Have you ever been bullied in your life?
How did you get over it. I thought I'd be over it, it's been like a year. But the hurt is still there.
Answers:
The trouble with bullying it can be done in such a subtle way that you are not even aware that it is happening. This was the case in a relationship I once had.
I my health suffered badly because of the bullying and once I had realised what had been happening, it took me a long to time to get over the hurt and to put my trust in anyone.
It must sound very naive of me but when you are young and guilble to someone's charms you can be oblivious to the obvious.
Time is a great healer and it is important that you not to give up on human beings. Often people who bully others are often a victim themselves..thus creating a vicious circle so that's why it is important to deal with it and then move on.
nope
Nope
no
Yep but then i just stayed away from those "friends" and made new ones. I never told anyone and dealt with it myself
Never because I refuse to allow anyone to push me around
who hasn't, i've been thinking of commiting suicide
i was in my early years of High School until i learned to open my mouth and fight back then WAM it stopped. Now it is like don't piss her off b/c she has a mean mouth and a nice right hook.
20 years of domestic violence-
I then lost contact with my dad by moving house and not telling him
Then I divorced my first violent husband-
And santas bringing me my decree absolute on Xmas Eve from the second violent husband
I then got counselling
Yup. I stayed away form those people, and it went away. Once I got into high school, the people who trated me like **** I rarely (if ever) saw, so.I just grew out of it.
Yeah the bloke who bullied me died in his own drunken puke at the age of 28, Couldn't help thinking that natural justice does exist!
Yes. A long time ago..
Ignore them. Don't let them see you're upset (that's why they do it). Avoid them if at all possible. Get someone bigger and tougher to bully them back - bullies are always cowards.
Yup. When I was in 1st grade there was a bully in school who'd rough me up every now and then.
The way to get over it is to know that you are moving forward. Feel compassion for the bully. He or she most likely acts that way because they are probably bullied by their mom or dad--or both--at their own home.
Don't let your thoughts linger in negative feelings. Feel good about yourself, always. If you are mentally and spiritually strong, that is something that no one can take away from you--ever. Cheer up! =)
yes, i still dont trust people, females mainly.
I remember being bullied in primary school and the scars are still there, i think we have to realise it's human nature and also it's immaturity on the bullies side too they get a sense of power, if its caught and dealt with quickly then they hopefully will stop, often the bullies are the ones that are bullied themselves.
Yes i use to get bullied at school that was over 30 years ago when i was weighing in at a measly 7 stone i am now a taxi driver and i pick up some of the bullies that use to be at school how good it is now weighing 18 stone and extracting my own verbal taking out on them its took this long hope it does not take this long for you be patient it will pass
no way
Yes, especially during the high shcool years. As you get older and surround yourself by good friends who care about you, the hurt goes away. Choose friends who make you feel good about yourself and in time, the bullying days will be just a distant memory. Stay strong - things will get better.
Made fun of yes, bullied no.
Yes all through my school years! had really hard time with it!
Yes, when I was in 6th and 7th grade. I was small for my age and got bullied. I wish I would have stood up for myself back then. I haven't been bullied since then b/c I hit a growth spurt in 9th grade and I started to stand up for myself. A lot of it is self confidance. If it is worlds and criticisms ignore it and do what makes you happy. There is a place for you in the world, even though you may not see it now. There are others like you and that have the same interests. Not everyone will like you and you shouldn't worry about them. If it's physical try to stand up for your self. You may get beat up but you don't come off as an easy target to the bullies and they will try and find a new person to bully that wont stand up to them.
Yeah, kids can be really cruel and its even worse when it happens again in your adult life as you believe that ur life will get better once you finally leave school/college!
Anyone who is being bullied has to take control of their own life! I just keep thinking Im better than them and I love maself cause Im a great person!
People can only do to you what you let them do to you!
yes but i never took it
bullies are all cowardsu gotta fight it
to ever get over it lol
Yes I have,I just try to understand that the person that is bullying me has bigger issues than I do.
Yup. When I was a kid I was bullied for standing up for myself. then again this past 2 years. by my so called friends!!
I am now 32!
Standing up for myself just invokes a violent reaction and as a kickboxer this doesnt fare to well for the bully! Nor me as PC Plod takes a serious view on broken bones and blood!!
I just try to avoid. Even if it changes my life. Sad but true. I am soooo lonely now. Sob.
Yes im was bullied for years by the same person,veryone told me to hit her back but i was so affraid. But one day she pushed me to far and i clumped her a good one,she never bullied me again after that,if only i listened to people in the first place hey.. Now i am alot older with kids of my own and we make them strong and make them stand uo for themselves. Put the past behind you and look to the future,it will be alot brighter.
Yes badly! It ended up with me losing my job and having to get redress in the employment tribunal. I won but this was a waste of time as the recompence is paltry!
The only way you can get over it is to compartmentalise these events and put them away. Don't try analyse or try to solve it - you can't.
