What is the biggest reason that friends drift apart?
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Initially laziness to keep in touch. Then after a while you get embarrassed that you haven't phoned/e-mailed or whatever for so long. Then it just spirals out of control and before you know where you are a year has passed. It's just one of those things I guess. You need to work at it.
one big reason who you marry!! (in my case it is)
One of them gets a boyfriend/girlfriend or one of them gets married or . and this is the biggest one . one of them has kids . aaarrggh!!
Out of sight, out of mind.
Out of sight, out of mind indeed
people change and our needs and the way these are supported by the people we know changes too.its sad but thats the way it is.
Boredom.
I find friends drift apart, when everyone gets into relationships, you dont see them as often as you should.
If we all just made a bit more effort, Friends wouldn`t drift apart
Nothing but Misunderstanding
I don't think there is any one particular reason but a multitude. It can be because someone is wanting to make a change in their life and the friendship was not conducive to doing that.
Well consider what causes most people to become friends - similar intrests. Ive got friends who simply never wanted to have fun anymore ( no lie they would rather just sit at home ) i still consider them friend but i never see them.
long distances. you meet new friends who are in your life every day, and the other ones slowly slip away.
Having spouses who don't get along can be a big one.
I think, sometimes, people just grow out of one anothers personalities! As we develop, as people, we change all the time and sometimes we can change so quickly that it takes a while to realise, and so we suddenly find ourselves drifting from people that once fitted our own personality but who no longer do. There's my cents worth!
Out of sight, out of mind very true. Lack of communication also
As we get older we grow in all aspects of our lives
We change our likes and our dislikes. We develope other relationships and this continues your entire life. Just a normal part of growing as a person
we are constantly changing as we move through life. Real friends do not drift apart. But sometimes we just grow in different directions.
lack of time for them, especially when you have children
People are social animals, but also selfish animals. One has friends, maybe good friends, as long as he/she feels good in their company, has some benefit (don't think of me as cold-blooded, the benefits are usually mutual and it's all good!!) or some other "profit". But there comes a day, something changes - someone moves away, is transferred by work, and yes. as everyone above stresses - gets married or has kids. From this moment on priorities change, benefits that one gets from friends like kindness, understanding, support, one starts getting from the boyfriend/girlfriend, kids, family, etc. Just a priority change is what it is, even if it is most times not a conscious decision.
Time can cause friends to drift apart. Getting married and raising kids and then grand kids. Becoming involved in
after school events. I feel the biggest reason is moving.
Being transferred to another state by the company you work for can cause friends to grow apart. It becomes harder to stay together.
Because they dont tie their canoes together properly.
I feel friends drift when they feel your not in the same league or they get married.
Ive got two friends who have had good close friends since school, gone though all the changes of marriage and children etc
I can't seem to keep close friends for more than 3 years at a time.
One grows up (or moves on) and the other doesn't or won't, and they start having little in common. Life has phases, and generally people pass through the phases on a timescale (ie. being a kid, being a teenager, being a roudy party animal, settling down, getting a career, relationships, marriage, having kids.. the list could go on.) Anyway, the point is that one of the friends can move on through these phases and the other either choses not to, or gets left behind. The common ground disappears, and you realise really you weren't true friends in the first place, you just happened to be travelling a path together. Now you're on different paths. End of.
How sad is that??
Well for a start, when you leave school you all go different ways, and then meet new people, same as when you get a new job or do a new hobbie, you meet new people and have new hobbies and interests.
It isn't nice sometimes as you miss the good times you had with friends, but then you've just got to look at who you got around you now!
Stop having anything in common.
Time,I believe..things usually get damaged with time and most relationships too.Changing values/personality,getting a new group friends or a boyfriend/girlfriend,moving to a far away place are the other reasons.
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