I think about ending it all. Am i alone?
Sometimes think about doing it the drastic way. Other times, just upping and leaving... no planning, judst get up one morning and dissapear.
I have a good job (with its pressures, but that can be good someties i suppose), i have a boyf who likes me.. but is in army and away a lot. I have my own house, but live alone.
Just cant put my finger on it.. what would make any difference if stayed or went?
Answers:
You are not alone. It is I would think a common human thought, since all humans experience pain and suffering. Thinking about ending it all can actually be a very life-affirming experience. Doing it of course isn't.
"For those who contemplate suicide, life is beautiful" - Max Weber
If you live past the thought then you are living intentionally instead of by accident. If you survived the thought even once then there must have been a reason. Search for it and you will find it. Get help if you need it.
We all suffer but always remember that suffering can be overcome.
Call the Samaritans.
OMG.. i mean i want to do the same thing,but FiRST go anorexic THEN disappear.
I'm pretty sure your boyfriend would care. Even if he is away a lot, I am sure he thinks about you all the time. You are probably the one thing that keeps him motivated and excited about life. He is relying on you to be there when he returns, don't let him down.
No way, you're not alone.
Just do what makes you feel happy. You only live once.
Boy, am I glad you didn't mean "ending it all" the other way. Although I suspect you would not be alone in that either. Actually, I know.
Good Luck sweetie.
Yes, it does make a difference. Call the hotline if you need, and please consider how others would be affected. Losing loved ones to suicide is not fun for those of us left behind.
Stay !!! how about taking a step back in your job, might do you good to take stock of your life......
No, you're definitely not alone.
I too have a great job, a great family, lovely wife and a beautiful daughter, but I had a lot of pressure from a long term illness and a very awkward family fall out. I was depressed.
It took a lot of courage, but I went to the doctor and he has helped immensely. I was depressed and am now coping really well with mix of counselling and meds. Depression is chemical, not emotional, there is nothing you can do about it. It happens and the pressures in your life may have brought this on.
I have slef-harmed, been suicidal and have managed to come through and I pray you'll do the same. If you ever want to talk, let me know.
Would it matter if you stayed or went ? Yes, it would matter. You would leave a gaping hole in the lives of your friends and family. The fact that you've asked the question shows you still have a lot to give, so please, please, don't be alone, help is there and so am I, if ever needed.
Keep moving forward. It sounds like you're lonely, and the one person you need to find and to love is yourself. Figure out what it is you're passionate about and follow it, jogging, starting your own catering business, whatever it is you're interested in, pursue it, and in that effort you will find happiness, and in the skill and knowledge and accomplishment you will find self esteem and self love.
You aren't thinking of ending it all, you're seeking attention. People considering suicide just go and do it, they dont go onto a dumb internet forum and tell the whole world - boo hoo poor you you're not happy, no-ones entirely happy.
Life sucks - get a helmet, or find a big bridge.
Hi
no your are most certainly not alone! And it is teribble that you feel that way, what a shame. But it is good that you have put this message out. Perhaps there is someone else you can talk to?a friend, or neighbour? Is there a specific problem that you can deal with? or perhaps you just feel depressed - do talk to someone - there is nmuch that can be done to help you feel like a weight has been lifted and happier. Your boyfriend shoud adore you, not just like you! :o)) Good luck
YOU, would make the difference ..stay and see, u would be surprised
stay strong its the only way
Don't do it
There is always someone worse off than yourself!
What about all the starving African children?
Waht about the children victims of Beslan?
What about them poor Amish children?
People care about you, enjoy what you have got and be thankful that you survived being massacered as a child
First of all do not do anything drastic. Your Boyfriend will be so upset to find anything had happened to you and that if you had left. Your family care about you i'm sure. But it is not about them hun, sit down and write down what is bothering you, then write down the good points and then the bad points. You will have some sort of balance and something to work by. Take work each day as it comes, and talk to somebody. You are never alone. I find talking to somebody who is neutral really helps. My e-mail is on my profile. feel free sweet. Hope this helps.
