or something.. there could be a lot of reasons. give him another chance
worth better than that rate yourself higher. dont let him walk over you like that. lying is the worst desease you could possibly get. no right to be out with you and f**k off like that. SORT IT GIRL.
joking or not he shouldn't play with your feelings like that
Say bye to him. Better and more fish in the big sea out there.
I'd assume he was telling the truth about getting her phone number and dump him. But then, I've been burned before and don't necessarily react in the most rational ways!
Does sound like he gets off on playing mind games though, I'd be very wary if you don't decide to dump him.
dump him and find someone you can trust
I say he is bull shitting..he is just trying to make you feel jealous .a lire ..his has no feelings.he is a bighead ..what ever he is..he is a uncaring bastard ..real man don't say or do things like that ..dump him show him .his not god sent to woman..
Regardless of what he was doing, disappearing for a half-hour during a family meal was rude. Then you have his "excuse": if true, he's either two-timing you or playing games with some poor barmaid; if false, he's still lying to you, either to "test" you or to hide what he was REALLY doing for that half-hour. Take a good look at this guy. Can't you do better?
dont trust him
A guy here.
Your boyfriend has all the basics in place for being an abusive, controlling a&&hole jerk. It's one thing to flirt and play around (bad enough) but he made a point of terrorizing you with his activities. He did it in front of you and your parents.
So, how would I react? I'd break up with him. Bonus points if you go to counseling to find out why you were attracted to him in the first place, and (more importantly) why he was attracted to you.
that would be a real turn-off for me. I mean is that a man? During a family meal too.
ignorant and rude- get rid. I'd act as though nothing had happened, then say he did you a favour as an ex of yours turned up and it would have been embarassing!
here is a way to find out.
tell him you have been bi-curious for a while.. then tell him you SAW the barmaid and she was HOT!.. then tell him that just for him.. if he still has her number you agree to a threesome.
if he produces the number.. smile.. and walk away. never talk to him again.
He's playing games, a definite sign of immaturity. Only you can decide what you will or will not accept in relationship. Peace!
In the 1970s, my date disappeared at a rock concert when he left to get me a soda! Being an idiot, I drove around and around the Cap Centre afterwards, to try to find him. He jokingly told me that next day he met a girl, then he told me no, he .. gee - i can't even remember the lame excuse. Anyway, friends of his finally told me he did met another girl and leave with her.
I think the excuses, jokes, reasons are unimportant. The bottom line is your bf, like mine, left when he shouldn't have. You'll make better decisions by focusing on behavior and deciding whether the behavior is up to your standards.
he's a child.I'd drop him!
sorry men are not that creative, i reckon he did ask for her number. now weather he got it or not is neither here not there.
He asked and meant it!!
the only question is how long will you believe the lie?!!
DUMP the zero and get a hero, plenty of good guys out there!
he's a clown and the circus is in town! if you keep him, you have the lowest self-esteem. do your self a favor, you already know the answer.
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