How do you deal with Womans Chests?
I think some of the woman I work with think I look at their chests when I'm talking to them, but I'm absolutely not. Womans chests have defintely got their uses, but they're not that interesting, especially with a woolly jumper on.
I think my problem is when someone asks me a question, man or woman, I tend to look downwards a little when in reflection mode.
I kind of stare into infinity, when I'm thinking, not really looking at anything, but more inward reflecting. I think this is rather than be distracted by their stare. This is not a problem with men, but is with some woman. I'm becoming conscience of them raising their arms or papers to cover their breasts.
I don't like people to think I'm some sort of pervert. What the hell do I do about these self conscious woman? I don't really want to raise a debate about it in work, and it's much too a subconscious reaction on my part to change. Any ideas?
Answers:
Tell them how much better your wife or girlfriends headlights are compared to theirs! Just take the humorous road and don't get offended as women tend to find something out of nothing and if your eyes have drifted once, it means every woman at your work knows about it and are just waiting for their chance to join in the gossip session about how you did it to them. Just focus more on their face, Iook at peoples mouths.
Its better to look at peoples faces when talking to them...you know more polite !!
Well, when I introspect, I tend to stare off to the side. try that.
ask them to take their woolly jumpers off then at least you would have something to look at?
it could be worse mate i only have a bunch of men to talk to at my place of work...
What i would give right now for a pair of t**s even if they were in a wooley jumper!
I personally enjoy looking at women's breasts, and have to control myself. I find them quite interesting.
You simply have to change your habit. It will require effort, self-talk, and sensitivity. When you are talking to a woman really concentrate on her eyes. Or look away and up or to the side. You need to think of this ahead of time, be prepared.
Any habit, short of breathing, can be broken. Ask an anorexic!
Change your habit of looking down. It will be construed as very rude to the woman you are offending and will affect your professional carrer. It's not the woman's fault, it's yours, make a concience effort to look into their eyes.
To be fair, women shouldn't put them on display if they don't want anyone looking at them.
well its not a major problem instead of chests practice on faces which tells u everything about that person and more eyes are the heart of the soul so whatever u face with ppl Q's or conversation when u wany to control the situation look straight to the eyes he/she will look somwhere else wile ur talkin and u'll be free to be in controll not to be controlled ,,face ur fears and u become better person ,,
At least you acknowledge the fact that some men do this. You seem a nice sort who wouldn't do it deliberately and I think women would recognise the difference between a momentary lapse and a blatent ogle. Some men do it with no shame whatsoever. If this is the case, I always say "You can talk to them all you want, they will never talk back!". This usually has the desired effect of making them blush.
Dont worry about it mate , thats what they'r there for , otherwise why would women ( and i love em all ) spend all that time making themselves look so attractive to us blokes !
if you treat then as an equal then it does not matter where you look
most females like people admiring them but not staring
if the female has a problem then its her problem not yours
if you have a problem then you need to to something about it
by the sound of your question it seems to me that you and the females you talk to are both young and insecure
have you tried being an adult and asked a close female friend/co-worker what she thinks what you are doing and her reaction
If there are a lot of women have complained about this, then I think you should start reconsidering the way you handle face-to-face conversations with them. If it is only one person complaining could be that she just had doubts.
Anyway, the most polite way to talk to women is to look straight at their facesd while the conversation is going on. If you can't get your eyes fixed on her face (even just her eyes), it would be best to glance upwards rather than downwards. Better yet, give her that "blank stare". Do these things casually and naturally, so they won't notice.
Good luck.
Look to the side!
Im lesbian, just look and drool..
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I think my problem is when someone asks me a question, man or woman, I tend to look downwards a little when in reflection mode.
I kind of stare into infinity, when I'm thinking, not really looking at anything, but more inward reflecting. I think this is rather than be distracted by their stare. This is not a problem with men, but is with some woman. I'm becoming conscience of them raising their arms or papers to cover their breasts.
I don't like people to think I'm some sort of pervert. What the hell do I do about these self conscious woman? I don't really want to raise a debate about it in work, and it's much too a subconscious reaction on my part to change. Any ideas?
Answers:
Tell them how much better your wife or girlfriends headlights are compared to theirs! Just take the humorous road and don't get offended as women tend to find something out of nothing and if your eyes have drifted once, it means every woman at your work knows about it and are just waiting for their chance to join in the gossip session about how you did it to them. Just focus more on their face, Iook at peoples mouths.
Its better to look at peoples faces when talking to them...you know more polite !!
Well, when I introspect, I tend to stare off to the side. try that.
ask them to take their woolly jumpers off then at least you would have something to look at?
it could be worse mate i only have a bunch of men to talk to at my place of work...
What i would give right now for a pair of t**s even if they were in a wooley jumper!
I personally enjoy looking at women's breasts, and have to control myself. I find them quite interesting.
You simply have to change your habit. It will require effort, self-talk, and sensitivity. When you are talking to a woman really concentrate on her eyes. Or look away and up or to the side. You need to think of this ahead of time, be prepared.
Any habit, short of breathing, can be broken. Ask an anorexic!
Change your habit of looking down. It will be construed as very rude to the woman you are offending and will affect your professional carrer. It's not the woman's fault, it's yours, make a concience effort to look into their eyes.
To be fair, women shouldn't put them on display if they don't want anyone looking at them.
well its not a major problem instead of chests practice on faces which tells u everything about that person and more eyes are the heart of the soul so whatever u face with ppl Q's or conversation when u wany to control the situation look straight to the eyes he/she will look somwhere else wile ur talkin and u'll be free to be in controll not to be controlled ,,face ur fears and u become better person ,,
At least you acknowledge the fact that some men do this. You seem a nice sort who wouldn't do it deliberately and I think women would recognise the difference between a momentary lapse and a blatent ogle. Some men do it with no shame whatsoever. If this is the case, I always say "You can talk to them all you want, they will never talk back!". This usually has the desired effect of making them blush.
Dont worry about it mate , thats what they'r there for , otherwise why would women ( and i love em all ) spend all that time making themselves look so attractive to us blokes !
if you treat then as an equal then it does not matter where you look
most females like people admiring them but not staring
if the female has a problem then its her problem not yours
if you have a problem then you need to to something about it
by the sound of your question it seems to me that you and the females you talk to are both young and insecure
have you tried being an adult and asked a close female friend/co-worker what she thinks what you are doing and her reaction
If there are a lot of women have complained about this, then I think you should start reconsidering the way you handle face-to-face conversations with them. If it is only one person complaining could be that she just had doubts.
Anyway, the most polite way to talk to women is to look straight at their facesd while the conversation is going on. If you can't get your eyes fixed on her face (even just her eyes), it would be best to glance upwards rather than downwards. Better yet, give her that "blank stare". Do these things casually and naturally, so they won't notice.
Good luck.
Look to the side!
Im lesbian, just look and drool..
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