What do you want to do?
Do you know?
i think whatever it is, you should just go and do it. :o)
EDIT: by this I DO NOT mean ending it all ! i mean finding your reason to be.
Now you might think i'm being stupid but I think you should get a dog,
I would be lost and lonely without the 2 I have.
Just to have someone else there to cuddle when your bf is not around.
I have also met some fantastic people while out walking with my dogs.
Yep I know your thinking crazy B***H but think about it, it could be the answer to all of your problems.
Good luck and feel free to mail me if you just fancy a chat x x x
Everyone feels bad about themselves from time to time. I'm kind of in a simmilar situation to yourself in regards to the boyfriend being away alot.
I've just rejoined the gym and I find thats really helped me boost my self esteem (the endorphine release from working out perks me up!)
If you aren't enjoying your job then find another! Your happiness is worth a lot more.
Maybe you should tell your boyfriend how you feel. I'm sure he'd be shocked but he'd be able to help you through it.
stay and tell the important people in your life about this.
they'll give you a whole list of ways it would make a difference. for many people nothing would ever be the same without you. you probaly know this deep down ,talk to someone and they'll remind you of it.
stay, you're not alone
It would make a big difference.
Don't do anything silly. At one time or another EVERYONE has felt really low, I know I have but all you can do is ride it out and trust me the good times will come and you'll look back and know you done the right thing by staying.
I remember not so long ago I thought I couldn't go on any more I was a single parent and I was really lonely, I was thinking it would be better for me to end everything and that the kids would be better off without me because I could offer them nothing... But I carried on and I'm so glad I did and one day you will too.
You need some tough and hard times in your life so you can appreciate the good times more.
I'm praying for you, take care.
This can be a very difficult subject, since nobody has a right to tell someone they should or should not 'end it all'. Nobody knows exactly how any individual feels about everything, and how their life really is. Walk a mile in someone else's shoes comes to mind. Reaching out to others does not always solve the problem, either, but it can be helpful.
However--not matter what kind of life you think you are leaving or escaping from, you will leave it WORSE if you end it, get it?
You are an integral part of the existing time continuum around you, you touch everyone you meet, everyone you are involved with, and you are there for a reason. For instance, you being there for you bf may be the SOLE REASON he is still alive, he is being careful so that he can return to YOU. Get it? Your little sisters and brothers would miss you TERRIBLY. Your folks would be immensely sad for the duration of their lives if you ended it, even if you were NOT close to them. You would leave a HOLE in the world.
If you have a good job, a good bf, and essentially a good life, why not look at all of the good things you have in it? You are blessed.
Why throw it all away? Everyone gets 'down' once in a while, that is absolutely NORMAL, and loneliness is too. Keep occupied, take up bungee-jumping, knitting, ice climbing, track and field, horesback riding, skateboarding, volunteer your valuable time to others less blessed, and most importantly, get involved in fundraising for the needy, establish a REASON to survive, keep your faith, and trust in God, you shall be FINE. Know you ARE loved and cherished and you are worthy of living happily.
Good luck!
I know what you mean, I think we all have a part of us that wants to get it over with ! It's what makes us human mate, but surviving and getting on with it is what makes us super-human ! Just take each day as it comes. When my fella goes away, I try to find the positives like (bit mundane I know but..) I can watch what I like on T.V. ...have beans on toast for tea if I want to..go out on the raz wi' my old mates without having to say what time i'll be in. you get my drift ?
There's no point disapearing cos you can't hide from yourself I'm afraid. Set your self some challenges, get the adrenanlin flowing, do something that scares you every day to make yourself feel alive, feel the fear and do it anyway ! come on you can.. say it ...I CAN, I CAN, I CAN !
Good Luck Mate, and please don't let the Bastards grind you down ! Love from KebabLamb : ) X
The difference is in you.
Depression is a time thing,waiting to kick in.
You made the right move(by talking)
Now go to your G.P.