Come to terms with yourself and learn to recognise the early signs of a bully and keep away.
Use it as a learning experience and feel sorry for the bully as they are in far more trouble than you. You will learn this as you get older.
There are plenty of web sites which discuss this and www.bullyonline.co.uk is a good place to start.
Life will get better, just learn to relax and let go.
You will note that there are plenty of bullies on line too. I have had some really aggresive answers to my questions. Has any one else?
Yes, I didn't have any money and it never occured to our school bully. She just demanded it anyway, then when I 'wouldn't' hand it over she threatened all my mates so they stopped talking to me.
That hurt more than getting bullied. And you'll never believe this, but 20 years later I bumped into her. She hasn't changed much, she's still a deeply unpleasant person.
And I'm not, so thats how I felt better about it all in the end.
The bully will always be like that and you are a better person. You will make new friends and do things in your life.
They will always be filled with spite, envy and malice. Its a sad way to live.
It could take you as long as 2 years for the pain to fade away; its like a kind of grief when someone close to you dies. Also if you were humiliated that takes a long time to fade to a distant memory. Just be good to yourself and keep going, in time your life will move on and you will feel better.
yes i was bullied at school and work i try to be a stronger person now and stand up for myself and not be an easy target it's not always easy. i try to think that all my experiences bad and good have shaped me in to the woman i am today.the hurt is still there but i put it to the back and try and focus on the good things in my life cause we only get one go at this world . take care x
Yes. I was 7. So I went to Karate lessons and I think I scared them off. The biggest bully of them all didn't finish high school though cos she ran away with one of our male teachers.Poor love. Now she's in a mess :)
It depends on how you define bullying.
Two types:
a) physical bullying and
b) psychological bullying
Certainly, one would come across both forms in most people's lives unless you live on an island on your own.
Type a) is common amongst males growing up. It is never really very damaging, and so long as you are not underdeveloped it can usually be easily dealt with by hitting the biggest bully very hard once only.
Type b) is common amongst females and older adults and the government. It can be humiliating, demeaning, frustrating, and isolating. It totally destroys your trust of everyone, and causes some severe personality disorders such as extreme withdrawal from society and also extrovert tendencies.
Type b) is also common within workplaces, where under the table bullying is rife especially within very sick companies that are dying and rife with fraud.
Type b) bullying also occurs from teachers in secondary school, parents, and older siblings.
In dealing with type b) bullying, one has to remember who your friends are. In particular remember who your best friend is. When you realise that your best friend in the whole world is yourself, then if you treat yourself properly and with respect, everyone else is largely an irrelevance.
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Answers:
The trouble with bullying it can be done in such a subtle way that you are not even aware that it is happening. This was the case in a relationship I once had.
I my health suffered badly because of the bullying and once I had realised what had been happening, it took me a long to time to get over the hurt and to put my trust in anyone.
It must sound very naive of me but when you are young and guilble to someone's charms you can be oblivious to the obvious.
Time is a great healer and it is important that you not to give up on human beings. Often people who bully others are often a victim themselves..thus creating a vicious circle so that's why it is important to deal with it and then move on.
nope
Nope
no
Yep but then i just stayed away from those "friends" and made new ones. I never told anyone and dealt with it myself
Never because I refuse to allow anyone to push me around
who hasn't, i've been thinking of commiting suicide
i was in my early years of High School until i learned to open my mouth and fight back then WAM it stopped. Now it is like don't piss her off b/c she has a mean mouth and a nice right hook.
20 years of domestic violence-
I then lost contact with my dad by moving house and not telling him
Then I divorced my first violent husband-
And santas bringing me my decree absolute on Xmas Eve from the second violent husband
I then got counselling
Yup. I stayed away form those people, and it went away. Once I got into high school, the people who trated me like **** I rarely (if ever) saw, so.I just grew out of it.
Yeah the bloke who bullied me died in his own drunken puke at the age of 28, Couldn't help thinking that natural justice does exist!
Yes. A long time ago..
Ignore them. Don't let them see you're upset (that's why they do it). Avoid them if at all possible. Get someone bigger and tougher to bully them back - bullies are always cowards.
Yup. When I was in 1st grade there was a bully in school who'd rough me up every now and then.
The way to get over it is to know that you are moving forward. Feel compassion for the bully. He or she most likely acts that way because they are probably bullied by their mom or dad--or both--at their own home.
Don't let your thoughts linger in negative feelings. Feel good about yourself, always. If you are mentally and spiritually strong, that is something that no one can take away from you--ever. Cheer up! =)
yes, i still dont trust people, females mainly.
I remember being bullied in primary school and the scars are still there, i think we have to realise it's human nature and also it's immaturity on the bullies side too they get a sense of power, if its caught and dealt with quickly then they hopefully will stop, often the bullies are the ones that are bullied themselves.