YOU WILL BE SURPRISED,HOW MANY PEOPLE FEEL THE SAME WAY AS U DO.
YOU R NOT ALONE(NEVER NEVER NEVER).
ALL MY LOVE AND STRENGTH WITH YOU.
ROMANISIS.
P:S Please Post again,KEEP TALKING.
you feel alone because you choose to be. go out, visit your families and friends, have fun, talk to people, join a group - perhaps enrol in a gym or dance class, anything to keep you busy and occupied. there are a lot of things you can do. people will not come to you, you have to make an effort to meet them, to talk to them, to be somebodies friend/mate.
it would make a lot of difference if you stay! your family and boyfriend will miss you. you also have to ask your boyfriend whether he truly loves you and that you heading into something deeper and meaningful. ask him to be honest with you and be prepared to accept his answer!
If you and your boyfriend are not serious about each other, you may go somewhere and start a new life! it is an option for you but make sure you will not make the same mistake again. find somebody who will be with you when you need him.
good luck and i hope that everything will turn out well!
You want an end to your troubles but you don't want to die . Talk to someone who is closest to you .Think about professional help , too . There is always an answer . A new job ; a vacation . A bad job is no reason to give them your life .Try Eckhart Tolle's book on CD "The Power of Now ". It can transform you and your thinking . Good luck .
I'm sure that everyone feels this way at some stage.Don't do it!Get a good night rest and wake up tomorrow morning feeling good about yourself!Your boyfriend would miss you if you were to disappear.
each time ur down and thinking, remember there is always someone worse off than u and they have a good reason 2 b upset.
I would list some but id be here all night,
On top of that life isnt that bad if u have a b/f and UR OWN HOUSE.
Smile and the world smiles with u apparantly
Good luck
We all think like that sometimes. Your life is better than you think. Live for your family and enjoy the fruits of life.
Hey sister - your fellow depressives are a BIG club welcome.
Dont do it its not worth it their is gold at the other end of the rainbow. Only two things ever did me any good when down -
sleeping pills (mild) to help me get off when I was hardly sleeping at all. As for the rest steer clear of vallium and the like. #They do not help really just block some of the symptoms bbut they fry the brain.
The only way out is to pick yourself up boot yourself in the *** and get on with the rest of your life. It will only happen when you are ready to do it.
Mind
In the lost dark lonely caverns of the thing that we call mind
Live all the old-world terrors that we thought we’d left behind!
They come out to haunt us when our psyche is way down low,
It really is a wonder just how they seem to know.
They turn our dreams to rubble and destroy our self esteem,
They drive us to distraction to where we cannot even dream.
They cause us endless trouble they lead to no known land,
They are the enemies of progress an ever taunting band.
I have tried to re-establish my belief that I can be,
Anything I want to - but mostly that I am free.
I call for help. I plead to die. I cry my misery.
I run in circles hour on hour hoping the sun to see.
There is no-one in these caverns to show me the way home,
There is no apparent entry from where my help could come.
Here I have been forever – so it seems to me.
What was my crime what did I do why can’t I even see.
They call it a depression suggest all kinds of things,
But they cannot make a difference I am lost in my own Hell
Then when much time has passed – day’s week’s months, even years
I find myself; I heal my wounds wash dress smile and kill my fears.
I think back to the caverns and wonder why it should be
That they are now completely different from the ones I used to see.
They are brightly lit and welcoming a wonder to behold,
Full of all life’s treasures glittering with gems and gold!
I can fully understand you and where you are coming from. It is always sad when someone gets to the position and thought that you are in that the only solution is to die.
I really hope that you don't do this as it would be a loss to us all.
I too went through this question on 2nd September, I too believed that it was best to end it all.
Please seek some help from those nearest to you or try the Samaritans, anything but ending it all. Are you alone, no you are not alone. Want to know how I beat my feelings of wanting to end it all? Email me through the forum email service. I would be happy to help you, please!
Everybody at least once in their lives have thought of ending it all. It is only natural.
Afterall what is the purpose of us, human being, on earth in the first place at all? As such, ending it all is our way of taking the shortest route out.
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I have a good job (with its pressures, but that can be good someties i suppose), i have a boyf who likes me.. but is in army and away a lot. I have my own house, but live alone.
Just cant put my finger on it.. what would make any difference if stayed or went?
Answers:
You are not alone. It is I would think a common human thought, since all humans experience pain and suffering. Thinking about ending it all can actually be a very life-affirming experience. Doing it of course isn't.
"For those who contemplate suicide, life is beautiful" - Max Weber
If you live past the thought then you are living intentionally instead of by accident. If you survived the thought even once then there must have been a reason. Search for it and you will find it. Get help if you need it.
We all suffer but always remember that suffering can be overcome.
Call the Samaritans.
OMG.. i mean i want to do the same thing,but FiRST go anorexic THEN disappear.
I'm pretty sure your boyfriend would care. Even if he is away a lot, I am sure he thinks about you all the time. You are probably the one thing that keeps him motivated and excited about life. He is relying on you to be there when he returns, don't let him down.
No way, you're not alone.
Just do what makes you feel happy. You only live once.
Boy, am I glad you didn't mean "ending it all" the other way. Although I suspect you would not be alone in that either. Actually, I know.
Good Luck sweetie.
Yes, it does make a difference. Call the hotline if you need, and please consider how others would be affected. Losing loved ones to suicide is not fun for those of us left behind.
Stay !!! how about taking a step back in your job, might do you good to take stock of your life......
No, you're definitely not alone.
I too have a great job, a great family, lovely wife and a beautiful daughter, but I had a lot of pressure from a long term illness and a very awkward family fall out. I was depressed.
It took a lot of courage, but I went to the doctor and he has helped immensely. I was depressed and am now coping really well with mix of counselling and meds. Depression is chemical, not emotional, there is nothing you can do about it. It happens and the pressures in your life may have brought this on.
I have slef-harmed, been suicidal and have managed to come through and I pray you'll do the same. If you ever want to talk, let me know.
Would it matter if you stayed or went ? Yes, it would matter. You would leave a gaping hole in the lives of your friends and family. The fact that you've asked the question shows you still have a lot to give, so please, please, don't be alone, help is there and so am I, if ever needed.
Keep moving forward. It sounds like you're lonely, and the one person you need to find and to love is yourself. Figure out what it is you're passionate about and follow it, jogging, starting your own catering business, whatever it is you're interested in, pursue it, and in that effort you will find happiness, and in the skill and knowledge and accomplishment you will find self esteem and self love.
You aren't thinking of ending it all, you're seeking attention. People considering suicide just go and do it, they dont go onto a dumb internet forum and tell the whole world - boo hoo poor you you're not happy, no-ones entirely happy.
Life sucks - get a helmet, or find a big bridge.
Hi
no your are most certainly not alone! And it is teribble that you feel that way, what a shame. But it is good that you have put this message out. Perhaps there is someone else you can talk to?a friend, or neighbour? Is there a specific problem that you can deal with? or perhaps you just feel depressed - do talk to someone - there is nmuch that can be done to help you feel like a weight has been lifted and happier. Your boyfriend shoud adore you, not just like you! :o)) Good luck
YOU, would make the difference ..stay and see, u would be surprised
stay strong its the only way
Don't do it
There is always someone worse off than yourself!
What about all the starving African children?
Waht about the children victims of Beslan?
What about them poor Amish children?
People care about you, enjoy what you have got and be thankful that you survived being massacered as a child
First of all do not do anything drastic. Your Boyfriend will be so upset to find anything had happened to you and that if you had left. Your family care about you i'm sure. But it is not about them hun, sit down and write down what is bothering you, then write down the good points and then the bad points. You will have some sort of balance and something to work by. Take work each day as it comes, and talk to somebody. You are never alone. I find talking to somebody who is neutral really helps. My e-mail is on my profile. feel free sweet. Hope this helps.
What do you want to do?