Yes i use to get bullied at school that was over 30 years ago when i was weighing in at a measly 7 stone i am now a taxi driver and i pick up some of the bullies that use to be at school how good it is now weighing 18 stone and extracting my own verbal taking out on them its took this long hope it does not take this long for you be patient it will pass
no way
Yes, especially during the high shcool years. As you get older and surround yourself by good friends who care about you, the hurt goes away. Choose friends who make you feel good about yourself and in time, the bullying days will be just a distant memory. Stay strong - things will get better.
Made fun of yes, bullied no.
Yes all through my school years! had really hard time with it!
Yes, when I was in 6th and 7th grade. I was small for my age and got bullied. I wish I would have stood up for myself back then. I haven't been bullied since then b/c I hit a growth spurt in 9th grade and I started to stand up for myself. A lot of it is self confidance. If it is worlds and criticisms ignore it and do what makes you happy. There is a place for you in the world, even though you may not see it now. There are others like you and that have the same interests. Not everyone will like you and you shouldn't worry about them. If it's physical try to stand up for your self. You may get beat up but you don't come off as an easy target to the bullies and they will try and find a new person to bully that wont stand up to them.
Yeah, kids can be really cruel and its even worse when it happens again in your adult life as you believe that ur life will get better once you finally leave school/college!
Anyone who is being bullied has to take control of their own life! I just keep thinking Im better than them and I love maself cause Im a great person!
People can only do to you what you let them do to you!
yes but i never took it
bullies are all cowardsu gotta fight it
to ever get over it lol
Yes I have,I just try to understand that the person that is bullying me has bigger issues than I do.
Yup. When I was a kid I was bullied for standing up for myself. then again this past 2 years. by my so called friends!!
I am now 32!
Standing up for myself just invokes a violent reaction and as a kickboxer this doesnt fare to well for the bully! Nor me as PC Plod takes a serious view on broken bones and blood!!
I just try to avoid. Even if it changes my life. Sad but true. I am soooo lonely now. Sob.
Yes im was bullied for years by the same person,veryone told me to hit her back but i was so affraid. But one day she pushed me to far and i clumped her a good one,she never bullied me again after that,if only i listened to people in the first place hey.. Now i am alot older with kids of my own and we make them strong and make them stand uo for themselves. Put the past behind you and look to the future,it will be alot brighter.
Yes badly! It ended up with me losing my job and having to get redress in the employment tribunal. I won but this was a waste of time as the recompence is paltry!
The only way you can get over it is to compartmentalise these events and put them away. Don't try analyse or try to solve it - you can't.
Come to terms with yourself and learn to recognise the early signs of a bully and keep away.
Use it as a learning experience and feel sorry for the bully as they are in far more trouble than you. You will learn this as you get older.
There are plenty of web sites which discuss this and www.bullyonline.co.uk is a good place to start.
Life will get better, just learn to relax and let go.
You will note that there are plenty of bullies on line too. I have had some really aggresive answers to my questions. Has any one else?
Yes, I didn't have any money and it never occured to our school bully. She just demanded it anyway, then when I 'wouldn't' hand it over she threatened all my mates so they stopped talking to me.
That hurt more than getting bullied. And you'll never believe this, but 20 years later I bumped into her. She hasn't changed much, she's still a deeply unpleasant person.
And I'm not, so thats how I felt better about it all in the end.
The bully will always be like that and you are a better person. You will make new friends and do things in your life.
They will always be filled with spite, envy and malice. Its a sad way to live.
It could take you as long as 2 years for the pain to fade away; its like a kind of grief when someone close to you dies. Also if you were humiliated that takes a long time to fade to a distant memory. Just be good to yourself and keep going, in time your life will move on and you will feel better.
yes i was bullied at school and work i try to be a stronger person now and stand up for myself and not be an easy target it's not always easy. i try to think that all my experiences bad and good have shaped me in to the woman i am today.the hurt is still there but i put it to the back and try and focus on the good things in my life cause we only get one go at this world . take care x
Yes. I was 7. So I went to Karate lessons and I think I scared them off. The biggest bully of them all didn't finish high school though cos she ran away with one of our male teachers.Poor love. Now she's in a mess :)
It depends on how you define bullying.
Two types:
a) physical bullying and
b) psychological bullying
Certainly, one would come across both forms in most people's lives unless you live on an island on your own.
Type a) is common amongst males growing up. It is never really very damaging, and so long as you are not underdeveloped it can usually be easily dealt with by hitting the biggest bully very hard once only.
Type b) is common amongst females and older adults and the government. It can be humiliating, demeaning, frustrating, and isolating. It totally destroys your trust of everyone, and causes some severe personality disorders such as extreme withdrawal from society and also extrovert tendencies.
Type b) is also common within workplaces, where under the table bullying is rife especially within very sick companies that are dying and rife with fraud.
Type b) bullying also occurs from teachers in secondary school, parents, and older siblings.
In dealing with type b) bullying, one has to remember who your friends are. In particular remember who your best friend is. When you realise that your best friend in the whole world is yourself, then if you treat yourself properly and with respect, everyone else is largely an irrelevance.
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