Do you know?
i think whatever it is, you should just go and do it. :o)
EDIT: by this I DO NOT mean ending it all ! i mean finding your reason to be.
Now you might think i'm being stupid but I think you should get a dog,
I would be lost and lonely without the 2 I have.
Just to have someone else there to cuddle when your bf is not around.
I have also met some fantastic people while out walking with my dogs.
Yep I know your thinking crazy B***H but think about it, it could be the answer to all of your problems.
Good luck and feel free to mail me if you just fancy a chat x x x
Everyone feels bad about themselves from time to time. I'm kind of in a simmilar situation to yourself in regards to the boyfriend being away alot.
I've just rejoined the gym and I find thats really helped me boost my self esteem (the endorphine release from working out perks me up!)
If you aren't enjoying your job then find another! Your happiness is worth a lot more.
Maybe you should tell your boyfriend how you feel. I'm sure he'd be shocked but he'd be able to help you through it.
stay and tell the important people in your life about this.
they'll give you a whole list of ways it would make a difference. for many people nothing would ever be the same without you. you probaly know this deep down ,talk to someone and they'll remind you of it.
stay, you're not alone
It would make a big difference.
Don't do anything silly. At one time or another EVERYONE has felt really low, I know I have but all you can do is ride it out and trust me the good times will come and you'll look back and know you done the right thing by staying.
I remember not so long ago I thought I couldn't go on any more I was a single parent and I was really lonely, I was thinking it would be better for me to end everything and that the kids would be better off without me because I could offer them nothing... But I carried on and I'm so glad I did and one day you will too.
You need some tough and hard times in your life so you can appreciate the good times more.
I'm praying for you, take care.
This can be a very difficult subject, since nobody has a right to tell someone they should or should not 'end it all'. Nobody knows exactly how any individual feels about everything, and how their life really is. Walk a mile in someone else's shoes comes to mind. Reaching out to others does not always solve the problem, either, but it can be helpful.
However--not matter what kind of life you think you are leaving or escaping from, you will leave it WORSE if you end it, get it?
You are an integral part of the existing time continuum around you, you touch everyone you meet, everyone you are involved with, and you are there for a reason. For instance, you being there for you bf may be the SOLE REASON he is still alive, he is being careful so that he can return to YOU. Get it? Your little sisters and brothers would miss you TERRIBLY. Your folks would be immensely sad for the duration of their lives if you ended it, even if you were NOT close to them. You would leave a HOLE in the world.
If you have a good job, a good bf, and essentially a good life, why not look at all of the good things you have in it? You are blessed.
Why throw it all away? Everyone gets 'down' once in a while, that is absolutely NORMAL, and loneliness is too. Keep occupied, take up bungee-jumping, knitting, ice climbing, track and field, horesback riding, skateboarding, volunteer your valuable time to others less blessed, and most importantly, get involved in fundraising for the needy, establish a REASON to survive, keep your faith, and trust in God, you shall be FINE. Know you ARE loved and cherished and you are worthy of living happily.
Good luck!
I know what you mean, I think we all have a part of us that wants to get it over with ! It's what makes us human mate, but surviving and getting on with it is what makes us super-human ! Just take each day as it comes. When my fella goes away, I try to find the positives like (bit mundane I know but..) I can watch what I like on T.V. ...have beans on toast for tea if I want to..go out on the raz wi' my old mates without having to say what time i'll be in. you get my drift ?
There's no point disapearing cos you can't hide from yourself I'm afraid. Set your self some challenges, get the adrenanlin flowing, do something that scares you every day to make yourself feel alive, feel the fear and do it anyway ! come on you can.. say it ...I CAN, I CAN, I CAN !
Good Luck Mate, and please don't let the Bastards grind you down ! Love from KebabLamb : ) X
The difference is in you.
Depression is a time thing,waiting to kick in.
You made the right move(by talking)
Now go to your G.P.
YOU WILL BE SURPRISED,HOW MANY PEOPLE FEEL THE SAME WAY AS U DO.
YOU R NOT ALONE(NEVER NEVER NEVER).
ALL MY LOVE AND STRENGTH WITH YOU.
ROMANISIS.
P:S Please Post again,KEEP TALKING.
you feel alone because you choose to be. go out, visit your families and friends, have fun, talk to people, join a group - perhaps enrol in a gym or dance class, anything to keep you busy and occupied. there are a lot of things you can do. people will not come to you, you have to make an effort to meet them, to talk to them, to be somebodies friend/mate.
it would make a lot of difference if you stay! your family and boyfriend will miss you. you also have to ask your boyfriend whether he truly loves you and that you heading into something deeper and meaningful. ask him to be honest with you and be prepared to accept his answer!
If you and your boyfriend are not serious about each other, you may go somewhere and start a new life! it is an option for you but make sure you will not make the same mistake again. find somebody who will be with you when you need him.
good luck and i hope that everything will turn out well!
You want an end to your troubles but you don't want to die . Talk to someone who is closest to you .Think about professional help , too . There is always an answer . A new job ; a vacation . A bad job is no reason to give them your life .Try Eckhart Tolle's book on CD "The Power of Now ". It can transform you and your thinking . Good luck .
I'm sure that everyone feels this way at some stage.Don't do it!Get a good night rest and wake up tomorrow morning feeling good about yourself!Your boyfriend would miss you if you were to disappear.
each time ur down and thinking, remember there is always someone worse off than u and they have a good reason 2 b upset.
I would list some but id be here all night,
On top of that life isnt that bad if u have a b/f and UR OWN HOUSE.
Smile and the world smiles with u apparantly
Good luck
We all think like that sometimes. Your life is better than you think. Live for your family and enjoy the fruits of life.
Hey sister - your fellow depressives are a BIG club welcome.
Dont do it its not worth it their is gold at the other end of the rainbow. Only two things ever did me any good when down -
sleeping pills (mild) to help me get off when I was hardly sleeping at all. As for the rest steer clear of vallium and the like. #They do not help really just block some of the symptoms bbut they fry the brain.
The only way out is to pick yourself up boot yourself in the *** and get on with the rest of your life. It will only happen when you are ready to do it.
Mind
In the lost dark lonely caverns of the thing that we call mind
Live all the old-world terrors that we thought we’d left behind!
They come out to haunt us when our psyche is way down low,
It really is a wonder just how they seem to know.
They turn our dreams to rubble and destroy our self esteem,
They drive us to distraction to where we cannot even dream.
They cause us endless trouble they lead to no known land,
They are the enemies of progress an ever taunting band.
I have tried to re-establish my belief that I can be,
Anything I want to - but mostly that I am free.
I call for help. I plead to die. I cry my misery.
I run in circles hour on hour hoping the sun to see.
There is no-one in these caverns to show me the way home,
There is no apparent entry from where my help could come.
Here I have been forever – so it seems to me.
What was my crime what did I do why can’t I even see.
They call it a depression suggest all kinds of things,
But they cannot make a difference I am lost in my own Hell
Then when much time has passed – day’s week’s months, even years
I find myself; I heal my wounds wash dress smile and kill my fears.
I think back to the caverns and wonder why it should be
That they are now completely different from the ones I used to see.
They are brightly lit and welcoming a wonder to behold,
Full of all life’s treasures glittering with gems and gold!
I can fully understand you and where you are coming from. It is always sad when someone gets to the position and thought that you are in that the only solution is to die.
I really hope that you don't do this as it would be a loss to us all.
I too went through this question on 2nd September, I too believed that it was best to end it all.
Please seek some help from those nearest to you or try the Samaritans, anything but ending it all. Are you alone, no you are not alone. Want to know how I beat my feelings of wanting to end it all? Email me through the forum email service. I would be happy to help you, please!
Everybody at least once in their lives have thought of ending it all. It is only natural.
Afterall what is the purpose of us, human being, on earth in the first place at all? As such, ending it all is our way of taking the shortest route out.
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